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your children been involved in organized sports?\u00a0 Shane Williamson says, \u201cIn that environment, there are opportunities for a lot of conflict.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 I have had situations with our daughters, where they have been under the influence of a coach that was not exhibiting godly standards.\u00a0 I think this should be an encouragement to every parent who is having a conversation with a child who is playing under an unbelieving coach.\u00a0 How you handle the situation with your child and their coach speaks volumes, and God may be using you in that situation to minster to and make a difference in that coach\u2019s life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Friday, December 16th.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife\u00ae, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We\u2019ll talk today about sports, about families, about God, and about how all of that can mix together\u2014how it ought to mix together.\u00a0 Stay tuned.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us on the Friday edition.\u00a0 We are going to talk about sports, families, dads and moms, and how all of that fits together; but before we get into that, we\u2019ve had some exciting news, here at FamilyLife, over the last several weeks.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think many of our listeners know about the matching-gift fund that was established back at the beginning of the month with some friends of the ministry who said, \u201cWe\u2019ll match every donation that comes in dollar for dollar up to $2.5 million.\u201d\u00a0 As it turns out, there were some other families who heard about that and said, \u201cHey, we want to help out, too.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Bob, we\u2019ve now had a matching challenge of $3.5 million.\u00a0 I mean, that\u2019s a lot of money.\u00a0 It\u2019s being established by families who say, \u201cWe have to do something about what\u2019s taking place in marriages and families today.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Actually, it\u2019s continuing to grow.\u00a0 We\u2019re still hearing from a few families who say, \u201cWait.\u00a0 We might have some money we want to put in this matching fund.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\u00a0 Sixty percent of our giving occurs in the month of December.\u00a0 That really means, \u201cIf you want to keep <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> on the air\u2014bringing relevant broadcasts to you and your marriage, your family, your friends, your community\u2014then, we need you to stand with us.\u201d\u00a0 You know, back a few weeks ago, we actually aired a broadcast about sexual abuse at the same time the Penn State scandal broke.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 It was really interesting the number of comments, e-mails, letters, and notes from listeners who contacted us and said, \u201cI needed to hear this.\u00a0 This is a part of my background.\u00a0 I haven\u2019t shared it with anybody.\u201d\u00a0 Of course, it was in the news; and everybody was talking about it.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Those phone calls, e-mails, letters, and texts that came in\u2014people were just expressing that we touched them around a relevant subject that they are dealing with day in and day out.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, if you believe we\u2019re on target with what we\u2019re doing here with a biblical approach to marriage and family\u2014pointing people to the person of Jesus Christ and His love and forgiveness\u2014could I ask you to stand with us?\u00a0 We need you to give a donation so that we can take full advantage of the $3.5 million matching challenge that has been thrown out by almost a 100 families, who have said, \u201cYou know what?\u00a0 We believe in what you are doing.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 When you make a donation right now, going to FamilyLifeToday.com or calling 1-800-FL-TODAY, that donation is going to be matched dollar for dollar.\u00a0 So, if you make a $100 donation, it\u2019ll be a $200 donation and so on.\u00a0 We do hope to hear from you.\u00a0 Again, online at FamilyLifeToday.com or call us toll-free at 1-800-FL-TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I just want to say, \u201cThanks,\u201d to those who have already given a gift.\u00a0 Thank you for standing with us\u2014maybe God will enable you to give a second gift before the month is over.\u00a0 At the rate this thing is growing, we\u2019re going to need your help.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to talk about sports today, as I mentioned earlier.\u00a0 You know, I\u2019ve had this thought\u2014and I don\u2019t know if I\u2019m right\u2014but if God had not called you into doing ministry full-time, I could see that coaching might have been something that would had some attraction for you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, I\u2019ve thought about that, Bob; but honestly, now having had the privilege of having a few top-level coaches here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, I\u2019m not so sure.\u00a0 (Laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019m sure you could have.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019m not\u2014I mean, we\u2019ve interviewed Coach John Wooden\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014who was a basketball coach at UCLA, who was arguably the greatest coach who has ever lived.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay.\u00a0 So, that\u2019s a tough standard to compare to.\u00a0 Then, there was Tony Dungy\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 A pretty fair coach\u2014football coach.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, and Mark Richt, who has regularly beat Arkansas; and we finally got him last year.\u00a0 He\u2019s really a good guy.\u00a0 I\u2019m just talking about the caliber of these men that we have interviewed.\u00a0 It just sets a standard in your mind of going, \u201cYou know, I\u2019ve always thought I would like coaching, and I\u2019d be good at it; but after meeting them, not sure I have what those guys have to turn into that level of coach.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 The interesting thing is\u2014I don\u2019t think listeners fully appreciate what a challenge it is to be a coach.\u00a0 Even if it\u2019s at the high school level, you experience a lot of challenge that goes on behind-the-scenes because fans are passionate about the job you are doing.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 The wife\u2019s sitting in the stands, hearing what the fans are yelling at her husband, usually.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have a couple of guests with us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> who come from one of the best ministries in America, Fellowship of Christian Athletes.\u00a0 Shane Williamson and Dan Britton join us on the broadcast.\u00a0 Dan, Shane, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 Glad to be here, Dennis.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dan:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s good to be back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Shane is\u2014well, he heads up Metro Atlanta.\u00a0 He is the FCA Director there.\u00a0 He and his wife Angel have three daughters and one son.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDan is an Executive Vice President of FCA.\u00a0 He has worked with them since 1991.\u00a0 He\u2019s written a book called <em>Wisdom Walks<\/em>.\u00a0 He and his wife Donna have three children.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou guys have been involved with young people for\u2014between you guys, you have almost four decades.\u00a0 What I want to do is take a few moments and just talk about what\u2019s taking place in young people\u2019s lives today because, Shane, you are working in 83 percent of the public schools in Atlanta, Georgia; and\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014you\u2019re seeing a lot of young people in both inner-city and suburban schools.\u00a0 You\u2019re rubbing shoulders with high school students at intimate levels.\u00a0 You see what they are dealing with.\u00a0 Tell us what the big struggles are for young people today.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, Dennis.\u00a0 I tell you, I think all of us\u2014even our listening audience\u2014you probably wouldn\u2019t want to be a teenager.\u00a0 You know, lot of people say, \u201cI\u2019d like to go over\u201d\u2014\u201cI\u2019d like to do that again and do it over\u201d\u2014but I don\u2019t know if being a teenager would be one of them, in today\u2019s society.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think, if we just look around us in terms of what\u2019s happening in media, what\u2019s happening in music, what\u2019s happening in video, what\u2019s even happening in games that kids play, you can see very clearly that it\u2019s a slow drift.\u00a0 It\u2019s been a drift away from some of the core values that we would express as a country\u2014core values that we certainly would express as a Christian people.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe can see that slow drift continuing to happen as it has for the last few decades; but today, I think, the greatest factor affecting is the availability of negative influences.\u00a0 I think the world is no longer a world anymore; it\u2019s simply a press of a button.\u00a0 You can access the entire world from your phone, at any given moment.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, the things that are pressing kids in terms of their values, the things that affect their decision making\u2014the family unit\u2014all of these things have been under attack\u2014but more so today than ever because they\u2019re challenged at every turn with the media that is around them and the information that\u2019s coming to them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You were a coach for 14 years at the high school level before you went to work with FCA.\u00a0 How would you coach a mom and a dad about raising young people today who are about to enter the adolescent years?\u00a0 I just\u2014I\u2019d like to hear it straight from you because you are seeing it.\u00a0 You said that they\u2019ve got the world\u2014you can push a button and go there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 It\u2019s good coach talk here.\u00a0 Let me kind of do that for a second.\u00a0 All our coaching friends will appreciate that.\u00a0 I think you\u2019ve got to play offense and defense at the same time.\u00a0 I think, to be a championship team or to be a championship family, Mom and Dad, you got to play offense and defense at the same time.\u00a0 You can\u2019t be really good offensively and be bad defensively to be a good team.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I mean by that is, offensively as a family, as a parent, you\u2019ve got to actively pursue and seek out the things.\u00a0 We call it the \u201cspiritual piggy bank\u201d.\u00a0 You\u2019ve got to find ways, whether it be your local church, or whether at FCA, or Campus Crusade, Young Life\u2014some ministry.\u00a0 Find ways, as a family, where you are praying together, where you are in God\u2019s Word.\u00a0 You\u2019ve got to play offense.\u00a0 You\u2019ve got to aggressively seek things that would make an input into their life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Dan, you mentioned that, for you, you\u2019d found a good offensive tool through FamilyLife a number of years ago called <em>Passport to Purity<\/em>\u00ae.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dan:<\/strong>\u00a0 Amen.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You\u2019ve got three children.\u00a0 All three of them have been through this.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dan:<\/strong>\u00a0 My wife has taken both my daughters through <em>Passport to Purity<\/em>, right when they were 12 years old\u2014perfect time\u201411, 12 years old\u2014went away for the weekend.\u00a0 I took my son, several years ago away, for our weekend.\u00a0 I\u2019m telling you, it made a huge difference.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s one of those concepts that Shane\u2019s talking about\u2014making the investment.\u00a0 I\u2019ve become the biggest advocate for <em>Passport to Purity<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Explain to our listeners what you did on that weekend and kind of what the objective is because it really is a great illustration of what Shane is talking about\u2014going on the offense.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dan:<\/strong>\u00a0 The problem with society today is there\u2019s no more one-on-one with the child and the parent.\u00a0 What you have done through <em>Passport to Purity<\/em> has allowed us, as parents, to engage our child one-on-one\u2014allowing us to take our children away, build a weekend around what they love to do: the restaurants they love to eat at, where they want to go.\u00a0 They get to kind of plan, pick, and design the weekend with you.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYet, you\u2019ve provided the core essence of the teaching that became an incredible experience\u2014transformational experience\u2014for us to experience together.\u00a0 Therefore, with my son now, we can talk about things that we could have never talked about before.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m an expert in youth ministry, being with Fellowship of Christian Athletes for 20 years; but you provided a tool, a resource, for me that now I can begin to speak into my child\u2019s heart on things that I would never know where to start.\u00a0 You gave us a point of reference.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 Not to carry it too far, but even when you think about playing good offense, you\u2019ve got to have elements of your game plan to help you be successful.\u00a0 I think, I would add to what Dan has said.\u00a0 If you look at the <em>Weekend to Remembers<\/em>\u00ae, the <em>HomeBuilders Series<\/em>\u00ae; you look at the<em> Art of Marriage<\/em>\u00ae--you look at the tools that FamilyLife\u2014that FCA is experiencing now.\u00a0 Those are great elements that you add to your game plan that allow you to go on the offensive with your family and with your children.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, your point is, \u201cYou\u2019ve got to be intentional.\u00a0 You\u2019ve got to be proactive.\u00a0 You\u2019ve got to have some strategy.\u201d\u00a0 You can\u2019t just say, \u201cWell, we hope this\u2019ll happen;\u201d but you better know what you\u2019re trying to accomplish\u2014what the goal is\u2014and have some markers in place, have some tools in place, to be moving in that direction.\u00a0 That\u2019s what an offensive game plan looks like.\u00a0 How do you play defense, Shane?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, I think it\u2019s interesting that defense is one of those areas where you draw parameters.\u00a0 You have to be able to establish, \u201cWhat are the parameters we have as a family?\u201d\u00a0 I encourage you, as a guy who\u2019s worked in the public school system with thousands of young people over my career, establish those boundaries\u2014particularly, as it pertains to the internet, as it pertains to computers, as it pertains to their phones.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know this sounds redundant (you may have heard it a thousand times out there), but the defensive game plan\u2014where you establish these areas\u2014even relationally, as it pertains to members of the opposite sex, dating, and those types of things.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt sounds corny, and sometimes your kids and even society can say it\u2019s old-fashioned; but I can assure you, there is nothing old-fashioned about playing good defense because, as we know, every good coach has said over the course of their careers (you\u2019ve heard it said a 100 times), \u201cDefense wins championships.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think that, being very open and candid, having open lines of communication, being transparent as parents\u2014is critical to opening that up. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What I hear you saying is our young people today need parents\u2014\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014to engage.\u00a0 As teenagers push them out of their lives, they can\u2019t let them do it.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Parents cannot let their teenager push them out of their lives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 They have to have older, mature adults coaching, guiding, providing these boundaries as you\u2019re talking about\u2014helping them get up when they fail.\u00a0 I mean, I think there\u2019s a lot of about this culture that is coming straight at our teenagers but, also, at our parents\u2014robbing them of their courage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dan:<\/strong>\u00a0 One of the things, Dennis, we are seeing\u2014working with a lot of other ministries\u2014youth ministries who are working with kids on the high school level.\u00a0 They are saying that roughly 70 percent of all high school seniors\u2014not when they <em>leave<\/em> high school, but when they enter into their senior year in high school\u2014are dropping out of the church.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI talk to a lot of Christian parents that just say, \u201cI\u2014what can I do?\u201d\u00a0 I go, \u201cYou\u2019re their parent.\u00a0 You\u2019ve got to love them.\u00a0 You\u2019ve got to give them boundaries.\u201d\u00a0 One of the things that I think that has crept in\u2014a new four-letter word for our young people is \u201cq-u-i-t\u201d\u2014quit.\u00a0 Parents are letting kids quit.\u00a0 Not only are the kids quitting, but the parents are quitting on the kids.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, the thing is\u2014no boundaries allow this whole pervasive attitude toward, \u201cHey, I can\u2019t help it.\u00a0 Might as well just go with the flow,\u201d or, \u201cI might as well quit and just bail out.\u201d\u00a0 That is a tragedy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You guys work with coaches.\u00a0 I mean, that\u2019s a big emphasis of Fellowship of Christian Athletes\u2014to work with coaches.\u00a0 Dennis, for years, you have talked about how important it is for parents to have allies\u2014whether it is the youth pastor, or teachers, or coaches\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh, yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014those other influences, those other voices, reinforcing what you\u2019re trying to do at home.\u00a0 Ideally, as a mom and dad, you want your son or daughter playing for a coach who is going to share your values.\u00a0 That doesn\u2019t always happen.\u00a0 If you\u2019re son or your daughter, Shane, is playing for a coach and the coach doesn\u2019t have your same moral convictions, your same values\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Your same language\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014how do you deal with that?\u00a0 Do you pull your kids from the sport, or do you get involved?\u00a0 What do you do?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 I think it provides a great vehicle for your kids to grow spiritually.\u00a0 It\u2019s\u2014I\u2019ll tell you a story.\u00a0 My college coach was not a believer when I was playing at Wofford in Spartanburg, South Carolina.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOver the course of the years, if Coach Ayers were sitting here today, what he would say to\u2014and I think this should be an encouragement to every parent who is having a conversation with a child who\u2019s playing under an unbelieving coach\u2014that coach over the course of several seasons fell under the influence of young men who were godly, came from godly homes, and provided for that coach a Christian influence.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, as a parent, how you handle the situation with your child and their coach, how your child handles that situation, speaks volumes.\u00a0 God may be using you in that situation to minister to and make a difference in that coach\u2019s life.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 So, if the vocabulary at practice is not what you allow in your home and your son comes home and says, \u201cDad, you should hear the coach.\u00a0 I mean he\u2019s just\u2014it\u2019s this, and that, and this.\u201d\u00a0 How do you coach your son to go back to practice the next day?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 I think that the Word tells us, \u201cWe\u2019re in this world but not of this world.\u201d I think that the opportunity to teach\u2014and I have had situations with our daughters where they have been under the influence of a coach, who was not exhibiting godly standards.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe talk about the fact that, in the world, when Jesus was here, it was not about finding the most comfortable spots to be in or hanging out with the people who were just kind of went along with whatever He said; it was about being salt and light.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI really tried to, as best we could, tell our kids, \u201cWhen you are in a challenging situation with your coach\u2014when there is verbiage or vocabulary being used that\u2019s not appropriate\u2014then, you respond to that coach appropriately by staying positive.\u00a0 You come back to that coach\u2014as the Bible says\u2014it tells us, \u2018Bless those who curse us.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, no matter whether it\u2019s winning the championship, losing every game, or being under the influence of a godly or ungodly coach, the environment for which sports provides is one of the most conducive to attaching spiritual truth to how we handle our situations\u2014that <em>will<\/em> apply for the rest of our life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 To that point, we are talking to a lot of parents who are coaching their kids morally and spiritually at home.\u00a0 They may be thinking about coaching their eight-year-old, nine-year-old, maybe junior high kids, in a sport, as a volunteer.\u00a0 They can have a <em>great<\/em> ministry! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is a readymade ministry for moms and dads to make a difference in young people.\u00a0 This is really the fat part of the bat for FCA.\u00a0 You guys are all about equipping coaches, at all levels, to have a spiritual influence on the young competitors that they are leading.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dan:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, it\u2019s crazy to think about.\u00a0 We don\u2019t have to go and try to do anything.\u00a0 Sports are a readymade highway that\u2019s already in existence\u2014that God is raising up men and women, at all levels, to have an impact for Christ.\u00a0 Whether it is a youth team, or coaching a team at the church level, or at the high school level, junior high level\u2014the opportunities to turn that coaching experience into a powerful ministry is so catalytic.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 I can tell a story about a young man.\u00a0 It\u2019ll maybe encourage everyone out there.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe man\u2019s name was Keith Sherman.\u00a0 Keith was a free safety for us, back several years ago, at the high school level.\u00a0 Keith was having a really tough day at practice.\u00a0 Practice was in.\u00a0 It was time to condition, and he was having an even tougher time in conditioning.\u00a0 He was not doing really well.\u00a0 As coaches, we were trying to encourage him in a nice way\u2014as you can imagine coaches do.\u00a0 (Laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 With a little intensity and passion.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 With a little intensity and passion\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2014and Keith stood up and said, \u201cI quit.\u201d\u00a0 He began to walk off the field.\u00a0 I looked to an assistant coach; and I said, \u201cGo with him and follow him to the locker room.\u201d\u00a0 When practice ended, I went into my office.\u00a0 Keith knocked on the door, came in, and sat down.\u00a0 He sat across from me.\u00a0 I encourage any of you, as a parent, as a coach, out there, \u201cYou never know what you mean in the life of a child.\u00a0 You never know what\u2019s happening in the life of that child.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 He looked at me; and he said, \u201cCoach, I have four brothers and sisters.\u00a0 I have to go home and take care of them.\u00a0 I have to be the strong one in my family, and I cannot fail.\u00a0 I will not be weak.\u00a0 If I fail, I have no other choice but to quit because I can\u2019t fail.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI looked at him.\u00a0 I said, \u201cKeith, what can I do for you?\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cCoach, I just need a hug.\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019ll tell you.\u00a0 I\u2019ll tell you, \u201cThere are so many young people\u201d\u2014even if you\u2019re a parent sitting in the stands\u2014\u201cbe encouraging.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo many of these people are giving their time, and outside of you as the parent, outside of your parental unit, children will never fall under the influence again of anyone greater than their coaches\u2014right, wrong, or indifferent\u2014what a great opportunity for all of us who coach, who are around athletics, to use that influence.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 There\u2019s a lot going on in young people\u2019s lives today, at home, we could never imagine.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 There are a lot of young people going home.\u00a0 They\u2019re going home to an empty house and having to take care of their younger siblings.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m thinking back over the Apostle Paul in the New Testament and how often he talked about running the race and disciplining his body\u2014how he\u2019s finished the good fight; he\u2019s kept the faith; and he\u2019s run all the way to the finish line\u2014and how much competition is mentioned in the New Testament\u2014just recognizing the nature of who we are, as human beings.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI agree with you guys.\u00a0 I learned a lot about character, about myself, about life, and even about God through coaches.\u00a0 I could have learned a lot more if I\u2019d had more spiritually-minded, intentional coaches, who had FCA alongside them.\u00a0 I think I\u2019d done better as a young person if that would have been in place.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI really appreciate both you guys, your ministry of FCA.\u00a0 It\u2019s my hope that a bunch of our listeners\u2014that maybe they\u2019ll take up FCA as a resource\u2014take advantage of some of these tools you guys have created to come alongside coaches, make them effective with the young people they\u2019re coaching, and utilize your ministry.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just appreciate you both and hope you\u2019ll come back and join us again on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dan:<\/strong>\u00a0 Thank you.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shane:<\/strong>\u00a0 Thanks, Dennis.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Once again, we want to point people to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, where we\u2019ve got a link to the FCA website.\u00a0 If folks want more information about the ministry of the Fellowship of Christian Athletes, go to FamilyLifeToday.com and click on the link to the FCA website.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019ll also find on our website a copy of the book that Dan Britton has written, called <em>Wisdom Walks<\/em>\u201440 different principles that are outlined in this book.\u00a0 It\u2019s really designed well for a dad to take a son or a daughter through as you go out on a date together or as you spend some time together.\u00a0 It\u2019s a great book.\u00a0 It\u2019s called <em>Wisdom Walks<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can find out more about it when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com; or call us if you have any questions or would like to order a copy of the book.\u00a0 Our toll-free number is 1-800- \u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then, the word, \u201cTODAY\u201d.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tQuickly, let me remind you of what Dennis mentioned at the beginning of today\u2019s program\u2014the matching-gift fund that was established for us here at <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 It has increased in recent days from $2.5 million to now $3.5 million.\u00a0 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