{"id":302360,"date":"2011-09-09T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2011-09-09T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/you-know-it-when-its-real\/"},"modified":"2011-09-09T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2011-09-09T15:00:00","slug":"you-know-it-when-its-real","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/you-know-it-when-its-real\/","title":{"rendered":"You Know It When It\u2019s Real"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Bob Lepine talks in a humorous, yet Gospel-centered way about five characteristics of REAL love.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bob Lepine talks in a humorous, yet Gospel-centered way about five characteristics of REAL love.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2011-09-09.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"22.81M","filesize_raw":"23921301","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2088],"tags":[4299,4213,4714,2991],"podcast_series":[7823],"cwp_profile":[3142],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-302360","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-romance-and-sex","tag-faith","tag-love","tag-romance","tag-sex","podcast_series-aint-nothin-like-the-real-thing","cwp_profile-bob-lepine","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/302360\/you-know-it-when-its-real","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/302360\/you-know-it-when-its-real","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"dg3rf4WKhx\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/you-know-it-when-its-real\/\">You Know It When It\u2019s Real<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/you-know-it-when-its-real\/embed\/#?secret=dg3rf4WKhx\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;You Know It When It\u2019s Real&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"dg3rf4WKhx\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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Could you tell the difference then?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Music:<\/strong>\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Ain\u2019t nothing like the real thing, baby,<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Ain\u2019t nothing thing like the real thing.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is <em>FamilyLife Today\u00ae<\/em> for Friday, September 9<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife\u00ae, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to talk about what kind of love is the real thing today.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Music:<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Ain\u2019t nothing like the real thing, baby,<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Ain\u2019t nothing like the real thing.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us on the Friday edition.\u00a0 You know, there\u2019s something I realized, and I don\u2019t remember exactly how long I\u2019d been a Christian when I realized this, but you ask most people how many passages in the Bible are about marriage, and most people will think well, Ephesians 5 has some verses about marriage, and I think 1 Peter 3 has some verses about marriage, and there may be a few other spots.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 But it dawned on me at some point that the Bible really is all about \u2013 here\u2019s what Jesus said \u2013 it\u2019s about loving God and loving your neighbor.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And everything about loving your neighbor applies in marriage, doesn\u2019t it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It does.\u00a0 He or she is your closest neighbor and I\u2019ll tell you what.\u00a0 What did Jesus say?\u00a0 If you can\u2019t love your neighbor or your brother who you have seen, how can you say you love God who you haven\u2019t seen?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 So last February when we were going on the <em>Love Like You Mean It\u00ae <\/em>cruise \u2013 it was our first ever <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> cruise \u2013 had a great time \u2013\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 And who did we pick to give the lead-off message at the <em>Love Like You Mean It <\/em>cruise?\u00a0 All those in the audience who were there, they remember.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Here\u2019s how that worked.\u00a0 Everybody said, \u201cLet\u2019s see.\u00a0 That\u2019s a travel day.\u00a0 Who do we want having to give the message at the end of the travel day?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Who would be able to entertain --\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Let\u2019s make Bob do it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 -- 2300 people who filled the ship?\u00a0 By the way, folks, I have to tell you.\u00a0 I\u2019ve not been on that many cruises, but I\u2019ve been on a number of cruises.\u00a0 It\u2019s really something to take over the entire ship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 We had the entire ship.\u00a0 There wasn\u2019t anyone except the crew onboard who wasn\u2019t with us.\u00a0 And by the time we were finished, this was the fun part.\u00a0 I think I may have shared this with our audience before.\u00a0 The crew voted at the end that, as we were making port, they said, \u201cWe voted as a crew to take your group with us for the next 17 cruises.\u201d\u00a0 And of course, our group voted to go with them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 We agreed.\u00a0 We agreed to go with them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I think we had a good impact on their lives, because honestly there was the fragrance of Christ on that ship.\u00a0 You had a lot of couples who were in process.\u00a0 You don\u2019t have to have a perfect marriage to go on this cruise.\u00a0 In fact, you ought to join us because you\u2019re going to join a lot of imperfect people, some of whom are at the podium speaking.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And we are going out again this February.\u00a0 You\u2019re right, there aren\u2019t a whole lot of cruises you go on where you can smell the aroma of Christ, but there was a great spirit on board the ship.\u00a0 At the end of today\u2019s program, I\u2019m going to let folks know how they can join us if they\u2019d like to on this year\u2019s cruise.\u00a0 In fact, we have a special offer that\u2019s about to expire, so I\u2019ll fill you in on that before we\u2019re done.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut back to this lead-off message that I gave.\u00a0 I was reading in Romans chapter 12 where the Bible talks about our love for one another.\u00a0 It should be without hypocrisy, it says.\u00a0 It should be genuine.\u00a0 We should be devoted to one another.\u00a0 And I thought, \u201cYou know, this describes what a marriage relationship should look like.\u201d\u00a0 And so that was the passage I used as we talked about real love. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt just happened to be Valentine\u2019s night, so I thought that\u2019s appropriate for Valentine\u2019s night to talk about what real love looks like.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to hear part two of that message today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know what I\u2019m going to do?\u00a0 I\u2019m going to slip your five points to our audience.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You\u2019re going to tell them ahead of time?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I\u2019m going to tell them what you\u2019re going to tell them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Alright.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 And I think it\u2019s so good they\u2019re going to want to hang around.\u00a0 You talk about being devoted to your spouse, showing honor to your spouse, about being harmonious with your spouse, forgiving your spouse, and then finally being anchored in Jesus Christ who is the one who really teaches us how to love.\u00a0 Let\u2019s listen to Bob Lepine.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 So let\u2019s look at the five characteristics that I said I wanted to talk about.\u00a0 The first is love should be devoted.\u00a0 It should be devoted.\u00a0 That\u2019s what, when verse 9 says that your love should be \u2013 or verse 10, actually, says, \u201cLove one another with brotherly affection.\u201d\u00a0 Brotherly affection.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tActually, that\u2019s an interesting phrase.\u00a0 In the original language it says, \u201cPhilos storge one another with Philadelphia.\u201d\u00a0 In other words, \u201cHave a family-like love for one another with kind affection.\u201d\u00a0 It\u2019s really saying, \u201cLove one another with love, in a friendship family kind of way.\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s what our relationships are supposed to be like if we\u2019re united in Christ and receiving love from Him.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo it says we\u2019re supposed to be devoted to one another.\u00a0 It\u2019s a thick-or-thin kind of love.\u00a0 It\u2019s saying that genuine love is a devoted, caring kind of love that two brothers might have for one another, so that even when they don\u2019t get along \u2013 and some of you have sons, right?\u00a0 And you\u2019ve got these two sons and they fight all the time, and they\u2019re always picking on each other and they\u2019re making one another cry.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd you think, \u201cEither these boys are going to kill each other or just hate each other for the rest of their lives.\u201d\u00a0 But you know what happens?\u00a0 Those two boys step out of the house and somebody comes along to the little one and starts to mess with him.\u00a0 What does the big brother do?\u00a0 \u201cHey, you don\u2019t talk to my little brother like that.\u201d\u00a0 There\u2019s a devotion there that he\u2019ll get right in the middle of it.\u00a0 He\u2019ll stop it from happening.\u00a0 It\u2019s kind of like, \u201cYou don\u2019t talk to him \u2013 I talk to him like that; you don\u2019t talk to him like that.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRight?\u00a0 You\u2019ve seen that happen.\u00a0 There\u2019s a bond of human love in the family that the apostle is saying here ought to be characteristic about all of us in the body of Christ, but it ought to be super-characteristic of those who God has joined together and made into a family, and that is a husband and wife.\u00a0 There\u2019s a devoted kind of love that we should have for one another.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s dependable.\u00a0 Would your spouse be able to say without a doubt that you\u2019re dependable?\u00a0 That your love is dependable?\u00a0 That she can count on you to support her?\u00a0 That\u2019s the kind of love that says, \u201cLook, no matter what, thick or thin, no matter where life goes, you can depend on me.\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s the kind of love we\u2019re going to have for one another, we ought to have for one another.\u00a0 Supernatural love coming from above, flowing through us.\u00a0 So that\u2019s the first thing:\u00a0 It needs to be devoted.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSecondly, genuine love shows honor.\u00a0 Showing honor \u2013 this is ascribing value or worth to something and then responding appropriately.\u00a0 You show honor to something by ascribing value or worth to it and then responding appropriately.\u00a0 So, for example, if I have something that I put in a place of honor in my home, what I\u2019m saying is \u201cThis is a very valuable thing to me, and I\u2019m going to put it on display because of how valuable it is.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf we were having your birthday and you\u2019re the guest of honor at your birthday, what does that mean?\u00a0 That means the presents are for who?\u00a0 For you.\u00a0 That means that the cake is whatever kind you want, and the ice cream is whatever your favorite flavor is.\u00a0 And we\u2019ll do what you want to do, because you\u2019re the guest of honor.\u00a0 We\u2019re saying, \u201cToday is your day, and we will make you the special attraction of our day.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow imagine if a husband and wife followed Romans 12, verse 10, which says, \u201cOutdo one another in showing honor.\u201d\u00a0 If your day today was all about \u201cWhat can I do to make my spouse know how valuable she is to me?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cWhat can I do so that my husband knows how important he is and how much I treasure him?\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s the kind of proactive love that we\u2019re to have for one another that is that \u201coutdo one another in showing honor.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSome of you, only a few of you, are old enough in here to remember a TV show I used to watch when I would come home from school or I\u2019d be sick from school in the day.\u00a0 I\u2019d turn on the TV and there in black and white was the TV show <em>Queen for a Day.<\/em>\u00a0 Anybody remember <em>Queen for a Day<\/em>?\u00a0 Some of you do.\u00a0 Look at this picture.\u00a0 There it is.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd there are four housewives over there, and they have all just told some sad story about their life and one of them has a child with a sickness, and the other has somebody who needs something, and so they tell their stories, and then the audience would vote on who got what they needed to be Queen for a Day.\u00a0 They would vote by clapping, and the applause meter would show who was the Queen for a Day.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you were Queen for a Day they would put a crown on you \u2013 go ahead, show the next scene \u2013 you would get the crown, you\u2019d get a tiara and a robe, they would play Pomp and Circumstance, they would put you on a little throne, and then they\u2019d give you a washer and a dryer.\u00a0 Right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI am not making this up, right?\u00a0 I mean, whatever it was you needed as Queen for a Day they would give it to you, because why?\u00a0 Because you were honored, you were set apart, you were valued, you were made to feel special that day.\u00a0 That\u2019s what honor should look like; it\u2019s how we treat one another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd by the way, it\u2019s not just how we treat one another when we\u2019re together, but it\u2019s what we say about one another when we\u2019re apart.\u00a0 I have a friend of mine who quit her job because everybody at her office would sit around and gripe about their husband.\u00a0 She said, \u201cIt\u2019s not good for me to be in an environment where women are sitting around griping about their husband all the time.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cIt\u2019s just causing my mind to do things it shouldn\u2019t do, to concentrate on what\u2019s wrong with my husband rather than thinking about what\u2019s right with my husband.\u201d\u00a0 And that can happen with men at work as well.\u00a0 It\u2019s not just about how we honor one another in each other\u2019s presence, but how we honor one another with our words as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo any of you feel like you\u2019re Queen for a Day every day?\u00a0 And ladies, do you do all you can to honor and respect your husband and make him feel like he is worthy of respect?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, genuine love is devoted, it\u2019s honoring; number three, it\u2019s harmonious.\u00a0 It\u2019s harmonious.\u00a0 Now we have this lady at our church, when the worship team gets together the main guy will sing the melody and this lady, without even having anything in front of her, she finds the harmony and just starts adding it and singing --\u00a0 You\u2019ve got people like that, right, who can just harmonize?\u00a0 And it takes something that sounds really nice to begin with, and really layers in a texture that\u2019s beautiful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, we\u2019ll do a little practice here.\u00a0 You like to sing?\u00a0 Okay, let\u2019s sing the first part of the chorus for <em>How Great Thou Art<\/em>. Okay?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong><em>Then sings my soul, my Savior God to Thee.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Sounds good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong><em>How great Thou art, how great Thou art.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Alright.\u00a0 Now, sing the second half, but add the harmony.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong><em>Then sings my soul, my Savior God to Thee<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>How great Thou art, how great Thou art.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 When those harmonies blend in, when they mesh together with the melody, there is a richness and a texture and a depth that you don\u2019t get in singing unison.\u00a0 But to sing harmony well, you have to listen to the main melody, and then you have to figure out \u201cHow can I blend so that it will sound sweet?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLiving with one another in a harmonious relationship means that we\u2019re listening well to what\u2019s going on in one another\u2019s lives, and then we\u2019re saying, \u201cHow can I blend?\u201d\u00a0 See, I sing harmony with Mary Ann in those times when I can tell that what she needs is just a little quiet and a little alone time.\u00a0 If I go running in and say, \u201cSo what\u2019s wrong?\u00a0 Let\u2019s talk,\u201d that\u2019s not singing harmony.\u00a0 That\u2019s singing something that clashes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI figure out what\u2019s going on and I say, \u201cLet me blend this.\u00a0 Let me add a harmony part to it.\u201d\u00a0 Or I come home at the end of the day and she\u2019s frazzled, and I can tell she\u2019s exhausted and I say, \u201cLook, let me just finish dinner.\u00a0 You just go sit down and relax.\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s singing harmony to her melody.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are some days I\u2019ll come home and she\u2019s having a great day, and I add my harmony by adding my joy to her joy.\u00a0 In fact, that\u2019s what this passage says.\u00a0 It says that we weep with those who weep and we\u2019re joyful with those that are joyful.\u00a0 Harmony is hearing the melody of each other and then saying, \u201cHow can I blend?\u201d and \u201cHow can I make your life more beautiful by adding my part?\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s what it means to sing harmony.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere\u2019s the fourth thing.\u00a0 Genuine love \u2013 it\u2019s devoted, honoring, harmonizing, and it\u2019s forgiving.\u00a0 This is a big theme in this part of the Bible where it says, \u201cDon\u2019t repay evil for evil.\u00a0 If possible, as far as it depends on you, be at peace with one another.\u201d\u00a0 This idea of forgiveness is something that\u2019s a big idea here.\u00a0 And listen, there is a difference between living at peace and having a cease-fire.\u00a0 Okay?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can have a cease-fire, which means it\u2019s quiet, but that doesn\u2019t mean there\u2019s peace, is there?\u00a0 And so we need to be pursuing peace, not just the absence of conflict.\u00a0 That means we need to be figuring out what we can do to get our relationship back where it belongs.\u00a0 Sometimes that\u2019s going to mean getting issues out in the open and talking about them, and dealing with them, even when it\u2019s hard.\u00a0 We have to understand the Bible teaches a lot about that.\u00a0 We don\u2019t have time to unpack it here, but the principle is you have to be committed to forgiveness and committed to peace.\u00a0 That\u2019s what genuine love looks like.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCounterfeit love looks like this:\u00a0 it looks like \u201cYou hurt me.\u00a0 I will try to hurt you more.\u201d\u00a0 That\u2019s counterfeit love.\u00a0 \u201cYou hurt me.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to say something angry back to you.\u201d\u00a0 Genuine love says, \u201cI\u2019m going to try to seek peace and I\u2019m going to forgive you for the wrongs you have done.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, sometimes that forgiveness looks like this, it looks like just overlooking an offense.\u00a0 In fact, Proverbs 19:11 says \u201cGood sense makes one slow to anger, and it\u2019s his glory to overlook an offense.\u201d\u00a0 Some things your spouse will do you just need to say, \u201cI\u2019m going to overlook that.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to leave it alone.\u201d\u00a0 Some things you need to address.\u00a0 In fact, I Peter 4:8 \u2013 \u201cAbove all else, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.\u201d\u00a0 How many?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Audience:<\/strong>\u00a0 A multitude.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 A multitude.\u00a0 In marriage, more often than not you\u2019re going to overlook and cover over, because you offend each other so many times every day, if you tried to deal with it every time you\u2019d be in constant conflict.\u00a0 So you just have to say, \u201cI\u2019m going to overlook that.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to cover it over.\u201d\u00a0 And then you only bring out the key issue of forgiveness when it\u2019s the big stuff that really does need to be unpacked and needs to be worked through.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m not suggesting to you if somebody\u2019s been unfaithful in a marriage you say, \u201cOh, I\u2019ll just forget that.\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019m not suggesting to you that if there\u2019s been a profound hurt that you just go, \u201cOh, I\u2019ll pretend like it didn\u2019t happen.\u201d\u00a0 No, I\u2019m saying to genuinely overlook and put aside the offense, you do that with a lot of the small things, and you save your energy for the big things that really need to be addressed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then finally, genuine love is anchored in Christ.\u00a0 It\u2019s anchored in Christ.\u00a0 In the context of this passage we\u2019ve already talked about here\u2019s what God did for us, so our response should be to be dead to our own self, to live for Him, and to pour out genuine love on others.\u00a0 But in order to do that, you\u2019ve got to be firmly anchored in Christ.\u00a0 If you\u2019re trying to pour out genuine love from deep inside you where it doesn\u2019t exist, you ain\u2019t going to get there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just got a new laptop this year that replaced the old one.\u00a0 The old one -- the battery was lasting about 45 minutes on my old laptop.\u00a0 And there were some other things going wrong with it, so it was time to get the new laptop.\u00a0 Now the new one has got this new battery, and it goes I think like five hours, right?\u00a0 It\u2019s great to have a five-hour battery versus a 45-minute battery.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut you know what\u2019s true about both of those batteries? If you want them to function, at some point you\u2019ve got to plug them in and recharge them.\u00a0 They don\u2019t have power on their own; they only have power when they\u2019re plugged into the source of power.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSome of you here tonight \u2013 you\u2019ve never been plugged in.\u00a0 Back like all of us, you said to God in one way or another, \u201cI\u2019ll run my own life.\u00a0 I don\u2019t want to have anything to do with You.\u00a0 I\u2019m glad You\u2019re there and I hope You\u2019ll cover up when I mess up, but basically I\u2019m in charge and I don\u2019t have a lot of interest in You.\u201d\u00a0 What you basically said was, \u201cI\u2019ll generate my own power.\u00a0 I\u2019ll be my own source of life.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know what?\u00a0 Your battery can\u2019t maintain that.\u00a0 You can\u2019t have genuine love for another person if that\u2019s your power source.\u00a0 Now there are others of you here, you got plugged in, but honestly you got unplugged a while ago, and you\u2019ve been running on battery, and the little red thing down at the bottom of your screen is flashing, because it\u2019s time for you to get replugged in and say, \u201cIf I\u2019m going to have genuine love for my spouse, I have to reestablish this.\u00a0 I\u2019ve got to get this back where it belongs, and it\u2019s not there.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo I would say to you here tonight, wherever you are, if you look at your own life, if you look at your characteristics and you say, \u201cDo I have love that is devoted for my spouse?\u00a0 Do I have love that is honoring to my spouse?\u00a0 Do I have the kind of love that is harmonizing with my spouse?\u00a0 Am I a peacemaker, and am I anchored in Christ?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you look at that and say, \u201cSomething is wrong,\u201d then tonight\u2019s the night, this week is the week for you to get that fixed, to get it reestablished, to read through the Scriptures and see what the Bible has to say about the source of genuine love for one another.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have to tell you, genuine love is so much deeper, so much richer, than the hearts and flowers.\u00a0 Yes, it\u2019s fun to have romantic passion, but I\u2019m also here to tell you that if you have that and it\u2019s absent, the deep, genuine love, then the romantic hearts and flowers is shallow and it fades.\u00a0 But a genuine love lasts a long time.\u00a0 It\u2019s dependable.\u00a0 It\u2019s heart-felt, and it lasts forever.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, we\u2019ve been listening to Bob Lepine, who gave the lead-off message at the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> cruise.\u00a0 I want to tell you folks, there was something about the first-ever full boat that was filled in celebration of Valentine\u2019s Day and God\u2019s love for us and for one another, there was something about 2300 people on board a ship, all taking a look in the Bible and going through some projects together, and leaving that boat.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to go all the way out the end, Bob.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ve done a lot of conferences and a lot of events in ministry.\u00a0 I\u2019ve now been in ministry for 41 years.\u00a0 I have never in my life been stopped so many times, both on board the ship, as I got off the ship, as I went to the airport, as I was at the airport, as I was in line with TSA, as I was on my airplane flying to Arizona from the conference, and then in Arizona at the airport I had couples stopping and telling me how Jesus Christ had touched their lives through your message, the messages of several others, and how they\u2019d applied it to their lives. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the core competencies of what <em>FamilyLifeToday<\/em> and what we\u2019re all about is not only teaching the Word of God, but we have a high commitment to bringing it to your home to help you apply it.\u00a0 And you know what?\u00a0 What you\u2019ve just heard today about being devoted, showing honor, harmonious, being a peacemaker, being anchored in Christ \u2013 that\u2019s what every marriage in America needs.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we\u2019re committed to bringing that to your house through <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, through a <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> cruise, through our <em>Weekend to Remember\u00ae <\/em>marriage getaways. If you haven\u2019t joined us at one of those getaways or on the cruise, come join us.\u00a0 It\u2019s a great time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Talking about the cruise, you and I are both going to be on the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> cruise when it sets sail in February from Miami, on Monday morning, February 13<sup>th<\/sup>, Valentine\u2019s week.\u00a0 Voddie Baucham is going to join us.\u00a0 Gary Thomas, the author of <em>Sacred Marriage,<\/em> is going to be with us as well, and we\u2019re going to have music from groups like Sanctus Real, Matthew West, Paul Overstreet and others who are going to be along on this year\u2019s cruise.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis week we\u2019ve been doing something special for our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners.\u00a0 The offer is about to expire for two reasons.\u00a0 One is because the boat is almost filled up, but secondly, because the week is almost over.\u00a0 The special offer is if you sign up this week to join us on the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> cruise, when you pay for yourself, your spouse comes at no cost.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow if you want to take advantage of that, two things:\u00a0 You have to get in touch with us before the week is over, so that means today or tomorrow, and you have to let us know that you\u2019re a <em>FamilyLife Today <\/em>listener.\u00a0 So when you call 1-800-FLTODAY, either to get more information or to go ahead and register, just say, \u201cI\u2019m a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener.\u00a0 I want to take advantage of the special offer.\u00a0 How do I do that?\u201d and we\u2019ll take care of you.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you need more information go to FamilyLifeToday.com and there\u2019s a link there you can click on that will give you more information about the <em>Love Like You Mean It<\/em> cruise.\u00a0 It sets sail on Monday, February 13<sup>th<\/sup>; we\u2019re back in port on Friday, February 17<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 It\u2019s a great week-long getaway for couples.\u00a0 Maybe you\u2019ve got a special occasion coming up this year, maybe a special anniversary to celebrate.\u00a0 This is a great way to celebrate maybe a few months early or a few months late.\u00a0 That doesn\u2019t matter.\u00a0 It\u2019s great to get together with other couples and head out on the ship with us as we head into the Caribbean.\u00a0 More information: FamilyLifeToday.com, or call 1-800-FLTODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, I also want to say a word of thanks to the folks we\u2019ve heard from this week, some of our listeners who have contacted us to make a donation to help support <em>FamilyLife Today.<\/em>\u00a0 We\u2019re listener-supported; it\u2019s folks like you who pray for us and who, from time to time, make a donation to help keep <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> on the air.\u00a0 You\u2019re the ones who help pay for the production and syndication costs associated with this program.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis week, if you make a donation to help support us, we\u2019d like to send you as a thank you gift a book by Dennis and Barbara Rainey called <em>Two Hearts Praying as One.<\/em>\u00a0 The book is really about how couples can cultivate the spiritual discipline of praying together as a couple. That more than maybe any other spiritual discipline is an indicator of the spiritual health of a marriage relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019d like a copy of the book <em>Two Hearts Praying as One<\/em>, when you make a donation online at FamilyLifeToday.com, just type the word \u201cHEARTS\u201d into the key code box that you find on the online donation form.\u00a0 Or call 1-800-FL-TODAY and as you make a donation, just ask for a copy of the book <em>Two Hearts Praying as One<\/em>, and we\u2019re happy to send it out to you.\u00a0 We do appreciate your support of this ministry, and it\u2019s always great to hear from.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we hope you have a great weekend.\u00a0 Hope you and your family are able to worship together this weekend, and I hope you can join us back on Monday.\u00a0 Dennis Rainey has some thoughts for men about how to go beyond manhood \u2013 how to step up and be a mentor of other men and ultimately be a patriarch in your family and in your community.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to talk more about that on Monday.\u00a0 Hope you can tune in.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today.\u00a0 Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t*Song: Ain\u2019t Nothing Like the Real Thing\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tArtist: Michael McDonald\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAlbum: Motown, (c)2003 Universal Music Int. 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