{"id":302327,"date":"2011-07-28T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2011-07-28T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/improving-communication-part-1\/"},"modified":"2011-07-28T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2011-07-28T15:00:00","slug":"improving-communication-part-1","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/improving-communication-part-1\/","title":{"rendered":"Improving Communication, Part 1"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Even if you have a degree in communication, you still may need a remedial course when it comes to communicating with your spouse.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2011-07-28.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"20.54M","filesize_raw":"21539885","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2082],"tags":[4927,4527,2877],"podcast_series":[7813],"cwp_profile":[3142],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-302327","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-communication","tag-challenges","tag-communication","tag-marriage","podcast_series-weekend-to-remember-getaway-sampler","cwp_profile-bob-lepine","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/302327\/improving-communication-part-1","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/302327\/improving-communication-part-1","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"q03w4FxUsk\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/improving-communication-part-1\/\">Improving Communication, Part 1<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/improving-communication-part-1\/embed\/#?secret=q03w4FxUsk\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Improving Communication, Part 1&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"q03w4FxUsk\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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are you feeling ill?<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>Happy anniversary, Sweetie; I bought you a treadmill.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(mumbling lyrics)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I agree with that.\u00a0 (laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong>\u00a0 Live and learn, people.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us on the Thursday edition.\u00a0 When you talk to couples about areas of conflict in their marriage, one of the things that inevitably comes up is communication.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Now, I went to college.\u00a0 I got a degree in communication.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That means you\u2019re a flawless communicator in terms of your communication ability with Mary Ann in your marriage, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You would think so, wouldn\u2019t you?\u00a0 You would think.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You would think there would be some carry over.\u00a0 What percentage\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You would think with all that money and all that time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What percentage carry-over would you say there is in all that, Bob?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I was a skilled debater when it came to marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is bad.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is not a good thing to bring into your marriage relationship.\u00a0 When we get together with couples at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway, one of the issues a lot of these couples are going through is, \u201cWe just are missing one another when it comes to communication.\u201d<strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Sometimes they are\u2014it\u2019s devolving into conflict.\u00a0 Sometimes, \u201cIt\u2019s just we\u2019re not on the same page.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m still learning that my wife would like more specific information from me multiple times.\u00a0 That vague information on occasion\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Texting her that everything is going okay is not what she wants to hear.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 When I come home at the end of the day and she says, \u201cHow was it,\u201d she wants something more than just, \u201cYou know, it was a pretty good day.\u201d\u00a0 She would like a little de-brief.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen we\u2019re getting ready to go on a trip, she would like a little more than the departure time from the airport\u2014like the location we\u2019re going would be something she would like to know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Maybe a little bit of the schedule, perhaps?\u00a0 (laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 What\u2019s the dress code?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Who\u2019s going with us?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 Those kinds of things\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What\u2019s the temperature going to be?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I say, \u201cHoney, don\u2019t worry about it. I got it all in control.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 You got it all in control.\u00a0 She freezes to death; you\u2019re out of control.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This issue of communication is one of the things that we try to help couples with at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway.\u00a0 One of the reasons is because the Bible has a lot to say about communication.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 We\u2019re going to get a chance here in just a couple of minutes to listen to a message that you gave at a recent <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway around communication and how our communication either leads us to isolation or to oneness in the marriage relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 We\u2019re hoping that as you listen to this message, not only will you benefit from listening to it today, but you\u2019ll go, \u201cYou know?\u00a0 We ought to go to one of those <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways.\u00a0 We\u2019ve never been,\u201d or, \u201cIt\u2019s been awhile since we\u2019ve been.\u00a0 We ought to sign up and go to one this fall.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You\u2019ve heard us talk about it for years.\u00a0 It\u2019s time for you to get away to get it together.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 We\u2019ve tried to \u201cincentivize\u201d <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners with a special offer.\u00a0 If you will identify yourself as a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener\u2014you either do that online at FamilyLifeToday.com by typing my name, \u201cBOB,\u201d into the key code box on the online registration form\u2014or you do it by calling 1-800-FL-TODAY and just saying, \u201cI listen to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 I want to be a part of the radio listener group.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019ll give you the group rate, which is the lowest rate we make available throughout the year.\u00a0 You\u2019ll save at least $100 per couple off the regular registration fee if you sign up to attend a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway and identify yourself as a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn addition, if we hear from you before the end of the month, we\u2019ll send you an early- signing bonus.\u00a0 We\u2019ll send you a copy of <em>Spouse-ology<\/em>\u00ae.\u00a0 It is a game for couples designed to help you get to know one another better.\u00a0 It\u2019s a lot of fun to play with other couples.\u00a0 If you want to get that, we\u2019ve got to hear from you before the end of the month.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTake advantage of the special offer for <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners.\u00a0 Sign up to attend and save at least $100 off the regular registration fee.\u00a0 Sign up by the end of this month, and you\u2019ll get the <em>Spouse-ology<\/em>\u00ae game.\u00a0 Then, plan to join us at one of these upcoming fun, romantic weekend getaways for couples, the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know what?\u00a0 I can think of nothing better right now than to take our listeners to one of these events and to listen to you give the message on how to communicate with your spouse.\u00a0 Let\u2019s listen to Bob Lepine from a recent <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 (recorded message)\u00a0 The natural drift in every relationship is apart from one another.\u00a0 It\u2019s away from each other.\u00a0 It\u2019s toward isolation in marriage.\u00a0 When we get married, we think, \u201cWe\u2019re just going to drift closer and closer to one another because we\u2019re so much in love.\u00a0 Once we\u2019re married, it\u2019ll just be great.\u00a0 We\u2019ll get even closer and closer.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe get married; and we find that the natural drift, instead of coming together, we start drifting apart.\u00a0 Then, when we try to get together to work through some of these things and try to practice communication, we find that our communication is breaking down.\u00a0 We\u2019re missing one another there.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to give you just some simple rules of communication.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to start it off by just talking about how challenging cross-cultural communication is.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve travelled abroad, you know that some people\u2019s use of the English language, even though they try, they don\u2019t always get it exactly right.\u00a0 For example, in a Tokyo hotel, there was a sign up that said, \u201cIt is forbidden to steal hotel towels, please.\u201d\u00a0 Then, it said, \u201cIf you are not a person to do such thing, is please not to read this notice.\u201d\u00a0 Okay, they\u2019re trying to get the idea across; but it\u2019s just a little awkward, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn a Bucharest hotel lobby, it said, \u201cThe lift is being fixed for the next day.\u201d\u00a0 What\u2019s the lift?\u00a0 The elevator, right?\u00a0 \u201cDuring that time,\u201d it says, \u201cwe regret that you will be unbearable.\u201d\u00a0 Which, you know, we got the idea; but it was a little awkward.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn Belgrade, they had instructions for the lift.\u00a0 It said, \u201cTo move the cabin, push button for wishing floor.\u00a0 If the cabin should enter more persons, each one should press a number of wishing floor.\u201d\u00a0 You figure, you got the\u2014then, they try to make it more clear, \u201cDriving is then going alphabetically by national order.\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019ve no idea what that means, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019d be stuck on the lift all day.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn a hotel in Paris, they put a sign up that said, \u201cPlease leave your values at the front desk.\u201d\u00a0 You know what they meant, but it wasn\u2019t exactly right.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn a hotel tailor\u2019s shop, it said, \u201cLadies may have a fit upstairs.\u201d\u00a0 Again, you get the idea; but it\u2019s not exactly right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tA Hong Kong dentist said, \u201cTeeth extracted by the latest Methodists.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn a cocktail lounge in Norway, ladies are requested not to have children in the bar.\u00a0 \u201cThe screaming scares away the customers.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn a doctor\u2019s office in Rome, it said, \u201cSpecialist in women and other diseases,\u201d which is not exactly the way you want to say that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere\u2019s my favorite\u2014a hotel just up the road in Acapulco.\u00a0 It said\u2014you go to Acapulco, what do they tell you?\u00a0 What are the instructions?\u00a0 Don\u2019t what?\u00a0 \u201cDon\u2019t drink the water,\u201d right?\u00a0 \u201cYou go to Mexico; don\u2019t drink the water.\u201d\u00a0 You don\u2019t have to worry at this hotel because it says here, \u201cThe manager has personally passed all the water served here.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can see where communication can get to be a challenge and where you want to make sure that you\u2019re not missing each other when it comes to communication.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, you need to know I studied\u2014I have a Bachelor of Arts degree from a university, the University of Tulsa, in Communication.\u00a0 I took \u201cIntro to Communication.\u201d\u00a0 I took \u201cCommunication Theory.\u201d\u00a0 I had more\u2014I was a double major, both of them in the Communications Department.\u00a0 I took 66 hours of classes about communication.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou would figure when I got married, I would be the perfect husband, right?\u00a0 I have a degree in communication.\u00a0 I have studied it.\u00a0 Here was the challenge.\u00a0 That was my undergraduate training.\u00a0 My plan, post-graduate, was to go on to law school.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI took a summer job at a radio station between undergrad and graduate school.\u00a0 Halfway through the summer, they came to me and they said, \u201cAre you having fun?\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cI\u2019m having a great time.\u201d\u00a0 They said, \u201cWhy don\u2019t you just put off law school for awhile and stay?\u00a0 We like what you\u2019re doing, and we\u2019ll give you a raise.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cHow much?\u201d\u00a0 They said, \u201cWe\u2019ll give a $100 a month more.\u201d\u00a0 I was making $750 a month; I was going to go up to $850 a month.\u00a0 I thought, \u201cI can put off law school for that $100 a month raise.\u201d\u00a0 So, I put law school aside and never looked back.\u00a0 I just had so much fun on radio that I just stayed with it.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen I got married, now, I had an opportunity to experiment with what I\u2019d wanted to do in graduate communications, you know?\u00a0 I\u2019d wanted to be a lawyer.\u00a0 Now that I was married, whenever Mary Ann and I would have a disagreement, I would just say, \u201cWould you please take the stand?\u00a0 I\u2019d like to just ask you a few questions.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, I was being very reasonable, very logical about this.\u00a0 I remember one Saturday morning in particular.\u00a0 I don\u2019t remember what the dispute was.\u00a0 I don\u2019t remember the issue.\u00a0 We were having a discussion about something where we were not on the same page.\u00a0 I said, \u201cWell, can I just ask you a few questions?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou need to know, my wife is a good, deep thinker; but she\u2019s a processor.\u00a0 Anybody in here a processor\u2014you need some time, some space to think things over?\u00a0 You like that?\u00a0 Mary Ann is like that.\u00a0 If you want to talk with Mary Ann about something, it is good to say, \u201cI\u2019d like to talk with you about this.\u201d\u00a0 Give her some time to process it.\u00a0 Kind of lay things out; let her think it through.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI have done call-in radio talk shows.\u00a0 I\u2019m good on my feet.\u00a0 Toss me one and I can come right at you, right?\u00a0 Here we are having this conversation.\u00a0 I said, \u201cWell, I just like to\u2014can I ask you a couple of questions?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cWell, sure,\u201d she says.\u00a0 Well, I should have just said, \u201cWould you put your hand on the Bible?\u00a0 Do you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the\u2026\u201d because I was about to cross-examine my wife for sport.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI didn\u2019t realize it.\u00a0 This wasn\u2019t\u2014I wasn\u2019t being devious.\u00a0 This was just how I did it.\u00a0 I started asking her a few questions.\u00a0 In the middle of our conversation, she had the nerve to get up, walk out of the kitchen, walk back to the bedroom, shut the door, and lock the door.\u00a0 I thought to myself, \u201cHow juvenile can she be?\u00a0 I\u2019m asking her some questions.\u00a0 We\u2019ve got just a simple conversation going on here.\u00a0 She walks out of the room and locks the door!\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI went and knocked on the door.\u00a0 I said, \u201cWould you come out here so we can continue talking about this?\u201d\u00a0 No response from the other side of the door.\u00a0 \u201cHoney?\u201d\u00a0 No response.\u00a0 I went and sat in the living room just thinking how immature she was acting by the way she responded and how we were never going to get anything resolved if she wouldn\u2019t communicate.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThen, I just started pouting because I was kind of lonely out there in the living room all by myself with my wife back in the bedroom.\u00a0 I think I was probably there for 45 minutes while she was back in the bedroom.\u00a0 She finally came out.\u00a0 What she explained to me that morning was revolutionary for me.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI said, \u201cI was just trying to talk to you about this.\u201d\u00a0 She said, \u201cNo, you weren\u2019t.\u201d\u00a0 She said, \u201cYou were trying to win the point.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cWell, isn\u2019t that what you do when you\u2019re trying to talk things through?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe said, \u201cNo.\u00a0 You try to listen to one another.\u00a0\u00a0 You try to hear what the other person is saying.\u00a0 You try to understand one another.\u00a0 Then, you try to express what you\u2019re thinking and what you\u2019re feeling.\u00a0 It\u2019s not a debate.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cIt\u2019s not?!\u00a0 Well, this isn\u2019t what I got married for.\u201d\u00a0 No, I didn\u2019t say that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou understand how we can get sideways because we have different approaches to communications.\u00a0 When it comes to communication, we are different, aren\u2019t we?\u00a0 We think differently.\u00a0 We process differently.\u00a0 Mary Ann is slower.\u00a0 I\u2019m more fast-paced.\u00a0 That\u2019s just one of those differences.\u00a0 We communicate with one another differently.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor example, some of us, when it comes to our communication, we are \u201cland the plane\u201d communicators, right?\u00a0 We don\u2019t want to have a long conversation about anything.\u00a0 We just want to get the important points out\u2014land the plane.\u00a0 Others of us are \u201cenjoy the ride\u201d communicators.\u00a0 Watch this video, and this will illustrate what I\u2019m talking about here.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 Did you meet with Johnnie\u2019s teacher today?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, and on my way to school, I ran into Kathy Gillis.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 Did you know they are redoing their entire kitchen?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 They\u2019re talking about cedar.\u00a0 I told her it would be way too dark.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 What did his teacher say?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 He has to stay after school tomorrow.\u00a0 You know, the whole time I was talking to Kathy I kept thinking that she reminds me exactly of your sister.\u00a0 Don\u2019t you think that she reminds you of your sister?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 I never noticed.\u00a0 What did his teacher say?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 Let me tell you something.\u00a0 I talked to one of the other moms, and her kid doesn\u2019t have to stay after school.\u00a0 Her kid is Trouble.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 Honey, time out.\u00a0 Why does Johnnie have to stay after?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 (recorded message)\u00a0 Okay.\u00a0 Who\u2019s the \u201cland the plane\u201d person there?\u00a0 The guy, right?\u00a0 The wife wants to bring on the full experience.\u00a0 It\u2019s not just about Johnnie\u2019s teacher.\u00a0 It\u2019s about everything that happened in and around.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, here is the key question:\u00a0 \u201cWhich one of those two is right?\u201d\u00a0 How many of you say the husband is right?\u00a0 Raise your hand.\u00a0 You raised your hand.\u00a0 Then, you put it right back down, \u201cMy wife is going to see me do this.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHow many of you would say the wife is right?\u00a0 You see, it\u2019s not that one\u2019s right and the other is wrong.\u00a0 It\u2019s what?\u00a0 They\u2019re different.\u00a0 It\u2019s not right and wrong.\u00a0 It\u2019s different.\u00a0 We have to learn how to deal with our differences.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOkay, here\u2019s another way that we can be different.\u00a0 Some of us are \u201cshare our feelings\u201d communicators; others of us are \u201cjust the facts\u201d communicators.\u00a0 Let\u2019s keep it factual; others want to bring you into the emotion.\u00a0 Watch this video.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 Honey, can you help me with this?\u00a0 Thanks.\u00a0 Did you see the news today?\u00a0 Major airline disaster.\u00a0 The plane\u2019s engine fell off and landed in the middle of a populated area.\u00a0 Are you listening to what I\u2019m saying?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 You said, \u201cThere was an airline disaster, and it landed in a populated area.\u201d\u00a0 Where did it land?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 I didn\u2019t get that part, but 200 people on board and no survivors\u2014whole families just gone like that.\u00a0 The images were terrible!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 Mm-hm.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s all you can say is, \u201cMm-hm\u201d?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 I don\u2019t know what you want me to say, \u201cThat\u2019s bad\u201d?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 [recorded message] That\u2019s bad.\u00a0 Yes, that is bad, isn\u2019t?\u00a0 Who\u2019s right there\u2014the husband or the wife?\u00a0 Not right or wrong.\u00a0 It\u2019s different.\u00a0 He\u2019s on the factual level.\u00a0 \u201cYes, got it\u2014got the information.\u00a0 Yes, that\u2019s sad; that\u2019s tragic.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe\u2019s feeling it, and she wants him\u2014in fact, what is she thinking about him by the way he communicates?\u00a0 \u201cHe doesn\u2019t care.\u00a0 He lacks compassion.\u00a0 He has no heart.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat is he thinking about her?\u00a0 \u201cShe overreacts to everything.\u00a0 I mean everything.\u00a0 It could be the dog didn\u2019t get home on time, and I\u2019m so sad about that.\u00a0 I mean, she\u2019s just\u2014she\u2019s overreacting to everything.\u201d\u00a0 Now, it\u2019s not that one\u2019s right and one\u2019s wrong.\u00a0 It\u2019s that they\u2019re different.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThird way that we can be different:\u00a0 Some of us are\u2014we think out loud.\u00a0 That\u2019s just how we do it\u2014we kind of process out loud.\u00a0 Others of us are\u2014instead of thinking out loud, it\u2019s, \u201cLet\u2019s take turns.\u00a0 You do your part, and I\u2019ll do my part,\u201d rather than just this kind of out-loud processing.\u00a0 Watch these couples.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 Your folks called today.\u00a0 They said they bought one of those\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 Don\u2019t tell me they bought a bread maker.\u00a0 What kind did they get?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 <em>Kitchen-Aid\u00ae<\/em>\u00a0 They said that they really like it.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh, yes.\u00a0 They may like it now; but it\u2019s going to end up like all the other ones, in a corner collecting dust.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh, no.\u00a0 They\u2019ve already made five loaves.\u00a0 So\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 They\u2019re not coming over here to give us a loaf are they?\u00a0 You know we\u2019re trying to watch our carbs.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 No.\u00a0 They said that they were going to take\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Man:<\/strong>\u00a0 The neighbors again.\u00a0 Do you remember the fruitcakes last year?\u00a0 Fruitcakes?!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Woman:<\/strong>\u00a0 Would you let me finish a sentence?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 [recorded message]\u00a0 Okay.\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 Now, he\u2019s just kind of being spontaneous, just thinking out loud.\u00a0 She\u2019s going, \u201cCould we take turns at this?\u00a0 You know, you say your part; and I say my part.\u201d\u00a0 It\u2019s not wrong; it\u2019s different.\u00a0 You can see how these kinds of differences cause us to have communication problems.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tReally, when it comes to communication, there are two big things that we have to do.\u00a0 It\u2019s really a simple process.\u00a0 This goes all the way back to my \u201cIntro to Communications\u201d class.\u00a0 In order for communication to be effective, you have to have a messenger with a message.\u00a0 It has to go through a channel.\u00a0 It has to arrive at a receiver; and then, there\u2019s a feedback loop.\u00a0 That\u2019s how communication theory works.\u00a0 Basically, what we\u2019re saying is, \u201cFor communication to work well, you have to talk well and listen well.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, we\u2019ve been listening to Part One of a message on communication from a recent FamilyLife <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You make it sound so simple in that message.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 It is simple, isn\u2019t it?\u00a0 You just have talk well and listen well.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Listen well.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I mean, what\u2019s the big deal?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Let\u2019s pray, and we\u2019ll be done, right?\u00a0 (laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t matter that you\u2019ve got two imperfect people, with two imperfect backgrounds, forming an imperfect marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Which one of those do you think is more important\u2014the talk well or listen well part?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Nearly, 40 years of marriage has taught me\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 If I could have a skill,\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I would much rather be an astute listener.\u00a0 I don\u2019t think I need any speech courses.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 In Part Two of this message, we\u2019re going to unpack what it looks like to do a better job of listening and a better job of expressing yourself in marriage.\u00a0 You know, when we present this material at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>, we present it on Friday nights at the getaway because we know that there is going to be some communication going on over the course of the weekend.\u00a0 We know\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh, yes, bunches.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Couples are going to be talking to one another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 They\u2019re going to be doing projects.\u00a0 The projects are really the bonus part of the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>.\u00a0 You do these practical projects alone as a couple.\u00a0 You apply what you\u2019ve just heard; then, you talk about it.\u00a0 You interact around it.\u00a0 It\u2019s just extremely practical and creates immediate takeaways.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 By providing some coaching on Friday night on communication, we\u2019re hoping that couples can do a better job of communicating with one another as they go through these projects\u2014maybe reduce some of the stress and some of the possible conflict.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 We\u2019re also hoping some new patterns will emerge in these couples\u2014that they will learn some principles about how to be a better listener or how to do a better job of expressing what\u2019s going on in your life and in your feelings.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, we look at what the Scriptures have to teach.\u00a0 The Bible has a lot to say in Proverbs about communication.\u00a0 In fact, it\u2019s all through the Bible.\u00a0 That\u2019s one of the foundations of the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>.\u00a0 When you come to the getaway, you\u2019re going to hear, not just some good ideas about marriage, but you\u2019re going to hear what the Bible teaches about human relationships.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tJesus was the one who said, \u201cIf you want to keep the law, what you do is, you love God and you love one another.\u00a0 All of the law and the prophets are summed up in this.\u201d\u00a0 That means that everything that the Bible is teaching is about how we can love God better and how we can love one another better.\u00a0 That starts in our marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It begins right there.\u00a0 I think that\u2019s where most of the tests are\u2014to see if you really love God and you\u2019re going to obey Him.\u00a0 Also, whether or not you\u2019re going to practically become a student of your spouse and know how to love him or her better.\u00a0 Honestly, I don\u2019t know of a better investment in your marriage that you can make than the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s practical; it\u2019s biblical.\u00a0 It\u2019s got authentic speakers who are going to share out of their own mistakes from their own lives.\u00a0 I\u2019d invite our listeners to take us up on this special offer we\u2019re making to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners.\u00a0 Come join us for a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You said a better investment.\u00a0 Let me offer a little insider trading tip.\u00a0 Now, this is legal.\u00a0\u00a0 Because you\u2019re a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener, you can sign up to attend one of the upcoming FamilyLife <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways either in a city near where you live or a weekend that works for you and you don\u2019t mind travelling.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGo to FamilyLifeToday.com to find out when the getaway is going to be in a location near where you live.\u00a0 Then, when you\u2019re ready to sign up, let us know you\u2019re a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener.\u00a0 If you\u2019re signing up online, when you get to the key code box, just type in my name.\u00a0 Type in, \u201cBOB.\u201d\u00a0 Then, they\u2019ll know you\u2019re a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe can answer any questions you have about the getaway.\u00a0 Just mention that you listen to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> and you\u2019d like the <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> group rate.\u00a0 When you do that, you\u2019ll save at least $100 per couple off the regular registration fee.\u00a0 This is the lowest price we offer throughout the year.\u00a0 You can take advantage of it as a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you sign up before the end of the month, we\u2019ll send you a copy of the game, <em>Spouse-ology<\/em>\u00ae, for couples to play with other couples.\u00a0 It\u2019s a fun, interactive game that helps you get to know one another better.\u00a0 It\u2019s a gift to you for signing up early.\u00a0 Of course, again, when you identify yourself as a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener, in addition to that gift, you\u2019ll save at least $100 per couple off the regular registration fees.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGo online today at FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 Don\u2019t forget to put my name\u2014put \u201cBOB\u201d in the key code box on the online registration form; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to get signed up for an upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway.\u00a0 Don\u2019t forget to say you listen to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> so you can get the special group rate.\u00a0 Then, we\u2019ll see you at one of these upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow, we are going to be back to talk about how we can do a better job of listening to one another and how we can do a better job of expressing ourselves.\u00a0 I hope you can tune in for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We will see you back tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHelp for today.\u00a0 Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\u00a9Song:\u00a0 <em>Things You Don\u2019t Say to Your Wife<\/em>\n\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\tArtist:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Tim Hawkins\n\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\tAlbum:\u00a0\u00a0 <em>Extremely Madeover<\/em>, \u21172004, 2010 Tunafish Productions, L.P.\n\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you.\u00a0 However, there is a cost to produce them for our website.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve benefited 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