{"id":302266,"date":"2011-05-03T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2011-05-03T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/welcome-to-my-home\/"},"modified":"2011-05-03T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2011-05-03T15:00:00","slug":"welcome-to-my-home","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/welcome-to-my-home\/","title":{"rendered":"Welcome to My Home"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you think entertaining is intimidating, think again.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2011-05-03.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"23.28M","filesize_raw":"24410911","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2821],"tags":[4722,4818,5174],"podcast_series":[7801],"cwp_profile":[3396],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-302266","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-reaching-out","tag-christianity","tag-evangelism","tag-neighborhood","podcast_series-the-reluctant-entertainer","cwp_profile-paul-and-sandy-coughlin","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/302266\/welcome-to-my-home","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/302266\/welcome-to-my-home","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"Oykel0cnZx\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/welcome-to-my-home\/\">Welcome to My Home<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/welcome-to-my-home\/embed\/#?secret=Oykel0cnZx\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Welcome to My Home&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"Oykel0cnZx\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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again.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2011-05-03.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 You never know what you are going to stumble into when you decide to practice a little hospitality.\u00a0 Here is Paul Coughlin.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We had one dinner party where it was really remarkable.\u00a0 We asked everyone their middle name and their college degree if they had one.\u00a0 Little did we know that those were the two questions that this one person, who was dating a friend of ours, did not want asked.\u00a0 I had no idea.\u00a0 We think it was a divine issue because it showed pretty quickly that this was not the person for our friend.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen I asked it, I looked at our friend\u2014I didn\u2019t know anything by it.\u00a0 Her eyes got really big because she thought, \u201cHe is asking the two questions my boyfriend is not supposed to be asked.\u201d\u00a0 I didn\u2019t realize I was part of something much bigger.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, May 3rd.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey; and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 Are there some divine appointments waiting for you?\u00a0 All you need to do is open up the door and practice a little hospitality.\u00a0 We will talk about that today.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us.\u00a0 You and Barbara are busy\u2014you travel a lot, you are off speaking places, you have the ministry going; but you have people in your home with some degree of regularity.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>More so now that the kids are gone.\u00a0 We didn\u2019t entertain a lot when the kids were little or teenagers.\u00a0 Some of that had to be where we lived.\u00a0 We lived out in the country.\u00a0 If you ended up at our house, you had to be invited.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You had to be because...\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Or lost!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It had to be very intentional to get there.\u00a0 Honestly, Bob, I would have to say for the first couple of decades of our marriage, entertainment and hospitality was not a great strength.\u00a0 I am not sure either Barbara or I would say it is a great strength today, but it has been more developed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It wasn\u2019t really a value for you guys, was it?\u00a0 Not something you looked at and said, \u201cThis is important.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I guess not because if...\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>If you had, you would have done more of it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>What about you and Mary Ann?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I would say we have not seen it as really the biblical value that it is.\u00a0 That is where you do have to pull back and go, \u201cThe Bible speaks to hospitality, and to entertaining strangers, and to caring for the people in your sphere of influence.\u00a0 I would say we have not done a great job of that.\u00a0 Part of that is the distraction of children; but part of it is just selfishness\u2014if you get right down to it.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I am glad you pointed that out in my life, Bob!\u00a0 [laughter]\u00a0 You know what....\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I was testifying.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I think I agree with you.\u00a0 I do.\u00a0 I think sometimes we can self-absorb.\u00a0 The phrase that used to be used was \u201cbecome a couch potato.\u201d\u00a0 I think far too many folks are.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, we have someone who is going to pry the potato off the couch and launch you two as a couple into action.\u00a0 Sandy and Paul Coughlin join us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0\u00a0 Paul, Sandy, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Thanks for having us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Great to be with you.\u00a0 Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Sandy and Paul have three teenagers.\u00a0 They live in Medford, Oregon, where they grow their own food.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>What do you grow?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>When you go to their house, you get to eat out by the garden where they picked the food you are eating.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Or you can pick it yourself.\u00a0 Right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I mean....\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>In fact, that is what we prefer.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Really, Sandy, aren\u2019t you contributing to the very thing you are trying to eliminate?\u00a0 You have a blog called \u201cThe Reluctant Entertainer.\u201d\u00a0 All of a sudden you are picking the food\u2014the broccoli, the fresh vegetables out of your garden, and then you are serving it up there.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It is a little intimidating for the rest of us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Actually, we live on a city lot.\u00a0 We are trying to make it attainable to people.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So what are you growing in the backyard?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We have a cow, a horse; we have chickens.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Now wait.\u00a0 You live on a... \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 That is a city Medford, Oregon.\u00a0 That is right.\u00a0 You have written a book called <em>The Reluctant Entertainer<\/em>.\u00a0 I want you to share with our listeners your \u201cHospitality Ten Commandments.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBefore you share that, I just have to reflect on my own mom.\u00a0 Even though I wouldn\u2019t characterize my mom as reaching out to others, she did reach out to her extended family and really modeled what entertaining looked like\u2014at least for me.\u00a0 That is true of you as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Absolutely.\u00a0 First of all\u2014my list of \u201cTen Commandments\u201d\u2014I came up with this list to help women who are reluctant to practice hospitality\u2014not just entertaining, but hospitality.\u00a0 Little sentences that they could print out and put up on their refrigerator to remind them of little hospitality rules to help them.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe first one is:\u00a0 \u201cHospitality is not about you.\u00a0 It is about making others feel warm and welcome.\u201d\u00a0 I have always taught my kids, and I have written about this on my blog, that it is not just a dinner party.\u00a0 It is about making others feel warm and welcome.\u00a0 I think if we live a hospitable life, we are going to have a richer life.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>But you know there is some of you wrapped up in what your house looks like and how the food tastes.\u00a0 It is kind of hard.\u00a0 If you get invited to somebody\u2019s house and it looks like a tornado just came through and the food is sub-par\u2014you know, it is Stouffer\u2019s\u00ae lasagna for dinner\u2014don\u2019t you walk away going, \u201cSheesh!\u201d?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I haven\u2019t had that happen, but I guess that you could feel that way.\u00a0 Although, I have really tried to encourage women and myself to not compare\u2014not to compare ourselves with this Martha Stewart over here versus somebody who is doing the Stouffer\u2019s\u00ae lasagna.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt is more about connection.\u00a0 \u201cGosh!\u00a0 They have invited us into their home!\u00a0 That is a beautiful thing.\u00a0 We get to know these people and see their kids.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I guess at the end of the night, if it has been great conversation and good fellowship, you kind of forget how messy the house was or how stale the lasagna tasted anyway.\u00a0 Right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That is right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I think about our culture today.\u00a0 There is a phrase used by an educator, \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Roberta Hestenes.\u00a0 She describes what people are suffering from today\u2014crowded loneliness.\u00a0 Crowded loneliness.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think what Bob is hitting on here is, \u201cPeople are looking for a way to connect.\u201d\u00a0 They are looking for a way to experience real relationships with real people.\u00a0 There is something that happens when you get invited into somebody\u2019s house that won\u2019t ever happen in a restaurant.\u00a0 It won\u2019t happen in a sterile environment.\u00a0 It needs to happen where life is lived.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I think about my mom, she was hospitable because after you had been in her home or had a meal she helped prepare, she was so much fun that you just enjoyed the festive experience.\u00a0 Yes, the fried chicken was good.\u00a0 It might not have been healthy for you, but it was the relational dynamic that really floated the boat and raised the waterline.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay.\u00a0 So \u201cCommandment No. 1:\u00a0 It is not about you.\u201d\u00a0 What is \u201cCommandment \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNo. 2?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>\u201cCommandment No. 2 is:\u00a0 Plan ahead.\u00a0 Be organized and know your recipe.\u201d\u00a0 Part of that for me\u2014what helped me as an early entertainer\u2014was to master three recipes.\u00a0 If that means you tape them inside your kitchen cupboard door\u2014that they are there.\u00a0 You just, \u201cOh, company\u2019s coming.\u00a0 Okay.\u00a0 I am going to make this.\u201d\u00a0 There it is.\u00a0 You don\u2019t even have to go look for it.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMaster three recipes and keep cooking them over and over again.\u00a0 You will have it down where you aren\u2019t going to be so intimidated by the cooking part.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That is interesting because sometimes Mary Ann will use a dinner party to want to try out some new recipe just because you so rarely cook for a group like that.\u00a0 Then, it does increase the anxiety level, \u201cHow is this whole thing going to go if this is not a tried and true recipe?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I have done that.\u00a0 I often bring in Paul or one of my sons to come help me in the kitchen because at the last minute with a new recipe, you don\u2019t really know the time involved that it is going to take.\u00a0 If you save it for the end, it can be horrible.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPlanning ahead; being organized\u2014part of that \u201cCommandment\u201d is delegation.\u00a0 I think with the economy right now, too many people are saying, \u201cI can\u2019t afford it.\u201d\u00a0 Believe me, if you do a whole dinner party, it is expensive.\u00a0 I have encouraged women all along, \u201cOpen up your homes, but delegate half of the meal.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you have two couples coming over or four people, have them bring dessert.\u00a0 Have somebody bring appetizers.\u00a0 Have them bring two things.\u00a0 People don\u2019t mind bringing food to a dinner party.\u00a0 In fact, they like it.\u00a0 To me, it is the new way to entertain in America.\u00a0 You delegate part of the dishes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>There is another way to for somebody like me who only has one recipe.\u00a0 You just don\u2019t have the same people back to your house.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You are going to keep sharp notes on that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Either that or they better really rave about it the first time.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>They want to come back!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Dennis, just seeing how I have cooked the same thing over and over for different friends that come more often to our home.\u00a0 They have had my salmon many, many times; but they love it!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So your salmon\u2014that would be one of your three.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That is one of my three.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>What are the other two?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Years ago it was chicken divan, which I have diverted from now.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Is that in here?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It is in there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>What is the third?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>The third would be probably my chicken with goat cheese and balsamic glaze.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I do make a mean balsamic salad, however.\u00a0 I mix it with a peppercorn ranch...\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>[announcer\u2019s voice] You are listening to the Food Channel here on whatever Christian station...\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Dennis, did you know we are coming to your house for dinner tonight?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Your third \u201cCommandment\u201d is:\u00a0 \u201cTo set the mood.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>The \u201cThird Commandment\u201d is, \u201cTo set the mood.\u201d\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 I think this is important to not go overboard\u2014but to just think about what people see, what they feel, what they are going to taste.\u00a0 Think of the five senses\u2014actually, that is coming up in another commandment.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPeople want to relax.\u00a0 Whatever you can do to help them\u2014I have written about that also on my blog.\u00a0 People have written to me and said, \u201cWow!\u00a0 I have never even thought about considering five senses or the mood that needs to be set.\u201d\u00a0 Walking into a home\u2014we play a lot of jazz\u2014right away, you walk in and say, \u201cWow!\u00a0 This is going to be fun!\u00a0 This can be a great time.\u00a0 It smells good; the table is set.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>To that point of the visual, our daughter, Rebecca, went to a culinary school in Denver.\u00a0 She pointed out to us that before people taste the food, they see it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 We eat with our eyes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It is interesting.\u00a0 You know, God made all these senses.\u00a0 He made us to enjoy and savor both the visual as well as the tasting of food.\u00a0 It is a good host who sets it all up to be able to be done in a way that really is excellent.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I am here to say you don\u2019t have to pretty it up for me.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\u00a0\u00a0 Just slop it all down there.\u00a0 Let\u2019s go!\u00a0 Come on!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Bob\u2019s favorite place to entertain, Sandy.\u00a0 Cheesecake Factory.\u00a0 He has been to how many now, Bob?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Sixty-nine different locations.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\u00a0 Seventy is coming up very soon.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We could take up the rest of the broadcast, and he could tell you all sixty-nine.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>But let\u2019s move through \u201cCommandment No. 4\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>\u201cAvoid perfectionism.\u201d\u00a0 This can ruin entertaining.\u00a0 If you think that you have to have a Martha Stewart table set or even a Rachel Ray meal\u2014I mean, her food is fantastic\u2014I love to watch her on TV.\u00a0 She can whip up this incredible meal in 30 minutes.\u00a0 It is inspiring, but it might not be real for some of us.\u00a0 We have to put expectations aside and know that \u201cgood\u201d is good enough.\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t have to be perfect.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That is good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay.\u00a0 What is No. 5?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No. 5 is: \u201cStimulate conversation.\u201d\u00a0 People can come to your table and you can have your questions you want to ask; but what about the person who dominates the conversation?\u00a0 We learned this early-on.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe had a couple of dinner parties where we allowed somebody to dominate the conversation.\u00a0 It was misery!\u00a0 I remember by the time it was time to serve dessert, I was slapping down the dishes because this woman just consumed the whole conversation.\u00a0 She didn\u2019t ask us anything about our lives.\u00a0 Now I know it is not all about us, but it just seemed wrong.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>She probably had a delightful evening.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 So after that,...\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, before you get to that\u2014so Paul, your advice is do what Thomas Jefferson did?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Oh, Thomas Jefferson used to have a book by the dining room table.\u00a0 If his guests failed to inspire him\u2014grab his interest\u2014he would just start reading a book while he was having dinner.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat you have to do with someone like that is you have to learn to interrupt them without making it look like you are interrupting them.\u00a0 I eventually did.\u00a0 I interrupted and then asked another person a question.\u00a0 You have to intervene and move on.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We haven\u2019t had anybody pull out their phones yet at our dinner table.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That is right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Do you have three or four questions that are kind of your \u201cgo to\u201d questions?\u00a0 I have always kind of kidded Dennis who has this, \u201cWhat is the most courageous thing you have ever done?\u201d question.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Great question.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That he asks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We have asked that many times.\u00a0 I think the one that has been the most fun with people we don\u2019t know is, \u201cWhat is your middle name, and how did you get it?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That has been very interesting. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We had one dinner party where it was really remarkable.\u00a0 We asked everyone their middle name and their college degree if they had one.\u00a0 Little did we know that those were the two questions that this one person, who was dating a friend of ours, did not want asked.\u00a0 I had no idea.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Divine intervention.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We do think it was a divine issue because it showed pretty quickly that this was not the person for our friend.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Wow!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>When I asked those two questions...\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>There were about 10 or 11 people at this dinner party.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So it was a big dinner party.\u00a0 I asked it, and I looked at our friend\u2014I didn\u2019t know anything by it.\u00a0 Her eyes got really big because she thought, \u201cHe is asking the two questions my boyfriend is not supposed to be asked.\u201d\u00a0 As a result\u2014I didn\u2019t realize I was part of something much bigger.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You have to be kind of careful about your questions and not ask, \u201cWhat is your secret fear?\u00a0 What is the one thing you would never tell anybody?\u201d\u00a0 You know, you want it to be something people can engage in without feeling threatened by it, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, a difference between personal and private.\u00a0 We ask personal questions but not private questions.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>\u201cCommandment No. 6.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong><strong>\u201c<\/strong>Demonstrate thriftiness.\u201d\u00a0 I am a big yard \u201csaler\u201d, and I love the dollar store.\u00a0 I think they are great places to buy entertaining items.\u00a0 I say, \u201cStart with white dishes.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 We have had white dishes for 20 years now\u2014the same dishes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>They are still white after 20 years?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>They are still white.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That is good.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I just think, \u201cOver-focus on the table.\u201d\u00a0 I take about five minutes.\u00a0 I know I am using white dishes.\u00a0 I know I am using my dollar store goblets.\u00a0 What is in the yard?\u00a0 What herb can I use?\u00a0 What flower is in bloom, or what does my neighbor have that I could go and ask if I can \u201cborrow\u201d?\u00a0 Put a few candles on the table.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tM heart is really more for, \u201cI can\u2019t wait to talk with our friends tonight.\u00a0 I can\u2019t wait to go deep.\u00a0 I can\u2019t wait to see what is going on in their lives.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>This next one that you have, No. 7, reminds me of a dinner I had one time at another person\u2019s house where the moment you walked in the front door, where there were all of these apologies taking place:\u00a0 \u201cOh, I am sorry the house is a mess.\u00a0 I am sorry the food....\u201d\u00a0 On and on and on.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Doesn\u2019t that make you feel uncomfortable?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Oh, it does!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>\u201cDon\u2019t apologize.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It is like, \u201cRelax already.\u00a0 This is okay.\u00a0 I am fine.\u201d\u00a0 What is No. 7 then?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>\u201cDon\u2019t apologize, and it is okay to make mistakes.\u201d\u00a0 It is funny because I broke my own rule last Saturday night.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I wasn\u2019t going to bring it up, Baby.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We had friends over, and our one friend doesn\u2019t eat salmon so I made my chicken with my goat cheese, balsamic glaze, and fresh basil.\u00a0 I couldn\u2019t find the recipe at the last minute.\u00a0 I made this a lot, but it has been a while since I made it.\u00a0 I looked everywhere and couldn\u2019t find it.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen it came time to serve the food, I said, \u201cYeah, I couldn\u2019t find my recipe so I kind of winged it.\u201d\u00a0 Well right away, if someone is going to say that your first thought is, \u201cWhat did she leave out?\u00a0 Is it going to taste okay?\u201d\u00a0 It makes that person feel uncomfortable.\u00a0 It also makes you stand out.\u00a0 It puts all the attention on you, and it makes your guests feel uncomfortable.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Go over these last three just real quickly because they are really good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay.\u00a0 \u201cBe creative; use what you have.\u201d\u00a0 I already talked about, \u201cWhat is in your yard?\u00a0 What is in your neighbor\u2019s yard?\u00a0 Go to the farmer\u2019s market.\u201d\u00a0 Keep it simple; don\u2019t overcomplicate.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You are not talking about stealing stuff out of your neighbor\u2019s yard?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No, no, no.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay, good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You have to ask first.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That is one of the Commandments, too, you know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>There are gleaning rules in the Old Testament.\u00a0 If it is near the edge of the yard, it is yours.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay.\u00a0 No. 9\u2014\u201cCommandment No. 9:\u00a0 Learn from others.\u201d\u00a0 I think this one is very important, especially for younger women who do not know how to entertain.\u00a0 I could tell you a lot of stories about that\u2014whose mothers didn\u2019t teach them the art of hospitality.\u00a0 They just feel lost on what to do.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI say, \u201cFind somebody who does it well.\u201d\u00a0 Implement what they do.\u00a0 It is okay to copy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Bob, you can come over and learn how to make blackened salmon.\u00a0 It is okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I can?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You can come on over.\u00a0 I\u2019ll mentor you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Thanks so much!\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\u00a0 You are so kind.\u00a0 You are so kind and humble, too.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>He is proud of his humility.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I am still waiting for dinner tonight, Dennis, at your house.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>The last \u201cCommandment\u201d.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong><strong>\u201c<\/strong>Life impact is everything.\u201d\u00a0 I think I have hit on that a lot today.\u00a0 It is all about relationships and connection\u2014getting to know people.\u00a0 One thing I would like to encourage younger people is to think of some older friends that you can have over.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have a few sets of retired doctor friends.\u00a0 We love to get together with them because they have nothing to prove.\u00a0 They have raised their kids.\u00a0 They have lived life.\u00a0 They enjoy our family.\u00a0 They have wisdom to give us.\u00a0 It is beautiful.\u00a0 It is really beautiful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of our friends left one day.\u00a0 She took me by the cheeks and she said,\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0 \u201cSandy, I just have to tell you, \u2018You are the only young couple that invites us over.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 That makes me really sad.\u00a0 I think we really need to reach out to our neighbors, to elderly people, not just to our close friends.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I agree with you.\u00a0 I think your book is going to help a lot of people be able to do that.\u00a0 Before we are done, Paul, I have one more question to ask you.\u00a0 \u201cIf you could have her only prepare one meal out of this book for you, which one is it?\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It would be the salmon with probably Sandy\u2019s signature side dish, zucchini noodles in white sauce.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Zucchini noodles?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Unbelievably easy to make.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You make the noodles from scratch?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>They are made out of zucchini.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>The noodles are actually zucchini.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You take a peeler and you actually peel the...\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Oh, I got it.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, and we do grow the zucchini.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Zucchini will grow under your home.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You just put me \u201cunder the pile.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Laughter]\u00a0 I mean, back to the perfection-deal.\u00a0 I\u2019ll never grow zucchinis.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Oh, you could.\u00a0 You live in the south.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Dennis, we live on a city lot.\u00a0 We have turned our flower beds into garden beds.\u00a0 Anybody can do it.\u00a0 Even you can.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You have convinced me.\u00a0 Thanks for being on the broadcast\u2014both of you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It has been a pleasure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Sandy:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Thank you very much.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Alright.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Is there really a Cousin Reggie and a Cousin Jim?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>There is!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I was just checking.\u00a0 Okay, because there is a recipe in here for Cousin Reggie\u2019s marinade and Cousin Jim\u2019s St. Louis-style steaks.\u00a0 I am thinking about using this.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWith the steaks, you use a little olive oil, a little bit of sugar, and some Lawry\u2019s Seasoned Salt.\u00a0 You rub those on the steaks.\u00a0 The marinade:\u00a0 You take a clove of garlic, mince it up; 2 tablespoons of ketchup; 2 tablespoons of balsamic vinegar; \u00bc cup soy sauce, and a \u00bc cup of honey.\u00a0 Mix it all together and put the steaks in a bag for 24-48 hours before you cook them.\u00a0 That will add some flavor.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, we have put the recipes for the marinade and for the steaks online at FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 The recipes are in the book you have written, Sandy, called <em>The Reluctant Entertainer<\/em>.\u00a0 We have copies of the book in our FamilyLife Today Resource Center.\u00a0 It has a lot more than recipes in it.\u00a0 It has a lot of tips on how you can turn your home into a place of ministry.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGo online at FamilyLifeToday.com for more information about the book, <em>The Reluctant Entertainer<\/em>.\u00a0 Order a copy from us online, or call 1-800-FLTODAY to order a copy (I-800-358-6329).\u00a0 That is 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in Family, \u201cL\u201d as in Life, and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow I also want to make sure our listeners are aware of something that is happening here during the month of May.\u00a0 Like a lot of radio programs, when you get close to summer, 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\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe thought, \u201cThis could be a challenge, but we are going to ask our listeners if they will help out.\u201d\u00a0 That is what we are coming to ask you to do.\u00a0 When you make a $20-, or a $50-, a $100-, or a $500-donation to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> this month, that donation is going to be matched on a dollar-for-dollar basis.\u00a0 Every donation is doubled during the month until we reach that total of $750,000.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are hoping you will do whatever you can do to help us out.\u00a0 You might think, \u201cAll we can do is $20 or $10.\u201d\u00a0 That helps!\u00a0 If you can do that, go online at FamilyLifeToday.com and make that donation, or call 1-800-FL-TODAY and make that donation.\u00a0 It is really asking everybody to do whatever it is you can do to help support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today.<\/em><em>\u00a0 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