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bedroom.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2011-02-08.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u00a0Well, and don't you think that sometimes a husband will say something affirming to his wife, and his wife will say, \"Oh, I don't think that's true,\" or she'll downplay the praise.\u00a0 And the husband will think to himself, \"I'm not going to mess around saying stupid stuff like that if she's just going to act that way.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Danny:<\/strong>\u00a0 And he throws in the towel too soon.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And she's going, \"Do you really believe that?\u00a0 Say it again sometime, because I doubt it, and I'm not sure I really believe it.\"\u00a0 Even if she says, \"Don't say those kinds of things,\u201d he needs to persevere and say, \"But, honey, it's true.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Danny:<\/strong>\u00a0 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there.\u00a0 I want to say here, we've just bragged on all three of our wives publicly before several hundred thousand people here on our radio program.\u00a0 I want you to know that we're not talking about three women who are perfect.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Danny:<\/strong>\u00a0 No, but they're great women.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 They are great women, and I think it's a matter of perspective of the husband that's so important here.\u00a0 A godly husband is not focused on his wife's flaws, failures, or weaknesses.\u00a0 I promise you, with all three of the women we've talked about around this table, there isn't a man at this table who couldn't find enough flaws in his own wife to focus on for a few minutes, all right?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut we've decided we're going to focus on what's right, not what's wrong.\u00a0 We're going to praise for what she does right, not what she does wrong.\u00a0 And what person today in fighting the good fight of faith and trying to live their lives out and raise a family today doesn't need another person to be on their team.\u00a0 It's like a law of gravity \u2013 who doesn't need it, you know?\u00a0 You need someone to be for you today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Danny:<\/strong>\u00a0 Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, and the truth is, your wives are great women but mine exceeds them all, I'm sorry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Danny:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh, now we're going to have a debate here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, I imagine there may be some guys listening who they know you wrote the book, <em>God on Sex<\/em>, and they think this doesn't sound like we're talking much about sex, but we've got to understand how the sexual dimension of marriage is really wrapped up in the whole relationship.\u00a0 You can't isolate it.\u00a0 You can't take the act and separate it from the souls of two people, and I think you point that out so well in your book.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have copies of it in the FamilyLife Resource Center, and I would encourage our listeners to get a copy.\u00a0 Maybe a husband and wife would want to read through this book together \u2013 a book from a seminary president on intimacy in marriage.\u00a0 Contact us and ask about Danny Akin's book, <em>God on Sex<\/em>.\u00a0 You can go to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, and request a copy from us there, or call 1-800-358-6329, 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY, and just mention that you\u2019re interested in the book <em>God on Sex<\/em> when you contact us and we\u2019ll send it out to you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd when you get in touch with us, if you\u2019re able to help with a donation to support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> we 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