{"id":302107,"date":"2010-09-07T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2010-09-07T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/liberating-submission-part-2\/"},"modified":"2010-09-07T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2010-09-07T15:00:00","slug":"liberating-submission-part-2","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/liberating-submission-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Liberating Submission, Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What is submission all about?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2010-09-07.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"27.05M","filesize_raw":"28361755","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2831],"tags":[4922,4921,4923,4920],"podcast_series":[7314],"cwp_profile":[8897],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-302107","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-wives","tag-mom","tag-mother","tag-wife","tag-womanhood","podcast_series-liberating-submission","cwp_profile-bunny-wilson","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/302107\/liberating-submission-part-2","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/302107\/liberating-submission-part-2","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"viEkLnX6cb\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/liberating-submission-part-2\/\">Liberating Submission, Part 2<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/liberating-submission-part-2\/embed\/#?secret=viEkLnX6cb\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Liberating Submission, Part 2&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"viEkLnX6cb\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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I\u2019m stronger than I ever was before I was submissive.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, September 7<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I\u2019m Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to hear today from Bunny Wilson about the power that comes from being a submissive as a wife.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us on the Tuesday edition.\u00a0 You know, we made it through the first part of the message we are going to hear today without getting too much attack or injury.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, the reason was we had a gifted speaker who delivered the goods.\u00a0 We just got out of the way, didn\u2019t we?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We talked yesterday on the broadcast about the subject of submission, and\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Actually we didn\u2019t talk about it, Bunny Wilson talked about it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 There you go.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 She did a great job.\u00a0 This was a message that was featured at the Building Strong Families in Your Church conference that we co-hosted in Dallas with the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood.\u00a0 Bunny\u2019s presentation on submission was a great reminder of what the scriptures teach on this subject.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yeah, in fact, Bunny has a book that\u2019s committed to this subject.\u00a0 It\u2019s called <em>Liberated Through Submission<\/em> and she is not only an entertaining speaker, but an excellent writer, and personally, Bob, I think it\u2019s best that this subject of submission be dealt with by a woman.\u00a0 I think if I were a woman it would be very difficult to hear a couple of men in a studio talking about submitting to your husband and maybe without saying anything else, we need to let Bunny Wilson just go ahead and speak to the women.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 We\u2019ll do that.\u00a0 As she picks up her message here in Part Two, she\u2019s talking about how wives need to be ready to adjust to some of their husband\u2019s uniquenesses.\u00a0 Let\u2019s listen to Bunny.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bunny:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Now, ladies, we have got to learn to get to the point when we\u2019re talking to our husbands.\u00a0 You know, our husbands are very bottom line, right?\u00a0 You stay home from church, he goes to church, he comes home, and you say, \u201cHow was the service?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cFine.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cWhat did the pastor talk about?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cGod.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, you go to church, he stays home, you come home; he says, \u201cHow was church?\u201d\u00a0 And we\u2019re like, \u201cWell, you know, I left 15 minutes late, just knew my parking space wasn\u2019t going to be there, Sally was pulling into my parking space, got in the church, it was too hot on one side, too cold on\u2026\u201d\u00a0 We have got to get to the point.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bunny:<\/strong>\u00a0 Our hearts study to answer.\u00a0 Give him the benefit of our thinking, because the Bible says, \u201cHusbands live with your wife according to understanding that your prayers be not hindered.\u201d\u00a0 God knew that the husband wasn\u2019t going to take the time to want to understand this, so He had to threaten his prayer life.\u00a0 You know what hindered prayer is like?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bunny:<\/strong>\u00a0 Hindered prayer is like being on the phone with static on the line, and Jesus\u2019 voice going in and out.\u00a0 Hindered prayer.\u00a0 And so I want to make sure I do everything in my power so that Frank clearly understands.\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t matter whether he agrees or disagrees, is happy, mad, or sad.\u00a0 I just want to make sure that I share with him what I\u2019m thinking with the right attitude, with the right spirit, knowing he has the right to make the final decision, honoring that with him, having a yielded spirit and a reverent spirit.\u00a0 That should be your tone.\u00a0 It should be your attitude.\u00a0 You should share clearly your heart and get to the point.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow you have to understand how difficult this was for me.\u00a0 I was a very outspoken, get-you-straight, kind of person, so when I understood what God was saying, \u201cYou can speak the truth but you have to speak it in love.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cOkay, okay, okay.\u201d\u00a0 The first time I saw that I said, \u201cOkay.\u201d\u00a0 Frank and I had had a disagreement and I said \u201cI\u2019ll wait until I\u2019m not upset anymore and then I\u2019ll share this with him.\u201d\u00a0 Well, two months later\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bunny:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2026because every time I thought about it I got upset.\u00a0 Two months later, I said, \u201cOkay, God, I got it, I got it.\u00a0 I\u2019m going to do this right.\u201d\u00a0 And I went to Frank and I said, \u201cYou know, Frank, you\u2019re about to make a decision that I don\u2019t agree with and I just wanted to share with you why I don\u2019t agree.\u00a0 I don\u2019t agree because of A, B, C, D.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut while I was sharing with him he had a body language, with his arms crossed.\u00a0 He had an attitude and then, ladies, he gave me the look.\u00a0 Well, when he looked at me like that my voice just got higher and higher and higher until I had to explain it to him.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo God said to me, \u201cYou didn\u2019t share the truth in love.\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cWhat your soft voice was really saying was \u2018You know, Frank, if I took the time long enough to calm myself down to address this ridiculous decision you\u2019re about to make, you ought to be able to sit up in your chair and act like you have sense while I get you straight.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cThat\u2019s what your soft voice was really saying.\u00a0 You were not speaking to him in love, you were speaking to him in manipulation.\u201d\u00a0 I said, \u201cOkay, okay, God, I won\u2019t do that anymore, I won\u2019t do that anymore.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut then after I got through manipulation I had a whole other sin to jump over.\u00a0 That was the sin of guile. You know what that is, that\u2019s when you say one thing and you mean another.\u00a0 It\u2019s like the woman who said to her husband, \u201cYou know, what, honey, my birthday is coming up and I saw how much money that we have in our checking account, and we don\u2019t have any money so I don\u2019t want you to buy me a birthday present.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd so the wise husband said, \u201cOh, no, I\u2019m going to buy you a birthday present.\u201d\u00a0 And she said, \u201cNo, no, no, even if you bought it I wouldn\u2019t be able to enjoy it.\u201d\u00a0 So now the logical husband would say, \u201cWell, if she\u2019s not going to be able to enjoy it, then why should I buy it?\u201d\u00a0 How many of you all know that if that husband comes home without a gift he\u2019s got a problem on his hands?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bunny:<\/strong>\u00a0 Because what she really meant to say was, \u201cHoney, I looked in the bank account, we don\u2019t have any money.\u00a0 I don\u2019t care if you drive me to the lake as the sun is going down, bring a tape recorder of romantic music, stick a dandelion in my ear, and buy me a hot dog.\u00a0 I don\u2019t care what you do, but you do something, because my birthday\u2019s important to me.\u201d\u00a0 Now that\u2019s what she really meant to say.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo I had to get over the sin of guile.\u00a0 I had to come without manipulation, without guile, with a reverent and a yielded spirit and speak the truth in love.\u00a0 Now, I stopped.\u00a0 I spoke the truth in love.\u00a0 Then I gave him the right to make the final decision, and if he did not agree with me it is at that time\u2026this is where submission kicks in.\u00a0 It is at that time that I give God the space to intervene in our lives, not to show us which one is right and which one is wrong, but to show us what His will is in the situation.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSometimes you can have all of the facts and it not be the will of God for that particular situation.\u00a0 There have been times when I thought I was dead right, and I was dead wrong.\u00a0 I was so happy that my husband had made the final decision.\u00a0 And, after all, ladies, when we get to heaven he\u2019s the one that\u2019s going to be judged for the leadership of the direction he took the family.\u00a0 I mean, while we\u2019re reclining next to the crystal river sipping on heavenly lemonade, he\u2019s going to be in the throne room, and I figure if he\u2019s going to get the whoopin\u2019 he ought to be able to make the decision. <br><\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut let\u2019s look at it for a minute from just a humanistic point of view.\u00a0 Let\u2019s say that Frank and I don\u2019t agree about something. And we take it to a judge.\u00a0 I write up my brief and Frank writes up his brief, and the judge looks at it before he comes into the courtroom, and on this particular decision the judge is leaning in my favor.\u00a0 He\u2019s thinking, \u201cWow, Frank, I think you\u2019re off on this decision, but I\u2019m going to wait and hear what you have to say when I go in the courtroom.\u201d\u00a0 So he comes in the courtroom and we all rise, and he lets Frank talk first, and Frank gets up and he starts explaining his point.\u00a0 The judge is sitting there with his head in his hand, and he\u2019s thinking to himself, \u201cNo, Frank, on this decision I think I\u2019m going to have to rule in Bunny\u2019s favor.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn the middle of Frank talking, I get so upset, I jump to my feet and start telling the judge all the reasons why he\u2019s wrong.\u00a0 What is the judge going to tell me to do?\u00a0 Sit down.\u00a0 What if I don\u2019t sit down?\u00a0 He\u2019s going to hold me in contempt of court.\u00a0 And what if I still don\u2019t sit down?\u00a0 He\u2019s going to put me in jail and fine me money.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou all did not hear me when I first started this illustration.\u00a0 The judge thought I was right.\u00a0 He was going to rule\u2026are you all going to come down to the courthouse and picket for me, take off of your job and said, you know, \u201cLet Bunny go?\u201d\u00a0 Of course not.\u00a0 You know what you\u2019re going to say?\u00a0 You\u2019re going to say, \u201cYou know what, Bunny?\u00a0 You ought\u2019ve known that there was an established order in the courtroom.\u00a0 You should have known that when you went in there.\u00a0 If the judge doesn\u2019t get you straight then the next people that come in are going to be standing up on the table tops, and the people after that are going to be swinging from the chandeliers.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere has to be an established order, and we all understand that.\u00a0 If we understand that in the courthouse, why don\u2019t we understand that in our house?\u00a0 Why don\u2019t we understand it in the church house?\u00a0 That there is an order that is established.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I discovered was there were areas that God agreed with me on, certain areas in my marriage that really needed to be fixed, but I was tying his hands with my contentiousness, with my rebelliousness, with my stubbornness, because what if God fixed it with me out of order?\u00a0 Guess who would have been watching?\u00a0 My children.\u00a0 And where would the testimony have been?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was the one that was delaying the answer that God had in our marriage relationship, but on the day that I decided\u2026because Frank even said one day in a radio interview\u2026he said, \u201cWhen Bunny decided to become submissive it put the fear of God in my heart.\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cBecause I knew I was no longer contending with her.\u00a0 I was dealing directly with God.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo where I had been standing in the way, and God wanted to get at Frank, he couldn\u2019t get to Frank because I was blocking.\u00a0 I was interceding the whoopin\u2019, I was getting the whoopin\u2019, when he wanted a clear shot at Frank.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t2 Samuel, 15:23 says, \u201cFor rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft and stubbornness as the sin of idolatry.\u201d\u00a0 This is the scripture that arrested me, changed my heart, turned me in another direction, because I said to God, I said, \u201cHow is rebellion like witchcraft?\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cWell, witchcraft is designed to make a person do what you want them to do.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe Lord says when you murmur and complain, when you pout and you nag, and you give the silent treatment, He said \u201cIt\u2019s just like practicing witchcraft, because what you\u2019re saying to your husband is, \u2018I will go back to being the wonderful person you always knew if you do things the way I want them done.\u2019\u201d He said, \u201cThat is like practicing witchcraft.\u201d\u00a0 He said, \u201cand stubbornness is like idolatry because idolatry is when we worship something above God.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt could be your ministry, it could be your children, your money, your profession.\u00a0 It could be a lot of things that you worship above God, that\u2019s idolatry.\u00a0 But he says \u201cWhen you are stubborn against my established order, in your home, on your job, in your church,\u201d he said, \u201cyou\u00a0 are worshipping your thoughts, your feelings, and your opinions above what My word teaches.\u201d\u00a0 As far as I\u2019m concerned that is like practicing idolatry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow I don\u2019t know about you, but when God calls an angel over and says, \u201cThat\u2019s Bunny, that\u2019s my blank child,\u201d rebelliousness, stubbornness, contention, argumentative, deceitful, manipulative, guile\u2026I don\u2019t want those adjectives in front of my name.\u00a0 I want to be God\u2019s yielded, submitted servant.\u00a0 I want to be kind.\u00a0 I want to be compassionate and empathetic, and sympathetic, and willing, and obedient.\u00a0 I want those kind of adjectives to be used by my name.\u00a0 And I said, \u201cGod, today I decide.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo many women have said to me, \u201cHow do you become submissive?\u201d\u00a0 You decide to become submissive.\u00a0 You decide to implement the principle into your life.\u00a0 The next time you get into some intense fellowship with your husband, rather than continue, you stop, and you say, \u201cOkay, okay, okay, okay, okay.\u00a0 I\u2019m not going to talk about this until I can speak the truth in love.\u201d\u00a0 And you may have to take two or three months off until you can do it without guile and without manipulation.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut this much I guarantee you. When you step out of God\u2019s way and see God intervene on your behalf\u2026when I say your behalf, that means your husband and you.\u00a0 That means your boss and you.\u00a0 That means your pastor and you.\u00a0 When you see God intervene on your behalf, and you having given it up to God, you can be around your husband and you all totally do not agree, and your spirit does not change at all, because you believe, by faith, that God will intervene on your behalf and show you what His will is.\u00a0 And He does.\u00a0 There have been times when Frank thought he was right and discovered I was right, and every time God showed him that I went up a notch in his eyes, in terms of how he viewed my ability to make decisions.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn the early part of our marriage, I would tell Frank how I felt, and he many times would say, \u201cThat\u2019s dumb.\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019d say, \u201cThat\u2019s not dumb, that\u2019s the way I feel.\u201d\u00a0 He would say, \u201cNinety-five percent of the people in the world agree with me, five percent agree with you, that\u2019s dumb.\u201d\u00a0 He does not say that anymore.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen I say, \u201cFrank, you\u2019re about to make a decision and I don\u2019t agree with you,\u201d he says, \u201cTell me everything you know.\u201d\u00a0 The reason for that is he\u2019s got enough whoopins from God.\u00a0 He\u2019s dealt with God enough.\u00a0 The fear of God is in his heart.\u00a0 He doesn\u2019t want to have to deal with God, and he can just listen to me and then weigh it out.\u00a0 Now there\u2019s one thing for sure.\u00a0 I want him to make the decisions that he feels God is calling him to make, even if it doesn\u2019t agree with me.\u00a0 I want him to make the final decision. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSome ladies say, \u201cWhat if you can\u2019t get your husband to make a final decision?\u00a0 What if he says, \u2018I want you to make the decision?\u2019\u201d\u00a0 That is his final decision.\u00a0 The fact that he wants you to make the decision, that is his final decision.\u00a0 When we get to heaven he will still answer for that decision even though you made it, because he is the final authority in your home, and if he has given you that right then you make the best decisions you know how.\u00a0 I hear women complain about it all the time.\u00a0 I said, \u201cI know a lot of women that would love for their husband to say, \u2018You make the final decision.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 Until he takes up the mantle of doing that, and he will do it more readily when you have a yielded, submitted and reverent spirit that is not fighting him and contending with him, and making him feel foolish if he makes a mistake.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat brings me up to the last point.\u00a0 What if I submit and my husband, or my pastor, or my boss makes a mistake?\u00a0 The question is not what if, the question is when.\u00a0 Your pastor, your boss, your husband are not perfect people.\u00a0 There will be times when they think that they\u2019re hearing the word of God, or hearing God speak, and it turns out that it was clear that it was incorrect, and that the way you thought was correct.\u00a0 Now you could say to them, \u201cI told you so,\u201d and all that\u2019s going to do is bring up a list of justifications for why they did it and a remembrance of all the things that you\u2019ve ever done wrong.\u00a0 That\u2019s all that\u2019s going to do.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOr you can say to them, \u201cAnybody can make a mistake.\u00a0 What can I do to help you fix it?\u201d\u00a0 When we forgive a person\u2019s mistakes it bonds them to us, and it makes the relationship even dearer and nearer.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI walked in the bedroom one day, and two of my teenage daughters, who are grown now, they were arguing with each other at the top of their lungs.\u00a0 I walked in and I said, \u201cYou know, you all need to learn to resolve your differences the way your father and I resolve our differences.\u201d\u00a0 So, they stopped and looked at each other, started to giggle, and said, \u201cLet\u2019s do that, let\u2019s do that.\u201d\u00a0 So the first one said, \u201cYou know the way I see this\u2026\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd she began naming her points, and the second one sat there and listened to her, and when the first one stopped talking the second one said, \u201cAre you through?\u201d\u00a0 She said, \u201cYes, I\u2019m through.\u201d\u00a0 So the second one said, \u201cI understand what you\u2019re saying, but the way I feel about this\u2026\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd they fell across the bed just rolling in laughter.\u00a0 They thought it was so funny.\u00a0 When I walked out of the room, the spirit of the Lord spoke to me and said, \u201cThey may not be doing it now, but they know what it looks like.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of my greatest joys is watching my children grow up and understand the principle of submission.\u00a0 When they go on their jobs and how they act with an employer, when they go to church and how they act within the church body\u2026now that I see them married.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRemember that daughter that I told you wasn\u2019t going to get married, she was the first one of my daughters to get married.\u00a0 Number two when she was 16 years old she decided to put a collage on the ceiling of her bedroom.\u00a0 They were all wedding dresses.\u00a0 I said, \u201c God you have such as interesting sense of humor.\u201d\u00a0 After she got married she is the kind of person that follow through is not one of her strongest suites.\u00a0 She\u2019s developing but I had to really stay on her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI said, \u201cAfter the wedding make sure with this allotted amount of time you send out thank you cards.\u00a0 Promise me you will do that.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe said, \u201cOh, mommy.\u00a0 I promise I\u2019ll do that.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, past the allotted time they should go out I got a call from my mother her grandmother.\u00a0 \u201cDid she get the gift?\u00a0 Did she enjoy it?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cWell, I never heard from her.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI couldn\u2019t dial her number fast enough.\u00a0 When I got her on the phone I said, \u201cYou promised me you wouldn\u2019t do this.\u201d\u00a0 And she said, \u201cWell, mom.\u00a0 I was going to send them out but my husband said he wanted me to wait until he could sit with me and do them.\u00a0 So in submission to my husband\u2026\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI said well you tell your husband to call me.\u00a0 When I see the peace and the harmony with which they operate their life.\u00a0 When I have watched God intervene on my behalf, no muss no fuss.\u00a0 Meaning that he sent the answer and he fixed it in time.\u00a0 You have to give him a space of time.\u00a0 You can\u2019t rush him.\u00a0 Being able to be in a relationship where sometimes you don\u2019t agree and the spirit of peace abounds.\u00a0 It\u2019s one of the greatest gifts that come from exercising the principle of submission.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI am stronger now than I have ever been and, ladies.\u00a0 God has no problem with you being a strong woman.\u00a0 Women come up to me all the time and say, \u201cI don\u2019t know how I\u2019m going to do this.\u00a0 I\u2019m a strong woman.\u201d\u00a0 God loves strong women.\u00a0 You know why?\u00a0 Because he knows that once we understand a principle and it\u2019s clear, we\u2019re just as strong towards submission as we were towards rebellion.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGod doesn\u2019t mind us being strong.\u00a0 He just wants us to channel our strength.\u00a0 I\u2019m stronger than I ever was before I was submissive.\u00a0 I\u2019m clearer than I ever was before I was submissive, because now my mind and my attitude is not clouded by anger, manipulation, guile, rebelliousness, and stubbornness.\u00a0 I am liberated and I am free, and I take pride\u2026Godly pride\u2026in saying that I am a submitted servant.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, we\u2019ve been listening to Part Two of a message from Bunny Wilson on the subject of submission, and I\u2019m glad she said what she said.\u00a0 She\u2019s just cutting it straight, saying what the scriptures teach.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, this message, if it were given by\u2026well, for that matter, any person\u2026would not be a popular message and the reason is, is it cuts across the grain of our humanity.\u00a0 We don\u2019t want to submit to anybody or anything or any authority.\u00a0 Yet one of the ways we can almost be assured that a message is biblical is if the flesh rebels against hearing it.\u00a0 There is almost a sense that of authenticity.\u00a0 It must be right because that is not the natural bent of how human being are.\u00a0 We do want to rebel.\u00a0 We do want to be angry.\u00a0 We do want to be embittered.\u00a0 We don\u2019t want to submit joyfully to another human being who is not perfect.\u00a0 That doesn\u2019t make sense to us.\u00a0 And yet God in his ingenuity has called us as believers to trust his plan and blueprints.\u00a0\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI get concerned Christians today who want to rewrite scripture and the roles and to find an easier way out especially in a culture that is a feminist culture.\u00a0 The culture is calling women to seek their own rights.\u00a0 The Bible calls both men and women to deny their rights.\u00a0 That is the clear message of scripture.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Why would we want to go echo the message of the culture, especially with the failure rate of families being what they are today.\u00a0 Let me tell you something.\u00a0 No amount of embracing the world\u2019s plan for marriage and seeking your own rights is going to build healthy, godly, Christian families.\u00a0 I say to those who want to step forward and re-write Paul\u2019s writings and reinterpret Peter and say that a woman is not called to submit and to somehow erase the word from the vocabulary and make the scriptures much more palatable and winsome to the unbelieving world, be careful of changing what the scriptures clearly say.\u00a0 The Bible says, \u201cWives, submit yourselves to your husbands.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 We have to acknowledge I think that some men have grabbed onto this passage and this teaching and they have misinterpreted what the Bible says so that a wife has no dignity.\u00a0 That she is somehow lesser in a marriage relationship than her husband.\u00a0 They have used this as a weapon.\u00a0 They have not been humble themselves.\u00a0 We really do need to be clear as we address this subject this is not something the Bible teaches to give men permission to be abusive or cruel or domineering over a wife.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYet at the same time just because there have been abuses that does not excuse a woman from her responsibility to do what God has called her to do.\u00a0 I think Bunny really has outlined that clearly in what she has said on the program today but also in the book that she has written called <em>Liberated Through Submission<\/em>.\u00a0 We have copies of her book in our FamilyLife Resource Center.\u00a0 You can go online at FamilyLifeToday.com for more information on how to get a copy of the book.\u00a0 If you want to hear the entire message that is available on CD as well or you can stream the audio on our website.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you want to call to order a copy of Bunny\u2019s book you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY.\u00a0 It\u2019s 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 That\u2019s 1-800-F, as in family, L, as in Life, and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow quickly let me update folks on what is going on with our FamilyLife Love Like You Mean It marriage cruise.\u00a0 It is scheduled for Valentines week February 14-18.\u00a0 Leaving from South Florida and going to the Bahamas and Coco Kay.\u00a0 We are getting close to filling up the ship and we wanted our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> friends to be able to come along with us.\u00a0 This week if you sign up for the Love Like You Mean It cruise we are making state rooms available for half price.\u00a0 It\u2019s a buy-one-get-one free offer.\u00a0 Pay for one person to come along and the second person comes for free.\u00a0 This is good for FamilyLife Today listeners and it\u2019s only good through this week.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere is what you need to do.\u00a0 Go to FamilyLifeToday.com and click on the link on our website that gives you more information about the Love Like You Mean It cruise.\u00a0 Dennis and Barbara Rainey are going to be there.\u00a0 Maryann and I are going to be there.\u00a0 Crawford and Karen Loritts are going to be there.\u00a0 Kirk Cameron and his wife and Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband, Sela, Point of Grace and Big Daddy Weave.\u00a0 It\u2019s going to be a great week so sign up this week and your state room is half price.\u00a0 To get that special offer you have to identify yourself as a <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listener by typing my name \u201cBOB\u201d in the promo code box on the registration form.\u00a0 So go to FamilyLifeToday.com and click on the Love Like You Mean It cruise link.\u00a0 Hope to see you onboard the cruise and I won\u2019t tell anybody that you got the special deal.\u00a0 Everybody will think you paid what they paid.\u00a0 It will be our little secret.\u00a0 Alright?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow tomorrow we want to encourage you to be back with us.\u00a0 We are going to introduce you to a remarkable young woman.\u00a0 Her name is Kristen Jane Anderson and she has a remarkable story to tell.\u00a0 As a teenager she decided that she would end her life but God had other plans for her and we\u2019ll hear about those plans from her tomorrow.\u00a0 I hope you can be with us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I\u2019m Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We\u2019ll see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, 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