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Let me ask Marla.\u00a0 Do you know the name Janis Ian?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No, I was not born yet though.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You got the information you were looking for.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I got the answer I was looking for.\u00a0 The song is called \u201cSociety\u2019s Child,\u201d and it was about this young white girl who had fallen in love with an African American young man at school.\u00a0 But, they had to hide their romance because mom and dad didn\u2019t approve and you just had to keep it in the closet.\u00a0 \u201cSociety\u2019s Child\u201d ring a bell?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis<\/strong>:\u00a0 No, I\u2019m sorry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>The second event that I remember\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Are you going to continue to play the movie out?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, we\u2019re going to continue this out, second event that I remember, was reading a book that later became a movie, and the book was <em>In the Heat of the Night<\/em>, it was the story of a black detective in the South, who solved a crime.\u00a0 It was really my first confrontation with racial tension and the segregation that occurred in the South.\u00a0 Third event, my mom and I went to the drive-in movie and we saw <em>Guess Who\u2019s Coming to Dinner<\/em>.\u00a0 You remember that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Sydney\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Poitier\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>He won an Oscar didn\u2019t he?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I think he did.\u00a0 Spencer Tracy and Katharine Hepburn were in the movie as well and it was all about this interracial marriage.\u00a0 I remember driving home from that with my mom and talking about interracial marriage.\u00a0 I remember her saying, \u201cIt\u2019s not a good thing for couples to get married across racial lines.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Really?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>In the 1960s, given her background, what she\u2019d grown up in\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Are you going to get into trouble here on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I think if she\u2019s listening, I think she\u2019d remember that and say, \u201cI do remember saying that to you.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, we have the privilege of talking about that subject today\u2014interracial marriage, intercultural marriage.\u00a0 But, we have a special guest with us who we need a linguistic expert to pronounce her last name.\u00a0 Her name is Marla and you spell her last name\u2014just so you listeners who are smirking and snickering out there\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Here\u2019s what Dennis is up against right here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>If you wrote this out on a piece of paper I would challenge you to be able to properly pronounce her last name:\u00a0 A-L-U-P-O-A-I-C-E-I.\u00a0\u00a0 At least I can spell it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong><strong>\u201c<\/strong>Aloe poe CHAY\u201d right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It\u2019s \u201cAloe PWY chay\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Oh, \u201cAloe PWY chay\u201d I\u2019m sorry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well Marla, welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Marla has authored or co-authored more than twenty books, lives with her husband in Frisco, Texas\u2014Used to be a sleepy little town when I lived in Dallas back 35 years ago.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>But it woke up since then didn\u2019t it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 It sure did.\u00a0 Her book is called <em>Your Intercultural Marriage: A Guide to Healthy, Happy Relationships. <\/em>She is a graduate of Purdue University, Dallas Theological Seminary, my alma mater, and has more than eight years of study around this subject of intercultural marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>And you got the last name Alupoaicei\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, I feel that the broadcast needs to begin with saying:\u00a0 \u201cIt was the summer of 1998.\u201d\u00a0 On the streets of \u2026 Targu-Mures.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Oh no, you just butchered that, too!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong><strong>\u201c<\/strong>In Romania, it was a small town in Romania, the sun was setting and there was a young couple in the summer who instantly saw one another.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Except it didn\u2019t exactly happen like that did it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No.\u00a0 It sounds really good though.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Tell us about what happened and how you met your husband.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I went on a mission trip with a group from Dallas Bible Church, in the summer of 1998.\u00a0 My husband Catalin was working as a translator and a counselor for an orphan ministry over there, Buckner Orphan Care International.\u00a0 But we didn\u2019t have a chance to really interact at that time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Did that influence at all your decision to go back to Romania the next summer?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Now come on.\u00a0 Be honest.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Were you thinking \u201cI wonder if\u2026\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I mean, this is a spiritual mission you are on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Sure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Were you thinking, \u201cI wonder if that cute guy will be there?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I might have wondered that.\u00a0 But I really loved that ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Did you know that he was going to be there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No, I didn\u2019t know that he was going to be there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, OK.\u00a0 That takes care of your motives to that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I did not know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, you wind up back in Romania and sure enough, there he is.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, that\u2019s right.\u00a0 And that year, he was the main translator for all of the camps even though he was only 18.\u00a0 So I had a chance to see him\u2014it really requires a lot of work and patience to be translating for thirty Americans and British and all the kids.\u00a0 There were hundreds of orphans and they were all tugging on him.\u00a0 \u201cTell her this.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cTell him, I said this.\u201d\u00a0 So it was a lot of responsibility for him at a young age.\u00a0 I just was really impressed with his heart for the Lord and how hard he worked and how he loved the kids.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just felt like we had a special connection.\u00a0 I had just been on a trip to Paris and he was looking at my album and my pictures of being to France, and he said, \u201cYou seem more European\u201d like I seemed interested in their culture and so forth.\u00a0 So, we just created a connection that way.\u00a0 Actually when I went home, I told my mom \u201cI\u2019m going to marry him.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Oh you did?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, how long from you telling your mother you\u2019re going to marry him until he got interested?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, we actually lost touch.\u00a0 I didn\u2019t hear anything from him till 2001.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Wow, so this relationship started back in 1998.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I\u2019m not sure if it really started I just feel like maybe it was woman\u2019s intuition, or God just planted that seed on my heart.\u00a0 There was just a connection there for me.\u00a0 But he was still pretty young.\u00a0 He\u2019s six years younger than I am.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was in seminary, he just went through some things he stopped working for the Orphan Ministry and went back home.\u00a0 God was doing a work in both of our hearts.\u00a0 So then when it was the right time, I went back to Romania in 2001 and stayed with his family for a couple of weeks and took over some donations for the Orphanage that I had gathered, and he asked me to marry him.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Like that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Without dating?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>OK now, we have to\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I feel like we\u2014you remember the old records that used to use a platter that was spinning.\u00a0 We just skipped several songs.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, you jumped into an intercultural marriage that was a\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, she didn\u2019t say yes yet.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>But you knew that was coming.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>She said yes in 1999, he just didn\u2019t ask her till 2001.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That\u2019s right.\u00a0 Good point.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>He was a little slow, we\u2019re saying.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Slow.\u00a0 The yes was already there.\u00a0 I\u2019m just curious here\u2019s a low courtship, you really didn\u2019t know one another very well and you come from very different cultural backgrounds, and all of a sudden you\u2019re standing at the altar going, \u201cI do and I will. And I promise till death do us part.\u201d\u00a0 Were you at all scared by what you were saying yes to?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I was.\u00a0 That really was the point where I started doing my research on the topic.\u00a0 Because, I knew that it would be a challenge, but I felt positive that God had led us together, and positive that I wanted to marry him.\u00a0 But I wanted to feel more equipped for our relationship, and be able to build a positive relationship.\u00a0 As I started doing research I realized that there really weren\u2019t many resources out there on intercultural and interracial marriage.\u00a0 Especially from a Christian perspective, there were none.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo I started interviewing people, doing research, gathering information because I felt like I really wanted to offer this resource to other people.\u00a0 Once I got more experience in my own relationship and had experience with having children, and just talking with other people about parenting, and helping other people overcome obstacles.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs we started preparing for our marriage, there is a lot of paperwork you have to do, applying for the visa.\u00a0 The process of trying to get married can be very difficult, in trying to get your visa, get all your paperwork together, and plan your ceremony, because we got married in Romania.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Wow\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, you established the fact that you had a mission match.\u00a0 You had a similar calling.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Because, that\u2019s how you met in the first place\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>One of Bob\u2019s favorite quotes for single people is to run toward the finish line\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, it\u2019s one I heard Tommy Nelson say years ago he said.\u00a0 If you\u2019re single, he said \u201cRun as hard and as fast toward Jesus as you can.\u00a0 And if you notice somebody out of the corner of your eye running in the same direction at the same speed, take a second look.\u201d\u00a0 I just think that\u2019s great advice.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That is, I like that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Marla let me ask you, how many marriages in the United States, what percentage of marriages that are taking place today are interracial or intercultural marriages?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It\u2019s about 15%, so about one in every six.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>What is the definition of an intercultural marriage?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It\u2019s just a marriage relationship between two people of different races, cultures or ethnicities.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Would that mean that if I grew up in the Suburbs in an affluent family and you grew up in a poor part of town are we having an intercultural marriage?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It could be in some sense.\u00a0 It depends really on how you define \u201cculture.\u201d\u00a0 Is it a race or a people group?\u00a0 Or are you saying a different background coming from a different place?\u00a0 Because, in a way if you define it your way, every marriage is intercultural\u2026 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, that\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>because we\u2019re from different cities, different families.\u00a0 You might be an only child whereas another person\u2019s family might have had six children.\u00a0 And that\u2019s a huge difference, so we have to overcome all of those in a marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You and your husband are both Caucasian\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>But he\u2019s from Eastern Europe and you\u2019re from the United States, that\u2019s intercultural.\u00a0 Interracial then would be if there\u2019s a different ethnicity.\u00a0 If it\u2019s an African American marrying a Caucasian, or an Asian who\u2019s marrying a Hispanic.\u00a0 That\u2019s interracial right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Marriage is really two people with varying backgrounds coming together with different cultures, different histories, different memories, different traditions, different love languages, coming together to forge this new relationship, this new union.\u00a0 For some of us, we married an American, but for you, you really did marry someone from a different culture.\u00a0 I mean, <em>very<\/em> different.\u00a0 What has been the biggest cultural difference that you two have shared?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We\u2019ve shared several.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I\u2019m sure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>One of the main differences is the perception of time.\u00a0 Because, my family always valued punctuality, and we just were on time for everything, and I never thought about it.\u00a0 I just thought, \u201cWell most people are on time.\u201d\u00a0 And we actually were always early.\u00a0 We would be the first people at church, and the first people there.\u00a0 My parents just loved being on time.\u00a0 Well, my husband does not care that much about being on time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Is that because Romania is a culture that has no clocks?\u00a0 What\u2019s up with that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No, the European culture is quite similar to ours in some ways.\u00a0 At least they do use clocks and people have to be at work on time etcetera.\u00a0 But it\u2019s just more laid back, especially when it comes to meeting a friend or something like that.\u00a0 He\u2019s on time for work, and he would have school classes so he was on time for that.\u00a0 But for a more casual meeting, it seemed like he didn\u2019t really care if he was late.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMaybe the party would start at seven o\u2019clock, to me that means be there at seven o\u2019clock.\u00a0 To him that means, get in the shower at seven o\u2019clock and start getting ready.\u00a0 For me that was frustrating because I felt like it was disrespectful to the people that we were meeting.\u00a0 So, by the time he was ready and we were on our way and arrived at wherever we were going, I felt so frustrated, angry and embarrassed that we were late that I really couldn\u2019t enjoy myself. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo that was something I had to evaluate.\u00a0 \u201cWhy does this make me so upset?\u201d\u00a0 And talk to him and just work through that issue.\u00a0 It\u2019s a very common issue for intercultural couples to face.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You mentioned time, as the first cultural difference between you and your husband.\u00a0 I instantly thought, that\u2019s not a cultural issue.\u00a0 That\u2019s just two people\u2019s values, how they value two different things.\u00a0 But you\u2019re saying in the Romanian culture, if people arrived an hour or an hour and a half after the party started, that is culturally acceptable.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 And, if you have plans and someone just drops by your house on their way to the store, you don\u2019t have plans anymore.\u00a0 You\u2019re just going to visit with that person.\u00a0 And, they\u2019re fine with it.\u00a0 That\u2019s the hardest thing for me because if I was \u201cOh, I was about to go somewhere,\u201d and someone drops by, that\u2019s a conflict for me.\u00a0 \u201cOh, well I was on my way out.\u201d\u00a0 But for them, there\u2019s no conflict.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf your friend came over, it doesn\u2019t matter that I was going to go to this party.\u00a0 I\u2019m just going to stay here and entertain my friend, hang out for hours.\u00a0 They just really prioritize the relationships.\u00a0 So, over time, I\u2019ve really come to appreciate that.\u00a0 Because they just value people so much.\u00a0 People are more important than time, it\u2019s more important than anything you have to do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You got married in Romania, but you came to the United States pretty much right away.\u00a0 You came back to finish seminary and he came a couple of weeks later, and you\u2019ve lived in the States ever since right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, I would guess that when it comes to cultural adjustments, Catalin has had a whole lot more to do than you\u2019ve had to do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, what would he say has been the hardest adjustment that he\u2019s had to make in an intercultural marriage, do you think?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>One of them has been food.\u00a0 Food is actually the most sited area of difference for intercultural and interracial cultures, because you eat at least three times a day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>This comes from all your research you\u2019ve done over the past eight years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 So if\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I could see how that would be a big deal for Bob.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Now, wait just a second\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>He loves to eat at the Cheesecake Factory.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Oh, my husband loves that, too.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, let\u2019s hook us up and we\u2019ll get down there.\u00a0 But I know what you\u2019re saying if you\u2019re sitting down for three meals a day and your food values are very different, or if you came from a culture where food wasn\u2019t a big deal, somebody else comes from a culture where food is a relationship lubricant.\u00a0 All of a sudden it\u2019s not just about what you\u2019re eating, but it\u2019s about what your values are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 My husband\u2019s culture really emphasized the shopping and preparing of meals.\u00a0 Every morning his mother would go to the store to buy the food just for that day, for what she was going to make.\u00a0 She would spend hours making soups from scratch, and cakes and bread and all kinds of delicious food.\u00a0 I definitely loved the food.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Are you saying you do that every day now?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I do not.\u00a0 I wish I had time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>This is why he loves the Cheesecake Factory.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>And why she does, too.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Marla:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It\u2019s special, it\u2019s a way for them to show love and that\u2019s just what they\u2019re used to.\u00a0 But for Americans, we\u2019re used to gobbling something down and five minutes later we\u2019re on the road.\u00a0 So, for me it was a challenge to just slow down the mealtime somewhat.\u00a0 And also in Europe they eat much later than we do.\u00a0 My husband likes to eat lunch at about 2:00.\u00a0 Then we\u2019ll eat dinner maybe at\u2014he\u2019s moved it up a little\u2014maybe seven or eight.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, the Europeans eat really late.\u00a0 I\u2019ve got some friends who live in Spain, they\u2019ll start the evening meal at 10, 10:30, eleven o\u2019clock at night.\u00a0 No wonder they take a siesta during the day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You know, we\u2019re talking about this, I\u2019m thinking about the cards that you and Barbara worked on that we\u2019ve been sending out to listeners this week, <em>The Five Essentials for a Thriving Marriage<\/em> card, really what you guys tried to capture are some of the basics that transcend any culture.\u00a0 Things that every married couple need to keep coming back to and focusing on so that these other things that can seem like big things, we can wind up majoring on the minors and what you\u2019ve done in these cards is point us back to what the major things ought to be.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mentioned that because, again if any of our listeners want to get a couple of these five essentials for a thriving marriage cards, these work like bookmarks, they\u2019re laminated, they can go inside your Bible or another book, just call 1-800-FL-TODAY and say \u201cI\u2019d like a couple of those cards.\u201d\u00a0 We\u2019ll send them out to you.\u00a0 We especially hope that some of our newer listeners will contact us to get these so we can introduce them to the ministry of FamilyLife and let you know a little bit more about who we are and what\u2019s available.\u00a0 But it\u2019s open to anybody.\u00a0 Call 1-800-FL-TODAY and ask for <em>The Five Essentials for a Thriving Marriage<\/em> card.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m also thinking here about the Weekend to Remember\u00ae Marriage Conference.\u00a0 At the conference, we talk about the difficult adjustments that couples have to make in marriage no matter what your cultural background has been.\u00a0 It may sound like something like showing up late for a party or how you approach meal time; you may think \u201cWell, come on!\u00a0 These aren\u2019t big issues.\u201d\u00a0 But these are things that over time will wear on a relationship and cause this drift toward isolation that we talk about at the Weekend to Remember\u00ae.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, we begin the conference by talking about five threats to oneness.\u00a0 I think the very first threat we talk about is our differences and how our differences can really drive a wedge between us and we challenge couples to begin to interact around their backgrounds, their motivations for getting married and also their values.\u00a0 You take those three issues, your backgrounds, values and motivations and you can have a lot of wedges driven between a couple in a hurry in a marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>And that\u2019s true for every couple.\u00a0 But as we\u2019re talking about here, if you come from very different cultural backgrounds, you ought to anticipate that that gap is going to be larger than it might be for a boy and a girl who grew up next door to one another and went to the same high school, and fell in love and got married.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That\u2019s a very good reason, Bob for why a book like this can really help you point out where the landmines are.\u00a0 I mean, a couple getting married are walking off into a spiritual battlefield anyway.\u00a0 But if they come from cultural backgrounds as varied as Romania and America, you really need the help of someone like Marla who has really done the research on this to show you where the problems are and how you can adjust to one another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I\u2019m sitting here thinking of a couple I know who got married about a year ago, both of them from different cultural backgrounds.\u00a0 In fact, their story is very similar to yours, Marla.\u00a0 I\u2019m thinking I\u2019m going to get them a copy of this book and send it on to them.\u00a0 I would guess most of our listeners, if this isn\u2019t their own experience, they don\u2019t have to look very far before they\u2019ll see couples who do come from very different cultural backgrounds.\u00a0 We want to encourage you, get them a copy of the book, <em>Your Intercultural Marriage:<\/em><em>\u00a0 <\/em><em>A Guide to Healthy, Happy Relationships.<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have it in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center.\u00a0 You can go online at FamilyLifeToday.com for more information about how to get a copy of the book.\u00a0 Again, it\u2019s FamilyLifeToday.com; look for the book, <em>Your Intercultural Marriage<\/em>.\u00a0 We\u2019ve got additional resources there that talk about differences in marriage and how we come together to reconcile those differences.\u00a0 So, again, go to FamilyLifeToday.com, for more information, or call us at 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 That\u2019s 1-800 F as in \u201cfamily\u201d L as in \u201clife\u201d and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 Someone on our team will let you know how you can get a copy of Marla\u2019s book.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, tomorrow we\u2019re going to talk more about what happens when cultures collide in a marriage relationship.\u00a0 Marla Alupoaicei is going to be back with us, hope you can be back as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today Keith Lynch and our entire broadcast production team. 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