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married.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2010-02-04.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Let me ask you how is your RQ \u2013 not your IQ, your RQ \u2013 your romance quotient?\u00a0 Hayley DiMarco says, \u201cFor a lot of women there are just little things that they do that they shouldn\u2019t ought to do.\u201d\u00a0 For example!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It\u2019s very easy as women \u2013 we have in our minds exactly what we want, and when we don\u2019t get it we\u2019re very transparent so we express in our faces, and in our emotions that\u2019s not what I wanted, and we totally miss the fact that that devastates the man who brought you something, and really tried, and wants to make you happy.\u00a0 What that tells the man is-\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I can\u2019t please her!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That she\u2019s never happy!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So why try?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Right and so then you stop bringing as much because well, she\u2019s never happy.\u00a0 But, really the bottom line of it is that the woman is being selfish \u2013 that she\u2019s more concerned about material possessions, and the thing he didn\u2019t bring or the thing he didn\u2019t do than loving him.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, February 4<sup>th<\/sup>.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife Dennis Rainey and I\u2019m Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We have some advice for men and women today \u2013 advice like how to deal with disappointment in a way that doesn\u2019t completely wipe out your husband.\u00a0 Michael and Hayley DiMarco join us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWelcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> thanks for joining us.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Our phone lines have been jammed ever since they heard what you said earlier Bob about singles being stupid.\u00a0 I mean unbelievable!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 We are talking this week about the fact that all of us in relationships can tend toward to borrow a phrase here \u2013 cupidity \u2013 combining romance and stupidity to come up with cupidity, and it\u2019s not just for singles.\u00a0 I would like to just go on record as having been stupid in my marriage relationship from time to time.\u00a0 I\u2019ve been guilty of this!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Oh my goodness!\u00a0 Barbara and I been married 37 years, and I promise you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You\u2019ve had moments of cupidity?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 More than once \u2013 seasons \u2013 seasons!\u00a0 We won\u2019t call Barbara to confirm that at this point!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, let\u2019s talk to the experts because we have a couple of really\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Their life\u2019s story is in this book.\u00a0 Michael and Hayley DiMarco join us again \u2013 Hayley \u2013 Michael welcome back!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Thank You!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Thanks!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>They\u2019ve written a book called:\u00a0 <em>Cupidity \u2013 50 Stupid Things People Do for Love<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>And how to avoid them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>And how to avoid them\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That\u2019s right \u2013 we\u2019re not just observing and then laughing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, it\u2019s not just a guilt-producing book.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>We\u2019ve already talked this week about what singles do, those things that they tend toward in relationships \u2013 what about married couples?\u00a0 I mean if you had to boil it down and I don\u2019t know if you can boil it down to one thing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, they have 50!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, I know but if you had to zero in on what the tendencies that women have in marriage toward relational stupidity Hayley where would you point?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I think that for most of us what our tendency is is to look at everything from the perspective of how it feels to us.\u00a0 Everything, not just love but certainly in love we talk about amongst ourselves how we feel.\u00a0 So, if he makes me feel bad then there\u2019s something wrong with him.\u00a0 If he doesn\u2019t make me feel good there\u2019s something wrong with him.\u00a0 So, I think most of the acts of cupidity center around that.\u00a0 We define everything by how we feel rather than what\u2019s true.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, number one \u2013 believing love is a feeling.\u00a0 Love is not a feeling!\u00a0 It may sometimes feel good but love is a commitment.\u00a0 It\u2019s sacrificial action.\u00a0 It\u2019s staying with somebody even when there aren\u2019t any feelings.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, you look at what scripture says about love.\u00a0 You know you\u2019re supposed to love God, love your neighbor, love your enemies, love those who hate you \u2013 all of these as they get progressively more difficult can all apply to marriage.\u00a0 There are times when your husband or your wife\u2019s your neighbor, and you have to love them, and you might not feel anything about them at all, but you still have to love them.\u00a0 There are times when they\u2019re going to feel like your enemy, but you\u2019re still commanded to love them.\u00a0 So, it\u2019s not a feeling \u2013 sometimes you\u2019re going to feel awful about them, but that doesn\u2019t change that you still love them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Counter culturally there\u2019s nowhere in scripture where there\u2019s a direct command to love yourself.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That\u2019s very good!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Love God, love your neighbor!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, there would be those who say love your neighbor as yourself.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>The reality is you already do love yourself.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>More than yourself!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That\u2019s the great thing about the verse is Jesus already knows.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I just wanted to head off the mail before it arrives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No,the scripture already assumes part of our sinful nature is that we\u2019re going to love ourselves more than anything else.\u00a0 So, the biblical command is to love others as yourself.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>As I was looking through your book, and trying to ask the question in my marriage relationship where have I been most relationally stupid?\u00a0 One of the chapters that caught my eye was the chapter of walking on egg shells.\u00a0 Now, for me as a guy I have tended to want to be a pleaser.\u00a0 In fact I have thought if Mary Ann is happy then I\u2019m doing what I ought to be doing as a husband \u2013 right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You\u2019re a peacemaker!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes.\u00a0 If I can just help her to be happy with life then I\u2019m doing what God would have me do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Really?\u00a0 Okay so you\u2019re doing something different than what God would do?\u00a0 Because, are you called not to be?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Now, I didn\u2019t bring this up so that you could rebuke me!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Just this topic I\u2019m sorry \u2013 I\u2019m not getting all over you Bob.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No \u2013 no keep going, keep going!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>This is not something that you\u2019re alone on okay?\u00a0 This is something that we see a lot. As a woman I see it happening to my friends, and people around me, and I say, \u201cIt\u2019s too bad that her husband won\u2019t love her the way God loves her.\u201d\u00a0 That is \u2013 God doesn\u2019t want to make you happy \u2013 He wants to make you Holy.\u00a0 So, I think it\u2019s the responsibility of the man in a spiritual relationship to ensure that his wife is becoming more Holy not more happy.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I will tell you it took me a long time to even come to that understanding of that realization.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, I\u2019m sure you know that now \u2013 I don\u2019t mean to step on you!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No, but it\u2019s true because Mary Ann will express with some degree of passion what she feels is the right thing to do, or what she wants to happen in a certain situation, and I will interpret that passion as alright \u2013 well, if I can accomplish this then you\u2019ll be happy, and I\u2019ll be rewarded right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You\u2019ll be the hero!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That\u2019s right, and so it all kind of blends together until I did come to a realization where I think her happiness is not my primary responsibility here, but I need to stop and say, \u201cIs that really the right thing we ought to be doing?\u201d\u00a0 Is this what the Lord would have us do?\u00a0 There are times when I need to say to her, \u201cYou know I don\u2019t think that\u2019s the right.\u201d\u00a0 As passionate as you feel about it, I\u2019m not sure that\u2019s the right thing for us to do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>There may be those times when you\u2019re sensing the displeasure of your wife that the best thing to say is nothing.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong>\u00a0 Amen.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Barbara and I just spent a day traveling where she didn\u2019t get up on the correct side of the bed.\u00a0 The day started out terrible, horrible, no good, very bad and she wanted to move to Australia.\u00a0 It was just where she was, and for once I didn\u2019t try to correct her.\u00a0 I really gave her space.\u00a0 I didn\u2019t try to make her laugh which makes her madder.\u00a0 Instead I gave her space and we traveled a good bit of the day without saying much of anything.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, the eggshells for me is wanting to fix it.\u00a0 I want to make her right.\u00a0 I want to make her happy as you\u2019re talking about but sometimes you have to give your spouse the freedom to have had a bad day, and let them sort it through and come to grips with.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Without trying to fix it!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That\u2019s right - with their relationship with God, and not play junior Holy Spirit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You\u2019re saying after 38 years you finally have understood it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I didn\u2019t say that!\u00a0 You were the one, Bob \u2013 you were the one who said you finally understood it \u2013 I did not start on that one.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>See, and that\u2019s the response, too, that God has with us as He loves us.\u00a0 Sometimes it\u2019s appropriate for Him to correct us, sometimes it\u2019s appropriate for Him to come alongside us and crack a joke about something we just did, and then sometimes He stands there in silence and just lets you sweat out that bad day of getting up on the wrong side \u2013 which side is that left or right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I\u2019m not going to comment on that!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I\u2019m trying to figure that out for Hayley.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Here\u2019s another one that you mentioned, and this one is good for women \u2013 number 16.\u00a0 What do you mean by not accepting his kills?\u00a0 This is sounding like a caveman or a little barbaric here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, not accepting his kills.\u00a0 I\u2019ll let Hayley take it from here but not accepting his kills is basically picture a caveman \u2013 you can make it modern honey.\u00a0 Picture a caveman coming back to a cave with two rabbits but she really wanted an antelope.\u00a0 She did not want to clean and cook two rabbits.\u00a0 She was wanting an antelope.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, I think that for a lot of us \u2013 men I know your number one goal and Bob you pointed this out, is to make your wife happy.\u00a0 I think that\u2019s beyond the shadow of a doubt the goal of every man \u2013 he wants to make his wife happy.\u00a0 So, when men bring you \u2013 when your husband brings you something like let\u2019s say he brings you a new garbage can because he knew you needed a new.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No, no, no, no\u00a0 - we\u2019re using the wrong illustrations here.\u00a0 I\u2019m sorry to correct you guys but he talks about rabbits \u2013 killing a rabbit \u2013 killing an antelope \u2013 no woman wants a rabbit or an antelope.\u00a0 She wants a nice watch that has diamonds marching around the face, and he brings home a Timex.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay, let\u2019s talk about that then.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Or he found one on the streets of New York that has those diamonds and says five bucks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>It was inside a coat.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Now we have it right!\u00a0 Okay talk to them about that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay, it\u2019s just very easy as women we have in our minds exactly what we want, and when we don\u2019t get it we\u2019re very transparent, and we want to keep it real.\u00a0 So, we express in our faces, and in our emotions that that\u2019s not what I wanted.\u00a0 We totally miss the fact that that devastates the man who brought you something, and really tried and wants to make you happy.\u00a0 What that tells the man is \u2013 I feel funny saying that sitting here in front of three men \u2013 you probably all could speak to this better than I could.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I can\u2019t please her!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Right \u2013 that she\u2019s never happy!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes \u2013 so why try?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Right and so then you stop bringing as much because well she\u2019s never happy.\u00a0 But, really the bottom line of all this is that the woman is being selfish \u2013 that she\u2019s more concerned about material possessions, and the thing he didn\u2019t bring or the thing he didn\u2019t do than loving him for the beautiful thing that he\u2019s done.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, let\u2019s say he does bring home flowers that he bought at Wal-Mart okay?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>They just happen to be discounted because they\u2019ve been there a couple weeks with the price.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>The plastic wrap is on it with the price tag that you can\u2019t peel off not that I\u2019ve done that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes - $2.99\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No, me neither!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, does she act like she\u2019s flattered when she gets the $2.99 flowers that were in the throw away bin at Wal-Mart?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, let me ask you don\u2019t you find that alluring \u2013 isn\u2019t that beautiful and gracious in a woman?\u00a0 You could pick her some flowers by the side of the road and she thinks \u201cThat is so sweet; I\u2019m going to put this in a vase right in front of where everybody can see it.\u201d\u00a0 There\u2019s something alluring - very attractive about a woman who\u2019s pleased \u2013 isn\u2019t there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>But, are you pleased when you get the $2.99 flowers from Wal-Mart?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Do I want the expensive flowers from the fancy florist?\u00a0 Well, yes maybe I do but what you have to do is tell yourself that you\u2019re pleased with his effort.\u00a0 You\u2019re pleased that he thought enough about you to buy something, and not make it about yourself really and what you think you need to be more comfortable or more happy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay, this is close to number nine \u2013 failing to provide.\u00a0 A man wants to provide the dozen roses that you know cost $50 \u2013 60, but let\u2019s face it that doesn\u2019t happen all that often.\u00a0 In this economy this one right here is a big one \u2013 failing to provide.\u00a0 Explain what that means Michael?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, surrounding an act of cupidity \u2013 the act of failing to provide in a stupid loving sense is really not going to the base of tough economy and people being laid off, and really struggling.\u00a0 But, it\u2019s for the lazy man.\u00a0 It\u2019s for the man that is not making an effort.\u00a0 This applies to men both married and single that won\u2019t get off the couch.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, when a man commits an act of cupidity by not providing for his wife and\/or family what he\u2019s doing is he\u2019s saying, \u201cI\u2019m going to abdicate that role to my wife \u2013 I\u2019m going to let my wife bring home the bacon and fry it up in the pan.\u201d\u00a0 Once again it goes back to what Hayley said earlier \u2013 it\u2019s about selfishness, it\u2019s about how we feel and when men delay growing up they continue to do what they want, and not what they need to do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, if a guy really has a dream of becoming a professional skateboarder, and he\u2019s 45, and has a potbelly you know he\u2019s probably outgrown that.\u00a0 He probably needs to get on the treadmill or start delivering papers in the morning and work that gut off.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I want to read a passage of scripture here but first I got an e-mail from my son today\u00a0 - he\u2019s a senior in college, and he pointed me to this passage of scripture.\u00a0 He said, \u201cDad, I was reading 2 Thessalonians chapter 3 today\u201d \u2013 Now we command you brothers in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ that you keep away from any brother who is walking in idleness and not in accord with the tradition that you received from us.\u00a0 For you yourselves know how you ought to imitate us because we were not idle when we were with you nor did we eat anyone\u2019s bread without paying for it but with toil and labor we worked night and day that we might not be a burden to you.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was not because we do not have that right but to give you in ourselves an example to imitate.\u00a0 Even when we were with you we would give you this command.\u00a0 If anyone\u2019s not willing to work let him not eat.\u00a0 For we hear that some among you walk in idleness not busy at work but busybodies.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy son writes me, and he says, \u201cThis sounds like those guys we\u2019ve talked about Dad who are looking around trying to marry their mother.\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019m just thinking cha-ching.\u00a0 He\u2019s figured it out and not only is he figuring it out but on a college campus \u2013 he\u2019s seeing it.\u00a0 He\u2019s seeing the guys who are X-Boxing until three, and they just aren\u2019t taking on the mantle of masculine responsibility.\u00a0 I think when you talk about failing to provide you\u2019re talking about guys who don\u2019t want to be guys in a relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>A positive twist on that is when if you picture every man as a sports car or a 4x4\u2014a performance machine of some sort\u2014it\u2019s not performing if it\u2019s just sitting and idling.\u00a0 Men have to really harness that God given gift of the accelerator pedal.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, it\u2019s not fulfilling the purpose that God has for that man.\u00a0 Let\u2019s talk about physical acts of cupidity \u2013 you have a couple here I want you to just comment on.\u00a0 Number 22 \u2013 withholding sex to get romance.\u00a0 Is that what women do?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes - yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Notice I didn\u2019t turn to Michael.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I was all ready to answer that one!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>No, I think that it\u2019s a kind of a clich\u00e9 for a reason.\u00a0 If you get her mad and she\u2019s mad enough at you she\u2019s going to make sure you don\u2019t have sex to get you back.\u00a0 I think that\u2019s an age-old practice on the part of women.\u00a0 I think it\u2019s a very selfish practice, an ungodly practice, and it really is kind of like a little kid having a fit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay, but Hayley lets just be honest you\u2019ve been mad before right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, I\u2019ve been steaming mad!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Okay and those are not the times when you\u2019re really the most in the mood \u2013 right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Neither one of us probably at that point!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>So, at the point where you are mad at your husband you\u2019re not predisposed toward physical intimacy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Right, well what I\u2019m saying is probably he isn\u2019t either.\u00a0 He\u2019s not looking at you saying, \u201cHey baby let\u2019s go up to the room.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, yes but let me change the equation here a little bit.\u00a0 Let\u2019s say Michael comes to you, and he says, \u201cOh sweetie I am so sorry.\u00a0 I repent in sackcloth and ashes, and here I am I\u2019m groveling on the floor.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Has this ever happened?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Not really!\u00a0 He\u2019s going to have trouble with this.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(laughter)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I\u2019ll project to someone else!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You\u2019ll project someone else.\u00a0 No, don\u2019t do that either.\u00a0 Anyway he comes to you, and he repents, and then he says five minutes later \u201cHey sweetie.\u201d\u00a0 Then he\u2019s in the mood for love.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That\u2019s the point that women withhold.\u00a0 If he\u2019s repented, and you\u2019re not in the middle of the fight anymore and he\u2019s interested, for you to say no is sinful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Punishment!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, because you are seeking revenge, and that belongs to God.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Now, wait a second \u2013 I\u2019ve been married for 37 years, and this has happened in our marriage before \u2013 I\u2019m not talking about her punishing me, but I am talking about where there\u2019s an argument where I\u2019ve wounded her and where I as a man have had to realize that the aftereffects of the wound are real and that as a man I\u2019m being pretty selfish to expect her to move past the aftereffects to move toward physical sexual love in the relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well listen cupidity happens on both sides.\u00a0 It takes two people being smart about love to really make it work.\u00a0 Because a man could torture a woman by saying this:\u00a0 No, you can never withhold, and right now is the time.\u00a0 So, yes there are extremes on both sides.\u00a0 But, what we\u2019re talking about is the woman who literally holds onto it to punish \u2013 that\u2019s where you go wrong.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes, and it could go both ways as she was saying where it becomes transactional\u00a0 - that act of cupidity is where well the clich\u00e9 again \u2013 when was the last time you took me to a movie?\u00a0 Well, three movies this month so we\u2019re going to dim the lights twice.\u00a0 You know things like that where it becomes some sort of like a story problem that\u2019s a roadblock.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I thought you were going to clean the garage today and since you didn\u2019t I\u2019m not interested.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Right!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>But, we\u2019re really called to imitate God, and to love the way God did.\u00a0 He loved us even though we weren\u2019t lovely so that\u2019s really the bottom line.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Yes \u2013 let\u2019s look at number 31 \u2013 this one is a guy problem generally.\u00a0 Looking at porn that is clearly an act of cupidity.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Well, yes plainly it\u2019s a sin.\u00a0 But, what it does is it reveals the stupid lovely fact that men are lazy.\u00a0 Typically that\u2019s why men are more susceptible to porn I believe \u2013 we believe is because it\u2019s men\u2019s sometimes lazy nature that leads to looking at pornography.\u00a0 Because, what it says to women and to anyone else that has an inside in that man\u2019s heart is that I\u2019m too lazy to make an effort with my wife.\u00a0 I\u2019m too lazy to provide for her what she needs as far as communication and nurturing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I\u2019m too lazy to press for reconciliation when our relationship is fractured.\u00a0 I really am looking for the lowest threshold.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Easy way out!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>That\u2019s right!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>There is a reason why there\u2019s an entire chapter in the Bible committed to love.\u00a0 First Corinthians 13 \u2013 I\u2019m not going to read it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Because we\u2019re all guilty of cupidity is that why?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>I think we all are guilty of cupidity.\u00a0 But, it says, \u201cLove is patient, and kind.\u00a0 Love does not envy or boast, it\u2019s not arrogant or rude, it does not insist on its own way.\u00a0 It is not irritable or resentful, does not rejoice at wrong doing but rejoices with the truth, love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, love never ends.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think life is one long process of God reprogramming us and teaching us how to love.\u00a0 We don\u2019t start out the beginning as single people knowing how to love.\u00a0 We don\u2019t start out as married folks knowing how to love, we start out with a real shallow commitment that\u2019s called a marriage covenant, and then we make it good, and it gets deep, and it gets rich, and wide, and it\u2019s multi-color.\u00a0 It\u2019s tasty, it\u2019s magnificent if we don\u2019t quit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI really appreciate you guys and your book here:\u00a0 <em>Cupidity.<\/em>\u00a0 In a fun way, you\u2019ve helped us laugh at ourselves but at the same time slip little doses of truth in the beverage so that we\u2019re drinking it in.\u00a0 I love you guys, and appreciate your work \u2013 thanks for being with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hayley:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Thank you!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Michael:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Thanks so much! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Now, I\u2019m looking forward to seeing just how many stupid married couples will call us now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You\u2019ve done it again!\u00a0 That pretty much takes care of all of our audience.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>The singles, and now the marrieds.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>Earlier it was the stupid singles; today it\u2019s the stupid marrieds.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong><strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>You can go on-line at FamilyLifeToday.com and get a copy of Michael and Hayley\u2019s book <em>Cupidity<\/em> and as I\u2019ve already said this week I would not recommend this as a Valentine\u2019s gift for your spouse.\u00a0 Don\u2019t say, \u201cHere sweetheart I thought this would be a great book for you to read.\u201d\u00a0 This is for you to read, and to progress a little bit with your romantic quotient \u2013 your RQ.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain the title of the book; <em>Cupidity<\/em> \u2013 the website is FamilyLifeToday.com.\u00a0 You can also call toll-free 1-800-FLTODAY, and we\u2019ll let you know how we can send a copy of the book out to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me quickly say a word of thanks to those of you who help support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\u00a0 I think most of you know that our program like most of the programs you hear on this station \u2013 we\u2019re listener supported, it\u2019s folks like you who believe in what we\u2019re doing who call from 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