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kinds of kisses.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That was going to be my question, Grant.\u00a0 Yeah, what kind of kiss are we talking about here?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Are we talking about Katy's goodnight kiss?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yeah, that's probably \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2026 that's as far as it will go for you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yeah, probably avoid lengthy and foreign types of kissing, I suppose.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Lengthy and foreign.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Foreign, Bob \u2013 what's a foreign kiss?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Parlez vois Francais, oui?\u00a0 Je ne c'est pas?\u00a0 Andrew, where's the boundary for you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 Same one.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Kissing?\u00a0 Just the goodnight kiss, that's as far as it goes?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Have you been tempted for it to go farther than that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You were pretty quick on that one \u2013 like, duh, huh?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, yeah, I have.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay.\u00a0 So have you had to re-establish some boundaries because maybe you've let them slip in the past?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yeah, in high school my morals weren't what they are today, and I didn't commit, and I'd just get into trouble with that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Now, wait a second.\u00a0 You said you didn't commit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 I didn't commit at all.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 How important do you think it is to make a commitment of what you're going to do before you face the temptation?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 Critical \u2013 to be a dedicated man and set boundaries and follow them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Were you a Christian in high school?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 I don't even know.\u00a0 I mean, I knew the theology, but I didn't follow it at all.\u00a0 I believed in Jesus, I believed in Jesus and He was the Christ, the Son of God, but He wasn't my Lord.\u00a0 He was just way off in the distance.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Was there a spiritual turning point for you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 I'd say about two years ago, 11th grade, in December. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 What happened?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, I had surgery, and I thought I was going to die, because the doctor said I might not live, and I had to reevaluate a lot of my priorities and say \u2013 because I realized I wasn't invincible as a teenager, and so I just committed right there to Christ and said, \"I'll go wherever You want me to go.\u00a0 If You let me live, I will follow You anywhere.\u00a0 Just don't let me die, and I'll obey,\" and so since then it's been an upward relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You indicated that you felt, like, as a real man you were never more of a man when you were in control of your passions?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 Definitely \u2013 self-control and mercy, which is strength under control, is important to being a man.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 You know, a lot of times the culture tells guys just the opposite \u2013 that real men are the guys who \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2026 that's a Stone Age idea for our generation.\u00a0 It's unheard of.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 What do you mean?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 Guys and girls of our generation that aren't Christians, that aren't following the Lord \u2013 they'd ask why.\u00a0 They say there's no point.\u00a0 They really don't believe in marriage anymore.\u00a0 They just believe in cohabitation and dating and all that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Are you talking about people in college?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Andrew:<\/strong>\u00a0 College and high school \u2013 the values change pretty quick.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Rebecca, where is the line for you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rebecca:<\/strong>\u00a0 I am not going to kiss until I get married, until the day of my wedding.\u00a0 I know I'm the oddball, but that's okay.\u00a0 Yeah, I decided that a long time ago.\u00a0 I will say that I did not follow through on that, but since 10th grade, I have not kissed anybody since 10th grade.\u00a0 It's been a long time.\u00a0 But I definitely \u2013 I don't regret it.\u00a0 I don't wish I'd kissed certain boys.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mean, I've been through two relationships since high school, and both of them I have not kissed the guys.\u00a0 It's been a lot easier to let go of them because of that \u2013 because you don't have that physical as much \u2013 I mean \u2013 yeah, we hold hands and he'll put his arm around me or whatever, but you don't have that \u2013 there's not that physical attachment like there would be if you were to kiss.\u00a0 And I just know that for myself, it's hard.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf I were to draw the line at kissing, it would be hard for me not to kiss and do more than that.\u00a0 Like, I just can't kiss a guy.\u00a0 I mean, the way I am, and everyone is totally different, and I wouldn't recommend you make up these boundaries through experience \u2013 and so I'd say just draw the line before you ever experience any of it, but just, for me, I just can't do it.\u00a0 I can't just kiss a guy goodnight.\u00a0 It would be too hard for me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Wasn't it hard for you when you were going with these guys not to kiss them?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rebecca:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 So how did you keep from doing that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rebecca:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, you have to date someone that has the same standards as you do, and \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2026 but even then, I mean, here's this deal, and they go, \"Well, okay, goodnight.\"\u00a0 \"Goodnight.\"\u00a0 And you're both standing there, and it's, like, \"I want to kiss you, I want kiss you,\" and you're thinking, \"I want you to kiss me,\" right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Rebecca:<\/strong>\u00a0 You just don't put yourself in the situations, and you hug goodnight, stare deeply into each other's eyes, and get in the car and drive away.\u00a0 That's about as far as you can go, and it is hard.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0 You kind of want to date with a purpose.\u00a0 You don't just date just \u2013 I mean, it is fun, but, I mean, there's a lot of risk there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 The purpose for dating is \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2026 ultimately marriage, I'd say so.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 But when your parents would talk to you about it, you'd always say stuff like, \"The purpose isn't about \u2013 it's just to get to know somebody better,\" right?\u00a0 Didn't you say that to your parents?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, that's part of it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Are you changing your mind now about this?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay, Grant.\u00a0 You're headed to college \u2013 do you expect that you'll get married sometime during college?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Do you expect to date to date during college?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Do you expect with the purpose of getting to know someone to see if you might marry that person?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Let's say you met her during your freshman year, and you started dating during your freshman year, but you're probably not going to get married until after college?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 So you'll have four years of dating.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, it's a long time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Could there be some problems with that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 Yeah, for that amount of period, I'm sure there's strong temptation to go places physically that you probably shouldn't go.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Strong temptation to kiss and maybe more than that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 So, but you figure you'll probably do it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0 That I'll probably date for \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2026 during your freshman year, you'll probably go out with girls and just try to fight off that temptation?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 Probably so.\u00a0 I don't know, I may \u2013 oh, gosh \u2013 yeah, I think I probably would.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Okay, but you would recommend that these people don't do what you just did and date during high school?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, I'm in college.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Is that right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yeah, well, probably so.\u00a0 I mean, most people \u2013 and this isn't always the case \u2013 but generally, if you're dating in high school, you're going to break up with them, especially when you go off to college, I'd say.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And that's no fun.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Grant:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(end of tape)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, we have been listening to \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2026 you were kind of pressing Grant, there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I felt a little like Larry King or Phil Donahue or somebody who had the animal caged.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I wish our listeners could have seen Rebecca, my daughter.\u00a0 She was busting a gut.\u00a0 She was laughing, because you had old Grant on the hot seat.\u00a0 But he handled it okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, there are a couple of things I want to point out here.\u00a0 First of all, even in listening to the young people talk about their standards, how they want to hedge their standards, and you, as a parent, can do the best job you can to prepare your preteen for the teenage years, but the confusion can come, and it can sweep them away, and they can begin to adapt and start looking like the world, like a chameleon \u2013 just blend right in.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, I ran across this \u2013 I'm going to ask you, Bob \u2013 what do you think the Gallup Poll revealed is the percentage of young people today between the ages of 13 to 17, who believe that unmarried couples living together is acceptable?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 I would guess it's better than 50 percent \u2013 60 percent.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, you're close \u2013 70 percent of all teenagers between 13 and 17 believe it's okay to live together.\u00a0 Of those who go to church, what percent of churchgoing teens between the ages of 13 and 17 believe it's okay?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, you'd hope that it was down dramatically \u2013 down in the teens or maybe the 20s.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That's what I would have guessed \u2013 50 percent \u2013 50 percent \u2013 five-oh.\u00a0 Our young people today do not embrace the truth of God's Word and we, as parents, I believe, we have to look at that data and have to say, \"What's our responsibility here?\"\u00a0 Well, we must teach clearly.\u00a0 We have to teach why God wants our children to wait until marriage, and then we need to keep asking the questions of them as they grow in and through the teenage years.\u00a0 But it all starts with a good game plan before your young person even becomes a teenager.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, that's what you're trying to provide for us with the book that you and Barbara and Samuel and Rebecca, who didn't tell you about her boyfriend in the sixth grade, she helped write this book, so \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 \u2026 she's a real authority on this.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 The book is called, <em>So You're About to be a Teenager<\/em>, and we want to make it available, particularly to the parents of 9-year-olds, 10-year-olds, 11-year-olds, 12-year-olds.\u00a0 If you've got kids in that age group, get a copy of this book, pass it on to your teen, and say, \"Here's a book I want you to read and offer to pay them, I don't know, $5 or $10 if they will read the book, right?\u201d\u00a0 It's the Dennis Rainey Incentive Program.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Thank you, Bob.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Do you like that?\u00a0 I didn't call it a bribe today.\u00a0 It's an incentive that you provide for your young person.\u00a0 This book is designed to help them think through in advance some of the issues they're going to be facing as they move into the teenage years.\u00a0 Just get them started thinking about some of these things so that when they're in the thick of it, they've at least had some initial thoughts on this.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Absolutely.\u00a0 They've heard from someone else, other than you, as a parent.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Not that they shouldn\u2019t hear from you as a parent as well.\u00a0 We have put together the <em>Passport to Purity <\/em>resource which is designed to help a father engage a son or a mom engage a daughter around these issues.\u00a0 You get away for a weekend and you listen to these CDs with Dennis and Barbara and you\u2019ve got some projects you do together.\u00a0 It\u2019s a fun getaway time with your preteen and you get to unpack some of these issues that are just ahead for your son or daughter.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have information about both the book, <em>So You're About to be a Teenager <\/em>and the <em>Passport to Purity<\/em> resource on our web site FamilyLife Today.com along with comments from a lot of parents and their sons and daughters who have been on the <em>Passport to Purity<\/em> weekend.\u00a0 If you want to hear what other parents this getaway time with their kids go to our web site FamilyLife Today.com.\u00a0 You can find out more about how to order the resources that are available.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain our web site is FamilyLife Today.com.\u00a0\u00a0 You can also call us for more information at 1-800-FL TODAY.\u00a0 That\u2019s 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 1-800 \u201cF\u201d as in Family, \u201cL\u201d as in Life and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you get in touch with us someone on the team will let you know more about how you can have the resources you\u2019re looking for sent to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think you have shared with our listeners that you were speaking at a conference back in December a year ago and you had a college student come up to you in the midst of that conference.\u00a0\u00a0 He waited to talk with you and pulled you aside and said, \u201cI just wanted to say thank you.\u00a0 You helped my mom and dad raise me.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe talked about having been on a <em>Passport to Purity<\/em> weekend with his father and the resources that his parents had gotten from <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> that they had used in raising him.\u00a0 He had watched their marriage grow stronger in those years as well and I remember you coming back excited about that conversation because that\u2019s really what we\u2019re hoping will be accomplished through the radio program, the resources we produce, and our weekend conference for couples.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAll that we are doing here at FamilyLife is designed to provide practical, biblical help for marriages and for families.\u00a0 To hear I guess you could call him a satisfied customer\u2026someone stepped forward and said you did the job with my mom and dad and I\u2019m the beneficiary of that.\u00a0 It was a great encouraging moment.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe want to pass along that encouragement to those of you who help support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> with your financial support.\u00a0 Your donations are what keep us on the air in this city and in other cities across the country.\u00a0 You keep our web site up and operating 24 hours a day and seven days a week.\u00a0 We could not do what we do without your support.\u00a0 We do appreciate you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019re able to help support the ministry of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> here in the month of July we would love to hear from you.\u00a0 This is a slow time for a lot of ministries because families are on vacation and they have other priorities going on so when we receive donations from listeners on days like today it is a great encouragement to us.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis month if you\u2019re able to help with a donation of any amount we want to send you a thank you gift.\u00a0 It\u2019s <em>The Five Essentials for a Thriving Marriage<\/em> card.\u00a0 On this card Dennis and Barbara have captured what they believe are the core essentials for keeping a marriage strong, vibrant, and thriving.\u00a0\u00a0 <em>The Five Essentials for a Thriving Marriage<\/em> card is our gift to you when you make donation this month of any amount.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you are donating online this month when you get to the key code box in the online donation form if you\u2019d like to receive <em>The Five Essentials for a Thriving Marriage<\/em> card just type the word \u201cthrive\u201d in the key code box and we\u2019ll send it to you.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOr if you are making your donation by phone call 1-800-FL TODAY and just mention that you\u2019d like the five essentials card and we\u2019ll send it to you as our way of saying thank you for your support and it\u2019s always an encouragement to us.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTomorrow we are going to hear the advice that older teens had for younger teens on relationships with members of the opposite sex.\u00a0 You may be impressed and surprised maybe by how they counseled these younger adults as they were getting ready for their teenage years.\u00a0 I hope you can tune in to listen to that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThanks to our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We'll see you back tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas.\u00a0 Help for today.\u00a0 Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts for you. 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