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lifestyle.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2008-12-03.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Tim Kimmel remembers the day, as a boy, when the snowstorm hit on a Sunday afternoon.\u00a0 That affected church that night and school the next day \u2013 life slowed down, and the Kimmels had a blast.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Sure enough, they started calling around about 4:00, and they had to cancel church.\u00a0 You couldn't go out, anyway.\u00a0 Dad put on his winter clothes, went down to a general store, and he bought potato chips and Coca-Cola \u2013 that was a luxury item \u2013 brought that home, we turned on the television, and it's the only time in my childhood I ever watched \"The Wonderful World of Disney.\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\"Maverick\" \u2013 never saw it before.\u00a0 And Mom got out a puzzle and, of course, we drank all that Coca-Cola, so we were wired.\u00a0 They let us stay up because they knew school was cancelled, and we had a phenomenal, wonderful time, and we had to cancel church to pull it off.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is FamilyLife Today for Wednesday, December 3rd.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 Maybe we shouldn't have to wait for the next big snowstorm to bring some margin back into our lives and have some fun.\u00a0 We'll talk about that today.\u00a0 Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us.\u00a0 You know, you think back 20 years ago, it seems like those were \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It makes me tired.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTo think of all the life we lived raising six children to adulthood.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> In general, wouldn't you say we are all trying to cram more stuff into the same amount of hours that we've always had than we ever have before?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I think we are.\u00a0 I think we're activity junkies.\u00a0 I think we're addicts to activity, especially in this culture, and I'm going to tell you something, it feeds the addiction.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, I bring up the 20-year thing because our guest today wrote a book about pace of life 20 years ago, and it was a classic back then.\u00a0 It's just been revised, expanded, and updated, and it's a book that I think our culture needs more than ever.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> There are books that are going to be relevant for a long time, and this is one of them.\u00a0 The book is \"Little House on the Freeway,\" and instantly a bunch of people know that Tim Kimmel wrote that book.\u00a0 Tim, welcome to broadcast.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Hey, thanks, guys.\u00a0 Glad to be here with you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Tim has been on our broadcast a number of times.\u00a0 He is the Executive Director of Family Matters, which is equipping families for every age at every life stage.\u00a0 And he and his wife, Darcy, speak at our Weekend to Remember Marriage Conferences all around the country, and, yeah, he did write this back in 1987.\u00a0 And I thought the same thing you thought, Bob, and I'm wondering, for you, Tim \u2013 you raised four children.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Mm-hm.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> The pace, you think back then, was a whole lot different than it is now?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> I think the difference is back then we were just going at, like, Mach 2 with our hair on fire, and now it's just a blur, and you have no idea how to record the speed at which we live our lives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So it's Mach 3 or Mach 4 today?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Easily.\u00a0 What I noticed back then, there were just a lot of people that were hurried, what I think.\u00a0 To me, it's like the hurried lifestyle on crack today.\u00a0 It's way off the charts.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You describe seven indicators that a family can be hurried.\u00a0 Just quickly run through those, and what I want to ask you to do is pick a couple of them and tell me which ones you think today are really where couples are stumbling most?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Well, one of the first marks of a hurried family is you can't relax.\u00a0 I don't mean you don't relax, you can't even when you try, because when you relax, you start to feel guilty.\u00a0 You see, we've been so programmed to think that if we're not accomplishing a lot and knocking things off a checklist that we're irrelevant; we're not making a difference.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You take an afternoon, you grab a book, and you just sit on the back porch and read, and you go, \"I shouldn't be doing this, because I've got other stuff I should be doing,\" right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Exactly.\u00a0 You see, Satan figured out that he doesn't have to make any of us Jesus followers bad, he just has to make us too busy, and he can net out the exact same impact, which is he steals our joy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd so I see a lot of families whose joy is stolen because they can't relax.\u00a0 The second one is they can't enjoy quiet.\u00a0 We're so conditioned to background noise and cable television on and so forth that when we actually get quiet, we start to have withdrawal symptoms.\u00a0 You take kids off to camp, and they've got their iPods on and so forth, and they say, \"We\u2019ll take those from you, and we'll give them back when camp is over.\"\u00a0 They're out in the woods, and they start to \u2013 \"What was that?\"\u00a0 \"Well, that's a squirrel.\u00a0 That's a sound the squirrel makes in the tree.\"\u00a0 It's like they're coming off of some kind of narcotic.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBeside they can't relax, can't enjoy quiet, they're never satisfied, and that's part of our consumption-oriented culture that no matter what you have, you can always have something more.\u00a0 Things become obsolete fast.\u00a0 And then an absence of absolutes, the fact that we have more of a relative view of right and wrong and truth and boundaries, that messes everybody up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> How does that affect being hurried, though?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Because you don't know when to say no to a lot of the demands on your time \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> \u2026 a lot of demands on your tastes, and so the next thing you know, because you're not guided by a moral compass, you get off course, and it gets a hook in you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Putting it another way, the loss of convictions today for families end up turning them into obeying everybody and everything, and they don't know what their own family values are all about, therefore they don't know what to say yes to and what to say no to.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So you're saying the pace of the culture and what's going on all around you is influencing your decision-making more than core convictions about life and what's true and what's right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Well, you really see this in two major areas when it comes to parenting.\u00a0 It would be academics and academic achievement and then sports \u2013 over-commitment in sports.\u00a0 Because for a lot of these kids, their childhood has been stolen from them.\u00a0 There is no such thing for them as childhood \u2013 it's performance.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And neither of those two things are wrong or bad.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> No, not at all.\u00a0 My kids did well in school, and they played sports, and we all see that \u2013 but it's just that we've turned sports from something fun to do and all into some kind of defining factor of whether you have a chance in the future, and we turn Little League into major league baseball, it's ridiculous. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then academics, they've \u2013 the hurried lifestyle has tied a cause\/effect between academic performance and success in the future, which, by the way, is hogwash, it's absolute hogwash.\u00a0 There is nothing that says that if you do well academically, you're necessarily going to be successful in the future, or if you struggle academically you can't be successful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut we buy into that, the next thing you know we ramp up a very complicated life, a joyless life, a frustrating life.\u00a0 And then another one that I see a lot of is inordinate fear and worry.\u00a0 There's a lot of fear-based parenting going on, and there's going to be moreso if you don't get clear boundaries when it comes to how \u2013 the pace of your life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then the last one is that I see people that are world-class over-achievers.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Is that out of insecurity?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Absolutely.\u00a0 In fact, I actually skipped one, and it's part of insecurity, and you see people that do good things but they do them for wrong reasons.\u00a0 Like, they are very \u2013 they are over-committed servants.\u00a0 And you can see this in the church a lot of times, and these people, they have no margin in their life, no rest in their life, no fun in their life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> In your book, you call them \"righteous addicts.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> They are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That's interesting.\u00a0 There are some who are listening to us going, \"Now, wait a second.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yeah, how can that be wrong \u2013 to pursue righteousness?\u00a0 But you're saying you can pursue it at such a speed, at such a pace, that you leave no Sabbath for yourself.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> That's right.\u00a0 And what causes me to do that, many times, is at the core \u2013 what you guys addressed \u2013 at the core of my being, I don't have a clear understanding of who I am in the Lord and what I'm living my life for.\u00a0 So I do these good things, but I'm doing them for wrong reasons \u2013 maybe to get approval, to do penance out of guilt \u2013 boy, talking about not only stealing our joy but wrecking our kids and many times at the hands of something that would be good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Tim, you just ran through seven of them, and I ask you \u2013 are there a couple of them that, really, you think are the biggest stumbling blocks to young families today who are attempting to hammer out their Christian values with their children and create a family that's together?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Boy, it's hard to choose of the top two, but I'm going to say the absence of absolutes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I would agree with you on that, by the way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> On moral absolutes, and then inordinate fear and worry, where they are allowing \u2013 they're looking at life through eyes that are intimidated, and so they get \u2013 they're afraid \u2013 I mean, I hear Christian families, they're afraid of Hollywood, and they're afraid of the Internet, and they're afraid of the school system and neighbors, and so forth, and the problem with that is we're supposed to be walking by faith with confidence in the God of the universe.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd so, yeah, I'm not saying that there isn't clear and present danger in our culture, there certainly is, but there's something that trumps it, and that is the power and presence of God working in our life, and so obviously if they've put Him in a secondary position, they're going to be intimidated by this, and it makes them basically \u2013 it puts them at the mercy of all the bad elements out there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You know, you take these seven factors that you've just gone through for us, and you mix in the fact that we live in what I would call the \"age of instant.\"\u00a0 I was, the other day, just driving along, and somebody called me on my cell phone for something that they needed, and it dawned on me that we live in an age where if you have any information need, you expect that you should be able to get it instantly, and if somebody is on an airplane and can't get to their cell phone, we get annoyed that they're out of touch; that they're not able to be communicated with because the expectation is that you are available at all times anytime for anything, and that I should be able to communicate with you.\u00a0 It's the age of instant, and if you're not instant, you're irrelevant.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Well, I remember, parents would get upset when their kids wouldn't be home by midnight, you know, if that was curfew.\u00a0 And so we'd be trying to counsel them on that.\u00a0 Well, now they're upset if they don't text them back immediately of where they are at this particular point \u2013 at 8:00 on Saturday night.\u00a0 See how this has held us hostage here? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can't even send your kids on out there and say \"Midnight you better be in,\" and then pray for them like made that they'll make some good choices and learn life.\u00a0 No, no, no.\u00a0 Helicopter parenting is all part of this stuff.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> As we talk about this, I'm thinking about my friend who is a doctor who has weekends when he's on call, which means at any time that anybody needs him, he has to be available.\u00a0 Well, all of us are now on call to our friends or to our employers or to whomever.\u00a0 We live life seven days a week, 365 days a year, on call.\u00a0 You can't go relax because you never know when the cell phone is going to ring or the text message is going to come or somebody is going to press into you for something.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You have to have your own convictions that enable you to break that electronic tether, because if you let everybody else do it, they'll establish the priorities for your marriage and your family.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Absolutely.\u00a0 Well, two things, and I added a chapter to the book called \"Little House on the Internet,\" and we talk about how the media and all of this new technology is absolutely running our life, and then I go through the six non-negotiables for rest and calm that we can maintain no matter what's going on around us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, Tim, as you were talking and, Bob, as you were making the point, too \u2013 these seven points would really make a good test for a couple to sit down separately and to look at all seven of these and see just how hurried are we?\u00a0 And so we're going to devise, with your permission, taking these seven from your book, \"Little House on the Freeway,\" we're going to put together a test made of these seven indicators of how a person or how a couple know that they're driven and they're living life on the freeway, and let them evaluate on a 1- to 5-point scale just how driven are we?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd what I'd encourage couples to do is the husband or the father take the test and then the wife take the test in different rooms separated by each other, write your own score down, then get together and compare \u2013 just compare how you think your family is doing and then talk about what are we going to do about this, and that's where we get back to the practical aspect of what we're talking about here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But nobody's going to do this because they don't have time to download and take your test.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You can do this in less than 90 seconds, how's that for a promise?\u00a0 Tim, you actually experienced a time in your own family, growing up, that you look back with such delight, and it's interesting, I fell right in the middle of this as I was reading this in your book.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Yeah, someone asked me to recall one of the greatest moments I had with my family, and I was from a family of six kids \u2013 five boys, one girl.\u00a0 We lived out in the country in Pennsylvania, and it was a Sunday.\u00a0 On Sundays, you always went to church.\u00a0 We went to church Sunday morning, Sunday night, Wednesday night.\u00a0 I had a drug problem when I was a kid \u2013 I was \"drug\" to church every Sunday morning and Sunday night.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, that particular Sunday morning it started to snow during the service, and it was coming down \u2013 the big flakes, and the pastor even stopped and said, \"Boy, if this keeps up, and it drifts, we may not be able to have church tonight.\"\u00a0 Of course, all of us kids are going \"YES!\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnyway, sure enough, they started calling around about 4:00, and they had to cancel church.\u00a0 You couldn't go out, anyway.\u00a0 Dad put on his winter clothes, went down to a general store not far from us, the people lived up above, and he bought potato chips and all the stuff to make potato chip dip, and Coca-Cola.\u00a0 We didn't have Coca-Cola sitting in the pantry and all as a kid.\u00a0 That was a luxury item \u2013 brought that home, and we turned on the television, and it's the only time in my childhood I ever watched \"The Wonderful World of Disney.\" \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Six o'clock on Sunday night, right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> We watched Disney \u2013 never saw it before \u2013 we watched \"Maverick\" \u2013 never saw it before.\u00a0 I've only seen one \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2026 episode.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> And Mom got out a puzzle, and we played \u2013 and, of course, we drank all that Coca-Cola, so we were wired.\u00a0 They let us stay up because they knew school was canceled, and we had a phenomenal, wonderful time, and we had to cancel to pull it off.\u00a0 Because, see, even our busy-ness as Christians and Jesus followers and going to church, can, many times, not leave any time for the things that matter deeply.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay, you're going to get us in trouble here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Okay.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You're saying \u2013 are you saying there's too much church going on?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Yes.\u00a0 In fact, I give the list in the book of how we are lured into the hurried lifestyle.\u00a0 Our culture values it, and we can see how that would happen.\u00a0 Business rewards it \u2013 we'll pay you more money if you're willing to be hurried.\u00a0 Media exploits it, they just put it up there as this is the way you live your life.\u00a0 And then our egos demand it.\u00a0 But here is the other one \u2013 sometimes our churches encourage it.\u00a0 Sometimes they do.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, bless their hearts, the smaller churches, they have to offer all the same services that the big churches do, and so you come in, and all you have to have in some churches is a pulse, and you're in charge of the Sunday school program, and you're a deacon or whatever.\u00a0 And I serve in church, you guys do, and we know there's a place for that.\u00a0 But God never meant for us to sacrifice our sense of calm and joy to do His bidding.\u00a0 He says, \"I'm bigger than that.\u00a0 We don't need to sacrifice you like that.\"\u00a0 But it happens.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, I wonder if today if church is as big a problem as it was when we were growing up, Tim, because I was \"drug\" \u2013 I was \"drug\" to church as well back then.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Sunday morning, Sunday night.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> He had a \"drug\" problem.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yeah, and today there aren't a lot of churches that have Sunday night service.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> That's right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> But it doesn't mean we can't get pulled off into many good things that end up competing with our families, and it may not just be the church, it may be ministry, it may be good things competing, good activity.\u00a0 The point I hear you saying is, as parents and as the ones who need to be shaping the environment and the internal culture of a family \u2013 we need to protect ruthlessly our marriages and our families and our children to make sure we are being successful to build the biblical values that God has given us into the lives of our children, because if we don't, the world will, and if we don't know what that is, a lot of ministries, churches, et cetera, will take the place of the family and take some of your best hours of the week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay, so let me ask you this \u2013 yeah, we're hurried, things are going fast, but some folks who are listening are going, \"Look, that's just the way life is in this millennium, and we're doing okay.\u00a0 We're a 75-mile-an-hour interstate freeway family.\u00a0 Everybody is getting where they need to go.\u00a0 Yeah, we're busy, we're tired, but we're getting along okay, and we're getting a lot of life squeezed in.\u00a0 Is there a problem?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Tim:<\/strong> Can be, long term.\u00a0 The whole point of \"Little House on the Freeway,\" is that you can still be current, be online, be text messaging.\u00a0 You can do all the stuff that's out there, but you don't have to lose your sense of calm and joy along the way.\u00a0 Jesus was a very busy person.\u00a0 He had hurried life imposed upon Him, and He was under incredible duress and stress, and yet He maintained calm through the whole thing, because there were things that He was doing specifically all the way through, and that's what I studied, and that's what this book is about \u2013 is those things that He did that helped Him maintain it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And, you know, I think back, Dennis, to an interview we did almost two years ago now when we sat down with Tommy Nelson.\u00a0 You know, Tommy is pastor at Denton Bible Church, and he was blowing and going in ministry and was busy and had a lot going on, very rewarding, very fulfilling, and yet it all crashed around him one day when his body kind of said, \"Okay, we've been taxed long enough.\u00a0 We're shutting down,\" and he fell into depression and had what, in the old days, you'd have called a \"breakdown,\" and I guess that's part of the caution here is you can be blowing and going and think everything is okay, but what you don't realize, if you've not left any room for peace, for calm, for margin, you could be headed right into a brick wall.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And I'd have to say I thank God for a wife who believed in two things \u2013 she believed in the Sabbath and protecting our Sundays from the same pace and the same kind of activity the other six days had.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe other thing she believed in was a date that we had on Sunday night.\u00a0 We didn't have church on Sunday night at our church, and we had a date night, and I am convinced the reason we were able to raise six children through what was for us a packed schedule with lots of demands, was because we got away on a Sunday night, and we'd pull out the calendar.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob's smiling \u2013 he's heard me talk about this so many times, but I'm going to tell you something, it was our sanity.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Your wife knew how to slow the roadrunner down, didn't she?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> She knew how to slow it down, and she would demand process, she would demand priority, she'd talk about the schedule now, the schedule next week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Whoa, Nellie!\u00a0 She's just pulled back on the reins.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And, usually, the way it happens in a marriage and a family is one fast-paced person marries one who is slower paced.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, maybe some slow-paced people need to get a copy of your book \u2013 or some fast-paced people need to get a copy of the book, \"Little House on the Freeway.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yeah, don't just sell it to the fast-paced people.\u00a0 Sometimes the slow-paced people can slow the thing down.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> They can read it because they're slower paced \u2013 they use a highlighter, and they can say, \"Here, you need to read this,\" and maybe put the brakes on the rest of life for you.\u00a0 We've got copies of Tim's book in our FamilyLife Resource Center, and you can go to our website, FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 By the way, the book has been revised and updated and, again, you'll find it at FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen you get to our home page, on the right side of the screen, you'll see a box that says \"Today's Broadcast.\"\u00a0 Click where it says \"Learn More,\" and that will take you to an area of the site where you can find out more about the book, \"Little House on the Freeway,\" by Dr. Tim Kimmel.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere is also a DVD series you've put together called \"The Hurried Family\" that is available for churches or for small group use, and we've got a link on our website to where folks can get more information about \"The Hurried Family\" DVD series.\u00a0 Again, go to FamilyLife.com, click on the right side of the screen where it says \"Today's Broadcast,\" and there is more information about the resources that are available there or call us at 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY, and someone on our team can make arrangements to get any of these resources out to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBy the way, we had a lot of people call in earlier this week to find out more about your wife's book, \"When Christmas Came,\" and our interactive Nativity Scene, \"What God Wants for Christmas.\"\u00a0 Those are still available in our FamilyLife Resource Center as well, so if folks are looking for more information about Barbara's new book, \"When Christmas Came,\" or the FamilyLife interactive Nativity set, \"What God Wants for Christmas.\"\u00a0 There is information on the website at FamilyLife.com or call us at 1-800-FLTODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd when you do get in touch with us, if you are able to help us with a year-end donation, we would really appreciate your financial support.\u00a0 In fact, we've had some friends in the ministry who have come to us recently, and they have offered to match every donation we receive during the month of December on a dollar-for-dollar basis up to a total of $425,000, and we are hoping to take full advantage of this matching gift opportunity.\u00a0 We know it has been a tough year for a lot of family, for a lot of businesses, it's been a tough year for a lot of ministries like ours.\u00a0 But if you are able to help with a donation during the month of December, we would appreciate it and, again, your donation is going to be matched on a dollar-for-dollar basis up to a total of $425,000, and we really hope that our listeners will help us take full advantage of this matching gift opportunity.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Bob, as you know, the vision of FamilyLife is every home a godly home, and that begins with the listener's home.\u00a0 We are here every day coming alongside you, equipping you with biblical truth in your marriage, in your relationships with your children, we are here to encourage you with your family, and we are also here about helping you make wise decisions about life \u2013 all going back to the biblical blueprints.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd you know what?\u00a0 If you agree with that approach, then here at year-end, there is no better time than right now to pick up a phone and call 1-800-FLTODAY or go online at FamilyLife.com and to say, \"You know what?\u00a0 I stand with you guys.\u00a0 I believe in what you're doing, and I want to make a financial gift to your ministry.\"\u00a0 And, frankly, I just need you to know, I need you to stand with me here at year-end.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You can go to our website, FamilyLife.com, and make a donation online, or you can call 1-800-FLTODAY and make your donation over the phone and, again, we appreciate your partnership with us and want to say thanks in advance for helping to support the ministry of FamilyLife Today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, tomorrow we're going to talk more about how we slow things down in the pace of life; how we can ratchet our schedule back a little bit.\u00a0 Tim Kimmel is going to be with us again tomorrow.\u00a0 I hope you can be back with us as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We'll see you back tomorrow for 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