{"id":301697,"date":"2008-10-10T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2008-10-10T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/facing-the-family-baggage-head-on\/"},"modified":"2008-10-10T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2008-10-10T15:00:00","slug":"facing-the-family-baggage-head-on","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/facing-the-family-baggage-head-on\/","title":{"rendered":"Facing the Family Baggage Head On"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Childhood sexual abuse brought a ripple effect to Cheryl Tuggle\u2019s marriage.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2008-10-10.mp3","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"21.73M","filesize_raw":"22786100","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2873,2093],"tags":[4374],"podcast_series":[7609],"cwp_profile":[9146],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-301697","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mental-and-emotional-issues","category-women","tag-sexual-abuse","podcast_series-a-healing-marriage","cwp_profile-brad-and-cheryl-tuggle","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/301697\/facing-the-family-baggage-head-on","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/301697\/facing-the-family-baggage-head-on","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"UUVMtqwdgl\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/facing-the-family-baggage-head-on\/\">Facing the Family Baggage Head On<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/facing-the-family-baggage-head-on\/embed\/#?secret=UUVMtqwdgl\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Facing the Family Baggage Head On&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"UUVMtqwdgl\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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experience being sexually abused when she was a child.\u00a0 Her husband, Brad, remembers the day that he realized her struggle had become their struggle.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> We hadn't been married for very long, and I was in a playful mood one evening, and I think it was after dinner, and she had walked into the bedroom, and I surprised her.\u00a0 And I wasn't hiding or anything, but she didn't see me, and I just kind of surprised her.\u00a0 And when she turned around, the look on her face was of such shock and dismay in me \u2013 I thought, \"My goodness, what did I do?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is FamilyLife Today for Friday, October 10th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 What can a husband do to help his wife if childhood sexual abuse is a part of her story?\u00a0 We'll talk about that today.\u00a0 Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us.\u00a0 One of the things you and Barbara realized early in your marriage is that when a husband and wife get married, it's not just the two of them getting married, but they bring with them some suitcases.\u00a0 Some of them have \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Some of them are trunks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A little totebag, and others bring a whole set of luggage, don't they?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We all have a context from which we come at life, and this couple who join us on the broadcast today are no different.\u00a0 Brad and Cheryl Tuggle join us.\u00a0 Brad, Cheryl, welcome back to the broadcast.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Thanks for having us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Brad, did you have any idea when you were getting married at the luggage you had coming into this relationship?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> None whatsoever.\u00a0 The understanding of what Cheryl had gone through, even though she made me aware that there were family issues and even abuse issues, the unpacking of that took several years in our marriage.\u00a0 And not just the understanding of what happened but the ramifications of how that impacted us today were probably, for the first 8 or 10 years of our marriage, we kept tripping over it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You're a pastor today.\u00a0 You've heard a lot of stories, so you have a greater appreciation not only because of what you all experienced in your marriage, but you've now heard a lot of stories as a result of pastoring a church in San Antonio, Texas.\u00a0 You have a couple of teenage daughters, you've seen the impact of families upon their friends, and you now know that everybody does have a context at which they're coming at life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yeah, and everybody brings their \u2013 as I said, their own stuff into marriage.\u00a0 You brought your stuff in with you, so it wasn't like you came in baggage-free, and Cheryl brought the trunk.\u00a0 But what she brought with her was pretty profound.\u00a0 Cheryl, you had been sexually abused by your father from the time you were still a toddler \u2013 3, 4 years old, and that continued and progressed and advanced into your teen years.\u00a0 That led to promiscuity in dating relationships and you also got involved in drugs.\u00a0 You got married early, the marriage was an abusive marriage, and when you met Brad at 26, you were freshly divorced, and did you figure dating and guys \u2013 you were pretty much done with that part of your life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Oh, yes, I was done.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Done with men in general?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You figured you'd be single for the rest of your life?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> I didn't know.\u00a0 I just didn't have any faith in anything at that point.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Pretty broken and pretty \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Distrustful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Were you angry?\u00a0 Were you depressed?\u00a0 What were you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> All of those, all of those.\u00a0 I doubted that there was a God, I mean, even though I believed in some ways but there was just still, that how can there be, how can God let something like this happen?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Brad, you \u2013 when you met her through happenstance, we'd look at it that way, meeting.\u00a0 Did you have any idea she was all of these things \u2013 angry, depressed, discouraged, distrustful of men?\u00a0 Or did you just kind of think what you see is what you get, and she's an attractive young lady.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> She was very attractive and seemed completely well adjusted.\u00a0 I think she had lived with it for so long, like she said before, it had almost become normal.\u00a0 And so her adaptation skills had become so honed over all of those years that she seemed just as normal as anyone else.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So you guys get married, and you're thinking, \"Well, that's a part of her past, but she's adjusted, she's doing fine,\" right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Right, and we had no idea of the size of the ripples and the waves that it would cause later, and part of that was just my own minimization and cluelessness, really, about the impact of what she had gone through.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, it's interesting, in your book, \"A Healing Marriage,\" you call a person who has been sexually abused a survivor.\u00a0 That's really what Cheryl had become, and she had so masked it that you, as a young man, had no idea you were marrying this survivor, this young lady who had survived horrific evils against her, growing up. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Yeah, the term \"survivor\" in the book really is \u2013 it was descriptive of Cheryl when we first met but, really, our design was for it to be descriptive of the healing that comes through Christ, the healing that comes through the one who makes those scars have some sort of meaning; who can bring redemption to that kind of evil.\u00a0 And so many survivors describe themselves as a \"victim,\" and there is no other vocabulary for that.\u00a0 And so we were careful to pick the word \"survivor\" for several reasons.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So at that point, Cheryl wasn't a survivor, she was really in the grips of this thing, and it was clouding everything about her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> It was, because we had not yet plumbed the depths of it.\u00a0 She had not been in a relationship before where there was anyone that she could trust.\u00a0 Her ex-husband was not trustworthy.\u00a0 They had a very conflicted relationship, a physically abusive relationship, and so our relationship was the first place where she felt, I think, relieved and relaxed enough to unpack this, and as the unpacking occurred, the depth of the issues, the depth of the impact, started coming out, and that was when we started to navigate these very turbulent waters.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Do you remember the first time it kind of dawned on you, came into the back of your mind, you said, \"There's something going on here.\u00a0 I'm not sure what it is, but there's some work we've got to do?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Yeah, we hadn't been married for very long, and I don't even remember the circumstances, but I was in a playful mood one evening, and I think it was after dinner, and she had walked into the bedroom, and I surprise her.\u00a0 I wasn't hiding or anything, but she didn't see me, and I just kind of surprised her, and she didn't go ballistic, but it clearly took her back, and when she turned around, the look on her face was of such shock and dismay in me.\u00a0 I thought, \"My goodness, what did I do?\u00a0 I'm just kind of playing here.\" \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut I could tell there was something in her eyes that said my little efforts at playing and surprising her had not gone over well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Had she shared any of her story to this point with you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> She had shared some \u2013 that she was abused and that her father was sexually abusive.\u00a0 She had shared a lot about her first marriage.\u00a0 But, as I said, we had not explored the ramifications of that yet.\u00a0 The other area, of course, was in the area of intimacy, because as we attempted, as a married couple, to establish a strong intimate life, the hurdles that we had to overcome and the hidden barriers that were there were substantial.\u00a0 And, of course, you don't discover that until you try to begin that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\u00a0 And I think we need to unpack that a little bit, but let me go back to that playful moment of surprise.\u00a0 Do you remember the scene he's talking about?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> What was going on?\u00a0 Why the look on your face?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> I was transported back to my father just coming \u2013 you know, especially as teenage, and he would just show up and so I was just transported back to that place.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It just flipped the trigger in you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Just in a blink of an eye.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Did you realize with Brad when he kind of pulled back, did you realize this has triggered that old memory?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Yeah, yeah, because I was, for the 30 seconds, I was back there, back as that little girl, I wasn't even me anymore.\u00a0 I was back with that little girl in that place.\u00a0 And then as I snapped out of it, I started asking the same questions, you know, where did that come from?\u00a0 And then, of course, I had to explain to him, because he was horrified that \u2013 you know, and he didn't mean to hurt me in that way.\u00a0 And so that kind of started the dialog of trying to help him navigate where I was at \u2013 what that was \u2013 what it felt like.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> This is, again, a delicate question, but I feel like I need to ask it.\u00a0 As a teenager in those situations with your father, did you feel like you were raped?\u00a0 I mean, I can't even imagine a young lady being surprised by her father with those intentions.\u00a0 That, to me, feels like rape.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Yeah, looking at it now, yeah.\u00a0 At the time, you know, like I said, when you're conditioned into this, it was just normal, it was, you know, I didn't like it.\u00a0 I just thought, you know, you just close your eyes and just hope it's over soon.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And how often would it occur a week?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Probably at least three times a week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> From the time you were in elementary school through pre-puberty, 13, 14, 15 years of age?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> When you got up to go to school the next day, I mean, did you feel like an alien at school a bit?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Oh, yeah.\u00a0 Oh, yeah.\u00a0 We moved around a lot.\u00a0 I never \u2013 there was probably only two years in my whole school years that I remember ever having the same class, the same teacher, because we moved around so much.\u00a0 So I always felt like the outsider, no matter where we were, you know, clothes, you know, you name it, I was always the outsider.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Never risked telling a girlfriend?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Why?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> School was an escape.\u00a0 I just didn't \u2013 you know, that was a place that was \u2013 I could just escape into.\u00a0 I didn't want any of that coming into what periods of good times that I had.\u00a0 So it just never occurred to me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Brad, even now hearing it, I mean, I know you and Cheryl have talked extensively, you've written about this in your book \u2013 how does it make you feel?\u00a0 I mean, the idea of a father raping his daughter repeatedly?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> I still can't get my head around it. Now that our girls are 15 and 13, especially that God was gracious enough to give us girls, I think that was \u2013 had we had boys, I don't think I would have had nearly the sensitivity.\u00a0 But in watching our girls grow up and just from toddlers, watching them in their stage of life and knowing that that's when her abuse started, and then recalling a chapter of Cheryl's life when she was in third grade or when she was 13 and watching our girls get to that point, I am no less horrified now than when I first saw it.\u00a0 As a matter of fact, I'm probably even more horrified because I have my daughters' faces to put on that, and I just \u2013 I can't get my head around it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> When you and Cheryl started to unpack these reactions, this fright that she had when you surprised her, and other reactions that were showing up \u2013 was the resistance on her part to want to open this up and start talking about it?\u00a0 Or did both of you realize, if we're going to make our marriage what it needs to be, we've got to address this stuff.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> We were not nearly that spiritual or purposeful as we began stumbling over it.\u00a0 We knew that we were committed to each other, and there was no question about that, but in terms of our spiritual formation and depth, I wouldn't say it was to the point where we said, \"Well, we just know that we have to unpack this in order for our marriage to be spiritually \u2013 we were \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You were how old?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Oh, we were 26 when we were married, and so this was our late 20s when we first found out.\u00a0 But, really, we started wrestling with this when we were both about 35, because that's when our daughters were born.\u00a0 And the presence of our daughters and Cheryl seeing them, especially because our oldest daughter looks a lot like Cheryl.\u00a0 So as we watched her grow up, it really caused Cheryl \u2013 and then both of us by extension \u2013 to grapple with what happened.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So in the nine years before your daughter was born, as you're starting a marriage, and you're starting your intimate life together, there are all kinds of issues showing up there as a result of a history of sexual abuse.\u00a0 As a husband, are you just thinking, \"Oh, well, this is how it works out?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Yeah, this is the circumstance that we have to deal with.\u00a0 You know, as a former businessman, it was \u2013 well, it is what it is.\u00a0 And so it wasn't a matter of resignation, it wasn't a matter of resentment, but we really did not have the tools, nor had there been enough life experiences to rekindle the emotions, the flashbacks that we had when our daughters were born.\u00a0 And so I would say we dealt with it for the first eight or nine years, but when our daughters came, it really took it to the next level.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And I think that's kind of where I want to go.\u00a0 I want to read a verse to you all, because the key thing in this marriage that really, ultimately, saved it was the entrance of Jesus Christ into Cheryl's heart and, Brad, you had already been a believer and a follower of Christ.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> But I want to read a verse to you, and I want you both to comment on it, because I think it's going to be very clear what my question is even without asking it.\u00a0 It's in 2 Corinthians, chapter 5, verse 17 \u2013 \"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.\u00a0 The old has passed away, behold, the new has come.\"\u00a0 How does that apply in your marriage?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> When he talked about the girls \u2013 right before I had found out I was pregnant, I think we both acknowledged that this was \u2013 and especially me \u2013 that it was holding and taking too much, and I had made a decision, and I think I just got sick of being sick.\u00a0 And once I was pregnant with my girls, I would just, with every ounce that I had left, that I was not going to let it hold me anymore.\u00a0 I was going to do whatever I had to for the security of my children, for them to be healthy.\u00a0 Everything that I read in Scripture that He didn't die for me to have this kind of life; that I had to do whatever I had to do, as painful as it was to look at, the stuff that I'd come through \u2013 that I was going to be that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> The newness of life that Cheryl experienced could only be attributed to the hospital.\u00a0 It had nothing to do with me and my ability to comprehend anything or my ability to not be what she had become accustomed to.\u00a0 The transformation that occurred within her was truly of the spirit, and her maturity in Christ, her \u2013 the change in her worldview that she just talked about in terms of not letting the enemy take one more square inch of real estate from her life \u2013 that resolved almost an anger at evil.\u00a0 It came about because of her courage, because of our kids, and their introduction into our lives but really because of how the spirit moved within her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd I just watched that with amazement.\u00a0 It was awe-inspiring to watch that transformation take place.\u00a0 It was slow.\u00a0 It took quite a few years for her to get to that point to be so fed up, but the ability for her to do that without becoming venomous and bitter and mean-spirited toward her current family or toward me was just astounding, and only God could do that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Describe for us how Cheryl is different today than she was when the two of you got married.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> I guess I'd go back to the best word I think of it is \"worldview.\"\u00a0 When things happen to us today, whether it's physical challenges or setbacks in parenting a couple of teenagers, challenges in the ministry \u2013 when things happen, her perspective now, the wisdom and maturity that she brings to issues and problems that we have, is of such gravity and such maturity that I just marvel at her and at the paradigm that she has to be able to see things for how they are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Are you saying that 20 years ago, facing challenge and adversity and hard things, she might have shut down or retreated or pulled back, and now there is the courage to engage these things and to engage them with spiritual maturity and wisdom?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Yes, yes, there is no retreat, and that's \u2013 she drew that line in the sand, and that policy of no retreat is well and active in our marriage and in our family today largely because of what God has done in her life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And, Cheryl, you're nodding your head at that.\u00a0 You are aware that the old Cheryl would have just kind of shut down.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Mm-hm.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You don't shut down anymore?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> No.\u00a0 No, if anything, I run into it because I'm not \u2013 you know, once I learned about spiritual warfare and what Satan and how \u2013 the tactics he uses, you know, he may knock me down, but you better watch it when I get back up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, you all have said two things I want to underscore here \u2013 one, you just made the point of commitment \u2013 no retreat.\u00a0 Your commitment enabled you to create a safe place to ultimately unpack your bags.\u00a0 And if a marriage isn't safe, if there is the threat of leaving, it's not going to be safe to unpack the bags, it's not even going to be safe to bring them out of the closet.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe second thing you've said, just in your response to this passage in 2 Corinthians 5:17 \u2013 \"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature, the old has passed away, behold, the new has come.\"\u00a0 You kept mentioning the word \"transformation.\"\u00a0 And I think one of the mistakes that Christians promote is that once you become a follower of Christ, you don't have any problems.\u00a0 You know, all that stuff of the past, it's all over and done with, we're forgiven, we're a child of God, we're perfect, we're just living happily ever after.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe Scriptures talk about that transformation.\u00a0 Yes, we are forgiven at a point in time, and the old things are passed away, and we have become a new creature, but there is a thing called \"sanctification.\"\u00a0 It's a big word, it's another word for transformation.\u00a0 It's learning to follow Christ for a lifetime, walking by faith, and let Him renew us day by day and do what He's done in Cheryl, which is create a woman who has a godly perspective of circumstances in life and passes our wisdom to her husband, to her girls, to her friends and her church.\u00a0 That's the Christian life.\u00a0 It's not perfection.\u00a0 It is following Christ and letting Him do His work in us and through us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yeah, and it's taking the forgiveness that we've received from Christ for our own sin and being able to forgive others because we've been forgiven.\u00a0 In fact, we want to invite our listeners to go to our website, FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 We had a conversation with Brad and Cheryl about the subject of forgiveness and about what a wife or a husband can do in a situation like this to be able to extend forgiveness to an abuser.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd if folks would like to listen to that conversation, it's available on our website at FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 When you get to the home page, on the right side of the screen where it says \"Today's Broadcast,\" click where it says \"Learn More,\" and there is a link to the audio file there, and you can listen to the conversation on forgiveness with Brad and Cheryl.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd let me also encourage you, on the same subject, Dennis, you and I had a conversation with Nancy Leigh DeMoss, who has written a book called \"Choosing Forgiveness.\"\u00a0 Today we'd like to send a copy of that CD to any listener who would contact us and request it.\u00a0 Maybe you have struggled with this issue of forgiveness because of past abuse in your own situation, and you want to hear what God's Word has to say about being forgiven and about forgiving others.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can call 1-800-FLTODAY and request a copy of this CD.\u00a0 We'll send it to you at no cost \u2013 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 That's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 Just mention that you'd like the CD we were talking about on FamilyLife Today, and we're happy to send it out to you.\u00a0 We appreciate you listening to FamilyLife Today, and we hope this CD will be helpful as you continue on your spiritual journey.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me also mention that we have copies of the book that Brad and Cheryl Tuggle have written called \"A Healing Marriage.\"\u00a0 It's in our FamilyLife Resource Center, and you can get more information about the book online at FamilyLife.com or by calling 1-800-FLTODAY.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you go to the website, when you get to the home page, again, click where it says \"Today's Broadcast,\" and that will take you to the area of the site where you can find out more about the book, \"A Healing Marriage.\"\u00a0 Dan Allender's very helpful book called \"The Wounded Heart, Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse.\"\u00a0 Again, all the information is on our website at FamilyLife.com, and you can either order online or call us at 1-800-FLTODAY, and if you do that, we'll make arrangements to have these resources sent out to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd, with that, we've got to wrap things up for today.\u00a0 I hope you have a great weekend.\u00a0 I hope you and your family are able to worship together this weekend, and I hope you can be back with us on Monday when we'll talk with Judy Starr about how she almost crossed the line in her marriage and went where she should not have gone with a man who was not her husband.\u00a0 I hope you can join us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 Have a great weekend, we'll see you Monday for another edition of FamilyLife Today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas \u2013 help for today; hope for tomorrow.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t________________________________________________________________\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts for you. 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sexual abuse brought a ripple effect to Cheryl Tuggle\u2019s marriage.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2008-10-10.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> We're going to be dealing with an issue that is a sensitive issue, again, on FamilyLife Today.\u00a0 As a mom or a dad, you may want to have your younger children distracted or paying attention elsewhere.\u00a0 We're going to be talking about Cheryl Tuggle's experience being sexually abused when she was a child.\u00a0 Her husband, Brad, remembers the day that he realized her struggle had become their struggle.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> We hadn't been married for very long, and I was in a playful mood one evening, and I think it was after dinner, and she had walked into the bedroom, and I surprised her.\u00a0 And I wasn't hiding or anything, but she didn't see me, and I just kind of surprised her.\u00a0 And when she turned around, the look on her face was of such shock and dismay in me \u2013 I thought, \"My goodness, what did I do?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is FamilyLife Today for Friday, October 10th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 What can a husband do to help his wife if childhood sexual abuse is a part of her story?\u00a0 We'll talk about that today.\u00a0 Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us.\u00a0 One of the things you and Barbara realized early in your marriage is that when a husband and wife get married, it's not just the two of them getting married, but they bring with them some suitcases.\u00a0 Some of them have \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Some of them are trunks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A little totebag, and others bring a whole set of luggage, don't they?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We all have a context from which we come at life, and this couple who join us on the broadcast today are no different.\u00a0 Brad and Cheryl Tuggle join us.\u00a0 Brad, Cheryl, welcome back to the broadcast.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Thanks for having us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Brad, did you have any idea when you were getting married at the luggage you had coming into this relationship?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> None whatsoever.\u00a0 The understanding of what Cheryl had gone through, even though she made me aware that there were family issues and even abuse issues, the unpacking of that took several years in our marriage.\u00a0 And not just the understanding of what happened but the ramifications of how that impacted us today were probably, for the first 8 or 10 years of our marriage, we kept tripping over it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You're a pastor today.\u00a0 You've heard a lot of stories, so you have a greater appreciation not only because of what you all experienced in your marriage, but you've now heard a lot of stories as a result of pastoring a church in San Antonio, Texas.\u00a0 You have a couple of teenage daughters, you've seen the impact of families upon their friends, and you now know that everybody does have a context at which they're coming at life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yeah, and everybody brings their \u2013 as I said, their own stuff into marriage.\u00a0 You brought your stuff in with you, so it wasn't like you came in baggage-free, and Cheryl brought the trunk.\u00a0 But what she brought with her was pretty profound.\u00a0 Cheryl, you had been sexually abused by your father from the time you were still a toddler \u2013 3, 4 years old, and that continued and progressed and advanced into your teen years.\u00a0 That led to promiscuity in dating relationships and you also got involved in drugs.\u00a0 You got married early, the marriage was an abusive marriage, and when you met Brad at 26, you were freshly divorced, and did you figure dating and guys \u2013 you were pretty much done with that part of your life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Oh, yes, I was done.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Done with men in general?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You figured you'd be single for the rest of your life?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> I didn't know.\u00a0 I just didn't have any faith in anything at that point.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Pretty broken and pretty \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Distrustful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Were you angry?\u00a0 Were you depressed?\u00a0 What were you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> All of those, all of those.\u00a0 I doubted that there was a God, I mean, even though I believed in some ways but there was just still, that how can there be, how can God let something like this happen?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Brad, you \u2013 when you met her through happenstance, we'd look at it that way, meeting.\u00a0 Did you have any idea she was all of these things \u2013 angry, depressed, discouraged, distrustful of men?\u00a0 Or did you just kind of think what you see is what you get, and she's an attractive young lady.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> She was very attractive and seemed completely well adjusted.\u00a0 I think she had lived with it for so long, like she said before, it had almost become normal.\u00a0 And so her adaptation skills had become so honed over all of those years that she seemed just as normal as anyone else.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So you guys get married, and you're thinking, \"Well, that's a part of her past, but she's adjusted, she's doing fine,\" right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Right, and we had no idea of the size of the ripples and the waves that it would cause later, and part of that was just my own minimization and cluelessness, really, about the impact of what she had gone through.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, it's interesting, in your book, \"A Healing Marriage,\" you call a person who has been sexually abused a survivor.\u00a0 That's really what Cheryl had become, and she had so masked it that you, as a young man, had no idea you were marrying this survivor, this young lady who had survived horrific evils against her, growing up. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Yeah, the term \"survivor\" in the book really is \u2013 it was descriptive of Cheryl when we first met but, really, our design was for it to be descriptive of the healing that comes through Christ, the healing that comes through the one who makes those scars have some sort of meaning; who can bring redemption to that kind of evil.\u00a0 And so many survivors describe themselves as a \"victim,\" and there is no other vocabulary for that.\u00a0 And so we were careful to pick the word \"survivor\" for several reasons.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So at that point, Cheryl wasn't a survivor, she was really in the grips of this thing, and it was clouding everything about her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> It was, because we had not yet plumbed the depths of it.\u00a0 She had not been in a relationship before where there was anyone that she could trust.\u00a0 Her ex-husband was not trustworthy.\u00a0 They had a very conflicted relationship, a physically abusive relationship, and so our relationship was the first place where she felt, I think, relieved and relaxed enough to unpack this, and as the unpacking occurred, the depth of the issues, the depth of the impact, started coming out, and that was when we started to navigate these very turbulent waters.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Do you remember the first time it kind of dawned on you, came into the back of your mind, you said, \"There's something going on here.\u00a0 I'm not sure what it is, but there's some work we've got to do?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Yeah, we hadn't been married for very long, and I don't even remember the circumstances, but I was in a playful mood one evening, and I think it was after dinner, and she had walked into the bedroom, and I surprise her.\u00a0 I wasn't hiding or anything, but she didn't see me, and I just kind of surprised her, and she didn't go ballistic, but it clearly took her back, and when she turned around, the look on her face was of such shock and dismay in me.\u00a0 I thought, \"My goodness, what did I do?\u00a0 I'm just kind of playing here.\" \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut I could tell there was something in her eyes that said my little efforts at playing and surprising her had not gone over well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Had she shared any of her story to this point with you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> She had shared some \u2013 that she was abused and that her father was sexually abusive.\u00a0 She had shared a lot about her first marriage.\u00a0 But, as I said, we had not explored the ramifications of that yet.\u00a0 The other area, of course, was in the area of intimacy, because as we attempted, as a married couple, to establish a strong intimate life, the hurdles that we had to overcome and the hidden barriers that were there were substantial.\u00a0 And, of course, you don't discover that until you try to begin that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\u00a0 And I think we need to unpack that a little bit, but let me go back to that playful moment of surprise.\u00a0 Do you remember the scene he's talking about?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> What was going on?\u00a0 Why the look on your face?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> I was transported back to my father just coming \u2013 you know, especially as teenage, and he would just show up and so I was just transported back to that place.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It just flipped the trigger in you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Just in a blink of an eye.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Did you realize with Brad when he kind of pulled back, did you realize this has triggered that old memory?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Yeah, yeah, because I was, for the 30 seconds, I was back there, back as that little girl, I wasn't even me anymore.\u00a0 I was back with that little girl in that place.\u00a0 And then as I snapped out of it, I started asking the same questions, you know, where did that come from?\u00a0 And then, of course, I had to explain to him, because he was horrified that \u2013 you know, and he didn't mean to hurt me in that way.\u00a0 And so that kind of started the dialog of trying to help him navigate where I was at \u2013 what that was \u2013 what it felt like.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> This is, again, a delicate question, but I feel like I need to ask it.\u00a0 As a teenager in those situations with your father, did you feel like you were raped?\u00a0 I mean, I can't even imagine a young lady being surprised by her father with those intentions.\u00a0 That, to me, feels like rape.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Yeah, looking at it now, yeah.\u00a0 At the time, you know, like I said, when you're conditioned into this, it was just normal, it was, you know, I didn't like it.\u00a0 I just thought, you know, you just close your eyes and just hope it's over soon.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And how often would it occur a week?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Probably at least three times a week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> From the time you were in elementary school through pre-puberty, 13, 14, 15 years of age?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> When you got up to go to school the next day, I mean, did you feel like an 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me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Brad, even now hearing it, I mean, I know you and Cheryl have talked extensively, you've written about this in your book \u2013 how does it make you feel?\u00a0 I mean, the idea of a father raping his daughter repeatedly?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> I still can't get my head around it. Now that our girls are 15 and 13, especially that God was gracious enough to give us girls, I think that was \u2013 had we had boys, I don't think I would have had nearly the sensitivity.\u00a0 But in watching our girls grow up and just from toddlers, watching them in their stage of life and knowing that that's when her abuse started, and then recalling a chapter of Cheryl's life when she was in third grade or when she was 13 and watching our girls get to that point, I am no less horrified now than when I first saw it.\u00a0 As a matter of fact, I'm probably even more horrified because I have my daughters' faces to put on that, and I just \u2013 I can't get my head around it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> When you and Cheryl started to unpack these reactions, this fright that she had when you surprised her, and other reactions that were showing up \u2013 was the resistance on her part to want to open this up and start talking about it?\u00a0 Or did both of you realize, if we're going to make our marriage what it needs to be, we've got to address this stuff.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> We were not nearly that spiritual or purposeful as we began stumbling over it.\u00a0 We knew that we were committed to each other, and there was no question about that, but in terms of our spiritual formation and depth, I wouldn't say it was to the point where we said, \"Well, we just know that we have to unpack this in order for our marriage to be spiritually \u2013 we were \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You were how old?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Oh, we were 26 when we were married, and so this was our late 20s when we first found out.\u00a0 But, really, we started wrestling with this when we were both about 35, because that's when our daughters were born.\u00a0 And the presence of our daughters and Cheryl seeing them, especially because our oldest daughter looks a lot like Cheryl.\u00a0 So as we watched her grow up, it really caused Cheryl \u2013 and then both of us by extension \u2013 to grapple with what happened.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So in the nine years before your daughter was born, as you're starting a marriage, and you're starting your intimate life together, there are all kinds of issues showing up there as a result of a history of sexual abuse.\u00a0 As a husband, are you just thinking, \"Oh, well, this is how it works out?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Yeah, this is the circumstance that we have to deal with.\u00a0 You know, as a former businessman, it was \u2013 well, it is what it is.\u00a0 And so it wasn't a matter of resignation, it wasn't a matter of resentment, but we really did not have the tools, nor had there been enough life experiences to rekindle the emotions, the flashbacks that we had when our daughters were born.\u00a0 And so I would say we dealt with it for the first eight or nine years, but when our daughters came, it really took it to the next level.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And I think that's kind of where I want to go.\u00a0 I want to read a verse to you all, because the key thing in this marriage that really, ultimately, saved it was the entrance of Jesus Christ into Cheryl's heart and, Brad, you had already been a believer and a follower of Christ.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> But I want to read a verse to you, and I want you both to comment on it, because I think it's going to be very clear what my question is even without asking it.\u00a0 It's in 2 Corinthians, chapter 5, verse 17 \u2013 \"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.\u00a0 The old has passed away, behold, the new has come.\"\u00a0 How does that apply in your marriage?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> When he talked about the girls \u2013 right before I had found out I was pregnant, I think we both acknowledged that this was \u2013 and especially me \u2013 that it was holding and taking too much, and I had made a decision, and I think I just got sick of being sick.\u00a0 And once I was pregnant with my girls, I would just, with every ounce that I had left, that I was not going to let it hold me anymore.\u00a0 I was going to do whatever I had to for the security of my children, for them to be healthy.\u00a0 Everything that I read in Scripture that He didn't die for me to have this kind of life; that I had to do whatever I had to do, as painful as it was to look at, the stuff that I'd come through \u2013 that I was going to be that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> The newness of life that Cheryl experienced could only be attributed to the hospital.\u00a0 It had nothing to do with me and my ability to comprehend anything or my ability to not be what she had become accustomed to.\u00a0 The transformation that occurred within her was truly of the spirit, and her maturity in Christ, her \u2013 the change in her worldview that she just talked about in terms of not letting the enemy take one more square inch of real estate from her life \u2013 that resolved almost an anger at evil.\u00a0 It came about because of her courage, because of our kids, and their introduction into our lives but really because of how the spirit moved within her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd I just watched that with amazement.\u00a0 It was awe-inspiring to watch that transformation take place.\u00a0 It was slow.\u00a0 It took quite a few years for her to get to that point to be so fed up, but the ability for her to do that without becoming venomous and bitter and mean-spirited toward her current family or toward me was just astounding, and only God could do that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Describe for us how Cheryl is different today than she was when the two of you got married.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> I guess I'd go back to the best word I think of it is \"worldview.\"\u00a0 When things happen to us today, whether it's physical challenges or setbacks in parenting a couple of teenagers, challenges in the ministry \u2013 when things happen, her perspective now, the wisdom and maturity that she brings to issues and problems that we have, is of such gravity and such maturity that I just marvel at her and at the paradigm that she has to be able to see things for how they are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Are you saying that 20 years ago, facing challenge and adversity and hard things, she might have shut down or retreated or pulled back, and now there is the courage to engage these things and to engage them with spiritual maturity and wisdom?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Brad:<\/strong> Yes, yes, there is no retreat, and that's \u2013 she drew that line in the sand, and that policy of no retreat is well and active in our marriage and in our family today largely because of what God has done in her life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And, Cheryl, you're nodding your head at that.\u00a0 You are aware that the old Cheryl would have just kind of shut down.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> Mm-hm.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You don't shut down anymore?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Cheryl:<\/strong> No.\u00a0 No, if anything, I run into it because I'm not \u2013 you know, once I learned about spiritual warfare and what Satan and how \u2013 the tactics he uses, you know, he may knock me down, but you better watch it when I get back up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, you all have said two things I want to underscore here \u2013 one, you just made the point of commitment \u2013 no retreat.\u00a0 Your commitment enabled you to create a safe place to ultimately unpack your bags.\u00a0 And if a marriage isn't safe, if there is the threat of leaving, it's not going to be safe to unpack the bags, it's not even going to be safe to bring them out of the closet.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe second thing you've said, just in your response to this passage in 2 Corinthians 5:17 \u2013 \"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature, the old has passed away, behold, the new has come.\"\u00a0 You kept mentioning the word \"transformation.\"\u00a0 And I think one of the mistakes that Christians promote is that once you become a follower of Christ, you don't have any problems.\u00a0 You know, all that stuff of the past, it's all over and done with, we're forgiven, we're a child of God, we're perfect, we're just living happily ever after.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe Scriptures talk about that transformation.\u00a0 Yes, we are forgiven at a point in time, and the old things are passed away, and we have become a new creature, but there is a thing called \"sanctification.\"\u00a0 It's a big word, it's another word for transformation.\u00a0 It's learning to follow Christ for a lifetime, walking by faith, and let Him renew us day by day and do what He's done in Cheryl, which is create a woman who has a godly perspective of circumstances in life and passes our wisdom to her husband, to her girls, to her friends and her church.\u00a0 That's the Christian life.\u00a0 It's not perfection.\u00a0 It is following Christ and letting Him do His work in us and through us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yeah, and it's taking the forgiveness that we've received from Christ for our own sin and being able to forgive others because we've been forgiven.\u00a0 In fact, we want to invite our listeners to go to our website, FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 We had a conversation with Brad and Cheryl about the subject of forgiveness and about what a wife or a husband can do in a situation like this to be able to extend forgiveness to an abuser.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd if folks would like to listen to that conversation, it's available on our website at FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 When you get to the home page, on the right side of the screen where it says \"Today's Broadcast,\" click where it says \"Learn More,\" and there is a link to the audio file there, and you can listen to the conversation on forgiveness with Brad and Cheryl.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd let me also encourage you, on the same subject, Dennis, you and I had a conversation with Nancy Leigh DeMoss, who has written a book called \"Choosing Forgiveness.\"\u00a0 Today we'd like to send a copy of that CD to any listener who would contact us and request it.\u00a0 Maybe you have struggled with this issue of forgiveness because of past abuse in your own situation, and you want to hear what God's Word has to say about being forgiven and about forgiving others.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can call 1-800-FLTODAY and request a copy of this CD.\u00a0 We'll send it to you at no cost \u2013 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 That's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 Just mention that you'd like the CD we were talking about on FamilyLife Today, and we're happy to send it out to you.\u00a0 We appreciate you listening to FamilyLife Today, and we hope this CD will be helpful as you continue on your spiritual journey.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me also mention that we have copies of the book that Brad and Cheryl Tuggle have written called \"A Healing Marriage.\"\u00a0 It's in our FamilyLife Resource Center, and you can get more information about the book online at FamilyLife.com or by calling 1-800-FLTODAY.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you go to the website, when you get to the home page, again, click where it says \"Today's Broadcast,\" and that will take you to the area of the site where you can find out more about the book, \"A Healing Marriage.\"\u00a0 Dan Allender's very helpful book called \"The Wounded Heart, Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse.\"\u00a0 Again, all the information is on our website at FamilyLife.com, and you can either order online or call us at 1-800-FLTODAY, and if you do that, we'll make arrangements to have these resources sent out to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd, with that, we've got to wrap things up for today.\u00a0 I hope you have a great weekend.\u00a0 I hope you and your family are able to worship together this weekend, and I hope you can be back with us on Monday when we'll talk with Judy Starr about how she almost crossed the line in her marriage and went where she should not have gone with a man who was not her husband.\u00a0 I hope you can join us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast 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