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submission?","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2008-05-23.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 If you're a wife who wants to cultivate a healthy relationship with your husband, there's someplace you need to connect first.\u00a0 Here's Pastor Paul Shepherd.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong>\u00a0 You can't be the wife God's called you to be if you're a Lone Ranger disconnected Christian.\u00a0 Church is a body.\u00a0 Body parts don't function independent of the others.\u00a0 You never saw a thumb running around.\u00a0 Where did we get this independent Christianity, this do-it-yourself kit Christianity?\u00a0 It's not in the Bible.\u00a0 Make sure you're connected, ladies, with the Body of Christ.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 This is FamilyLife Today for Friday, May 23.\u00a0 Our host is the President of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 You know, it takes a community \u2013 it takes the Body of Christ \u2013 to keep a couple pointed in the right direction in their marriage.\u00a0 Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to FamilyLife Today.\u00a0 Thanks for joining us on the Friday edition.\u00a0 We're going to hear Part Two of a message from Pastor Paul Shepherd.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Yes, and Bob, Paul kind of reminds me of one of those go-carts that I used to drive when I was a kid.\u00a0 Only had one speed \u2013 just put the pedal to the metal.\u00a0 It was all the way to the floor.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Take off, baby.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 You just tore around the turns and the curves, and was it fun!\u00a0 Well, you know what, you're going to have fun today on FamilyLife Today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 There are going to be some turns and some curves, though, because\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 That's exactly right.\u00a0 He's going to mention a word that, well, ladies don't really like that much.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 But you know, as we'll hear in his message, wives are not the only people in Scripture called to submit.\u00a0 Everybody has to submit at different places in life, don't we?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 In order to do your job \u2013 and that's what he's been talking about \u2013 he's been\u00a0 talking about how we become employed when we get married, and then we get the benefits.\u00a0 And with all of that comes responsibility.\u00a0 Well, you're about to have your responsibility as a husband and a wife spelled out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And I already stirred things up, so I'm going to turn it over to Paul and let\u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Let him handle it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 That's right.\u00a0 Paul Shepherd is the Senior Pastor at Abundant Life Christian Fellowship in the San Francisco Bay area.\u00a0 He is also the speaker on his own daily radio program that is heard on some of these same stations, and we think this is a great message on a husband's responsibility and a wife's responsibility in marriage.\u00a0 Here is Pastor Paul Shepherd.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Paul:<\/strong>\u00a0 Job one is to submit yourself to the Lordship of Jesus Christ.\u00a0 When you do, my friend, your life will change forever.\u00a0 Submit to Christ.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe second thing is to submit to others in the Body of Christ.\u00a0 It's right there in Ephesians 5:21, submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.\u00a0 Second job you have, gentlemen, if you want to be the husband God designed you to be, is to submit to Jesus, surrender your life to Him, and then submit yourself to the influence and the blessing and benefits that will come through fellowship with other believers.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt's good that you know Jesus now.\u00a0 Who else who knows Jesus knows you?\u00a0 Who else who knows Jesus is in your business?\u00a0 Who else who knows Jesus is in fellowship with you, is in prayer meetings with you, is in covenant with you, is in partnership with you?\u00a0 Who else who knows Jesus can speak into your life that which you need to know?\u00a0 Who else who knows Jesus can sharpen you?\u00a0 Proverbs 27:17 says, \"As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.\"\u00a0 That's how you get your life fine-tuned to do the Will of God.\u00a0 You allow God to use other people in that process.\u00a0 So don't just tell me about your private walk with God.\u00a0 You meet with Jesus on your own terms in your own way.\u00a0 No, no.\u00a0 You need to meet with Jesus with His Body.\u00a0 You need to be part of a church where you actually go.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou go and you get involved.\u00a0 There's a pastor who knows he's your pastor.\u00a0 There are people who know you're their brother in Christ.\u00a0 That's the only way to live a life and to be a husband that pleases God.\u00a0 Submit to Christ.\u00a0 Submit to others in the Body of Christ.\u00a0 Then, as you move further, drop down to Verse 25 of Ephesians 5, He begins to talk about some specific responsibilities in your relationship itself.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo the third bullet point on your job description as a godly husband is to love your wife unconditionally.\u00a0 For we're told in that verse, \"Husbands, love your wives.\"\u00a0 Now, that word translated \"love\" there means \"love unconditionally.\"\u00a0 Means that you see her through the eyes of God.\u00a0 You view her as God views her.\u00a0 You honor her as God honors her.\u00a0 You respect her as God respects her.\u00a0 And therefore, you are committed to acting in her best interest no matter what.\u00a0 It's an unconditional love.\u00a0 It's not a \"because of\" love.\u00a0 It's an \"in spite of\" love.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe foundation of marriage is unconditional love.\u00a0 So love your wife, gentlemen, unconditionally.\u00a0 That's what God calls us to do in His Word.\u00a0 Love her in spite of.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn practical terms, what does that mean?\u00a0 How do we practically apply that to our lives?\u00a0 Well, let me just give you one.\u00a0 You can think of many more.\u00a0 Instead of criticizing the things about your wife that you don't like, let your love cover her faults.\u00a0 The Bible says in one place that love covers a multitude of sins and faults and shortcomings, missing of the mark.\u00a0 Instead of pointing it out every time she falls short of your expectation, your love, your unconditional love, you can train yourself to say in the fear and the presence of God, \"I've got that covered.\u00a0 I kind of feel like criticizing her, but no, no.\u00a0 I've got that covered.\u00a0 I don't need to make her feel bad about that.\"\u00a0 Sometimes it's something she already feels bad about on her own.\u00a0 She doesn't need you chiming in.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\"I've got that covered.\u00a0 My love covers that.\u00a0 I've got enough love, baby, where you can't do enough to be uncovered.\u00a0 I've got a broad blanket of love that God has put in my heart \u2013 His agape love.\u00a0 Where did it come from?\u00a0 He gave it to me, and He just told me to pass it on.\u00a0 And so I cover you in the blanket.\u00a0 I don't want to expose your weaknesses.\u00a0 You are flesh of my flesh, bone of my bone.\u00a0 If I make you feel bad, I'd feel bad.\u00a0 So I've got you covered.\"\u00a0 Love her unconditionally.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFourth is to love her sacrificially.\u00a0 It goes on to say, \"Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her.\"\u00a0 Gentlemen, we are called to sacrifice for our wives.\u00a0 We are called to give of ourselves \u2013 give ourselves up, if necessary.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, I mean you can take that in the literal sense if you want, but that's not the only way to take it, because most of us, thankfully, won't have to give ourselves up \u2013 die \u2013 for her.\u00a0 Most of the time, we're going to get to hang around.\u00a0 But, by the way, if you hear a noise 2:30 in the morning, brother, in order to do this, don't send her downstairs.\u00a0 Say, \"I went to the ARCO Arena, and they told me that I was to give myself up.\"\u00a0 Don't tell me, \"Well, she can fight better than me.\u00a0 She took classes.\u00a0 She knows\u2026\"\u00a0 No, no, no.\u00a0 You go in Jesus' name.\u00a0 Go in Jesus' name.\u00a0 Just pray as you go.\u00a0 Even if you want her right behind her, you be the point man.\u00a0 If there's any shooting to be done, you take the first bullet.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut the fact is, most of us won't have to sacrifice in that way.\u00a0 But you sacrifice, not by the way you die, but by the way you live \u2013 willing to suffer, if need be, so her life can be better.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPractically speaking, how do you do that?\u00a0 Find out what her greatest desires, her greatest needs are.\u00a0 And give yourself to making sure that, with all that lies within you, you're going to see to it that that happens.\u00a0 How far out of your way are you willing to go?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNot convenient love.\u00a0 Convenient love is shallow.\u00a0 If you want the roots of your love to grow deep, you've got to let sacrifice characterize your love.\u00a0 Love stays shallow if it doesn't pay a price.\u00a0 Love is built to pay a price.\u00a0 God so loved the world that he gave the most precious thing, His Son.\u00a0 And His Son so loved us that he gave the most precious thing, His life.\u00a0 What have you given?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNumber five, love her carefully.\u00a0 Ephesians 5 goes on and tells you about the importance of carefully loving your wife.\u00a0 It says, \"He who loves his wife loves himself.\"\u00a0 After all, no one hated his own body, but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church.\u00a0 Love your wife \u2013 Number 5 \u2013 carefully.\u00a0 Carefully.\u00a0 That is with respect, with care, with appreciation.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSimply put, treat her well.\u00a0 Treat her so well that she'll wonder if she deserves it.\u00a0 Treat her so well that she's almost embarrassed as to how much care you give, attention you pay.\u00a0 And we'll have to do that, many of us, out of sacrifice.\u00a0 Because we are, we tend to not be detail-oriented about the same things our wives are.\u00a0 So you have to train your brain to pay attention.\u00a0 Because we're headline people, and they're fine print people.\u00a0 We figure if we hit the headline, we've got it.\u00a0 And she's looking for fine print.\u00a0 Love her carefully.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSix and finally, gentlemen, love her supremely.\u00a0 Love her above all others in your life except God Himself.\u00a0 Make sure she knows that she's head and shoulders above everyone else in terms of your priorities and your commitment.\u00a0 The job does not come before her.\u00a0 The people on the job do not come before her.\u00a0 The people in the church \u2013 your ministry \u2013 doesn't even come before her.\u00a0 Love her supremely.\u00a0 Your priorities as a godly husband are, \"God, and I walk with God first, and being the husband of a happy wife is my second priority.\"\u00a0 Then ministry and work and all of that falls out from there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, ladies, I'm an equal opportunity preacher.\u00a0 What notes do you contribute to the harmonious chord of marriage?\u00a0 There were six for your husband.\u00a0 There are four for you.\u00a0 He's the leader, he's got more.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNumber one, submit to Christ.\u00a0 Same thing I said to the husband applies to you.\u00a0 Every person is to be lined up under Jesus Christ, for every one of us will give an account of himself \u2013 or in this case, herself \u2013 to God.\u00a0 You're going to meet your Maker one day.\u00a0 That's not a slogan, that's a reality.\u00a0 We shall all stand before the Judgment Seat of Christ.\u00a0 You're going to give an account one day, and so you want to be submitted to Him right now.\u00a0 Not later, but right now \u2013 right now in your life is the time to fully yield and say, \"Jesus.\u00a0 You are Lord!\u00a0 You are in charge of my life!\u00a0 From this day forward, I will be a Kingdom-first Christian.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI always say there are two kind of Christians \u2013 Kingdom-first \u2013 you know, Jesus said, \"Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness.\"\u00a0 Kingdom-first Christians or Brylcreem Christians.\u00a0 Brylcreem Christians \u2013 you remember that slogan, some of you who are over 40?\u00a0 They had a commercial about Brylcreem, and their slogan was, \"A little dab will do you\"?\u00a0 We have too many Brylcreem Christians.\u00a0 A little dab of Jesus, but not enough to change our lives, not enough to change our priorities.\u00a0 Just enough to make us feel comfortably religious.\u00a0 That won't stand the test of Judgment.\u00a0 Submit yourself to Christ, ladies, number one.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNumber two, submit yourselves to others in the Body of Christ.\u00a0 Same two bullet points on your job description as on his.\u00a0 Make sure you're connected, ladies, with the Body of Christ.\u00a0 You can't be the wife God's called you to be if you're a Lone Ranger disconnected Christian.\u00a0 The church is a body.\u00a0 Body parts don't function independent of the others.\u00a0 You never saw a thumb running around.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhere did we get this independent Christianity, this do-it-yourself kit Christianity?\u00a0 It's not in the Bible.\u00a0 Christianity is a team effort.\u00a0 It's a body effort.\u00a0 You don't live for Christ by yourself.\u00a0 You live for him in the context of fellowship, because you're a member of a body.\u00a0 So let the body bless your life.\u00a0 Be connected.\u00a0 Be committed so that your life can be blessed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNumber three, ladies.\u00a0 Third bullet point on your job description is to help him without mothering or manipulation.\u00a0 Now, I jump to Genesis to make this point before I get back to Ephesians 5.\u00a0 Genesis, Chapter 2 \u2013 look at God's design.\u00a0 You want to understand what God had in mind, look at the law, just practice the law first mentioned.\u00a0 What's the first thing He said about you?\u00a0 He said you were to be a helper suitable for your husband.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo you help him, and the \"suitable\" part means you do it in a way that fits with his needs.\u00a0 He doesn't need to be mothered, and he doesn't need to be manipulated.\u00a0 So you help, but you help in a way that honors God and respects the dignity of who God made your husband to be.\u00a0 Who told you, ladies, that it was okay to nag your husband to death?\u00a0 Where did you get permission to drive him crazy?\u00a0 It's not in the Book.\u00a0 Owner's Manual said, \"Help him\" \u2013 not, \"Make him cry out for help.\"\u00a0 Help your husband.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou are a helper.\u00a0 Give input.\u00a0 I'm going to get to the last point, submission, in a moment, the one you're tense waiting for.\u00a0 And let me tell you that you can't be properly submitted until you're first giving help.\u00a0 You don't submit as a doormat.\u00a0 You don't submit as someone who says nothing, just walks around like a Stepford wife.\u00a0 That's not a helper.\u00a0 You've got to share with him how you think, how you feel.\u00a0 Share with him the resources of your mind and heart.\u00a0 Don't let him make decisions without your input.\u00a0 If he didn't need you, God wouldn't have created you.\u00a0 You're there as a helper because the man needs help.\u00a0 So for God's sake, give him the help that he needs.\u00a0 But do it without manipulating.\u00a0 Don't play games.\u00a0 God's not honored with that.\u00a0 Don't mother.\u00a0 If he wasn't properly mothered, let Jesus fix that.\u00a0 Don't say, \"Jesus, I've got it covered.\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFourth and finally, ladies, on your job description, submit to your husband's God-given authority.\u00a0 When it's all said and done, the husband has to answer to God for the welfare of his family.\u00a0 And your notes of harmony are called to first give your input.\u00a0 Tell him what you think, how you feel, give him your perspective.\u00a0 If he's one side of the brain, give him the other side.\u00a0 And harmonize.\u00a0 Let him know, \"This is a good thing that I'm giving you input.\u00a0 You've got the final call under God on these family decisions.\u00a0 I've got to ultimately yield.\"\u00a0 What does \"submit\" mean?\u00a0 It means to voluntarily yield to the authority God's given him\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI learned about yielding when I moved to California.\u00a0 I grew up in Philadelphia, spent the first 31 years of my life in Philadelphia.\u00a0 In Philadelphia, they drive crazy in the city.\u00a0 In California, they drive crazy on the freeway.\u00a0 I came out here and learned about yielding, because I discovered very early that these people think the ramp leading to the freeway is a place where you step on the accelerator.\u00a0 And I learned because I got into almost a few accidents had I not accommodated for the fact that they didn't yield.\u00a0 They had a yield sign.\u00a0 They shot right by it.\u00a0 Never saw it.\u00a0 What were they supposed to do?\u00a0 They were supposed to see that I was there and give way.\u00a0 Tuck in so that there's no crash.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat's what God calls you to do.\u00a0 Give your input, give him the benefit of who you are, what you think, how you feel.\u00a0 Influence him as best you can \u2013 without manipulation \u2013 and then say, \"But, honey, I'm going to pray for you and support you, as you \u2013 under the fear of God \u2013 make decisions that are in our family's best interest.\u00a0 And I know you're not going to do any damage, any harm to us, because you love us.\u00a0 You care for us.\u00a0 And you know that you've got to answer to God.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSpeak the truth in love, but speak the truth.\u00a0 And you voluntarily yield yourself, after giving your input. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo when it comes to Biblical roles and responsibilities, it has nothing to do with cooking and cleaning and dishes and all of that kind of thing.\u00a0 It has to do with the principles by which the relationship is governed.\u00a0 And each of us answers to God.\u00a0 Husbands, you love your wife so that God will be pleased.\u00a0 You don't say, \"Well, I'd love her if she'd act like somebody who deserved to be\u2026\"\u00a0 No, no, no, no.\u00a0 Wives, you don't say, \"I would submit to him if he was the man you just got through talking about.\u00a0 If he would just do that, I would gladly submit.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNo, submit to him as unto the Lord.\u00a0 And the goal is, one day, husband, one day, wife, you want to hear the Lord say to you, \"Well done, good and faithful servant.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, we've been listening to Part Two of a message from Pastor Paul Shepherd.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 I'm a little dizzy from going around the circle.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 Some of the corners, some of those curves?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong>\u00a0 Well, he really, he really laid it on the line, though, didn't he?\u00a0 And you know, here's my challenge to every husband and every wife listening.\u00a0 He just outlined a number of points for both the male gender and females as well.\u00a0 Pick one, just one.\u00a0 In fact, the one you think God has for you to apply in your marriage with your spouse.\u00a0 And then can you push back long enough to just think, \"Can I do this, not that I get the applause of my spouse, but that I can picture the Lord God smiling on me because I have been obedient to him.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u00a0 And that's ultimately, when we talk about this subject, that's the issue.\u00a0 It's not, \"How is this working out for you pragmatically?\" \u2013 although that's not unimportant \u2013 but the ultimate issue is, are we living as husband and wife in a way that pleases God and that reflects something about who He is in our relationship?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt's one of the things that is spelled out in Dr. Robert Lewis' helpful book, \"Rocking the Roles,\" which I've recommended to a lot of young couples who are just getting married to help them understand what's at the core of their responsibilities to one another in a marriage, and again, ultimately their responsibility to God in their marriage relationship.\u00a0 And we've got the book in our FamilyLife Resource Center, and if you've never read it, let me encourage you to get a copy, read it.\u00a0 Read it together as a couple.\u00a0 Use it to spark discussions between the two of you.\u00a0 And I think you'll find it very helpful in your marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, the title of the book is \"Rocking the Roles\" by Dr. Robert Lewis.\u00a0 You can go to FamilyLife.com for more information about the book or to order a copy online.\u00a0 Again, the website is FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 Look on the right side of the screen when you get to our home page, and you'll see where it says, \"Today's Broadcast.\"\u00a0 If you click where it says, \"Learn More,\" that will take you to an area of the site where there's more information about all of the resources that are available from us here at FamilyLife on this subject.\u00a0 In fact, you can find out how you can get a complete unedited copy of the message we've been listening to this week from Paul Shepherd.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, the website is FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 If it's easier to call 1-800-FLTODAY for more information about the resources we have available, you can do that. 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 That's 1-800, F as in Family, L as in Life, and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 And when you call someone on our team, we'll make arrangements to have the resources you need sent to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd that's going to have to wrap things up for today.\u00a0 Hope you have a great weekend.\u00a0 Hope you and your family are able to worship together this weekend.\u00a0 And I hope you can join us on Monday, when Jim Coy is going to join us to share with us what he has found in his research about some of the heroic stories behind the awarding of the Medal of Honor.\u00a0 And I hope you can join us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We will see you Monday for another edition of FamilyLife Today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas.\u00a0 Help for today \u2013 hope for 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