{"id":301557,"date":"2008-03-25T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2008-03-25T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/aggressive-girls-a-new-phenomenon-or-an-old-problem\/"},"modified":"2008-03-25T11:00:00","modified_gmt":"2008-03-25T15:00:00","slug":"aggressive-girls-a-new-phenomenon-or-an-old-problem","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/aggressive-girls-a-new-phenomenon-or-an-old-problem\/","title":{"rendered":"Aggressive Girls: A New Phenomenon or An Old Problem?"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>More and more parents are expressing concern about the number of young women actively pursing their sons.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2008-03-25.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"11.03M","filesize_raw":"11561628","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2835,2836,2855,2870],"tags":[4018,4928,2588],"podcast_series":[7573],"cwp_profile":[3048],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-301557","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-raising-boys","category-raising-girls","category-teens","category-tweens","tag-dating","tag-high-school","tag-teens","podcast_series-understanding-aggressive-girls","cwp_profile-dennis-rainey","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/301557\/aggressive-girls-a-new-phenomenon-or-an-old-problem","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/301557\/aggressive-girls-a-new-phenomenon-or-an-old-problem","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"Oj1GQ5OM0r\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/aggressive-girls-a-new-phenomenon-or-an-old-problem\/\">Aggressive Girls: A New Phenomenon or An Old Problem?<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/aggressive-girls-a-new-phenomenon-or-an-old-problem\/embed\/#?secret=Oj1GQ5OM0r\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Aggressive Girls: A New Phenomenon or An Old Problem?&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"Oj1GQ5OM0r\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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sons.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2008-03-25.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> If you're sending a son off to high school or even junior high, you need to make sure he is ready for what he may be facing.\u00a0 Here's Dennis Rainey.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Teenage girls are brazen.\u00a0 They are initiating with guys at younger and younger ages, text messaging, e-mailing, there's sexual and relational aggressiveness toward younger and younger men, many times by older girls.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is FamilyLife Today for Tuesday, March 25th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 Would your son know what to do if a young girl in his class started pressuring him and turning up the heat?\u00a0 Stay tuned.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us, and you've got that, \"I'm going to stir thing up on the radio\" look in your eyes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I do have a bit of a smirk.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> A little twinkle.\u00a0 You wrote a book \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Rattle the soapbox.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You wrote a book called \"Interviewing Your Daughter's Dates,\" right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I did.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And you've talked to guys who bought the book and who have been doing that, they've been interviewing their daughter's dates, and you've heard some good stores, haven't you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I've heard some great stories.\u00a0 In fact, this is not what the broadcast is about today, but I've got to share this with our listeners, they just need to hear this.\u00a0 I had this one guy who read the book, and he goes, \"Yeah, the eight principles.\u00a0 I'm afraid I will not be able to remember the eight questions I need to interact with the guy about,\" and so he got an idea, and he thought, \"You know what?\u00a0 I'm going to write these on 3x5 cards,\" and so he stacked them up, and he didn't think it really looked intimidating enough, so he got an entire stack of 100 index cards and put the eight cards \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2013 on top, so that the young man is thinking, \"We're going to be here for a while.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I've had some great letters, and I just have to tell the dads and the moms, keep writing, keep letting us know about your story.\u00a0 There are some class stories, in fact.\u00a0 I think we ought to dedicate a broadcast sometime, Bob, just some of the great stories of how dads have been courageous and have stepped in with sweaty, clammy hands, have stared eyeball to eyeball with a young man who wants to take their daughter out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You did get some e-mails from some listeners who said, \"All right, this is helpful, but we have sons, and we've got a different problem on our hands.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> No doubt about it, and they were writing me, saying \"Would you write a book on interviewing your sons' dates?\u00a0 And I just want to back all the way back up, Bob, because when I wrote the book, \"Interviewing Your Daughter's Dates,\" I sent it to a dozen or so friends around the country, all dads who are raising daughters who \u2013 I just wanted to get their feedback, and they were all the way from the Left Coast to the Right Coast to \u2013 and you can figure out whichever coast that is depending upon where you live, but I sent it all across the land, and I got some e-mails back from some dads who said, \"You know, this is really good.\u00a0 We got the example of interviewing a boy to date your daughter.\u00a0 What about interviewing a girl to date your son?\"\u00a0 A very simple question.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHere is one that's a little more in detail from another constituent by the name of Jim.\u00a0 He said, \"As former teenage boys, we both know that a sexually aggressive girl or even a Christian young lady with a solid moral foundation can lead a well-grounded Christian young man down the wrong path and derail years of training in a heartbeat.\u00a0 Our young ladies must also understand their accountability for their actions and being accepting of their responsibility to help our young men maintain their moral purity.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd it goes on to say, you know, there's two sides to the dating equation.\u00a0 You need to address the parents who are raising sons in this sexually aggressive culture.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And do you think that's the case?\u00a0 Do you think that teenage girls are being more aggressive when it comes to their relationships with members of the opposite sex.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Bob, as I look back on it, I would say it's at least twice as prevalent today as it was when I was raising teenage boys, maybe three times.\u00a0 Based upon my conversations with parents, what I\u2019m seeing on the Internet, television, what my research is telling me, I think we have a serious problem, and we're sending our sons off to the slaughter without them being equipped.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd so, really, what I wanted to do here on FamilyLife Today was just get very practical and talk about the problem, why it is a problem, and then really focus on the majority of our time talking about what must we do about it as parents of teenage boys and, really, earlier than that, to equip them to be able to handle what's taking place today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, okay, what are you seeing?\u00a0 Or, as you talk to parents, what are you hearing that's going on that you say is causing things to be two to three times more aggressive than they were in an earlier era?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, girls are calling guys, they're initiating with guys at younger and younger ages, text messaging, e-mailing, groups of girls are getting together and, I'm being told by parents, targeting young men.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are some of them who are even out to seduce young men, in fact, one young man was sitting in class one day, and a girl leaned over and whispered in his ear and said, \"I want to have sex with you.\"\u00a0 This was a junior high youngster, and you start asking yourself the question \u2013 how many junior high young men, or shall we call them boys, which are they?\u00a0 I'm not quite sure at that point \u2013 how many of them are really prepared for that type of activity?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn fact, some of the e-mails that have come in, Bob, and in my personal conversations with parents, they use words, and a lot of these words are coming from moms \u2013 that teenage girls are brazen, they are aggressive, they are after, they're hitting, they are preying on my son, and, frankly, they're concerned.\u00a0 There's sexually and relational aggressiveness toward younger and younger men many times by older girls preying on these young men.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And it's interesting, if you do spend any time on MySpace or Facebook or any of these social networking sites, and you see the home pages of some of the teenage girls, they're presenting themselves as being available and interested to anyone who is on the Internet, basically.\u00a0 It's kind of a frightening thing to see.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, and we're not talking about all young ladies, certainly, but you know what?\u00a0 We need to address the issue of what's taking place with the aggressiveness of teenage girls and boys.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Why do you think this is throttling up the way it is?\u00a0 What is going on in the heart of a young girl that's causing her to be more assertive?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Let me just give you a quick overview of what I think is happening.\u00a0 First of all, I think the culture is supporting it.\u00a0 I think, secondly, I think we have a whole generation of young men who are confused in their own sexual identity and, as a result, the girls are trying to find their north star and how they relate to guys.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThird, I think the breakdown of the family has resulted in a whole generation of daughters who have been abandoned, and in the absence of an emotional healthy attachment to their father and their mother, they are looking to fill their emotional gas tank with the opposite sex.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Do you think it's primarily a father\/daughter connection there that's been broken, or can it be mother\/daughter as well?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I think it can be all of the above, but I do think the father is very important there. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere is a fourth reason, and that's that I think \u2013 and this is going to stun some of our audience, that I would pick on this group, but I think youth groups are being led increasingly by younger believers, and they don't have the spiritual maturity nor the discernment or understanding of what's taking place in our society to steer our young people away from these relationships.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You're talking about a level of wisdom or, I think, in some cases, it's naivete, where a young man who is leading a youth group has the best of intentions and has a good heart and wants to see these kids come to know Christ, and \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> no doubt about it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But he just doesn't understand, really, all that's going on in the dynamics of the interactions between boys and girls in the group.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We'll talk about it more, but there are tons of fine young men and young women leading youth groups today, and I'm certainly not saying all, but I'm saying there are some who are leading youth groups, and I think the real bottom line on this, Bob, it's a combination of spiritual maturity and the fact that these youth group leaders are not parents.\u00a0 They have not taken care of raising a young person through junior high on into high school.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I'll tell you a quick story.\u00a0 I heard about one youth group where they were on a weekend getaway for the youth group, and it was a beautiful spring evening, and some of the girls came and said, \"instead of sleeping in our cabin, can we just take our sleeping bags out on the tennis courts and just sleep out under the stars?\" and the youth group leader said, \"Yeah, I guess that's fine.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, the boys heard about that, and they said, \"That sounds cool.\u00a0 Can we take our sleeping bags and just go sleep out under the stars?\"\u00a0 And the youth group leader said, \"Yeah, I guess it's okay, as long as you stay on this side of the net, and you stay on this side of the net.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Oh, sure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yeah, that's some of that naivet\u00e9, and you can understand how a guy off on a weekend retreat just says, \"Yeah, this sounds harmless,\" but they're just not thinking 360 degrees.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, he wasn't thinking like a parent, you know, and the reality was I didn't approve of that, because that was my daughter who went on that youth group retreat.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I was trying to protect her identity, but \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I understand, but, you know, nothing happened.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I mean, well, anyway, we'll get back to this in a minute.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe last reason that I think this is happening is, and I think this is the core, is there's little or no preparation for adolescence occurring among parents of preteens.\u00a0 And let's face it, all of us who are adults who are listening to this broadcast have been through adolescence.\u00a0 Our voices have matured, they are no longer squeaking, girls have become women, but how did we get through that experience?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd, Bob, you use the illustration, you ask parents of preteens, \"How many of you would like your children to have the same experience you had in adolescence?\"\u00a0 There aren't many hands that go up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo I think the key to this is providing training to understand their hormones, the culture, the peer pressure, what's happening in them, what's happening with the opposite sex, and that's why we have to have resources like Passport to Purity, and So You Want to be a Teenager.\u00a0 Read through these books and go through these weekend experiences with them so that your teenager has the kind of grounding from the Scripture that anchors their heart to withstand the cultural and peer pressure winds.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And you can teach and train and equip your preteens, and you can stay with them through the teen years, and they may still wind up in some trouble, but, I'll tell you what, if you don't teach and equip and train, and you just send them off to figure it out on their own, they will learn from Britney Spears and Paris Hilton and whoever else they see on TV, and so they go do it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me ask you about the youth group thing, because you said some hard things there about youth groups.\u00a0 Did your kids go to youth group when they were \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Sure, uh-huh.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And so you're not \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Excellent, outstanding youth groups, some of the finest teaching that you could ever hope that a young person would receive.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Now, you know that there are some folks who are saying, \"We need to start a movement today to just kind of get rid of youth groups and not have them in churches, and they're destructive and harmful and just the very thing you were saying.\u00a0 We ought to just shut the youth group down.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, you know, here is what I do believe, Bob.\u00a0 I believe that parents need to be parents, and I believe mothers and fathers need to own the responsibility for the spiritual instruction of their children.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYes, they can supplement it with a young group, but I'm going to tell you something, the teenage years are dangerous years, and just because a bunch of teenagers get together under the banner of a youth group doesn't mean all those teenagers are sanctified, holy children of God.\u00a0 I'm telling you, those young people, they're trying to find out who they are, and they've got the same urges and desires and lusts that you and I did when we were teenagers, and they're herding up in larger youth groups than ever before, and I think what parents can tend to do is to go to sleep at the wheel and forget, you know what?\u00a0 I, father; I, mother; I am the primary provider of spiritual instruction and moral instruction for my children.\u00a0 And if I don't own it, it's not going to happen.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yeah, but, if you do own it, you raised four girls, in this culture, you better prepare your daughters for loneliness, because if you train them not to be assertive and aggressive, they're going to spend a lot of time at home on Friday and Saturday night in their room crying.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Waiting for the phone to ring.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And it's all your fault, Daddy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You know, here's the thing \u2013 I think there are four \"musts\" that parents need to do today, and there's more than four, by the way, but these are just four that I see are very, very important.\u00a0 If you're going to raise a daughter in this culture, number one, equip her with a biblical, healthy perspective of her sexuality; God's view of her sexuality as a woman.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd, by the way, it's more than just her body, it's her behavior, it's how she dresses, it's how she acts, it's whether she flirts or not, and whether you train your daughter to flirt, or you actually perhaps pull back a bit or whether you perhaps edit your daughter's flirting and warn her that that's not healthy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> How do you edit her flirting?\u00a0 What do you mean?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, I think young ladies need instruction.\u00a0 I think when they are too friendly with the opposite sex, they need to be told.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You need to call them over and say, \"Sweetheart, don't\" \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Maybe not at the time, no, but later on kind of rehearse it and relive it and talk about what that does to guys and what is appropriate in terms of a young lady being friendly with a young man. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> All right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I'm not talking about being rude, I'm just talking about not being overly friendly or overly aggressive and letting a young girl get away with it.\u00a0 You wouldn't allow your son to be overly aggressive sexually with a young lady, would you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And when your daughter says, \"Dad, everybody acts like this.\u00a0 Boys don't think anything about it.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, you would say at that point, \"Not everybody does, because our family has its boundaries, and this family is going to be a family that marches to a different drumbeat than all the others, okay?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSecondly, this is a tough one\u2013 model what you teach to your daughters, and I'm talking about here the moms need to dress appropriately they way they would want their teenage daughters to dress when \u2013 how shall we say it?\u00a0 The young lady has matured, all right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI'm going to tell you something.\u00a0 There is a mixed signal that is sent when a mom is calling attention to her body or wears clothes that are V-neck, too low, showing inappropriate portions of her body in front of her daughters.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are some moms I'd \u2013 actually, what I'd like to do is put my arm around their husband and say, \"Have you not said, have you not told your wife how men think?\"\u00a0 And if a woman is dressing that way for her husband, then dress that way privately.\u00a0 Don't dress that way in public because you're sending a signal to your daughters that this is how you get the attention of young men.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know that from the trends in fashion, what I'm talking about here moves us borderline back to the Victorian Age, but, you know what? If we don't have some differences in the way we dress in the culture, then I think we're blending in too much, and I think we're playing to the sexual power piece of young ladies who are growing up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tA third thing, a third must, if you were a dad, you must give your daughter words of affection and hugs of affection \u2013 warm hugs, gentle kisses that let her know she is sweet, you're her daddy and you know what?\u00a0 No matter how big she gets or how mature she is, you're never going to stop giving her those words and giving her those hugs.\u00a0 No matter how threatening it may be, as a man, to do that as your daughter matures, I think we have to let them know that there is a wholesome love of words and affection that occurs within a family that's good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then, finally, number four, if your daughter does display seductive behavior, and you're watching this occur, number one, you should begin to pray about how you should instruct and teach and help her and correct her and then begin to train her and warn her about what is appropriate, and this can be everything from how she looks at guys to the makeup she wears to the clothing she wears or doesn't wear, and literally instructy your daughter as to how she goes about this.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the things I did with my daughters that I think really preserved and protected them from being aggressive with guys is I never stopped dating them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> All the way through high school?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yeah, I started dating them when they were three or four years of age, built that relationship.\u00a0 We'd go have fun, and, in fact, if \u2013 and I've talked about this on the broadcast \u2013 I don't really have a lot of regrets, but I do wish I'd had more dates, you know, with six children it's hard to get around to every one on a regular basis, but those dates build a relationship between a father and a daughter in a very simple way but in a \u2013 I think in a protective way.\u00a0 And in this culture, I think these young ladies need that relationship with their daddy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You know, you talked about the importance of dating your daughter in your book, \"Interviewing Your Daughter's Dates,\" which was kind of the flip side of the coin here.\u00a0 You were writing to help dads know how they can protect their daughters from young men who may come on a little too strong, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That's right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And what we've been talking today is the opposite side \u2013 what can we do, as parents, to help our sons be ready for this phenomenon of aggressive girls, and if our listeners are interested, we've got these programs available on CD.\u00a0 There are also transcripts of these programs on our website at FamilyLife.com, and you can contact us to review this material to get these CDs.\u00a0 Maybe it's something you'd listen to together with your sons as you're out driving around back and forth to school.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think this would be a great conversation starter for a parent and a young teenage son to listen to together and engage in some dialog on the subject.\u00a0 Again, you can get the CDs from us here at FamilyLife.\u00a0 Go to our website, which is FamilyLife.com, and on the right side of the screen, you will see a button that says \"Today's Broadcast.\"\u00a0 If you click there, it will take you to an area of the site where there is more information about ordering these CDs.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere is also information about your book, \"Interviewing Your Daughter's Dates,\" and that's available both as a hardback book and as an audiobook.\u00a0 So if you're a parent, and you're raising teenage girls, you may want to get that book.\u00a0 If you're raising teenage boys, you want to get the CDs of these programs and listen to all of this together with your sons and your daughters.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, our website is FamilyLife.com, and if you're interested in these resources, click the box on the right side of the home page that says \"Today's Broadcast,\" and that will take you to an area of the site where there is more information about these resources and other resources available from us here at FamilyLife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf it's easier, you can call 1-800-FLTODAY to request more information about these resources or to order them over the phone \u2013 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 That number again is 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, as we try to address these issues each day, we turn to the Scriptures to find God's wisdom on the subjects that we're talking about.\u00a0 In fact, on tomorrow's program, we're going to be looking at the Proverbs have to say to a young man about guarding his heart, and we want to see families develop that habit of looking to the Scriptures to see what God's Word has to say on all kinds of issues related to marriage and family.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd for the past year, we have been working on a project that has just now come off the presses.\u00a0 It's the FamilyLife Marriage Bible.\u00a0 It's in the New King James Version, and it's a devotional Bible for couples to read through together and alongside the text of Scripture, there are articles related to marriage and family; issues related to parenting; romantic tips and quotes and notes; there is a copy of a document we've created called \"The Family Manifesto,\" that's like a concise doctoral statement on marriage and family issues.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are very excited about this FamilyLife Marriage Bible, and this month we are making the Bible available for 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