{"id":301522,"date":"2008-02-04T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2008-02-04T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/angelas-story\/"},"modified":"2008-02-04T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2008-02-04T17:00:00","slug":"angelas-story","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/angelas-story\/","title":{"rendered":"Angela&#8217;s Story"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s not always easy for husbands to understand their wives and vice versa.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2008-02-04.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"11.55M","filesize_raw":"12112958","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2088,2862],"tags":[4927,4527,2877],"podcast_series":[7333],"cwp_profile":[3052,3048],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-301522","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-romance-and-sex","category-understanding-differences","tag-challenges","tag-communication","tag-marriage","podcast_series-rekindling-the-romance","cwp_profile-barbara-rainey","cwp_profile-dennis-rainey","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/301522\/angelas-story","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/301522\/angelas-story","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"2HFNQrjp8w\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/angelas-story\/\">Angela&#8217;s Story<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/angelas-story\/embed\/#?secret=2HFNQrjp8w\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Angela&#8217;s Story&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"2HFNQrjp8w\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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Arabian Romantic Night thing?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0Oh, I don't know about that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWoman:\u00a0You're right, maybe not.\u00a0 You know, dear, I think I'll call Wendy.\u00a0 Wendy was here last week.\u00a0 I'm going to see what she had and see if she liked it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0Can we just order?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWoman:\u00a0Actually, you know what, honey, you just go ahead.\u00a0 I'm really not that hungry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0Then what are we doing here?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWoman:\u00a0Well, I don't know, it's just \u2013 well, I thought I was hungry, but then I thought about this other place that Wendy told me about.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Monday, February 4th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 If you find that you and your spouse are sometimes ordering different entrees at the Romance Caf\u00e9, stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us on the Monday edition.\u00a0 You know, when it comes to romance, it's pretty simple, isn't it?\u00a0 I mean, you wouldn't think you'd really need to spend a whole lot of time explaining to a woman how a man views romance, because\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0We're going to spend all week \u2013 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I know, I'm sitting here thinking, can't we just wrap this up in about five minutes?\u00a0 Is there really that much to say?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0[laughing] Spoken as a true man.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Can we land the plane?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0But, now, Bob, think about it for a moment \u2013 who is our intended audience here?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, our wives.\u00a0 We want our wives to understand how we view romance as men.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0So you can't deliver it in a bottom-line format to women.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You mean we've got to talk about it, right?\u00a0 We've got to spend time talking about it \u2013 talk, talk, talk, right?\u00a0 Is that what you're saying?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That's right.\u00a0 And the way we're going to make it more palatable for the ladies to better understand a man's perspective of romance is we're going to do what we did a week ago when we had a little drama here on FamilyLife Today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Oh, yeah, this is where Brian and Angela, the couple that \u2013 they were challenged in their romantic relationship, and they went to see the doctor, he doctor had a special \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0\u2026 experimental drug.\u00a0 Well, I'm not going to tell our listeners.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0No, we heard what it did to Brian last week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That's right.\u00a0 It's cool.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And we're going to let Angela, this week, explain what happened \u2013 now, you need to know that some of what they're going to share may not be appropriate for younger listeners because they're going to give us a candid look at some of the challenges couples face in their romantic relationship.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0(From videotape.) Angela, let me ask you \u2013 what's been going on with you since the last visit?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Well, I still just feel dead inside.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Ah!\u00a0 Well, maybe if you'd let me get close to you for more than 30 seconds, I could change that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Oh, yeah, right, like, you think sex is going to just solve everything.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0We could try for once.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0[aside] What is it with guys and sex?\u00a0 Anyhow, how did I end up here?\u00a0 How did we end up here?\u00a0 Is this what 12 years of marriage gets you?\u00a0 When I met Brian, it was, like, 14 years ago.\u00a0 We were both athletic, we both loved to go running together, and we would just talk for hours.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(romantic song playing)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0He was so funny, and just listened, you know?\u00a0 And, oh, he was just so real.\u00a0 When he asked me to marry him, I just said \"Yes\" immediately.\u00a0 I just knew.\u00a0 Our wedding was the summer following our graduation.\u00a0 So what happened?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0So, Angela, when you say you feel dead inside, what you're saying is you feel emotionally disconnected from Brian?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0I don't know.\u00a0 Most days I feel old \u2013 just old and trapped.\u00a0 That's the truth.\u00a0 Day after day, I struggle with this emptiness \u2013 hoping, longing, praying it will get better.\u00a0 I guess just sort of holding it together for the kids.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Oh, come on, it isn't that bad \u2013 is it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Of course, this means nothing to Brian because all he thinks about is sex.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0That's not true.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0It is, too.\u00a0 What do you think I am?\u00a0 A machine?\u00a0 Can\u2019t you see I'm beat?\u00a0 Don't you have a clue what I'm going through?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Oh, come on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0Hang on, hang on, both of you.\u00a0 Angela, your point is?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0My point is what's with men and their endless need for sex?\u00a0 Look, we made love last week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0We did?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Well, maybe it was a couple of weeks ago.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Hon, it was three-and-a-half weeks ago.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Whatever.\u00a0 The point is, we do have sex.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Like when?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Like \u2013 I don't know when, but I do know whenever we do, you always get more out of it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Well, maybe if you'd try a little harder.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Oh, yeah, well, maybe if you would try building some anticipation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Like what?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0You know, like something besides a peck on the cheek and a pat on my bottom in the kitchen.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Oh ho!\u00a0 Let's twist that one around.\u00a0 You know what that means.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Yeah, it means, it's halftime, let's have sex.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0It does not.\u00a0 It means \"I love you,\" and, besides, halftime is 20 minutes long.\u00a0 So what's the big deal?\u00a0 Twenty minutes, what's that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0[aside] Well, you can see why we have such a stimulating relationship.\u00a0 Are you with me here, girls?\u00a0 I mean, can you relate to this?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Aretha Franklin singing \"Respect\"]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You see, it wasn't always this way.\u00a0 There was a time when I looked forward to our lovemaking \u2013 I mean, it was wonderful.\u00a0 But over the last couple of years, I don't know, I just find myself often just turning him away, or I just go through the motions, which is part of the reason we're here in this counselor's office for our seventh session.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0Now, this might surprise you, but your marital difficulty is really not that different than what I find in a lot of the couples who come to me for help.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Really?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0Yeah, look, you both recognize that things aren't what they should be, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0And you both want to make this work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0And it's clear that both of you feel like you've reached an impasse, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0Look, I know this might sound far-fetched, but hear me out.\u00a0 Those vials I just put in front of you contain an experimental drug called Retrosamax.\u00a0 It's designed to temporarily change what we call your \"emotional set.\"\u00a0 It's brand-new, but it's being field-tested by the FDA, and I've agreed to be part of the research.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Oh, come on, really?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Experimental?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0Now, there's nothing to worry about, it's simple.\u00a0 Just drink that liquid and, Brian, you'll experience life through the emotional set of your wife.\u00a0 Angela, do the same, and you'll see and feel life the way your husband experiences it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0You're actually serious?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0Totally.\u00a0 So what do you think?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Hey, I'm game.\u00a0 I mean, you know, if she wants to.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Whoa, whoa, wait a minute, I\u2019m not sure I want to experiment with my emotional set.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0[aside] This is so typical of Brian.\u00a0 He hadn't even read the release form.\u00a0 He just scribbled his name, slugged down his drink, and then handed the waiver to me.\u00a0 I mean, I needed time to think about this.\u00a0 Was I going to regret this?\u00a0 On the other hand, maybe it would be a good thing for Brian to see what I go through emotionally every day.\u00a0 It's not like we were switching bodies \u2013 just our emotional wiring or whatever.\u00a0 I should be able to handle thinking like a guy for a week.\u00a0 I mean, how hard could that be?\u00a0 It would be like being on vacation.\u00a0 I focused on the page, read the lone paragraph.\u00a0 It appeared harmless enough.\u00a0 I signed my name.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Later, on the way home]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0This is all your fault.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Huh?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0I said this is all your fault.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0What?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0That we're stuck in traffic.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Good grief, what's gotten into you, Angie?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Nothing's gotten into me.\u00a0 I just hate sitting in traffic.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Since when?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Since \u2013 I don't know when.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Hey, maybe Dr. John's elixir is starting to work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Oh, yeah, right.\u00a0 I have serious doubts about that stuff.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Well, the way you yelled at me when \u2013\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0[yells] I did not yell at you, and what does that have to do with anything?\u00a0 I was just trying to get us out of the counselor's office.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Well, you certainly did that.\u00a0 I hope you're happy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0[aside] This was weird \u2013 me getting uptight about traffic is one thing, but something else had changed, too.\u00a0 Something I couldn't explain to Brian or even to myself.\u00a0 It was like I'd become acutely alert to every last ounce of testosterone in the universe, you know?\u00a0 Now, it's not like I hadn't seen men before, but all of a sudden I couldn't take my eyes off this billboard.\u00a0 A billboard!\u00a0 And what caught my eye on this billboard was this guy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Song \"I Only Have Eyes for You\"]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I mean, he was drop-dead gorgeous, I mean gorgeous!\u00a0 All of a sudden this thought just popped into my head \u2013 \"He's the kind of guy I'd shave my legs for.\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Now, don't ask me where that came from, it just did.\u00a0 Why would I be drawn to a complete stranger like that?\u00a0 I mean, it's just a dumb picture of a kid almost half my age, and it's just, like, caused my thoughts to spin out of control.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0As I stole another look over at Mr. Billboard, I noticed a brown delivery truck stuck in the lane next to us.\u00a0 You know how they have their driver's door pulled back so you can see inside the cab?\u00a0 Well, the driver wore those brown shorts and that matching brown shirt, and I'd say he was about 30, but what I could see of his face was definitely tanned.\u00a0 A moment later I found myself admiring his calves \u2013 nice.\u00a0 I bet he's a runner.\u00a0 Brian used to have calves like that.\u00a0 Without thinking, my eyes drifted up to his waist.\u00a0 This guy probably has a washboard stomach, unlike Brian.\u00a0 Hm, nice, hm, hm, hm.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Angie?\u00a0 Baby?\u00a0 So what were you staring at?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Nothing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Admit it, Angela, you were checking out the UPS guy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Who, me, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0You could have fooled me.\u00a0 Aren't I good enough for you?\u00a0 Well?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Oh, you know, I've been meaning to tell you, Brian, this morning I noticed in the paper that the Steelers are playing a home game this Sunday.\u00a0 What if I take the kids and go?\u00a0 I mean, you could come, too. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0No, thanks, I'm not interested.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Now who's not being honest?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Hah!\u00a0 See?\u00a0 You just admitted it.\u00a0 You were checking him out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0What?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0When you said, \"Now, who's not being honest,\" that implies you weren't being honest with me a minute ago.\u00a0 'Fess up, Angela, you're busted.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0I will do no such thing.\u00a0 This is so ridiculous.\u00a0 What are you, the thought police?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Oh, no, just call me the janitor.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Huh?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Because if you were drooling any more back there, I'd need a mop to clean it up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[Music, \"She's Always a Woman to Me\"]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0[aside] When we got home, Brian offered to make dinner and play some board games with the kids, and I'd like to say that was the end of all these strange thoughts I'd been having, but it wasn't.\u00a0 By the time Brian and I got into bed, I was beat.\u00a0 I'd been fighting this endless war in my mind, and I was just glad to shut off the world and fall into bed with the man I'd pledged to be faithful to and, boy, was I ready for him now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Brian?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Huh?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0I want you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0That's nice, honey, I want you, too.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0No, Bri, I mean, I want you.\u00a0 You know \u2013 now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Look, Ange, I'm beat.\u00a0 Maybe tomorrow.\u00a0 You know, after I cut the grass.\u00a0 Angela, I said maybe tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Well, it's after midnight.\u00a0 So it's already tomorrow.\u00a0 So what are we waiting for?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0I\u2019m not in the mood.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Wow, that's a first.\u00a0 Why?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0You don't know, do you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Well, enlighten me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0At the counselor's office \u2013 does this ring any bells?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Uh \u2013 nope.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0I didn't think so.\u00a0 You don't remember how rude you were, do you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Well, I was a little abrupt, but that was this afternoon, and this is tonight, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Ah, yes, this is tonight.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Well, can't you just hold me?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Can't you apologize?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Fine, I'm sorry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0You don't sound sorry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Well, I am sorry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0You have a funny way of showing it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0What is that supposed to mean?\u00a0 Look, Brian, I can be just as sorry as anybody.\u00a0 In fact, I can be sorrier than you know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0You can say that again.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0I am sorry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0You must think I'm a fool.\u00a0 I know perfectly well when I am being snowed.\u00a0 Besides, what planet are you living on, Angela?\u00a0 For the last five hours I have been juggling kids, dinner, dishes, clean-up, can't you see it's late and I'm tired?\u00a0 Now you want me to just flip a switch and suddenly be your teddy bear?\u00a0 It's not going to happen, so deal with it.\u00a0 Good night.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0[aside] I was dumbfounded.\u00a0 This was so unfair.\u00a0 I yanked the sheet over my head and turned my back on him.\u00a0 I don't get it.\u00a0 What possible connection could there be between today and tonight?\u00a0 It seems so clear to me now.\u00a0 I wanted him.\u00a0 We're married.\u00a0 What is the problem?\u00a0 I started to get angry all over again when, suddenly, in a secret corner of my mind, the stranger in the UPS truck reappeared.\u00a0 He flashed a smile and, with a wave, he winked at me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[alarm clock sounds]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Oh, stop.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Babe?\u00a0 Are you okay?\u00a0 What was that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0What?\u00a0 Nothing.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0[aside] I glanced at the clock.\u00a0 I had overslept.\u00a0 Weird \u2013 well, maybe it was the dreams.\u00a0 I can't tell you the last time I had dreams like that.\u00a0 I mean, how could anybody live with these thoughts day after day?\u00a0 I know I couldn't.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Angela, are you coming to breakfast?\u00a0 It's ready.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Yeah, I'll be right there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0[aside] Right then and there, I was determined to switch our emotional sets back sooner than later.\u00a0 I couldn't imagine going a whole week like this \u2013 no way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Angie!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0Just a minute!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0Baby, the pancakes are getting cold.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0You guys go ahead, I'll be right down.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBrian:\u00a0OK.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0[aside] Then I remembered the note John Marshall had handed each of us.\u00a0 What was it he said?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDr. Marshall:\u00a0I suggest you don't open it unless you're seriously struggling with the changes during the week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAngela:\u00a0That would be now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0[aside] As I ripped open the note, I just remember thinking, \"Maybe this holds the key.\"\u00a0 You know, something to help me unlock a strategy for coping.\u00a0 Inside, our counselor had typed three words, \"Now you know.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0That's it?\u00a0 Now I know what?\u00a0 Know that I'm ready to tear my eyes out or that I hate my husband for pushing me away when I needed him last night.\u00a0 What was this, a joke?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Then \u2013 right out of my anger I had this thought \u2013 slowly at first, but as this idea came into focus, I wasn't sure I wanted to comprehend it.\u00a0 I flattened the crumpled note in my lap with the palms of my hands.\u00a0 Yes, I think I just got the message in the bottle.\u00a0 Like a parting in the clouds, the significance of John's words came into view \u2013 \"Now you know.\"\u00a0 I had walked a mile in Brian's shoes.\u00a0 I had experienced a taste of what my poor husband has to deal with, like, every day of his life.\u00a0 For reasons I don't even fully understand, he's wired differently.\u00a0 Now I get it \u2013 what men mean when they say they possess the heightened sensitivity to visual stimulation and, in this world, I mean, that means men experience a daily battle with temptation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI confess, I hadn't the slightest clue how difficult that actually was.\u00a0 That is, until now.\u00a0 Now I can imagine how hard it must be for my husband to keep his thought life pure.\u00a0 No wonder he gets bothered by those bikini-clad billboards and the beer commercials or \u2013 oh, my gosh \u2013 when that swimsuit issue, like, his favorite sports magazine \u2013 he asks me to throw it away.\u00a0 So he has been taking a stand all along.\u00a0 Like, that's been his way of saying he loves me, I just never saw it.\u00a0 Yet in all of this, it\u2019s just dawned on me that in the midst of Brian's struggle to stay on course, he needs me to be there for him, to give him a reason to stay home.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[End of story]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I wonder if we've got any UPS drivers listening to FamilyLife, do you think?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, you know, what Barbara and I tried to do, though, in our book, \"Rekindling the Romance,\" is to write honestly and yet practically to both husbands and wives about how better \u2013 not only to understand one another's romantic needs \u2013 but how to best go about meeting them.\u00a0 And so, for the women, Barbara's half of the book is broken down into \u2013 well, I'm looking here \u2013 there's five sections.\u00a0 The first section is called \"The Seasons of Romance,\" and there are seasons of romance that explain why it's so difficult at times.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Sometimes it's winter, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0It can be \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0\u2026 a little frosty, a little chilly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0A little frosty.\u00a0 Part 2 is \u2013 well, we'll keep moving right there, we won't stay there long \u2013 Part 2 is men and women express romance differently.\u00a0 We don't need to comment about that at all \u2013 no.\u00a0 Part 3 is how to have a romantic makeover, and it talks about the ingredients of romance.\u00a0 A lot of people are trying to make romance, and they don't have the right ingredients.\u00a0 Barbara's got, I think, it's the six ingredients of romance in that section.\u00a0 And then there's Section 4, what to do about the little interruptions to romance, the multiple distractions to romance, and then Part 5 is how to fire the desire, and they start at Fire the Desire 101, and they move to Fire the Desire 501.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Oh, my, graduate-level stuff.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0This is real fun right here \u2013 if you can make it to 501, you're risky.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You've got your Ph.D.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0You're risky, you're out there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0We've got copies of the book in our FamilyLife Resource Center, and I want to encourage our listeners to call us and get a copy.\u00a0 It's been interesting to watch folks respond to this book as they've been picking up copies at our conferences we're hosting all across the country, and the book is now available in our FamilyLife Resource Center.\u00a0 In fact, we're recommending you get a copy of the book and the \"Simply Romantic Nights\" collection.\u00a0 When you do that \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0\u2026 when you do that, it's probably 601 \u2013 Fire the Desire 601 \u2013 you've got the book AND \"Simply Romantic Nights.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And this is the 2nd edition, this is volume 2 of \"Simply Romantic Nights,\" where the team has come up with some, new, fresh, creative ways for couples to express their love for one another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So let me encourage you \u2013 go to our website, FamilyLife.com, where you can get more information about Dennis and Barbara's book, about the new \"Simply Romantic Nights\" collection.\u00a0 Both are available from us here at FamilyLife, and you can order online, if you'd like.\u00a0 Again, the website if FamilyLife.com, or call 1-800-FLTODAY.\u00a0 That's 1-800-358-6329, 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY, and let me just add this \u2013 we'd also love to send you a couple of CDs \u2013 some interviews we did a few years back, Dennis, with Lorraine Pintus and Linda Dillow.\u00a0 Their book, \"Intimate Issues, \" a book for women on the subject of intimacy and romance in marriage.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We'd love to send you the two CDs that feature our conversation with these women that covers the subject of their book, and we'd love to send these out to you as our way of saying thank you when you make a donation of any amount to FamilyLife this month.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0If you're donating online, when you come to the keycode box on the donation form, just type in the word \"intimate,\" and we'll know to send you the CDs or call 1-800-FLTODAY, make a donation over the phone and, again, we're happy to send these CDs out to you as our way of saying thank you for your financial support of the ministry of FamilyLife Today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Tomorrow we want to talk about how you can rekindle the romance in your marriage when your marriage is going through a season of suffering.\u00a0 I hope you can be with us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We'll see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0FamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas, 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