{"id":301499,"date":"2008-01-04T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2008-01-04T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/baby-steps-to-a-better-marriage\/"},"modified":"2008-01-04T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2008-01-04T17:00:00","slug":"baby-steps-to-a-better-marriage","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/baby-steps-to-a-better-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Baby Steps to a Better Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Does your marriage need a little coaching?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2008-01-04.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"13.62M","filesize_raw":"14277234","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2849,2863],"tags":[4927,4527,2877],"podcast_series":[7558],"cwp_profile":[9110],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-301499","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-drifting-apart","category-saving-a-marriage","tag-challenges","tag-communication","tag-marriage","podcast_series-the-total-marriage-makeover","cwp_profile-dr-david-clarke","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/301499\/baby-steps-to-a-better-marriage","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/301499\/baby-steps-to-a-better-marriage","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"s4yZpG4lF1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/baby-steps-to-a-better-marriage\/\">Baby Steps to a Better Marriage<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/baby-steps-to-a-better-marriage\/embed\/#?secret=s4yZpG4lF1\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Baby Steps to a Better Marriage&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"s4yZpG4lF1\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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Lepine.\u00a0 On today's edition of our program, FamilyLife Today, we're going to be having a candid conversation about the subject of romance and intimacy in marriage.\u00a0 It's the kind of conversation where you may want to have younger listeners distracted and doing something else while you listen to the program, or you may decide to listen to it later on our website at FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 We just wanted to give you a heads up as we begin today's program.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0How did you say goodbye to your wife when you left home this morning?\u00a0 Dr. David Clarke has some counsel for you about how to do it tomorrow morning.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0I recommend that when you leave in the morning, you take your wife in your arms, whether she's still in bed or not, you kiss her a real kiss \u2013 lipsmacking, gum scorching, ah!, type of a kiss, and then you say, \"I love you,\" with her name, Sandy in my case, of course, I get the name right, and then you'd say, \"And you are a beautiful woman,\" and you tell her one thing that makes her beautiful.\u00a0 Now, that is a package.\u00a0 She won't want you to go.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Friday, January 4th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 If your marriage could use a little freshening up, or maybe it could use a lot more than that, we've got some helpful counsel for you today.\u00a0 Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us.\u00a0 You know, I've heard about guys who were in a hitting slump, baseball players, you know, who were just not hitting, and they get a \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I experienced one of those in high school.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0For what?\u00a0 A couple of years?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, it was actually four years.\u00a0 I pitched.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Pitchers aren't supposed to hit, are they?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I don't think so, but I was in a pitching slump, too, as I recall.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, you know, you think of a guy in the majors who has gone 0 for 27, you know, his last 27 times at bat.\u00a0 He can get a batting coach to come over alongside him and watch his swing, and he can say, you know, \"If you just correct this a little bit.\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I needed that batting coach.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0If you can just raise your shoulder or your elbow or whatever, and the guy is back on track.\u00a0 You've seen that happen, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I have.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And the same is true with some couples who are in a marriage slump.\u00a0 If you can just get a coach to come alongside and give you a few little calibrations, you may be able to pull out of the slump, you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Well, Coach David Clarke is joining us on the broadcast.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Coach Clarke!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Coach Clarke, welcome to the broadcast.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0We have a bunch of marriage \u2013 well, I won't call them marriage \"hitters.\" \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Slumpers.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Slumpers \u2013 a group that needs some help in breaking out of their slumps, but let me just tell you a little bit about Coach Clarke that will qualify him as the one to help you out of your slump that Bob is talking about here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Dr. David Clarke is a Christian psychologist.\u00a0 He is the author of a number of books, a speaker at his seminars across the country, and for the past \u2013 how many years \u2013 have been counseling couples?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0It's been 20-plus years now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I was thinking it was 20 years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Yeah, it is.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0So that qualifies him, that qualifies him to be a coach.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0He can give you a little calibration, yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Sure, sure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0He has written a book called \"The Total Marriage Makeover,\" and let's get right to it, Coach Clarke.\u00a0 Where would you start with the men if you wanted to have a total makeover with a man?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0I would say, \"Gentlemen, you need to talk to your woman.\u00a0 She did not marry you for your stunning good looks.\u00a0 Infatuation is past, hopefully, she still thinks you're good-looking, but she wants to be close to you, she wants to know what you're thinking, what you're feeling.\u00a0 Women universally want that.\u00a0 Men, universally, resist it, and aren't good at sharing.\u00a0 Pass the mustard, you know, I'm fixing the mower, you know, I'd like to have sex, these are kind of the basic things men say.\u00a0 Well, we've got to go deeper than that, men.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So what you've got to do, and there are some tips in the book, obviously, we'll cover a few.\u00a0 She wants to know from your heart.\u00a0 You don't have to do this for any other woman, just that woman, the woman you're married to. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Why is it that guys are reticent about being communicators.\u00a0 I mean, it does seem like women are more verbal, it seems like guys are more of a \"just the facts\" type. That's not always the case, but that's kind of the common approach.\u00a0 Is there something about us that we just don't like to talk that much?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0You know, we're just sticks.\u00a0 I mean, your basic man is very logical and likes to excel in areas of competence.\u00a0 He is also into control, and that can be a healthy thing, and we're not into the vulnerable, personal \u2013 that's just built-in hardwiring from God.\u00a0 Now, add to that, that my dad didn't do it, I've got no modeling.\u00a0 My grandpa didn't do it, all the men around me, I don't ever see them share personally with a woman.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We talk about sports, we talk about mechanical things \u2013 we just don't learn how.\u00a0 Then when the woman starts pressing us for this, because that's what she wants, even though we love her, there is this automatic defensiveness.\u00a0 \"I've got to be vulnerable \u2013 I'm not good at this, number one.\u00a0 Number two, I don't know what she's looking for.\u00a0 I've never really\" \u2013 so all those things add up, and so we begin to resist \u2013 that hurts her, that offends her, that causes her to fall out of love with us, and if we're not sharing with her, we'll actually fall out of love with her, because we're not close to her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Okay, so where do you start?\u00a0 He's in your office, he's seated across the table from you.\u00a0 He's saying, \"Guilty as charged.\u00a0 I can relate to my lawnmower a lot easier than I can my wife.\u00a0 I don't know about this stuff of relationships like you're talking about.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Adjust my swing here, Dr. Clarke.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That's right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0You say, \"Sir, what you do today is go to a drugstore and buy a little pad, and I want to have a pen attached to that pad, and you're going to carry that pad everywhere you go.\u00a0 And when things happen to you during the day, sir \u2013 I'm going to call him 'Bob' \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Thanks a lot.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That would be a good name.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0In fact, Bob was in my office, I recognize you \u2013 just kidding.\u00a0 You're going to jot down, you're preparing to talk to your woman tonight.\u00a0 In fact, we'll back it up \u2013 you've got to establish four 30-minute talk time with your woman every week, sir.\u00a0 Your job, you're the leader, and so you're going to have to sit down with her for that many times a week just so we can create conversation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Four times 30 minutes at a time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Thirty minutes at a time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Bob wasn't thinking of it being cumulative two hours.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Thirty minutes at a time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Thirty minutes at a crack \u2013 now, if I'm generous, we maybe start with 10 or 15 to kind of get you into the flow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0But she'll be talking, too, Bob, don't worry.\u00a0 Now, most men, they go through the day, they need the pad because we forget \u2013 if I'm preparing to talk to Sandy tonight, if I go through today, and as great as this day has been, and we'll have some great conversations \u2013 if I don't write down what happened, my impressions, how I had lunch with the guys, and how neat it was, and the experience \u2013 I won't have anything to say to her because I won't remember.\u00a0 Guys forget everything.\u00a0 You can't trust your memory, you don't have a memory.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0She remembers everything.\u00a0 Coming down the birth canal, it's all clear.\u00a0 Sir \u2013 he says, \"Well, I'll feel like an idiot jotting down things to say to her.\"\u00a0 I'll say, \"You'll feel like a real idiot when you have nothing to say when she says 'How was your day,' and you say 'Okay,' or 'I don't know.'\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Or it was good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Yeah, good, well that tells me quite a bit.\u00a0 So I have men all across this country with pads, you may have seen them.\u00a0 They're jotting things down after lunches, impressions, memories, I mean, things will come up for as, as men, that if we don't jot it down, we forget.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0And when you sit in front of your lady, I'll guarantee you this, sir, I'll say, and you bring out your pad, she'll be thrilled.\u00a0 \"You thought about me today?\u00a0 You jotted down things to say to me?\"\u00a0 That impresses her \u2013 that draws her close.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You know, this happened to me last night.\u00a0 Mary Ann and I connected after a long day.\u00a0 I had worked here until late.\u00a0 She had had to go to orchestra practice at church, and so we hadn't seen each other at dinner, and she gets home, I think it was 9:15, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Now, one thing we need our listeners to know about Mary Ann \u2013 the lights go out for her \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0She's an early-to-bed kind of person.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Usually around 9:30 at night, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0But she's in at 9:15, and she says to me, \"So what happened today?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Now, it's been a long time since the day started for me, right?\u00a0 I mean, I start to think, \"Well, what did happen today?\u00a0 Okay, I was\" \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0To his point, huh?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0That's right, I didn't have my pad.\u00a0 So I think, \"Okay, well, I was in that meeting from nine until noon, and, as I remember it, it was a fairly boring meeting that I was in, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I heard it was a good meeting.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Just kind of tuned that one out.\u00a0 And then I was in another meeting from noon to 1, and it was about radio station stuff, and it was fine, but I'm thinking, \"She's not going to care about radio station stuff,\" right?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And then I was in the studio that afternoon, and I was doing production kind of stuff, you know, just kind of production stuff.\u00a0 So for me it was kind of an average day, nothing really exciting happened.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That wasn't what she wanted to hear. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0No, and I'm trying to think, \"Okay, where are the juicy details of my day?\"\u00a0 And I'm thinking I didn't have any juicy details today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0You're living a terribly boring life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Yes.\u00a0 So if a guy is thinking, you know, it's an average day, nothing really exciting happened, what does he say?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0See, that's not true.\u00a0 You think that's true because you don't remember the things that happened, but nobody's life is that boring, not even yours, please.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I can promise you, I've been in meetings with Bob.\u00a0 I can promise you \u2013 he's a livewire.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I don't allow them to get boring.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0You both are livewires.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0They do not become boring with Bob in there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0See, if you have an emotion, and you have to train guys.\u00a0 Their first list is not very impressive.\u00a0 They report events or facts \u2013 \"went to the drugstore, bought a pen because mine was out of ink.\"\u00a0 Well, that's not really that scintillating.\u00a0 Okay, well, we have to work on emotion, interaction with someone else, \"I thought of you\" \u2013 that's always \u2013 \"I thought of you.\" \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Now, how about this, if you're a Christian man, you are walking with the Lord today.\u00a0 He is guiding you in your life.\u00a0 That's always good material.\u00a0 She'll love to hear that.\u00a0 My quiet time this morning \u2013 I could tell Sandy about that because I had one in the hotel room, and some things that came out, hey, if I don't jot it down, poof, gone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0So that's going to be an excellent tool.\u00a0 Now, she doesn't need a pad.\u00a0 She's got it all \u2013 but you need a pad.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You know, I did have one day where I called Mary Ann out of the blue, and I just said, \"I'm just calling to see how you're doing.\u00a0 I was thinking about you, and I just called to see how you were doing.\"\u00a0 And she said, \"I'm okay.\"\u00a0 And I said, \"Well, good, I was just thinking about you.\"\u00a0 And she said, \"Uh-huh, so what are you really calling about?\u00a0 What do you want?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And I said, \"No, I was just thinking about you,\" and she went, \"Okay, right.\u00a0 So why did you call?\"\u00a0 \"Well, just because I was thinking about you.\"\u00a0 \"Uh-huh, so what do you want?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And I thought, I'm really bad at this if that's where she \u2013 you know, if every time I call it's got an agenda.\u00a0 I need to start calling a little more often.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, no doubt about it.\u00a0 Okay, let's go to the second area men need, and they need to know how to meet their romantic needs of their wives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Oh, yeah, and men are notoriously bad at this.\u00a0 We romance the women prior to marrying her.\u00a0 We're not idiots.\u00a0 That's required if we're going to say \"I do.\"\u00a0 But then very shortly after marriage, we drop it, and when you drop the romance, the woman assumes you don't love her anymore, and she's absolutely right.\u00a0 That's her heart.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We see in the Song of Solomon how Solomon pursued the Shulamite woman, his bride, and then, of course, his wife, and he knew what he was doing.\u00a0 We can learn from him, and there's material in the book that will help you \u2013 verbal romance.\u00a0 We've touched on that already \u2013 verbally romance her.\u00a0 You not only believe she's beautiful, but you tell her every day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I recommend that when you leave in the morning you take your wife in your arms, whether she's still in bed or not, you kiss her a real kiss \u2013 lipsmacking, gum scorching, ah!, type of a kiss, so she knows she's been kissed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Wait, that's a \"hahaha!\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, \"Whoa.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0And then you say, \"I love you,\" with her name, Sandy in my case, of course, I get the name right, and then you'd say, \"And you are a beautiful woman,\" and you tell her one thing that makes her beautiful.\u00a0 Now, that is a package.\u00a0 She won't want you to go.\u00a0 You might be pulled back into the bed.\u00a0 Now, we don't want to get carried away, but it could happen.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0When you get home, like, you called her in the day, and you might say something else nice, you're complimenting her.\u00a0 When you come home, the same thing needs to be repeated.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Solomon described his wife's navel.\u00a0 He was crazy about her feet!\u00a0 Four lines in the book of Song of Solomon on her teeth.\u00a0 I mean, this is absurd.\u00a0 No, it's not.\u00a0 He wanted her to know she was beautiful, and he was convincing her, and she was convinced.\u00a0 And a woman has to be convinced every day.\u00a0 The culture we live in is horrible on women.\u00a0 The airbrush Dennis was talking about, these babes that are parading around, they're in competition with them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, not in our eyes.\u00a0 We want them to know there is no competition.\u00a0 \"I love you, you are the mother of my children, you are the most beautiful woman in the world,\" and we've got to convince her every day, and if you do that, boy, it will come back the other way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0You know, as you were talking, I couldn't help but just reflect on some recent conversations I've had with Barbara where I've come home from work, and we're going through a unique time in our marriage because we're doing some remodeling in our home.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0The house is pretty tore up, isn't it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0It's kind of \u2013 it has been a nice test, but it's also been a camping out experience for us together as a couple, because we've had a lot to talk about, and in the process of doing that, I've noticed that I'm more attracted to her because we're talking about a lot of stuff.\u00a0 We're talking about, you know, what we want on the walls and the floor and, you know, different things that go into the process, and we're sharing a lot of decisions together and a lot of life together, and I've found, many times, I look at her, and I'll just say, \"You really are spectacular. You really are beautiful,\" and she goes, \"Really?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And it's like I'm telling her for the first time all over again, and I don't understand this about my wife, but I do understand it about her.\u00a0 She needs to hear that repeatedly from me with a sparkle in my eye.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0So you'd recommend remodeling as a way to \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I would not, I would not.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Has it helped your marriage?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0It's a tough way to go to get that intimacy, but I can affirm what David is talking about here as a coach.\u00a0 This is a way to break out of the slump.\u00a0 I mean, men who give their wives this kind of attention will find that their wives will respond to that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0All right, let's turn the tables and go to the wives who find themselves in a little bit of a marital slump.\u00a0 Where would you recommend they begin?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0The first place I'd start would be praising the man.\u00a0 This is absolutely vital.\u00a0 One of the deepest needs of a man is to be praised.\u00a0 Now, that gets to respect.\u00a0 We see that in the Bible, of course, Ephesians 5:33.\u00a0 Directly to wives, \"Respect your husbands.\"\u00a0 Now, you can't respect a man unless you're praising him.\u00a0 And, again, we look at the Song of Solomon \u2013 the Shulamite woman was a master at this.\u00a0 All the way through the book, she was impressed with Solomon.\u00a0 Every man on earth that's married wants his woman to be impressed with him.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Sandy is impressed that I\u2019m on FamilyLife Today, and she should be.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And she was honoring me, and, of course, we're praying about it the last couple of days, and I live on that.\u00a0 I mean, she's the one I want to impress with everything I do \u2013 the Lord first, but then Sandy is number two. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Now, it's her job to let me know that she is impressed in whatever I do.\u00a0 So men need praise, and that can be as simple as when he takes the trash out, running down the driveway, meeting him halfway, giving the high five.\u00a0 \"Thanks for that trash, baby, hoo, down low,\" you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And for working at his job and for any behavior you like and for who he is, his integrity, his job as a dad, if he's a father; what he's doing as a husband.\u00a0 You can shape a man's behavior \u2013 it's just like training a seal, frankly, but you can shape him by praising him for things you like.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Hold it, hold it, hold it, you just compared men to seals.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0I was talking about Bob.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And wives the seal trainers.\u00a0 I'm following the whole analogy here, but it really is interesting.\u00a0 I teach an adult Sunday school class at our church, so most Sundays I am teaching.\u00a0 And when I'm done, when we're riding home from church, I always debrief with Mary Ann.\u00a0 How do you think things went this morning?\u00a0 Any feedback?\u00a0 And I really value her opinion.\u00a0 She is a good \u2013 she gives good feedback, and helps me do better.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But that's only part of the reason I ask, \"How did things go this morning?\" and for the feedback, because I'm also looking for her to say \"You did good.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Exactly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Because when she does, it feels good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And her opinion, out of anyone in that class or in the audience, is the one you can count on because sometimes \u2013 and you know this has happened, you've asked the question, and she said, \"Well, you've had better days.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0That's right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0But it's that honesty that gives credence to her compliments when they come.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And I'll have four or five guys come up and say, \"It was a great class, it really helped,\" you know, and they'll talk, and that's affirming, but in the car on the way home, that's the opinion that matters, and it does validate who you are as a man for your wife to affirm you in that way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Oh, it makes you feel like a man, and then, of course, you respond to that.\u00a0 Shulamite woman said Solomon was handsome, charming, called him \"outstanding young stag,\" which means \"stud\" in today's language.\u00a0 That's what a man needs to near, and he will respond to that.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So I had the ladies, when you're involved in kissing, it should come back the other way \u2013 you can use \"outstanding,\" or say something about him that would respect him \u2013 \"I appreciate you for this.\"\u00a0 You can say he's attractive, that's fine, and mention something like the Shulamite does, and needs to be, \"Yes, you're this way, and here is why.\"\u00a0 Men will just live on that all day then want to come back home to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That's right.\u00a0 If you see how the book begins in Song of Solomon, chapter 1 she's respecting him for his character; that it's pure like olive oil, like a highly refined oil, and you have to believe that, as a man, Solomon had his chest puffed out a bit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Oh, definitely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0To feel like his wife is recognizing that he has character; that he is a good man not just a man, but a really good man.\u00a0 A woman's words either make her husband, or they break her husband.\u00a0 She can choose words that build him up or tear him down.\u00a0 I think it's why the writer of Proverbs said it's better to live in an attic in the corner \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0A corner of the roof, yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, in a dark spot with the spiders than with a nagging wife, with a wife who is chipping away at his value as a man.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0All right, so the first coaching tip for the wives is to affirm your husband verbally.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Every day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0What's number two?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Number two is also important \u2013 be playful and particularly pursue him sexually, absolutely critical.\u00a0 I've done some shocking research in the last probably five or six years.\u00a0 I'm glad we're all sitting down here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Yes?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0I hope, if you're listening, hold onto something, this is going to be a shocker \u2013 physical affection and sex are important to men. I mean, can you believe it?\u00a0 It's a God-given need.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0How long did it take you to come to that conclusion?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Oh, 20 minutes.\u00a0 People know that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And it's interesting because those two things that you've just talked about \u2013 verbal affirmation and physical responsiveness \u2013 can be tied together because I have said to Mary Ann, \"You can affirm me verbally throughout the day, but if you are not responsive in a physical sense, it makes me scratch my head and go, 'Were you just kidding about all that stuff you were saying earlier in the day?'\u00a0 You know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Exactly, that's canceled out. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Yeah.\u00a0 All of a sudden, it's like, well, if I'm that great a guy, wouldn't you want to be with me?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0Our sexuality, it cannot be removed from us.\u00a0 It's part and parcel, and there's only one person on the earth who can touch that need \u2013 obviously, that's the woman.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Now, I have to ask you here, because we get letters, a lot of letters, more in the last few years than we've seen ever from wives who say \"What you just described is not the case in my marriage.\"\u00a0 In fact, it's the opposite.\u00a0 The wife says \"I am playful, I am aggressive, I am trying to pursue my husband.\u00a0 He isn't interested.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0I hear more of that, too?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0What's going on there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDavid:\u00a0You know, what's happening, and it could be martially based.\u00a0 I will take a hard look at the wife and many wives think they're doing the right thing, in fact, they're not.\u00a0 They're making some mistakes, they're not doing their job well enough, and so there is a breakdown.\u00a0 But it could very well be something is going on in his life.\u00a0 He has, unknown to her, become addicted to pornography, other women in his mind, he's got a performance issue.\u00a0 As men, we're performance-based.\u00a0 If it doesn't work one time, \"I've lost it!\" and we lose our \u2013 if it doesn't work, I've lost my confidence.\u00a0 We don't want to talk about it, and so even though we love the woman, it's so humiliating, I'm just going to back off.\u00a0 That's very often the case.\u00a0 Stress issues.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So as I work with a man in that situation, I say, \"Look, sir, we cannot do this alone.\u00a0 You're married.\u00a0 I'm going to get you ready, I'm going to bring your wife in here the next session, and we're going to talk about this.\u00a0 She's got to know.\u00a0 We're a team on this, and so together there are exercises and understanding and most women, 99 percent, are going to be totally on board with that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So that's how you work that through, but there is something going on that can be addressed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0David, you are really touching on the differences between men and women and their needs being different.\u00a0 And wives need to understand their husbands, husbands need to understand their wives.\u00a0 They need to be equipped, and I just appreciate you being on our broadcast, writing this book, and offering some \u2013 well, some practical marriage advice as a coach for those who are having a slump in this area.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And you know what I'm thinking \u2013 a lot of the things we've talked about are themes we've visited here on FamilyLife Today, but that doesn't mean that we don't need an adjustment from time to time.\u00a0 We don't need to be reminded it is good to revisit these, and I think some listeners might go, \"Yeah, I've heard that.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0All right, well, you've heard it, but when was the last time you did it, you know?\u00a0 When was the last time you made a change?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And have you lost heart in investing in your marriage.\u00a0 I think what David is encouraging us to do is no matter where you are, whether you've been married five months or 50 years, you shouldn't ever lose the playfulness of pursuing one another, thinking about the other person's needs and finding a way to minister to them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And, again, the reality is that we all need a little help from time to time, we need somebody to give us a nudge and get us pointed in the right direction, and I think that's what your book does, David. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0The book is called \"The Total Marriage Makeover,\" and if our listeners are interested in getting a copy, it's in our FamilyLife Resource Center, and you can order a copy when you go online at FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 Click the red button in the middle of the screen that says \"Go,\" and that will take you to an area of the site where there is more information about Dr. Clarke's book.\u00a0 Again, you can order from our website, if you'd like.\u00a0 The Web address is FamilyLife.com, click the red button that says \"Go.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You can also call 1-800-FLTODAY and request a copy of the book.\u00a0 Again, it's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 When you call, someone on our team will make arrangements to have a copy of the book sent out to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0One other resource I want to make sure you're aware of \u2013 Dennis and Barbara Rainey have just written a daily devotional book for couples.\u00a0 It's called \"Moments With You\" \u2013 365 devotions for husbands and wives to do together.\u00a0 There is a page a day that you can read to one another, it gives you something to talk about and something to pray about, it helps you build a stronger relationship with God and with one another, and we're hoping a lot of couples will make this a daily discipline in the New Year.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We'd love to send you a copy of this book as a thank you gift for a donation of any amount this month to the ministry of FamilyLife Today.\u00a0 So you can go online and make your donation at FamilyLife.com or call 1-800-FLTODAY and make your donation over the phone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0If you're donating online, just be sure as you fill out the donation form, when you come to the keycode box, type in the word \"moments,\" and we'll know to send you a copy of the book.\u00a0 Or if you call to make your donation over the phone, just mention that you'd like the devotional from Dennis and Barbara.\u00a0 Again, it's called \"Moments With You.\"\u00a0 We'd be happy to send it out to you as our way of saying thanks for your financial partnership with this ministry.\u00a0 We appreciate your listening, and we appreciate your support of FamilyLife Today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, I hope you are able to worship with your family together this weekend, and I hope you can join us back on Monday.\u00a0 Jimmy and Karen Evans are going to be here, and we're going to hear about how their marriage got off to a very rocky start and how they have had to learn some things along the way.\u00a0 I hope you can be with us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 Have a great weekend, and we'll see you Monday for another edition of FamilyLife Today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0FamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little 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