{"id":301297,"date":"2007-02-05T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2007-02-05T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/the-art-of-intimacy-part-2\/"},"modified":"2007-02-05T12:00:00","modified_gmt":"2007-02-05T17:00:00","slug":"the-art-of-intimacy-part-2","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-art-of-intimacy-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"The ART of Intimacy, Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>On the broadcast today, pastor Tommy Nelson, author of the book, The Book of Romance, looks to Solomon&#8217;s Song of Songs for wisdom regarding intimacy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2007-02-05.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"14.09M","filesize_raw":"14776874","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2088],"tags":[4086,4926,2877,4714],"podcast_series":[7302],"cwp_profile":[8887],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-301297","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-romance-and-sex","tag-commitment","tag-faithfulness","tag-marriage","tag-romance","podcast_series-the-song-of-solomon","cwp_profile-tom-nelson","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/301297\/the-art-of-intimacy-part-2","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/301297\/the-art-of-intimacy-part-2","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"Hu1OrwOzXu\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-art-of-intimacy-part-2\/\">The ART of Intimacy, Part 2<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-art-of-intimacy-part-2\/embed\/#?secret=Hu1OrwOzXu\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;The ART of Intimacy, Part 2&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"Hu1OrwOzXu\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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intimacy.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2007-02-05.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\tTommy:\u00a0You have a spiritual commitment, an emotional commitment, a financial commitment, a domestic commitment, and then you mesh your bodies, you mesh your emotions, you take your DNA, you wrap it around her DNA, you create a being in the image of the God that looks like the both of you.\u00a0 That is oneness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[musical transition] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Monday, February 5th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 There is a lot more to intimacy and romance and passion than what you find in most Hollywood movies today.\u00a0 Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us on the Monday edition.\u00a0 I don't know how many of our listeners know this, but I've been told that prior to a Jewish boy being bar-mitzvahed at the age of 13, he was not supposed to read the Song of Solomon in the Old Testament in the Jewish Bible because it was considered for mature audiences.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And I mention that because we're going to be hearing a message from the Song of Solomon today from Pastor Tommy Nelson that is also for mature audiences, and I just want to encourage parents to use some discretion about who ought to be tuned in, because we're going to be listening in as Solomon and the Shulamite woman talk about their honeymoon.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0We're going to the Song of Solomon, and we are going to visit the Shulamite woman and Solomon as they start out their marriage, and it is one of the more intense and perhaps the most intimate passages in all of Scripture as we look into the marriage bedroom of a couple who are starting out their relationship together.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And here on the broadcast to help us do it today is Tommy Nelson.\u00a0 He is the pastor of Denton Bible Church since 1977.\u00a0 He speaks for Campus Crusade for Christ Christmas conferences, for Fellowship of Christian Athletes, he has taught this book for \u2013 well, I don't know, how many years he's been teaching this at this singles Bible study in Denton, but he has a Metro Bible Study that's weekly.\u00a0 And, for this series, he had 3,500 single people jammed into an auditorium wanting to get God's perspective of human sexuality.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And if they did not sign up for marriage after this session \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0\u2026 whew \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0[laughs]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Well, you know, and some of our listeners are going to feel uncomfortable for those single people at this point, and I would say to you, if so, why did God put this book in the Bible in the first place?\u00a0 This book is just as inspired as the Book of John, and this book needs to be visited especially among singles, among those who are preparing for marriage, and, most importantly, I think this book needs to be dusted off for married couples and revisit the whole spiritual context of romance and how God designed us to experience that in the first place, Bob.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Tommy Nelson has been married for more than 20 years, and I like his sense of human because, frankly, you need it at points in this study.\u00a0 But he is on target as he helps us regain God's perspective of human sexuality within the context of a marriage relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, once again, we are headed to the honeymoon, and so some of this material will not be appropriate for younger children, but I'm sure our listeners will agree, as they listen, that it is inspiring to hear God's view of human sexuality, and that's what Tommy Nelson is going to bring us today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTommy:\u00a0(From audiotape.) Fellows, write it down \u2013 \"Sex is gentle.\"\u00a0 I'm going to give you guys some help right here that's going to save you more trouble, because you're all inept, you just don't know you're inept.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Number one, whenever you have sex with your wife, especially on your honeymoon, you most slow.\u00a0 One of the guys that taught me when I was in college said to me, he said, \"Listen\" \u2013 and he was a pretty hardened kind of a guy that came to the Lord and married this little girl that had never been kissed, and he said he got the idea that in their honeymoon he could now exercise every fantasy he ever had.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And he came out of the bathroom like Conan, all right, and just kind of poured out all of his passion on her, and he said, \"I scarred her, and it took years of counseling to get her to where she needed to be and me where I needed to be.\"\u00a0 You move slow on your honeymoon night \u2013 and anytime.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Secondly, a big one \u2013 there are parameters that you and your mate will share.\u00a0 When you make love to your wife, a man's parameters of sexual enjoyment generally will be a lot more erotic than a woman's.\u00a0 How far can a man go?\u00a0 As far as your wife is not demeaned.\u00a0 If she has a problem with something, then you stop.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And, incidentally, do you know what you're going to have to do?\u00a0 And I make couples do this before they get married \u2013 I make them talk, and they get to talk about \u2013 and the fellow will say, \"What about that?\"\u00a0 And it may surprise him.\u00a0 She'll go \"Whoa, Solomon.\"\u00a0 All right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Here's the big one, this is going to save you more trouble.\u00a0 How are you going to have sex when you get married?\u00a0 How are you going to know if your wife's excited?\u00a0 Guys are always excited.\u00a0 How do you know your wife is going to be excited.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Do you drop hints at dinner?\u00a0 \"Boy, it was a real exciting day.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0How do you let your wife know that you want to have sex?\u00a0 Well, what you do is you get signals, and you pick up signals.\u00a0 A lot of couples have frustration over this because they don't have signals.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0When a bunch of guys get together, and they can laugh and all of them don't ever talk about it to their wives, but they all know that there are signals, and you've just got to learn your signals.\u00a0 For some guys, it's a certain kind of perfume, they may wear a certain cologne.\u00a0 One guy told me, he said, \"When I put on a certain bathrobe,\" my wife knows.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Number three, watch this \u2013 sex is exhilarating.\u00a0 Look at that in verse 6 \u2013 \"Until the cool of the day when the shadows flee away\" \u2013 that's talking about morning time \u2013 \"all night long I will go to the mountain of myrrh and the hill of frankincense.\"\u00a0 What's the mountain of myrrh and the hill of frankincense?\u00a0 See also the chapter before \u2013 the twin hills, the hills of Bether.\u00a0 He's talking about the breasts of his wife, and this guy says, \"All night long I, the stag, am going on my wife in a joyous way until the morning rolls around.\"\u00a0 The Word of God, isn't that great?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0How passionate is that?\u00a0 You let your imagination run, because you are meant to.\u00a0 This is why Jewish boys were not to read this book until they were older and down the line because it is exciting.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Incidentally, do you know that in England years ago young girls were told during their honeymoons to lie there and think of the queen \u2013 meaning that you endure sex to have babies to fight for the Empire.\u00a0 Isn't that terrible?\u00a0 It was an early Christian teaching that the original sin was sex \u2013 the original sin was sex.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0\"All night long this stag is going to his twin mountains.\"\u00a0 You won't find that in a Navigator verse memory pack, all right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Verse 7 \u2013 something else, fellows, is that sex is scary \u2013 that's number 4.\u00a0 Sex is frightening.\u00a0 Look how this fellow speaks to his wife \u2013 \"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, there is no blemish in you.\"\u00a0 Girls, do you remember in chapter 1 what she said?\u00a0 \"Don't stare at me because I am swarthy, the sun has burned me.\"\u00a0 Fellows, let me tell you the most painful thing you can do to your wife is on her honeymoon night or at any time when your wife disrobes, and you look at her naked body, you say something disparaging, and she will never forget it, and you will hurt her so deeply.\u00a0 All women tend to be self-conscious about their bodies, and there are some things that they would change.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I knew of a couple once that was married, had a number of kids, three, four kids, and had never seen each other naked.\u00a0 That's a bad deal.\u00a0 No, this man lets her know \u2013 and fellows, you're going to marry girls that want to lose some weight, and when they have kids, they're going to get all stretched out.\u00a0 You're going to have some girls that wish this was different and wish that was different \u2013 you let her know from the top of your head right down your body, you are the most lovely woman on the face of this earth.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Ladies, do you think you would feel like giving yourself to a fellow that can take your teeth, your hair, your eyes, your cheeks, your neck, your breasts, your body, and say, \"You are absolutely perfect.\"\u00a0 Of course, you'd feel like giving yourself.\u00a0 This guy is a loving man.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Verse 8 \u2013 number 5, sex is the means of union in marriage.\u00a0 He says, \"Come away from Lebanon, my bride, come with me from Lebanon and journey from the summit of Amana, from the summit of Shenir and Hermon, the den of lions, the mountains of leopards.\"\u00a0 He is calling her away, and the two are going to become one flesh.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I'll tell you where my opinion is on this \u2013 whenever I marry a couple, and I say, \"I give you Mr. and Mrs. Whatever, what God has joined together let no man set asunder.\"\u00a0 Actually, that is not a completely correct statement, because you are not one until you have sex.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You have a spiritual commitment, an emotional commitment, a financial commitment, a domestic commitment, and then you mesh your bodies, you mesh your emotions, you take your DNA, you wrap it around her DNA, you create a being in the image of the God that looks like the both of you.\u00a0 That is oneness.\u00a0 And so marriage and sex is the means by which oneness occurs.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And if I married a couple right here that walked out, and they came back two months later and said, \"We have never consummated the union.\u00a0 We fought, we've got some problems, we've never come together.\"\u00a0 I personally would not consider that a marriage.\u00a0 I marry them in the belief that they are going to consummate it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0In verse 9 \u2013 sex is sensuous.\u00a0 \"You have made my heart beat faster, my sister, my bride.\u00a0 You have made my heart beat faster with a single glance of your eyes\" \u2013 that's sight \u2013 \"with a single glance of your necklace\" \u2013 now watch verse 10 \u2013 smell \u2013 \"How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride, how much better is your love than wine.\u00a0 The fragrance of your oils and kinds of spices\" \u2013 he smells her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Verse 11 \u2013 he touches her.\u00a0 \"Your lips, my bride, drip honey.\u00a0 Honey and milk are under your tongue.\"\u00a0 What kind of kiss is that?\u00a0 That is a French kiss.\u00a0 France did not become a country until the Treat of Verdun in the 9th century A.D.\u00a0 This is 1,000 B.C.\u00a0 It predates a French kiss by 19 centuries.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0No, this is a Hebrew kiss.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0He keeps going \u2013 \"The fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.\"\u00a0 Sex is sensuous. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Now watch verse 12 \u2013 sex is holy.\u00a0 \"A garden locked is my sister, my bride, a rock garden locked, a spring sealed.\u00a0 A man's sexuality in the Book of Proverbs is spoken of as a spring, for very obvious reasons.\u00a0 Do not cast your springs into the street.\u00a0 That's what it's called for a man to go into a harlot \u2013 to take his sperm and to cast it into the dirt.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0The woman's sexuality, for obvious reasons, is called a \"well.\"\u00a0 A spring goes into a well.\u00a0 It's a classic picture.\u00a0 Fellows, do you notice what this fellow calls his wife prior to their sex act?\u00a0 He says she is a \"Well of fresh water that is sealed.\"\u00a0 There is a spiritual hymen between this man and this woman.\u00a0 He will not touch her.\u00a0 Fellows, he has kept her a virgin.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Verse 15 \u2013 the well is opened.\u00a0 Do you see it, fellows?\u00a0 Look at it.\u00a0 The well is now opened.\u00a0 Her sexuality is now given to him.\u00a0 \"You are a garden spring, a well of fresh water, and streams flowing from Lebanon.\"\u00a0 I think the interpretation of that is as blatant as you can see.\u00a0 It is the sexuality and the anatomy of that woman, and she is open to this man.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0In verse 16 \u2013 sex is responsive.\u00a0 Number 8, she says \u2013 now, ladies, watch this \u2013 what's the phrase this man has said to her twice in the book?\u00a0 Ladies, have you caught it?\u00a0 \"Do not arouse or awaken love until it pleases.\"\u00a0 In verse 16, girls, what's the first word she says to her husband?\u00a0 \"Awake, north wind strong, come, wind of the south, gentle, and make my garden breathe.\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Listen, that's the most erotic verse in the Bible.\u00a0 This is a woman who has been cared for, loved, nurtured, on the honeymoon night he talks to her, he looks at her naked body, he compliments her, he calls her to him.\u00a0 He looks at her, he kisses her, he excites her, and now she invites him into her sexuality, and she gives herself to him.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Make a note, ladies, this woman is responsive.\u00a0 What is excitement to a man?\u00a0 Four things \u2013 number one, what he hears.\u00a0 You're kidding?\u00a0 It's what he hears.\u00a0 You remember that on your honeymoon night.\u00a0 No husband will ever say to his wife during sex, \"Shhhh.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You tell him how you feel, and there's going to be a lot of education you have to do with your husband.\u00a0 So first, it's sound.\u00a0 Do you know what the second thing is?\u00a0 It's what he sees.\u00a0 It's exciting to a man what he sees.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Ladies, invest, after you get married, remember this \u2013 invest in negligees.\u00a0 Guys, there is a negligee that women are issued, and it comes from Moosejaw, Alaska.\u00a0 They all have them.\u00a0 It's made out of seal, it's about that thick.\u00a0 It's got these big holes in it, all right, and it was passed down from generation to generation.\u00a0 And it ain't the most exciting thing in the world, and a guy gets excited by what he sees.\u00a0 That's one of the great investments a woman can make is a nightgown \u2013 something nice.\u00a0 A lot of women never know about that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, we better move on.\u00a0 Chapter 5, verse 1 \u2013 sex is nourishing.\u00a0 \"I have come\" \u2013 now, in chapter 5, verse 1, we're about finished here \u2013 do you all notice the verb tense change?\u00a0 Look close at the verse.\u00a0 We shifted, didn't we?\u00a0 \"I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride, my myrrh, my balsam, my honeycomb, my honey, my wine, my milk.\"\u00a0 But did you see what's mentioned nine times?\u00a0 You're mine, mine, mine, mine, mine, mine, mine, mine, mine, and \"I am nourished on you.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Guys, do you know what's the most exciting thing in the world with your wife?\u00a0 It's to have a woman that you love, that you care for, that you're one with, that you romance, that you treat tender, and after you love each other, to take this woman and just to hold her on the crook of your arm and to hold her close and to pray and to say, \"I thank thee, O God, for this woman.\"\u00a0 And for her to pray and just hold you close and say, \"Father, thank you for my husband who loves me so tenderly.\"\u00a0 It doesn't get any better than that.\u00a0 Sex is nourishing.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And in your last two lines, sex is pleasing to God.\u00a0 This is the only line God speaks in the book.\u00a0 \"Eat, friends, drink, imbibe deeply, O lovers,\" meaning, \"It's my gift, go for it, and enjoy it.\"\u00a0 This is not sex done under an alias in a motel or in a back seat or hiding it from your friends.\u00a0 This is open in the face of God, and God says enjoy it.\u00a0 That's what sex is meant to be.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, we have been listening together to Tommy Nelson talking about what the honeymoon night was like for Solomon and the Shulamite woman from the Song of Solomon, and Tommy just kind of laid it out there, Dennis.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, and, you know, Bob, the thing that hit me when I was reading through the Song of Solomon is this verse where God almost reaches down out of heaven and puts His stamp of approval upon the marriage bed, and He encourages them within their relationship, within the commitment of marriage, to participate, to drink deeply, to share, to enter into this privilege of physical, emotional, spiritual intimacy with your spouse.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And I think today it is so difficult for even Christians to maintain God's perspective of sex and marriage, because what God designed, the world has degenerated.\u00a0 It is twisted, and it has soiled it.\u00a0 But God is in the business of changing people's lives, He redeems us, and He wants to set our feet on solid ground, and He wants us to experience all that he intended in the marriage relationship in this area of human sexuality.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You know, I remember back when my sister-in-law got married, Mary Ann and I sent her a set of these CDs just before the wedding, and we said, \"This may be a good time for you to listen to these and listen with a fairly attentive ear.\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I think it is helpful for couples to have our minds renewed with God's Word on this subject, whether we're getting married, or whether we've been married, we all have become so culturally polluted on this subject, we need to be reminded again and again of what the Scriptures have to say about romance and intimacy. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We've given this as a shower gift to couples who are getting married, and if you're attending a wedding shower anytime soon, you may want to include a set of these CDs along with whatever else you give as a wedding shower gift.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We've go the complete audio series available in our FamilyLife Resource Center.\u00a0 It's more than six hours' worth of teaching from the Song of Solomon on six different CDs, and we include, along with it, a paperback study guide so that you can go through the series and follow along with the study guide or use this in a small group setting. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0If you'd like more information about this resource go to our website, FamilyLife.com, click the red heart that you'll see in the middle of the home page.\u00a0 It's a red button that says \"Go\" on it, and if you click that, it will take you right to a page where there is more information about the CD series from Tommy Nelson on the Song of Solomon, and there is information about other resources on romance and intimacy available from us here at FamilyLife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Again, our website is FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 Click the red button that says \"Go\" in the middle of the home page, and that will take you right to the screen where you'll find the information about the Song of Solomon series.\u00a0 Or call us at 1-800-FLTODAY, that's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY, and someone will be available who can answer any questions you might have about the resources we're talking about here or who can make arrangements to have this CD series sent out to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0By the way, when you get in touch with us, someone may ask you if you'd like to help with a donation for the ministry of FamilyLife Today, and the reason for that is because we're a nonprofit organization.\u00a0 We are dependent on donations from folks like you in order to continue the ministry of FamilyLife Today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0In fact, we couldn't be on this station today if it weren't for folks who, in the past, have made donations to help support the ministry.\u00a0 And so when someone gets in touch with us, we ask if you'd like to help out as well, and we want you to know there's no pressure.\u00a0 We don't want you to feel like you're under any kind of an obligation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But this month, if you are able to help with a donation of any amount, we'd love to send you a thank you gift.\u00a0 It's a CD that features two messages from our friends, C.J. and Carolyn Mahaney on the subject of romance, actually taken from a series they've done on the Song of Solomon.\u00a0 On this CD, C.J. speaks to husbands about what we need to keep in mind related to our wife's romantic needs, and then Carolyn talks to wives about understanding their husbands better.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0The CD is our thank you gift when you make a donation of any amount this month to the ministry of FamilyLife Today, and you can do that online at FamilyLife.com, and if you fill out the donation form there online, when you come to the keycode box, type in the word \"love,\" and we'll know to send this CD to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Or call 1-800-FLTODAY.\u00a0 You can make a donation over the phone.\u00a0 Again, it's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY, and when you make your donation just mention that you'd like the Mahaney CD or the CD on romance, and we'll know what you're talking about, and we'll be happy to send it out to you.\u00a0 Again, it's our way of saying thanks for your financial partnership and for your donation to the ministry of FamilyLife Today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You know, as we've heard Tommy Nelson talk to us today from the Song of Solomon about a healthy relationship between a husband and a wife; a healthy marital relationship, there are undoubtedly some of our listeners who would look back over their lives with some regret; who would say, you know, \"I've blown it in the past.\u00a0 I'm aware of my failures,\" or some who would look and say, you know, this standard that Tommy is talking about is too high.\u00a0 I don't feel like I can keep it.\u00a0 And we want you to know there's hope.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Tommy Nelson's got a word for us today about the hope and the help that God provides as you seek to keep God's standard.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTommy:\u00a0(From audiotape.)\u00a0 The marvelous thing about the morality of the Bible is that it simply doesn't give a standard.\u00a0 There is a person who died for our violation of it.\u00a0 There is a word that guides us in our illumination to righteousness, there is a Spirit we can yield ourselves.\u00a0 If you do not know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior this evening, could I say to you that the only people that can have sex and can have it right are holy men and godly women.\u00a0 That's when it's to be done as it should.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0FamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas, a ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t________________________________________________________________\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts for you. 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