{"id":301206,"date":"2006-10-03T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2006-10-03T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/the-home-is-the-key-part-2\/"},"modified":"2024-10-07T22:42:28","modified_gmt":"2024-10-08T02:42:28","slug":"the-home-is-the-key-part-2","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-home-is-the-key-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"The Home is the Key, Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Voddie Baucham points to the fallout society has seen as a result of Christians failing to obey their parents.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-10-03.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"11.35M","filesize_raw":"11902688","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2806],"tags":[4722,2209],"podcast_series":[7476],"cwp_profile":[8805],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-301206","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spiritual-development","tag-christianity","tag-parenting","podcast_series-closing-the-generation-gap","cwp_profile-voddie-baucham","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/301206\/the-home-is-the-key-part-2","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/301206\/the-home-is-the-key-part-2","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"j9W1WMUafz\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-home-is-the-key-part-2\/\">The Home is the Key, Part 2<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-home-is-the-key-part-2\/embed\/#?secret=j9W1WMUafz\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;The Home is the Key, Part 2&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"j9W1WMUafz\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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parents.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-10-03.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\tVoddie:\u00a0First of all, the Fifth Commandment is the first of the horizontal commandments.\u00a0 There's Ten Commandments, the first four are vertical, last six, horizontal.\u00a0 Number one on the hit parade of the horizontal commandments, the man-to-man commandments, number one is honor your father and your mother, which means there is nothing that the church can teach a child that is more important than honoring their father and their mother.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Tuesday, October 3rd.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 So just how important is this principle of honoring our parents?\u00a0 We'll find out from Dr. Voddie Baucham today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us on the Tuesday edition.\u00a0 You are still saying \"amen,\" and even a day later you are still holding up the hornet's nest and saying, \"Come on, preach it, Voddie.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Well, I brought the hornet's nest in on the broadcast earlier this week because it was symbolic that we had a guest here on FamilyLife Today, or at least the message we're featuring here by Dr. Voddie Baucham, who is a Southern Baptist pastor, and he was speaking to a group of Southern Baptist pastors at the Texas Baptist Convention, and I think in Houston, and I spoke to a group of pastors one time and actually bought \u2013 that's right, folks, I bought a hornet's nest off eBay, and \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You know, there are going to be people looking in eBay right now.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0They will.\u00a0 What do you pay for a hornet's nest?\u00a0 But I bought this years ago before the price of hornet's nests went up down in Florida, and it's a big one.\u00a0 It is a monster.\u00a0 But there's not many guests we've had on the broadcast for two days, but the hornet's nest, we've had here on the table for two days.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But you are about to hear a message that is going to stir you, I think, as a parent, to action.\u00a0 Dr. Baucham is a straight-shooter, as you're going to hear.\u00a0 He is passionate, and he is calling these pastors as well as parents to take responsibility for their assignment to spiritually love and lead and serve the next generation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And as we start part 2 of his message, he's talking about one of the most familiar verses that parents know of in the Bible \u2013 Ephesians 6:1, but he says we better understand that verse in context.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[from audiotape]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tVoddie:\u00a0\"Children, obey your parents and the Lord, for this is right.\"\u00a0 Now, in order to understand the context of that verse, you've got to back up to the paragraph before it.\u00a0 You back up to the paragraph before it, and you start with, \"Husbands, love your wives as Christ also loved the church.\"\u00a0 The problem with that is, you get there, you've got to back up to the paragraph before that one to see the context of this section \u2013 \"Wives, be subject to your own husbands as to the Lord.\"\u00a0 The problem with that is that it is the beginning of the section, but it's got no verb.\u00a0 I know what you're saying.\u00a0 You've got a verb right there \u2013 \"be subject\" \u2013 isn't that the verb?\u00a0 It ought to be italicized in your Bible.\u00a0 The reason it's italicized is because it's borrowed from verse 21.\u00a0 In the Greek, there is no verb there in verse 22.\u00a0 So it's borrowed from verse 21. The problem with starting with verse 21, if you start with verse 21, you start at the end of a paragraph, and you can't do that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So in order to understand the context of Ephesians, chapter 6, verse 1, you've got to go all the way back to Ephesians, chapter 5, and verse 15 \u2013 trust me, we're going somewhere.\u00a0 When you back up to Ephesians, chapter 5 and verse 15, here is what you get \u2013 you get three contrasts, and then you get three commands, and then you get three contexts, all right?\u00a0 Three contrasts \u2013 let's look at them beginning at verse 15.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0\"Therefore, be careful how you walk not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time because the days are evil.\"\u00a0 That's contrast number one.\u00a0 Contrast number two, next verse \u2013 \"So, then, do not be foolish but understand what the will of the Lord is.\"\u00a0 That's the second contrast \u2013 don't be foolish, understand the Lord's will.\u00a0 Third contrast, \"Did I get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the spirit.\u00a0 On the third contrast, you get three commands.\u00a0 Those three commands are connected to the third contrast.\u00a0 Look at what he says beginning\u00a0 with verse 19.\u00a0 How do you know somebody is living a spirit-filled life?\u00a0 Verse 19 \u2013 \"Speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs; singing and making melody in your hearts to the Lord.\"\u00a0 If you show me a worshipful person, I'll show you a person who is, more than likely, being controlled by the spirit of God.\u00a0 Show me a person who is not a worshipful person, and I'll show you somebody who, more than likely, is not being controlled and is not yielding to the spirit of God.\u00a0 You can't tell me that somebody is spirit-filled, and they're not worshipful.\u00a0 The two just don't go together, fair enough?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Look at the next verse, here is the next command, verse 20 \u2013 \"Always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the Father.\"\u00a0 So you are a worshipful person; secondly, you are prayerfully thankful \u2013 prayerfully thankful.\u00a0 Show me somebody who is prayerfully thankful, and I'll show you somebody who is probably being controlled by the spirit of God.\u00a0 Show me somebody who is neither prayer nor thankful, and I'll show you somebody who is not spirit-filled.\u00a0 Fair enough?\u00a0 Those were easy.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Verse 21 \u2013 \"Be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.\"\u00a0 Show me somebody who submits to proper biblical authority in their life, and I'll show you somebody who is spirit-filled.\u00a0 Show me somebody who does not submit to proper biblical authority in their life, and I'll show you somebody who is not spirit-filled.\u00a0 Now, go to chapter 6 and verse 1 and look at it in context \u2013 \"Children, obey your parents in the Lord for this is right.\"\u00a0 In other words, three contrasts, three commands, on the third command you get three contexts \u2013 context number one, wives and husbands; context number two, children and parents; context number three, servants and masters.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Here is what he's saying in verse 1 \u2013 \"Show me a child who is not submissive to their parents' authority, and I'll show you a child who has not yielded to the spirit of God.\u00a0 So, number one, we see the centrality of the home in the context here.\u00a0 He says, do you want to take the spiritual temperature of a young person \u2013 you take the spiritual of a young person by whether or not they are submissive to the authority of their parents.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Secondly, look at the centrality in the home in his use of the fifth commandment.\u00a0 Look what he says there \u2013 the next verse \u2013 \"Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with the promise that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.\"\u00a0 Now, as Americans, we're rugged individualists, so the first thing we want to do with this verse is we want to say, \"That's talking to the individual child.\"\u00a0 Child, you obey me, you'll have a long, prosperous life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0No, no, understand the significance of the fifth commandment.\u00a0 First of all, the fifth commandment is the first of the horizontal commandments.\u00a0 There's ten commandments \u2013 the first four vertical, the last six horizontal.\u00a0 Number one on the hit parade of the horizontal commandments, the man-to-man commandments, number one is \"Honor your father and your mother,\" which means there is nothing that the church can teach a child that is more important than honoring their father and their mother.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Now, not only do we see it because of the position, secondly, we see it because of a promise.\u00a0 That's the first one with a promise.\u00a0 That's huge.\u00a0 Do you know what the first four commandments are?\u00a0 Commandment number one \u2013 \"I'm God, you don't get another one.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0\"Lord, can we get a promise with that one?\"\u00a0 \"Uh-uh, no promise, just do it.\"\u00a0 Commandment number two \u2013 \"Don't even make nothing that look like me.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0\"Okay, God, can we get a promise with that one?\"\u00a0 \"Uh-uh, just do it.\"\u00a0 Commandment number three \u2013 \"Don't even mess with my name.\"\u00a0 \"Okay, God, that's kind of serious right there.\u00a0 You've got to give us a promise on that one.\"\u00a0 \"Uh-uh.\"\u00a0 Commandment number four \u2013 \"Don't even mess with my day.\"\u00a0 \"Now, wait a minute, now, you know, I want my boy to be a baseball player and most of the teams, you know, you have to go and we've got to play on Sunday sometime and, God, I'm sure you'll \u2013 \"Don't mess with my day.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[applause] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0\"Do we get a promise with that one, Lord.\"\u00a0 \"No promise.\"\u00a0 Commandment number five \u2013 \"Honor your father and your mother.\"\u00a0 \"I get a promise with that one, God?\"\u00a0 \"You better believe you can.\u00a0 On that one, I'll give you a promise.\"\u00a0 Do you see the importance of the fifth commandment?\u00a0 The fact that it's the first one with a promise screams of its importance.\u00a0 Now, listen to this \u2013 the fifth commandment was not for the individual child, it was for the community of faith.\u00a0 Here is what the fifth commandment is about \u2013 remember, we get them in Deuteronomy 5.\u00a0 In Deuteronomy chapter 6, what does He teach us?\u00a0 He teaches us how to disciple our children in our homes.\u00a0 He teaches us \u2013 \"Listen, Israel, hear O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one, you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your might.\u00a0 These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your hearts, and you shall teach them diligently to your sons.\u00a0 When you lie down, when you rise up, and when you walk along the way, disciple your children.\"\u00a0 Can I give it to somebody else to do?\u00a0 No!\u00a0 It is your job as parents.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[applause] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Listen to me \u2013 you're clapping, but almost every one of you has a youth ministry in your church that is operating unbiblically, and I'm not talking about including more parents in what we do.\u00a0 I'm talking about changing the entire paradigm.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because here is the purpose of the fifth commandment \u2013 God says you are my people, but you are about to go into a pagan land where they worship pagan gods.\u00a0 If you want to continue to be my people, here is what you must do.\u00a0 Number one, you must have a boatload of kids.\u00a0 That's what it means to multiply greatly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0By the way, when He sends them into the Promised Land, what does he say to them in Deuteronomy \u2013 that they are to multiply greatly so that when he sends them into the Promised Land, they won't disappear as God's people.\u00a0 When He sends them into exile in Jeremiah 29, what does He say \u2013 \"Multiply greatly.\"\u00a0 You want to avoid disappearing in the midst of a pagan culture?\u00a0 Outbreed them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0There are some of us in the room who need to repent because of our attitude toward children and because of what we've said to people communicating our attitude and not the biblical attitude toward children.\u00a0 Some of us need to get on our faces before a holy God because we have mocked being fruitful.\u00a0 Children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward, our attitude from here is why a lot of people out there aren't having enough kids.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0It starts with us, and it all goes back to prosperity.\u00a0 God help us.\u00a0 We're dying one generation at a time because we refuse to receive the gift that God wants to bring through the womb.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Finally, in case you don't understand what He said by the context of this passage, and in case you don't understand what He said by Him pointing to the Fifth Commandment, how about a plain, black-and-white, straightforward word?\u00a0 Verse 4 \u2013 \"And, fathers\" \u2013 and fathers \u2013 \"do not provoke your children to anger but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.\"\u00a0 It doesn't get clearer than that, folks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0The context of this passage says the home is central in the evangelism and discipleship of the next generation.\u00a0 The fact that He points to the Fifth Commandment screams that the home is central in the evangelism and discipleship of the next generation, and then, in case we didn't get those two hints, he says it in black and white \u2013 \"Fathers, disciple your children.\"\u00a0 Fathers.\u00a0 If we believe this, then why is it that we've done everything in our power not to allow that to happen.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And I hear you.\u00a0 We're going back to this whole thing, I understand that, but they're just not equipped, they just don't know.\u00a0 Here's what's interesting.\u00a0 If the people in your church are not tithing, you don't start a ministry to tithe for them, do you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0No, you simply teach them and expect them to do what the Bible says is their job.\u00a0 If it works for tithing, why don't we think it will work for the discipleship of the next generation?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So what do we do with this?\u00a0 I'm not telling you you ought to go fire your youth pastors tomorrow.\u00a0 That's not what I'm saying here.\u00a0 But we have to completely revamp our philosophies.\u00a0 In the last couple of minutes that I have left, let me give you a few things that we must do.\u00a0 Number one, I beseech you, if you don't have a biblical view of children, get on your face before almighty God and repent.\u00a0 And if you have been mocking children from your pulpit, and if you, like one pastor \u2013 one pastor that I talked to recently, he said, \"Brother, when you said that here's what I thought \u2013 the first thought that came to my mind was last week I talked to my people and I told them that we thought my wife was pregnant, and when I said that, I told them that after we found out that she wasn't, I said, 'Whew, we had a close call.'\"\u00a0 He said, \"I need to go get on my face right now, because I communicated to my people that children are a cure and a scourge and not a blessing.\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo not make a mockery of children.\u00a0 You encourage people to welcome children into their homes.\u00a0 You throw a banquet when that woman walks into your church with six or seven kids behind her.\u00a0 You honor her and let everybody see you do it because if it weren't for women like her, we'd have no future.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSecondly, you have youth ministry in your church, and you have a mission statement.\u00a0 You line it up against what we looked at in Scripture, and if it's wrong on its biblical and theological merit, you crumble it up, put it in the trash and start over.\u00a0 Because it will not change until we change our entire mentality about what it means to disciple the next generation.\u00a0 Our entire mentality has to change.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThirdly, and this is the toughest one to talk about \u2013 we have to adopt a biblical view of church leadership.\u00a0 I want to tell you something \u2013 there are two skills required of a pastor and only two skills.\u00a0 There are a lot of character qualities that are required but only two skills.\u00a0 Number one, he must be able to teach.\u00a0 Number two, he must manage his household well.\u00a0 Our churches are filled with biblically disqualified pastors.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTitus, chapter 1, makes it clear \u2013 if you do not have faithful children, and if your children are accused of rebellion or dissipation, you are disqualified biblically.\u00a0 And you hear that, and I know we hear that, and we go, \"Oh, brother, that's harsh.\u00a0 Nobody's perfect.\"\u00a0 Listen to me \u2013 the same passage says \u2013 and here's what boggles my mind \u2013 same passage, same paragraph \u2013 \"must not be addicted to wine.\"\u00a0 That says he must not be a drunkard.\u00a0 He must not drink in excess.\u00a0 We say he can't drink at all.\u00a0 Listen to me, I'm not a drinker, I'm not promoting drinking.\u00a0 I've never had a drink.\u00a0 Not drinking is easy for me, and it's easy for most of you because most of you never drink, and you stick your chest out and pop your collar because you don't drink.\u00a0 It means nothing to you unless you've been an alcoholic.\u00a0 It is not hard for you to do.\u00a0 Discipling your family is a different story, and it amazes me that in the same paragraph we take one of those requirements and raise it and the other one and lower it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo you want to know why our families are in turmoil?\u00a0 Because most of you, when you got hired at the church that you're at right now, they never even met your family.\u00a0 They heard you preach and voted on you.\u00a0 When the Bible says if you're not discipling your children in an exemplary fashion, you are not worthy of being called a pastor.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0From the top down, we are wrong on the family, and we are losing the culture war one family at a time.\u00a0 And we have gotten so pathetic that now there is a euphemism in our culture called the \"PK.\"\u00a0 Why do we use that term as a euphemism?\u00a0 Because pastors' kids who live like they were raised by the devil has almost become the norm.\u00a0 If the church is a corporation, that's completely acceptable, because all you have to do is stand at the top of a machine and make sure that people go in one side of it and out the other, and that there is more of them going through the machine next year than this year, but if the church is a family of families, and if God is serious about families being expected and equipped to disciple their children, then the people who stand at the helm had better be exemplary husbands and exemplary fathers.\u00a0 And until we believe that, we'll continue to lose the culture war one family at time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Listen to this from Richard Baxter in \"The Reformed Pastor\" \u2013 \"If you were ungodly and teach not your families the fear of God nor contradict the sins of the company you are in nor turn the stream of their vain talking nor deal with them plainly about their salvation, they will take it as if you preached to them that such things are needless, and that they may boldly do so as well as you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We will never be able to tell our children to raise and disciple a houseful of warriors for Christ if we don't begin to do it from the top.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[applause] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[end audiotape]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, again, that is Dr. Voddie Baucham who is \u2013 well, he's preaching.\u00a0 He's gone from preaching to meddling, I think, don't you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I wonder if they elected him president of the state \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0\u2026 convention?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0\u2026 convention as a result of that message?\u00a0 We'll just see about that.\u00a0 That will be cool if they do.\u00a0 He was a straight shooter, though, no doubt about it.\u00a0 You know, I think there are two applications here very quickly.\u00a0 Number one, if you have a pastor you have a relationship with, and you can get a copy of this message, call us and order a copy and get a copy of a book I wrote called \"One Home at a Time,\" that really spells out how to go about doing this \u2013 the very thing he's talking about.\u00a0 I think all of us, as laymen, underplay sometimes the influence we can have on our pastors to encourage them \u2013 not to condemn them and not to throw a stone at them like we've been talking about throwing stones at hornet's nests, but I think a message like that can encourage him where perhaps few can.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But then, secondly, as a parent, don't blame the church, don't throw a stone at your pastor if they haven't done what he's talking about for you.\u00a0 Instead, you get busy about your responsibility and perhaps this book, \"One Home at a Time,\" will lay the charge and the challenge and mandate down to you in a very crisp, clear way, and that was really my goal, Bob, in writing this book.\u00a0 \"One Home at a Time\" spells out how we need to retake the soul of America and recraft the next generation by going to work at home in our own homes, one home at a time, and spiritually leading and loving our children, and I think this book does a great job of giving laymen and women and pastors a way that they can do that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Yeah, a big part of your premise here is that the fiber of a nation really is a reflection of what's going on in homes, and if we're doing well in homes, we're doing well as a nation, and if we're not doing well in homes, then we've got problems as a culture.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We've got copies of your book in our FamilyLife Resource Center.\u00a0 Our listeners can go to the website, FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 In the center of the home page, there's a red button that says \"Go,\" and if you'll click that button, it will take you right to a page where you can get more information about Dennis's book.\u00a0 You can contact us to order a copy, if you'd like.\u00a0 There's also information about the message that we've heard this week from Dr. Voddie Baucham and a book that he has written, which is called \"The Everloving Truth \u2013 How Faith Can Thrive in a Post-Christian Culture.\"\u00a0 It's a very helpful book for us as parents.\u00a0 Also something for high school or college students to go through and, again, there are copies of it in our FamilyLife Resource Center.\u00a0 You can get more information about the book when you go online at FamilyLife.com or call us at 1-800-FLTODAY.\u00a0 That's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY, and we'll let you know how you can have this sent out to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You know, our team here at FamilyLife, I think, has come up with a great way this month to say thank you to those of you who are listeners who can help support the ministry of FamilyLife Today with a financial contribution.\u00a0 We are listener-supported, and so those donations that come from folks like you are essential for our ministry.\u00a0 And, not long ago, your wife Barbara was speaking with a group of women on the subject of what a wife can do to help her husband be the man that God wants him to be.\u00a0 The ladies loved the message, and so we thought we would make the CD of this message available to any of our listeners who can help us in October with a donation of any amount to support the ongoing ministry of FamilyLife Today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Go to our website, FamilyLife.com, there's a donation form you can fill out there, and as you're filling it out, when you come to the keycode box, if you'd like the CD from Barbara Rainey, just type those two letters, \"CD\" into the keycode box, and we'll know that you want that sent to you.\u00a0 Or call and make a donation at 1-800-FLTODAY and just mention that you'd like Barbara's CD, and our team will know to send that out to you as well.\u00a0 Again, it's our thank you for your financial support of this ministry, and we do appreciate hearing from you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Now, tomorrow, talking about passing along faith to the next generation, Sean McDowell is going to be joining us.\u00a0 Some of you know his dad, Josh.\u00a0 Sean is a high school teacher from Southern California, and we're going to talk about what high school students believe and about what they don't believe and about how we can press biblical truth into their hearts even when it feels like we're swimming upstream sometimes.\u00a0 That's coming up tomorrow, I hope you can be back with us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We'll see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0FamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas, a ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you.\u00a0 However, there is a cost to transcribe, create, and produce them for our website.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would\u00a0\u00a0 you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/site\/c.dnJHKLNnFoG\/b.3782043\/k.384D\/Support_Us.htm\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the 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