{"id":301202,"date":"2006-09-27T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2006-09-27T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/a-word-about-humility\/"},"modified":"2024-10-07T22:42:27","modified_gmt":"2024-10-08T02:42:27","slug":"a-word-about-humility","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/a-word-about-humility\/","title":{"rendered":"A Word About Humility"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tim Kimmel talks about how parents can cultivate character, humility, gratefulness and a servant spirit in their children.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-09-27.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"","filesize_raw":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2850],"tags":[4350,2209],"podcast_series":[7475],"cwp_profile":[3058],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-301202","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-character-development","tag-character","tag-parenting","podcast_series-raising-kids-for-true-greatness","cwp_profile-tim-kimmel","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/301202\/a-word-about-humility","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/301202\/a-word-about-humility","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"xCjzcDdKXG\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/a-word-about-humility\/\">A Word About Humility<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/a-word-about-humility\/embed\/#?secret=xCjzcDdKXG\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;A Word About Humility&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"xCjzcDdKXG\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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children.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-09-27.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0As we raise our children, there are some things that really matter and some things that are less important.\u00a0 As Dr. Tim Kimmel points out, events in human history can have a way of helping to clarify which is which.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0One day in recent history permanently seared its mark into America's conscious -- September 11, 2001.\u00a0 Many successful people found themselves trapped in the clutches of this ghastly event.\u00a0 At 9:03 that Tuesday morning, their SAT scores and the cars they drove to work meant nothing.\u00a0 In the Twin Towers, who's who died side-by-side with who is he?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Wednesday, September 27th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 Today's program should help us, as parents, refocus on what really matters as we raise our children -- a different standard of greatness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us.\u00a0 We've been talking this week about greatness.\u00a0 I've been thinking about Muhammad Ali, you know, he used to talk about himself -- \"I am the greatest.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAli:\u00a0[from audiotape] I just beat Sonny Liston, and I just turned 22 years old.\u00a0 I must be the greatest!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I think he was measuring that by a different standard than our guest is measuring that by, don't you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I do.\u00a0 Tim Kimmel joins us and gives us a fresh definition of greatness.\u00a0 Tim, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Thank you.\u00a0 Always a pleasure being with you guys.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Tim is the executive director of Family Matters.\u00a0 He and his wife Darcy speak at our Weekend to Remember conferences, and I've done this in the past, but it's probably good for Tim.\u00a0 He, for a number of years, in fact, he still holds the record for the one who got to take home the watch -- the coveted watch award \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0It was an egg timer, it wasn't a watch.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I thought it upgraded.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0I would love a watch.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Folks, we have these Weekend to Remember conferences and throughout the weekend there's, how many hours of content, Bob?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Oh, there's about 15 hours where we present material.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That's right, and so there's a schedule.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Yeah, there's a schedule.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And generally the speakers are asked to follow the schedule, and these were much earlier years in Tim's life and ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Well, I was still influenced by my '60s upbringing where you -- it's far easier to ask forgiveness than permission.\u00a0 Do what you're going to do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I've got this picture of Tim holding the egg timer, because he received it for being the one who got to go over.\u00a0 Actually, I had fun with that because I had a problem with the clock, too, and it's just good to know there's somebody \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Somebody else that was \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0\u2026 who struggled with it as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, I introduced Tim to our staff this morning.\u00a0 He spoke to our staff, and I made a point of mentioning that it was more than a decade ago that Tim received that egg timer.\u00a0 He is a repentant ..\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Well, we retired it, Bob.\u00a0 We gave it to him permanently -- gold plated it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I've spoken with Tim at these events, and he makes it his aim to end on time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0He has repented.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Well, I went through a 12-step program for people who go overtime.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0There you go, there you go.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0\"Hi, my name's Tim, I go over.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Well, he is a disciplined man.\u00a0 He has written nine books, the latest \"Raising Kids for True Greatness,\" and, Tim, you tell a story about a man who made an observation about a bricklayer?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Actually, he was a laborer supplying bricks for a bricklayer.\u00a0 Let me kind of back up and give you the bigger picture.\u00a0 This father is a -- he's a builder of high-end homes out in where I was living at the time, and he had a son that had a gigantic chip on his shoulder, and he was so angry at his father, and he'd gotten so testy, and so I'd been brought in to umpire this thing.\u00a0 And in the process, we were going through his project there, where there were a lot of these houses being built and different levels of being built, and we were driving along slowly, and he's telling me about different things, and then a laborer came out of the house to get a pile of bricks, take it into the bricklayer that was apparently building a chimney or a fireplace on the inside.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0This father thought that he would use this as a chance to really tell his son, you know, what for, and he said, \"You know, son, if you don't get your act together, you're going to end up like that guy right there, and you're going to be a nothing.\u00a0 You're going to be at the bottom of the food chain.\u00a0 You'll be an economic waste of time.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I didn't say anything because I thought there was enough tension in this family without me humiliating Dad in front of his son, but we got back to their house, and the son just left and, I mean, I just didn't hesitate once the son was out of earshot.\u00a0 I said, \"Why did you say such a stupid thing about that man back at your project?\u00a0 Why would you go and disparage that man who was doing a good service, in fact, for you, and working hard for his pay?\u00a0 How do you know what kind of a man he is.\u00a0 Just because he doesn't make much money, how is that a measurement of a man's true character?\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And he just kind of looked at me, like, dumbfounded, like, \"What are you talking about?\"\u00a0 \"What am I talking about?\u00a0 I mean, this is basic life,\" and yet we, as Christians, and this was a Christian man, highly regarded in his spiritual circles, and yet he'd bought into that success lie that the only way you are significant in life is where you fall in either the economic food chain, the beauty food chain, the fame, or the power chain.\u00a0 And what he would prefer is that you're at the top of all four.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And yet that is something that is so easy to default to as parents.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I was speaking at a conference a number of years ago, and it's not been often where I felt like the Lord really gave me a kick in the seat of the pants, but I was listening to Coach K., the highly successful coach of Duke, speak to a group of highly successful businessmen and women, and he started describing his mom and where he grew up in Chicago.\u00a0 And he began to talk about the greatness of his mother who worked in a hotel and who cleaned rooms.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And he started talking about because he knew her so intimately and what kind of character she had and the courage it took for her to do that, to raise him as a boy as a single parent and just the grit and the perseverance to not cave in and despair of life, I mean, that's not one of the more noble positions in terms of work in our culture.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But as I listened to him describe his mother, and as I listened to him talk about how he treats other room-cleaning personnel, housekeepers in a hotel, I really felt convicted that I somehow looked down on courageous people.\u00a0 And you know what?\u00a0 It was really good for me.\u00a0 I changed my opinion because greatness is not found in the position.\u00a0 It's not found in what you wear, what you drive, where you live, but it really is an internal quality, isn't it, Tim?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And what you've been pressing us for this week is that we need to replace the artificial standards of the culture for beauty and power and fame and money and education and instead be pointing our children toward cultivating character, humility, gratefulness, generosity, and a servant spirit.\u00a0 If our kids have that, then that's where real greatness is found, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Absolutely, and it takes all this silly and senseless competition out of the parenting model, where you have to be the top of the class, and you've got to make the best grades, and you've got to get this high-end score on our SATs, and you've got to go to Division 1, and you've got to be in this sorority or fraternity -- all that silly stuff that we get wrapped up in.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And all the pressures parents feel to provide all that stuff for our kids.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Yes, and then all the pressure our kids feel trying to measure up and knowing that no matter what, it's never going to be quite good enough.\u00a0 I was reading about a movie producer, and he is so insecure, he was saying that he got on the front page of \"Newsweek,\" and his father said, \"Yeah, but 'Time' has a higher circulation.\"\u00a0 And that's the kind of father he was brought up with.\u00a0 It was never enough.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And so this egocentric view of the future, when it's imposed on a kid, basically raises them up to make a lot of money with a lot of beautiful people around them, be well known, and so forth -- and irrelevant.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Can I read you something -- is this very rare that we actually read from a book?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Well, if it's a good book.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Well, I don't know.\u00a0 Let me just read you something.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0It's your book, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Yeah, it is, but unfortunately there -- this is in the beginning of Chapter 2 of \"Raising Kids for True Greatness\" -- \"One date in recent history permanently seared its mark onto America's conscious -- September 11, 2001.\u00a0 This defining moment exposed the best and the worst things about us.\u00a0 It forced us to look in the mirror as a nation and ask ourselves what really matters.\u00a0 The terrorists who slammed airplanes into the World Trade Center caught us completely off guard.\u00a0 In the middle of a business-as-usual morning, they showed us how na\u00efve we were about the magnitude of their hate and the extent to which we could be humbled by their violence.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Many successful people found themselves trapped in the clutches of this ghastly event.\u00a0 At 9:03 that Tuesday morning, their SAT scores and the cars they drove to work meant nothing.\u00a0 There was very little that their pedigree and resumes could do for them.\u00a0 The famous as well as the obscure became equals in the statistics in the Twin Towers' who's who died side by side with who's he?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But in the midst of this crisis, there were magnificent people who responded to the urgency of the moment and gave everything they had for the sake of others.\u00a0 As the successful rushed down the stairs of the World Trade Center, the truly great ran up.\u00a0 As the well-heeled and comfortable ran for their lives, the truly great slipped inside the nightmare to see what they could do to help those who were left behind.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And after the smoke cleared, thousands of truly great people stepped out from their quiet positions within the ranks of successful Americans and opened their hearts and their wallets to those whose lives had been shattered by this cataclysmic event.\u00a0 Isn't it ironic that, as a nation, we worship those who are successful but when tragedy strikes our survival depends upon those who are great.\u00a0 A cry for help is always answered first by people who live for something more valuable than their own fame or fortune.\u00a0 They respond even though there isn't a thing in it for them, and that's why when it's time to bury our dead we mourn the loss of those who were successful, but we celebrate the memory of those were truly great.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Tim, what you've written about there is such a contrast between arrogance and achievement and pride and a quality that you write about of humility that is the essence of true greatness.\u00a0 In fact, when Jesus was asked by His disciples, \"Wish that we could sit on the right and left of you and be in the position of greatness,\" He answered them by speaking about humility, didn't he -- and calling them to a servant spirit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And this is where I need help as a dad, because I would say I'm trying to make sure that my children are pointed toward humility and gratefulness and generosity and having a servant spirit, and I'm trying to model those things as best I can.\u00a0 Is the modeling of those things sufficient -- if I'm modeling that as a dad, is that what I need to do so my kids will get it and wind up there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0I would say if we were going to put a percentage on it, the lion's share of transferring this to their kid's heart is by your example.\u00a0 Now, what you don't go by is where they are at this particular point in their life -- they're 14, 15, they're 8 or 9, they're just kids.\u00a0 They're in the front side of their life, they were born with a sin nature, and maybe they haven't been redeemed yet by Christ or, if they have, they're just on the front side.\u00a0 Let them grow a bit.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But what they are going to refer back to as they move into their adult life, is the standards that their mother or their father established for them at the heart level.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And it's so easy to lose heart as a parent.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0When you look in the eyes of that 14-year-old or 15-year-old -- boy or girl, it doesn't matter.\u00a0 And they give you one of those, \"You're stupid.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Oh, I know.\u00a0 You want to wait until they go to sleep sometime and just go in there and put your hands on their little forehead, sleeping, and say, \"Demon, come out!\u00a0 What is wrong with you?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0We received an e-mail from a mom who said, \"You need to help me.\u00a0 There has been an alien who took my sweet daughter to another planet and brought an alien daughter back to live in our home.\u00a0 She's a different child.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0It's the alien of adolescence.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0It is, and, you know, to those parents what you're saying is look beyond the moment, to be objective and keep modeling that humility that Bob was talking about.\u00a0 Now, tell me, Tim, and this is going to demand some self-analysis by you -- but can you give me a great moment in your life when you feel like you modeled humility for your children?<br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Well, I'll tell you one where my mother modeled it for me.\u00a0 Can I start there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0You can start there, but I want us to come back to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0But it's kind of self-defeating if he's telling you about \"my most humble moment,\" you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0And I really have a difficult time answer that question that way, but I have -- I'll tell you this -- I have something that I can refer to that shows them how I was trying to teach these things to them, but, see, it came easier to me because of the way my parents modeled it for me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And I remember there were times -- we lived back in Maryland when I was a teenager, and every once in a while we'd get one of those big blizzards that comes into Maryland and drops a ton of snow, and my brother Tom and I, we'd get up, and we'd look out the windows, and everybody would be seeing snow, and all we'd be seeing is money, because we knew -- we're going to shovel out driveways and we're going to have tons of money in our pockets.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So we get up, and we get our stuff, because we're going to go out and start shoveling snow.\u00a0 But before we left, our mother always would give us, she would always give us this list of shut-ins, these are senior citizens that were living on a pension, and before we could go after the money customers, we had to go to their place, dig them out, and we were not allowed to take a dime, and that had to be first.\u00a0 That was just the way it is.\u00a0 You gave her any grief, you know, I never found out what a snow shovel would look like on the side of my head, but she wouldn't have been against that, but this is just what you do.\u00a0 You live your life for others.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Darcy has a theory on when you start teaching your kids humility, gratefulness, generosity and servant spirit, and that is as soon as they can breathe.\u00a0 It just becomes -- it's not an event in their life, it's a way of life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I have been getting together with a group of guys for the last several weeks and together we're going through a little book that C.J. Mahaney wrote on the subject of humility, and it's been very challenging for us to work our way through this book and to talk about this issue and to see our own pride revealed as we go through it to talk about how servanthood is at the heart of real humility.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0It is.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You mentioned that servanthood really is the encompassing character quality \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0\u2026 of humility, gratefulness, and generosity.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Mm-hm, and I've just been aware again of what I think is the chapter in the Bible that all of us can spend some time meditating on if we want to understand God's perspective on humility.\u00a0 It's Philippians, chapter 2 -- that's where Paul says that we are to do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit but with humility of mind, we are to regard others as more important than ourselves; not to look out for our own interests merely, but also for the interests of others.\u00a0 And then he goes on to say, \"You are to have this mind in you, have the same mindset that Jesus had, who, although He was God, did not regard a quality with God something to be held onto but He emptied Himself, taking the form of a bondservant, being made in the likeness of man and ultimately being crucified on a cross.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0That's the kind of character that we would love to see molded into the hearts of our children, and what I hear you saying is if we want our children to evidence that kind of selflessness and humility, then we've got to be models for them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Absolutely, and in the process we raise their potential, their spiritual stock value, all the options that God can do in them, for them, with them, through them, in the future.\u00a0 We paved the way for a much more pleasant marriage for them because the thing about truly great people, you know, when it comes to marriage -- that they're low maintenance.\u00a0 They are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And if they've learned what you're talking about here -- true humility -- that's how you establish a great relationship.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Exactly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0You're never going to have a great relationship with two proud people.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0Not at all -- talking about never satisfied.\u00a0 And the neat thing about a truly great person -- they tend to attract that type of person.\u00a0 It's easier to wake up next to a person like that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I just want to pause for moment and encourage a single-parent mom, maybe it's a mom or a dad raising a child, you're in a tough time -- this is cross-country \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTim:\u00a0\u2026 it is \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0\u2026 it's not a sprint.\u00a0 It takes time.\u00a0 There are a lot of losses, there are a lot of mud puddles that the kids get into, and they drag you into it.\u00a0 Just keep on keeping on, and I want to encourage you -- keep modeling what Tim has exhorted us to do here today, which is -- well, it's back to Philippians 2, Bob -- \"Have this attitude in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.\"\u00a0 And if you model that for your kids, they may not be able to articulate, \"You know what?\u00a0 That was humility that Mom was modeling at the dinner table today.\"\u00a0 Or Dad did in traffic the other day.\u00a0 No, it will be later on when they're 30, 40, 50 years old, when they finally recognize the quality, but keep on keeping on, and don't give up.\u00a0 It matters.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And stop and ask yourself this question -- as a parent, let's go out 20 years, and your child is now married with two kids and living a life on his own or on her own, and you've got this option.\u00a0 You could either have a child who is living real well, making a lot of money, got fame and power and beauty, but is arrogant and selfish.\u00a0 Or you can have a child who is living in an apartment and working an average job and making car payments but somebody who is humble and somebody who is focused on others.\u00a0 What do you really want? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0That's a question that I think is at the heart of the book you've written, \"Raising Kids for True Greatness,\" which we've got in our FamilyLife Resource Center.\u00a0 Our listeners can go to our website, FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 There's a red button right in the middle of the home page that says \"Go,\" and if you click on that button, it will take you right to a page where you've got more information about the book, \"Raising Kids for True Greatness,\" and, again, I think this is a book that all of us, as parents, no matter where we are in the process -- if we're just starting, if we're in the golden years with our kids, if we're getting ready to launch them, I think this is a book that helps us sharpen our thinking about what really matters as we help mold and shape the hearts and lives of our children.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Again, our website is FamilyLife.com, and if you click the red \"Go\" button right in the middle of the home page, it will take you to a site where you can get more information about Tim Kimmel's book, \"Raising Kids for True Greatness.\"\u00a0 Another book that you've written called \"Fifty Ways to Really Love Your Kids,\" is also available from us here at FamilyLife, and any of our listeners who would like to get both books, we will be happy to send at no additional cost the two CDs that feature our conversation on this subject this week so that you can review it again or you can pass it on to friends or relatives, to your own adult children as they raise your grandchildren.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you would prefer, 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the author of a book called \"For Women Only,\" a book that helps wives understand what's going on inside the heart and mind of a husband; how she can help support him, respect him, encourage him.\u00a0 That two-CD set is our gift to you when you request it as you make a donation of any amount to the ministry of FamilyLife.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0If you're donating online, you'll fill out a form online, and you'll come to a keycode box.\u00a0 When you get to that box, type in the word \"women,\" and we'll know that you'd like to have these CDs sent to you, or call us at 1-800-FLTODAY.\u00a0 You can make a donation over the phone and just mention you'd like the two CDs with Shaunti Feldhahn or the CDs called \"For Women Only.\"\u00a0 We'll be happy to send them out to you to help strengthen your marriage and your family and also as our way of saying thanks for your partnership with us here at the ministry of FamilyLife Today.\u00a0 We appreciate 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