{"id":301194,"date":"2006-09-05T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2006-09-05T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/surprised-by-remarriage-part-1\/"},"modified":"2024-10-07T22:42:27","modified_gmt":"2024-10-08T02:42:27","slug":"surprised-by-remarriage-part-1","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/surprised-by-remarriage-part-1\/","title":{"rendered":"Surprised by Remarriage, Part 1"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ginger Kolbaba encourages those considering remarriage to find out if they&#8217;re ready for the challenges of a blended family.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-09-05.mp3","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"11.35M","filesize_raw":"11899568","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2859],"tags":[4898,2586],"podcast_series":[7471],"cwp_profile":[3250],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-301194","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-and-preparing-for-marriage","tag-remarriage-blended-family","tag-step-family","podcast_series-surprised-by-remarriage","cwp_profile-ginger-kolbaba","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/301194\/surprised-by-remarriage-part-1","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/301194\/surprised-by-remarriage-part-1","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"hxV8hrMA05\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/surprised-by-remarriage-part-1\/\">Surprised by Remarriage, Part 1<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/surprised-by-remarriage-part-1\/embed\/#?secret=hxV8hrMA05\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Surprised by Remarriage, Part 1&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"hxV8hrMA05\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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previously married, a man who had a teenage daughter.\u00a0 She knew she needed to be cautious as she began praying about whether this was the person God would have her marry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0I dated him for six years, and so I watched how he was as a father, and the way he treated other people.\u00a0 It so impressed me.\u00a0 I think that was the first thing.\u00a0 And the second thing was really how he treated me, and I could see that he was really acting out Christ through the way he treated me, and that is the most romantic thing.\u00a0 It's a very engaging kind of quality.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Tuesday, September 5th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 It's important to approach every marriage but especially a remarriage with your eyes wide open.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us.\u00a0 We're going to deal with something that as we were talking earlier has been a growing phenomenon in the culture.\u00a0 It's something that we've watched over the history of development of FamilyLife.\u00a0 We've seen growth in this segment of society, and it's something that has got to be addressed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0When we started out with our Weekends to Remember in 1976, everybody who attended at that point was either contemplating marriage or engaged.\u00a0 We wouldn't even let married people come to the conference.\u00a0 But as we began to allow married folks in the back door and slide in the side door, we were overwhelmed, and it's now about 90 to 95 percent married folks who are at our Weekend to Remember Marriage Conferences, and, Bob, I remember back, like, 20 years ago, less than 10 percent of the audience were remarrieds, those with perhaps a blended family.\u00a0 And then about \u2013 oh, I'd say seven or eight years ago we began to watch as the percentages began to creep up, and now about 30 percent, almost a third of those who attend the Weekend to Remember Marriage Conference are those who are in a remarriage situation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And it's interesting, the engaged couples who are coming, it seems like about half of those who are in that engaged session are coming because they are headed toward a second marriage or a third marriage, and many of them want to make sure that this one goes differently than the one that they were in previously.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0There's no doubt about it, and there's good reason for that.\u00a0 About 65 percent of all remarriages end in divorce.\u00a0 So that means if you were a gambler, just looking at the stats \u2013 first of all, marriage is a risk, and it sure is.\u00a0 I like what Erma Bombeck says \u2013 \"If you want a guarantee, marry a car battery.\"\u00a0 But even then it's only good for three or four years.\u00a0 But 65 percent of all those who remarry see their marriages end in divorce, and we have a huge number of listeners here to FamilyLife Today, and that's why we've asked Ginger Kolbaba to come into FamilyLife Today and spend some time with us.\u00a0 Ginger, we're glad that you're here, and we're glad you wrote this book, \"Surprised by Remarriage.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Thanks, it's great to be here today with you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And I\u2019m guessing when you were growing up as a little girl you didn't think to yourself, \"Boy, I hope that someday I'll grow up and meet a guy, and he will have been previously married, and we'll go off and live happily ever after.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Right.\u00a0 I think I was probably like most women when they were growing up they imagined the wedding and all of that, but they imagined it on the first children, first in-laws, first financial issues, first sexual experience, first house, first everything, and so, yeah, when I married a man who was divorced, that was a brand-new adjustment period for me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You were not previously married, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0No, this is my first marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0So when you met Scott, and there started to be an attraction between the two of you, you were obviously aware that he was previously married, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Right.\u00a0 I was aware \u2013 actually, before I met him, I knew that he was divorced, and on our very first date he sort of let the cat out of the bag right away, and he laid all his cards out on the table, if I can mix the metaphors there, and he told me everything, and he said, \"If you want me to turn around this car and take it back, I understand.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Now, when you decided to go out with him, you already indicated you knew he was divorced at that point?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0I knew at that point.\u00a0 I was, at the time, working in theater, and I was directing a show, and one of the gals that I had cast in the show, she decided that she was going to set me up with her brother-in-law.\u00a0 And she knew that I was a Christian, and he is a Christian, and so she decided, oh, this would work out really well.\u00a0 And when she finally said, \"I would like to fix you up,\" she told me the story, and my first question was, \"Well, why did he get divorced?\"\u00a0 And she kind of laid out the whole story for me, and so I was aware, going in, that he was divorced.\u00a0 I knew that he had a child, I didn't know how old the child was until our first date.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Now, let me set a context here, because you grew up as a preacher's kid, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Yes, yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And so you'd been in church all your life, and you're a Christian, you've got your Christian convictions.\u00a0 Now you hear about this nice guy who is previously married and has a child.\u00a0 Was there anything in the back of your mind going, \"Do I even want to go out on a date with this guy?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Oh, sure, there were lots of the ding-ding-ding, danger, danger, dangerous territory ahead.\u00a0 But I listened to what his story was and really tried to find out his heart before I got to know him and really felt like he had a love for God, he had a lot of the same values that I had, and so I decided that I would take that first date and really get to know him for myself, and it was the best date.\u00a0 It lasted 16 hours.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Wow.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I hope it started early in the morning.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0No, it didn't.\u00a0 He took me to the theater, he took me out to dinner, and then we went to O'Hare International Airport and walked around all night, and at that point you could still get into the terminal, and so we spent all of this time talking, and what impressed me was he was asking really difficult questions of me, and at the time I just was so impressed with that that a guy would be asking me all these questions, but then I really realized he was doing that because he didn't want to get into a situation again like he had been in before.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0So the first date goes 16 hours.\u00a0 You go home and think, \"He's a really nice guy.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0No, she goes home and sleeps for a couple of days probably.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0But you were both attracted to one another, and there came a point in all of this where you had to call home and say, \"Hey, Mom, Dad, I've met a guy.\u00a0 He's a great guy.\u00a0 By the way, Mom, Dad,\" Mr. Preacher Dad, he's been divorced, and he's got a kid.\u00a0 Tell me about that conversation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Oh, I was so nervous with that conversation because I admire and respect my father.\u00a0 I think he's just one of the wisest men I've ever known, and so I desperately wanted him to accept this relationship.\u00a0 I wanted him to bless it, in a sense, and I didn't even tell him about until I knew that this was something that I was interested in.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And how long did it take from first date until this is something I'm interested in?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0It was probably about a month.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Okay, so a month in you say, \"I've got to call Mom and Dad.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Yeah, and I got Dad on the phone, and I said, \"Dad, I've really met this neat guy, and I think that there is some possibility there,\" and I said all of these great qualities.\u00a0 I sort of set it up, you know, like, \"Wow, this guy is really great.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0You're doing some selling.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0You bet.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I'm a dad, I know how this works.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Yeah, yeah, it's, like, \"Oh, he's got to say this is okay.\"\u00a0 And I said, \"There is just one thing.\"\u00a0 And my father, being so wise, that's all I got out of my mouth, and he said \"He's divorced.\"\u00a0 And I was, like, \"Yeah.\"\u00a0 And so we started to talk through that, and he said \u2013 he asked some very probing questions about how long was he married, what was his relationship like, why did he get divorced, how is he dealing with that now, how is he taking responsibility for himself, and the issues that he would be responsible for, and I answered those questions, and by the end of the conversation he said, \"You know, Ginger, if that's the direction you want to go in, and you really love this guy, and you really feel like God has brought him into your life then you have my blessing to pursue this.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Let me put your story on pause for just a second and let me ask you, as a father, Dennis \u2013 you still have one daughter who is unmarried.\u00a0 If you got a call from Laura, and she said, \"Dad, I've met this wonderful guy, there's just one thing.\"\u00a0 How would you respond as a dad?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Well, I think I'd listen carefully to what my daughter was saying about the man, and then I'd say, \"Can we call just a brief timeout here for you and me, as father and daughter, to have a little bit of a conversation.\"\u00a0 And at that point I'd just want my daughter to know that I'm going to have to have a few conversation with him.\u00a0 Now, depending upon what I found out about some of the issues of biblical justification for a divorce, and whether there's freedom to be able to remarry or not, then and only then would I give the freedom for that relationship to move forward and encourage my daughter in that relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And I assume it would be the same if you had a son, an unmarried son, who was interested in a previously married young woman.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Of course.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You're really just trying to say, \"Let's do a little exploration, a little digging, and let's see what's here.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And hear me on this \u2013 I think it's regardless of whether there's been a divorce.\u00a0 I think when you get two people together today, there's so much baggage, so many issues, so many temptations in this culture that we bring into a marriage, I want to have some conversations with a man about pornography, his use of money, debt and credit, and his sexual history.\u00a0 I want to know who he is and his own faithfulness and spiritually to follow Christ and grow as a follower of Christ.\u00a0 So there's a lot of issues I'd want to talk about in the process.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0But given that somebody has been previously married, there are a few extra \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0\u2026 no doubt about it \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0\u2026 extra issues that get added to the agenda.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, and at the top of those is the word \"time.\"\u00a0 How long ago did it occur and tell me about the process that you've been through.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, Ginger, in your case, you had this conversation with your dad after you and Scott had been dating for a month.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0It was probably about a month.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0All right, and then after you had the conversation with your dad, you and Scott continued to date for how long?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Six years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Six years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Did your dad have any conversations with Scott during those six years?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Absolutely.\u00a0 He talked to him and got to know him and got to see his heart, and, you know, it was that big thing with I'm daddy's little girl, and so I wanted, right up front in the relationship, to know that he would be on board with me, because if he said \"I'm not really comfortable with this,\" then, to me, there was just really no reason for me to continue the relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Ginger, if you were advising a woman in your situation, all right, I want you to think back with me \u2013 are there any non-negotiables that you'd say, \"Be sure about this, don't miss this, and, for goodness' sake, don't avoid this.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0That's a great question.\u00a0 The first thing is, where is he spiritually?\u00a0 If he kind of talks God language, but he's not living it out, then I cannot say fast enough, \"run away.\"\u00a0 That, to me, is an absolute non-negotiable.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And how did you know with Scott that you were on safe ground there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0We talked a lot about our faith, and so I watched how he lived out his life, and I watched how he was as a father, and the way he treated other people, it just \u2013 it so impressed me.\u00a0 I think that was the first thing.\u00a0 And the second thing was really how he treated me, and I could see that he was really acting out Christ through the way he treated me, and that is the most romantic thing, it's the most seductive thing, if I can say that.\u00a0 It's a very engaging kind of quality, especially if a man has that.\u00a0 And I knew that was not something that he was just sort of putting on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And I want to move from that to your other non-negotiables of what you'd say to a young lady who is about to marry a divorced man.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0You know, the other thing is, I would ask her to ask him, \"Why did you get divorced?\"\u00a0 And if he can't take any responsibility for the demise of that relationship, I would be really concerned, because the reality is it doesn't matter why the divorce happened, two people were involved and, you know, one might not have dealt the death blow to the divorce, to the marriage, but the other one contributed in some place.\u00a0 You know, they were not the model of grace in Christ during that marriage, and so I would just ask some probing questions to find out what part of the relationship do you take responsibility for?\u00a0 What were some of your weaknesses?\u00a0 What were some of your shortcomings?\u00a0 What were some specific things that you did that you wish you could have done differently?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And if that person comes back and says, \"Well, I think that I probably did some things, but it's all my ex, boy, that's a big signal to you that when you get married to that person, you would become the scapegoat, because that person can't take responsibility for his or her own actions.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And one of the things, I think, that's most important to look for in a mate after you've established the spiritual growth and the following of Christ in obedience to the Scriptures is teachability.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And that's really what you're talking about here.\u00a0 What did you learn?\u00a0 How did you fail?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Is there some humility?\u00a0 Is there some ownership for things that you did wrong other than blamecasting?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, I'm going to tell you, I don't care whether you've been divorced or not, you're going to need teachability when you get married, because there will be mistakes that are made.\u00a0 Is there a third non-negotiable that you would encourage a young lady with?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Well, I could get in trouble for this one, but I honestly thing finances is a huge one.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Now, why do you say you could get in trouble?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Well, I'll give you an example.\u00a0 A friend of mine was dating this man who had been divorced twice, and they were engaged, so this is going to be his third marriage, in debt up to his eyeballs, and I said, \"You know, I really think that he needs to get his finances in order before you get married.\u00a0 So I'm not saying don't get married, I\u2019m saying just wait, and she chose not to.\u00a0 They got married, and now they're really, really struggling because, all of a sudden, the government is coming along saying, \"We may be taking some of the money out of your paycheck to pay for things because\" of the ex-wife wanting more money and more this.\u00a0 And it's just been a very ugly situation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And, I'll tell you, Ginger, I'm glad you mentioned that one, because we live in a culture today where usually the parents, me, as a dad, going back to Bob's question of me \u2013 what would I do if I was a dad \u2013 where the parents, for the most part, don't know the other person their child is about to marry.\u00a0 And this issue of finances is a biggie.\u00a0 It is really a big one, and I don't think 10 years ago I would have ever believed I would make this statement, but I believe to the degree you don't know the young person or the young man or woman that your son or daughter is about to marry, I really think you need to consider doing a little background check, taking a look and finding out what's going on behind the scenes.\u00a0 Because I have heard more than one situation like you just described, where the young man didn't tell his fianc\u00e9e about the debt, brought the debt in, and it was an immediate, an immediate crisis in the marriage, like you describe, from day one, and that doesn't tend to be great circumstances to grow a relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Here is what happens \u2013 somebody who is lonely, longing for relationship, longing to be loved, thinks to himself or herself, \"Those things will all take care of themselves.\u00a0 I just want the loneliness to end, and I want to have somebody who loves me like this.\"\u00a0 And then they get married, and all those real issues start to become very real, and they're not sure what to do with it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And, I'm telling you, it's at those moments they need to listen to the words of Jesus Christ who spoke very authoritatively in Matthew, chapter 7, verse 24 \u2013 \"Therefore, everyone who hears these words of mine and acts upon them may be compared to a wise man who built his house upon the rock, and the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew and burst against that house, and yet it did not fall for it had been founded upon the rock.\"\u00a0 Now, that's the picture of what a marriage is to look like, and that house stood because the builder had heard the voice of Christ and had built his house on the rock.\u00a0 When you don't build it on the rock, and you don't do what Jesus Christ commands you to do, it's the second half of the verse. You've got the same wind, the same floods, the same rain.\u00a0 It's all coming against the house, and you know what it says \u2013 \"and it fell, and great was its fall.\"\u00a0 And that's not what we need more of today.\u00a0 We need houses that are still standing after the elements have come against it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And I think building your house on the rock means being sober-minded, being alert, paying attention, going in wisely not naively, asking a lot of questions, looking at what the Scriptures say, getting the counsel of others \u2013 there are all kinds of things involved in this process.\u00a0 It requires understanding the biblical blueprints but also understanding who you are and your background and your potential spouse's background.\u00a0 I think it's important that individuals who are considering a remarriage get wise counsel and read up on a subject like this.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGet a copy of Ginger's book, \"Surprised by Remarriage,\" and read through it, learn about her experience, get together with some other couples, go through the Homebuilders study that we've created called \"Making Your Remarriage Last,\" and together, as you go through that, hear them talk about their stories of challenges they've experienced.\u00a0 These kinds of things are the things you ought to look at hard before you say \"I do\" in a remarriage situation, and then after the wedding is over, make sure you continue to build into the foundation of your marriage, because you've married in an area where the storms are likely to come a little more often than they might in another situation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe've got resources in our FamilyLife Resource Center, like Ginger's book and like our Homebuilders study, \"Making Your Remarriage Last.\"\u00a0 Go to our website, FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 In the center of the screen, you'll see a red button that says \"Go,\" and if you click on that button, it will take you right to a page where you can get more information about these resources and more resources that we have available here at FamilyLife designed to help you build a strong marriage and designed to help you think through the realities that come with remarriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, the website is FamilyLife.com, click the \"Go\" button in the center of the screen or call us at 1-800-FLTODAY for more information about the resources that are available.\u00a0 Again, it's FamilyLife.com, that's the website, or you can call 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 That's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY, and if there is any way for the two of you to get to one of our Weekend to Remember Marriage Conferences before you decide to remarry, let us encourage you to do that as well.\u00a0 A lot of the couples who are coming to the conference today are couples who want to make sure that this time they have a better understanding of what marriage is supposed to be as they head in.\u00a0 They know how to build their marriage on the rock, and there is more information, again, on our website at FamilyLife.com about the Weekend to Remember conference, and the conference season is kicking off this month, and it's going to be in cities all across the country.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe hope you can plan to attend one of these upcoming conferences whether you are engaged or married, whether it's your first marriage or a second marriage, this is a great weekend getaway, where you'll learn together the biblical blueprints for building a stronger marriage relationship.\u00a0 Again, there's more information online at FamilyLife.com about the Weekend to Remember or call us at 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, the day after Labor Day is kind of the traditional start of the fall.\u00a0 For a lot of us, school is now back in session, if it hasn't already been back in session for a couple of weeks.\u00a0 The kids are back in their routine, life is getting back to normal after summer break, and the schedule is maybe getting a little more crowded than it has been.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the issues that many of our listeners have asked for help on here at FamilyLife is the whole issue of priorities and time management.\u00a0 We've come across a helpful, very practical resource designed to help couples get control of their schedule, get their priorities established.\u00a0 It's a small booklet called \"Priorities \u2013 Mastering Time Management,\" and we'd like to send it out this month to any of our listeners who can help with a donation of any amount to the ministry of FamilyLife Today.\u00a0 We are listener-supported.\u00a0 We depend on donations to be able to keep this program on the air in this city and in cities all across the country, and so we want to come to those of you who have been listening for a while and say, \"Can we ask you to help us with a donation of any amount?\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can donate online at FamilyLife.com or you can call 1-800-FLTODAY to make a donation, and if you're interested in getting a copy of this booklet on priorities, we're happy to send it to you as our way of saying thank you for your financial support.\u00a0 If you make your donation online, when you come to the keycode box in the donation form, just type the word \"time\" in there, and we'll know that you're requesting a copy of this book, or if you call 1-800-FLTODAY to make your donation just mention that you'd like the book on time management, and we'll be happy to send it out to you.\u00a0 Again, our toll-free number is 1-800-FLTODAY, or you can donate online at FamilyLife.com, and we appreciate you considering your support of this ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, tomorrow Ginger Kolbaba is going to be back with us, and we're going to talk more about some of the challenges that accompany couples where one or both of the spouses has been previously married.\u00a0 I hope you can join us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We'll see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas, a ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t______________________________________________________________\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you.\u00a0 However, there is a cost to transcribe, create, and produce them for our website.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would\u00a0\u00a0 you consider <a 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Kolbaba encourages those considering remarriage to find out if they're ready for the challenges of a blended family.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-09-05.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Ginger Kolbaba was single, she had never been married when she met and began to fall in love with a man who had been previously married, a man who had a teenage daughter.\u00a0 She knew she needed to be cautious as she began praying about whether this was the person God would have her marry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0I dated him for six years, and so I watched how he was as a father, and the way he treated other people.\u00a0 It so impressed me.\u00a0 I think that was the first thing.\u00a0 And the second thing was really how he treated me, and I could see that he was really acting out Christ through the way he treated me, and that is the most romantic thing.\u00a0 It's a very engaging kind of quality.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Tuesday, September 5th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 It's important to approach every marriage but especially a remarriage with your eyes wide open.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us.\u00a0 We're going to deal with something that as we were talking earlier has been a growing phenomenon in the culture.\u00a0 It's something that we've watched over the history of development of FamilyLife.\u00a0 We've seen growth in this segment of society, and it's something that has got to be addressed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0When we started out with our Weekends to Remember in 1976, everybody who attended at that point was either contemplating marriage or engaged.\u00a0 We wouldn't even let married people come to the conference.\u00a0 But as we began to allow married folks in the back door and slide in the side door, we were overwhelmed, and it's now about 90 to 95 percent married folks who are at our Weekend to Remember Marriage Conferences, and, Bob, I remember back, like, 20 years ago, less than 10 percent of the audience were remarrieds, those with perhaps a blended family.\u00a0 And then about \u2013 oh, I'd say seven or eight years ago we began to watch as the percentages began to creep up, and now about 30 percent, almost a third of those who attend the Weekend to Remember Marriage Conference are those who are in a remarriage situation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And it's interesting, the engaged couples who are coming, it seems like about half of those who are in that engaged session are coming because they are headed toward a second marriage or a third marriage, and many of them want to make sure that this one goes differently than the one that they were in previously.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0There's no doubt about it, and there's good reason for that.\u00a0 About 65 percent of all remarriages end in divorce.\u00a0 So that means if you were a gambler, just looking at the stats \u2013 first of all, marriage is a risk, and it sure is.\u00a0 I like what Erma Bombeck says \u2013 \"If you want a guarantee, marry a car battery.\"\u00a0 But even then it's only good for three or four years.\u00a0 But 65 percent of all those who remarry see their marriages end in divorce, and we have a huge number of listeners here to FamilyLife Today, and that's why we've asked Ginger Kolbaba to come into FamilyLife Today and spend some time with us.\u00a0 Ginger, we're glad that you're here, and we're glad you wrote this book, \"Surprised by Remarriage.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Thanks, it's great to be here today with you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And I\u2019m guessing when you were growing up as a little girl you didn't think to yourself, \"Boy, I hope that someday I'll grow up and meet a guy, and he will have been previously married, and we'll go off and live happily ever after.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Right.\u00a0 I think I was probably like most women when they were growing up they imagined the wedding and all of that, but they imagined it on the first children, first in-laws, first financial issues, first sexual experience, first house, first everything, and so, yeah, when I married a man who was divorced, that was a brand-new adjustment period for me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You were not previously married, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0No, this is my first marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0So when you met Scott, and there started to be an attraction between the two of you, you were obviously aware that he was previously married, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Right.\u00a0 I was aware \u2013 actually, before I met him, I knew that he was divorced, and on our very first date he sort of let the cat out of the bag right away, and he laid all his cards out on the table, if I can mix the metaphors there, and he told me everything, and he said, \"If you want me to turn around this car and take it back, I understand.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Now, when you decided to go out with him, you already indicated you knew he was divorced at that point?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0I knew at that point.\u00a0 I was, at the time, working in theater, and I was directing a show, and one of the gals that I had cast in the show, she decided that she was going to set me up with her brother-in-law.\u00a0 And she knew that I was a Christian, and he is a Christian, and so she decided, oh, this would work out really well.\u00a0 And when she finally said, \"I would like to fix you up,\" she told me the story, and my first question was, \"Well, why did he get divorced?\"\u00a0 And she kind of laid out the whole story for me, and so I was aware, going in, that he was divorced.\u00a0 I knew that he had a child, I didn't know how old the child was until our first date.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Now, let me set a context here, because you grew up as a preacher's kid, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Yes, yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And so you'd been in church all your life, and you're a Christian, you've got your Christian convictions.\u00a0 Now you hear about this nice guy who is previously married and has a child.\u00a0 Was there anything in the back of your mind going, \"Do I even want to go out on a date with this guy?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Oh, sure, there were lots of the ding-ding-ding, danger, danger, dangerous territory ahead.\u00a0 But I listened to what his story was and really tried to find out his heart before I got to know him and really felt like he had a love for God, he had a lot of the same values that I had, and so I decided that I would take that first date and really get to know him for myself, and it was the best date.\u00a0 It lasted 16 hours.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Wow.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I hope it started early in the morning.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0No, it didn't.\u00a0 He took me to the theater, he took me out to dinner, and then we went to O'Hare International Airport and walked around all night, and at that point you could still get into the terminal, and so we spent all of this time talking, and what impressed me was he was asking really difficult questions of me, and at the time I just was so impressed with that that a guy would be asking me all these questions, but then I really realized he was doing that because he didn't want to get into a situation again like he had been in before.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0So the first date goes 16 hours.\u00a0 You go home and think, \"He's a really nice guy.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0No, she goes home and sleeps for a couple of days probably.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0But you were both attracted to one another, and there came a point in all of this where you had to call home and say, \"Hey, Mom, Dad, I've met a guy.\u00a0 He's a great guy.\u00a0 By the way, Mom, Dad,\" Mr. Preacher Dad, he's been divorced, and he's got a kid.\u00a0 Tell me about that conversation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Oh, I was so nervous with that conversation because I admire and respect my father.\u00a0 I think he's just one of the wisest men I've ever known, and so I desperately wanted him to accept this relationship.\u00a0 I wanted him to bless it, in a sense, and I didn't even tell him about until I knew that this was something that I was interested in.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And how long did it take from first date until this is something I'm interested in?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0It was probably about a month.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Okay, so a month in you say, \"I've got to call Mom and Dad.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Yeah, and I got Dad on the phone, and I said, \"Dad, I've really met this neat guy, and I think that there is some possibility there,\" and I said all of these great qualities.\u00a0 I sort of set it up, you know, like, \"Wow, this guy is really great.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0You're doing some selling.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0You bet.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I'm a dad, I know how this works.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Yeah, yeah, it's, like, \"Oh, he's got to say this is okay.\"\u00a0 And I said, \"There is just one thing.\"\u00a0 And my father, being so wise, that's all I got out of my mouth, and he said \"He's divorced.\"\u00a0 And I was, like, \"Yeah.\"\u00a0 And so we started to talk through that, and he said \u2013 he asked some very probing questions about how long was he married, what was his relationship like, why did he get divorced, how is he dealing with that now, how is he taking responsibility for himself, and the issues that he would be responsible for, and I answered those questions, and by the end of the conversation he said, \"You know, Ginger, if that's the direction you want to go in, and you really love this guy, and you really feel like God has brought him into your life then you have my blessing to pursue this.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Let me put your story on pause for just a second and let me ask you, as a father, Dennis \u2013 you still have one daughter who is unmarried.\u00a0 If you got a call from Laura, and she said, \"Dad, I've met this wonderful guy, there's just one thing.\"\u00a0 How would you respond as a dad?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Well, I think I'd listen carefully to what my daughter was saying about the man, and then I'd say, \"Can we call just a brief timeout here for you and me, as father and daughter, to have a little bit of a conversation.\"\u00a0 And at that point I'd just want my daughter to know that I'm going to have to have a few conversation with him.\u00a0 Now, depending upon what I found out about some of the issues of biblical justification for a divorce, and whether there's freedom to be able to remarry or not, then and only then would I give the freedom for that relationship to move forward and encourage my daughter in that relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And I assume it would be the same if you had a son, an 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are a few extra \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0\u2026 no doubt about it \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0\u2026 extra issues that get added to the agenda.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, and at the top of those is the word \"time.\"\u00a0 How long ago did it occur and tell me about the process that you've been through.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, Ginger, in your case, you had this conversation with your dad after you and Scott had been dating for a month.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0It was probably about a month.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0All right, and then after you had the conversation with your dad, you and Scott continued to date for how long?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Six years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Six years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Did your dad have any conversations with Scott during those six years?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Absolutely.\u00a0 He talked to him and got to know him and got to see his heart, and, you know, it was that big thing with I'm daddy's little girl, and so I wanted, right up front in the relationship, to know that he would be on board with me, because if he said \"I'm not really comfortable with this,\" then, to me, there was just really no reason for me to continue the relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Ginger, if you were advising a woman in your situation, all right, I want you to think back with me \u2013 are there any non-negotiables that you'd say, \"Be sure about this, don't miss this, and, for goodness' sake, don't avoid this.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0That's a great question.\u00a0 The first thing is, where is he spiritually?\u00a0 If he kind of talks God language, but he's not living it out, then I cannot say fast enough, \"run away.\"\u00a0 That, to me, is an absolute non-negotiable.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And how did you know with Scott that you were on safe ground there?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0We talked a lot about our faith, and so I watched how he lived out his life, and I watched how he was as a father, and the way he treated other people, it just \u2013 it so impressed me.\u00a0 I think that was the first thing.\u00a0 And the second thing was really how he treated me, and I could see that he was really acting out Christ through the way he treated me, and that is the most romantic thing, it's the most seductive thing, if I can say that.\u00a0 It's a very engaging kind of quality, especially if a man has that.\u00a0 And I knew that was not something that he was just sort of putting on.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And I want to move from that to your other non-negotiables of what you'd say to a young lady who is about to marry a divorced man.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0You know, the other thing is, I would ask her to ask him, \"Why did you get divorced?\"\u00a0 And if he can't take any responsibility for the demise of that relationship, I would be really concerned, because the reality is it doesn't matter why the divorce happened, two people were involved and, you know, one might not have dealt the death blow to the divorce, to the marriage, but the other one contributed in some place.\u00a0 You know, they were not the model of grace in Christ during that marriage, and so I would just ask some probing questions to find out what part of the relationship do you take responsibility for?\u00a0 What were some of your weaknesses?\u00a0 What were some of your shortcomings?\u00a0 What were some specific things that you did that you wish you could have done differently?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And if that person comes back and says, \"Well, I think that I probably did some things, but it's all my ex, boy, that's a big signal to you that when you get married to that person, you would become the scapegoat, because that person can't take responsibility for his or her own actions.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And one of the things, I think, that's most important to look for in a mate after you've established the spiritual growth and the following of Christ in obedience to the Scriptures is teachability.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And that's really what you're talking about here.\u00a0 What did you learn?\u00a0 How did you fail?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Is there some humility?\u00a0 Is there some ownership for things that you did wrong other than blamecasting?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, I'm going to tell you, I don't care whether you've been divorced or not, you're going to need teachability when you get married, because there will be mistakes that are made.\u00a0 Is there a third non-negotiable that you would encourage a young lady with?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Well, I could get in trouble for this one, but I honestly thing finances is a huge one.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Now, why do you say you could get in trouble?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGinger:\u00a0Well, I'll give you an example.\u00a0 A friend of mine was dating this man who had been divorced twice, and they were engaged, so this is going to be his third marriage, in debt up to his eyeballs, and I said, \"You know, I really think that he needs to get his finances in order before you get married.\u00a0 So I'm not saying don't get married, I\u2019m saying just wait, and she chose not to.\u00a0 They got married, and now they're really, really struggling because, all of a sudden, the government is coming along saying, \"We may be taking some of the money out of your paycheck to pay for things because\" of the ex-wife wanting more money and more this.\u00a0 And it's just been a very ugly situation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And, I'll tell you, Ginger, I'm glad you mentioned that one, because we live in a culture today where usually the parents, me, as a dad, going back to Bob's question of me \u2013 what would I do if I was a dad \u2013 where the parents, for the most part, don't know the other person their child is about to marry.\u00a0 And this issue of finances is a biggie.\u00a0 It is really a big one, and I don't think 10 years ago I would have ever believed I would make this statement, but I believe to the degree you don't know the young person or the young man or woman that your son or daughter is about to marry, I really think you need to consider doing a little background check, taking a look and finding out what's going on behind the scenes.\u00a0 Because I have heard more than one situation like you just described, where the young man didn't tell his fianc\u00e9e about the debt, brought the debt in, and it was an immediate, an immediate crisis in the marriage, like you describe, from day one, and that doesn't tend to be great circumstances to grow a relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Here is what happens \u2013 somebody who is lonely, longing for relationship, longing to be loved, thinks to himself or herself, \"Those things will all take care of themselves.\u00a0 I just want the loneliness to end, and I want to have somebody who loves me like this.\"\u00a0 And then they get married, and all those real issues start to become very real, and they're not sure what to do with it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And, I'm telling you, it's at those moments they need to listen to the words of Jesus Christ who spoke very authoritatively in Matthew, chapter 7, verse 24 \u2013 \"Therefore, everyone who hears these words of mine and acts upon them may be compared to a wise man who built his house upon the rock, and the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew and burst against that house, and yet it did not fall for it had been founded upon the rock.\"\u00a0 Now, that's the picture of what a marriage is to look like, and that house stood because the builder had heard the voice of Christ and had built his house on the rock.\u00a0 When you don't build it on the rock, and you don't do what Jesus Christ commands you to do, it's the second half of the verse. You've got the same wind, the same floods, the same rain.\u00a0 It's all coming against the house, and you know what it says \u2013 \"and it fell, and great was its fall.\"\u00a0 And that's not what we need more of today.\u00a0 We need houses that are still standing after the elements have come against it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And I think building your house on the rock means being sober-minded, being alert, paying attention, going in wisely not naively, asking a lot of questions, looking at what the Scriptures say, getting the counsel of others \u2013 there are all kinds of things involved in this process.\u00a0 It requires understanding the biblical blueprints but also understanding who you are and your background and your potential spouse's background.\u00a0 I think it's important that individuals who are considering a remarriage get wise counsel and read up on a subject like this.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGet a copy of Ginger's book, \"Surprised by Remarriage,\" and read through it, learn about her experience, get together with some other couples, go through the Homebuilders study that we've created called \"Making Your Remarriage Last,\" and together, as you go through that, hear them talk about their stories of challenges they've experienced.\u00a0 These kinds of things are the things you ought to look at hard before you say \"I do\" in a remarriage situation, and then after the wedding is over, make sure you continue to build into the foundation of your marriage, because you've married in an area where the storms are likely to come a little more often than they might in another situation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe've got resources in our FamilyLife Resource Center, like Ginger's book and like our Homebuilders study, \"Making Your Remarriage Last.\"\u00a0 Go to our website, FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 In the center of the screen, you'll see a red button that says \"Go,\" and if you click on that button, it will take you right to a page where you can get more information about these resources and more resources that we have available here at FamilyLife designed to help you build a strong marriage and designed to help you think through the realities that come with remarriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, the website is FamilyLife.com, click the \"Go\" button in the center of the screen or call us at 1-800-FLTODAY for more information about the resources that are available.\u00a0 Again, it's FamilyLife.com, that's the website, or you can call 1-800-358-6329.\u00a0 That's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY, and if there is any way for the two of you to get to one of our Weekend to Remember Marriage Conferences before you decide to remarry, let us encourage you to do that as well.\u00a0 A lot of the couples who are coming to the conference today are couples who want to make sure that this time they have a better understanding of what marriage is supposed to be as they head in.\u00a0 They know how to build their marriage on the rock, and there is more information, again, on our website at FamilyLife.com about the Weekend to Remember conference, and the conference season is kicking off this month, and it's going to be in cities all across the country.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe hope you can plan to attend one of these upcoming conferences whether you are engaged or married, whether it's your first marriage or a second marriage, this is a great weekend getaway, where you'll learn together the biblical blueprints for building a stronger marriage relationship.\u00a0 Again, there's more information online at FamilyLife.com about the Weekend to Remember or call us at 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, the day after Labor Day is kind of the traditional start of the fall.\u00a0 For a lot of us, school is now back in session, if it hasn't already been back in session for a couple of weeks.\u00a0 The kids are back in their routine, life is getting back to normal after summer break, and the schedule is maybe getting a little more crowded than it has been.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the issues that many of our listeners have asked for help on here at FamilyLife is the whole issue of priorities and time management.\u00a0 We've come across a helpful, very practical resource designed to help couples get control of their schedule, get their priorities established.\u00a0 It's a small booklet called \"Priorities \u2013 Mastering Time Management,\" and we'd like to send it out this month to any of our listeners who can help with a donation of any amount to the ministry of FamilyLife Today.\u00a0 We are listener-supported.\u00a0 We depend on donations to be able to keep this program on the air in this city and in cities all across the country, and so we want to come to those of you who have been listening for a while and say, \"Can we ask you to help us with a donation of any amount?\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can donate online at FamilyLife.com or you can call 1-800-FLTODAY to make a donation, and if you're interested in getting a copy of this booklet on priorities, we're happy to send it to you as our way of saying thank you for your financial support.\u00a0 If you make your donation online, when you come to the keycode box in the donation form, just type the word \"time\" in there, and we'll know that you're requesting a copy of this book, or if you call 1-800-FLTODAY to make your donation just mention that you'd like the book on time management, and we'll be happy to send it out to you.\u00a0 Again, our toll-free number is 1-800-FLTODAY, or you can donate online at FamilyLife.com, and we appreciate you considering your support of this ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, tomorrow Ginger Kolbaba is going to be back with us, and we're going to talk more about some of the challenges that accompany couples where one or both of the spouses has been previously married.\u00a0 I hope you can join us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We'll see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas, a ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t______________________________________________________________\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you.\u00a0 However, there is a cost to transcribe, create, and produce them for our website.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would\u00a0\u00a0 you consider <a 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