{"id":301183,"date":"2006-08-18T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2006-08-18T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/the-cherry-wood-cabinet\/"},"modified":"2024-10-07T22:42:26","modified_gmt":"2024-10-08T02:42:26","slug":"the-cherry-wood-cabinet","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-cherry-wood-cabinet\/","title":{"rendered":"The Cherry Wood Cabinet"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Roger Thompson explains how we often reject God&#8217;s grace.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-08-18.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"11.35M","filesize_raw":"11902688","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2822],"tags":[4299,4634],"podcast_series":[],"cwp_profile":[9024],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-301183","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-growing-in-your-faith","tag-faith","tag-grace","cwp_profile-roger-thompson","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/301183\/the-cherry-wood-cabinet","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/301183\/the-cherry-wood-cabinet","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"73gDIO4KbT\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-cherry-wood-cabinet\/\">The Cherry Wood Cabinet<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/the-cherry-wood-cabinet\/embed\/#?secret=73gDIO4KbT\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;The Cherry Wood Cabinet&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"73gDIO4KbT\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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grace.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-08-18.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0If you're facing a challenging relationship with someone in your family or a friend, a neighbor, a loved one \u2013 there is often pain and struggle.\u00a0 What do you do with that?\u00a0 Roger Thompson says you need to rely on God's sustaining grace.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRoger:\u00a0Are there people in your life that don't relate?\u00a0 You've done all you can, you've crossed the bridge, you've built a bridge, you've tried everything, and they don't relate, and it hurts.\u00a0 There's an ache there.\u00a0 That's where sustaining grace comes in.\u00a0 It's sustaining grace is Jesus Christ's grace to me because I live in a broken planet, and I need His grace to sustain me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Friday, August 18th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 Grace is not just some theological concept.\u00a0 When it comes to relationships, it's vital.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us on the Friday edition.\u00a0 One of the things we talk about when we are at our Weekend to Remember conferences, we talk about the things that threaten marital oneness, intimacy in marriage, and one of those things that is a threat to marital oneness is for couples to be on what you've called for years, \"The 50-50 Plan.\"\u00a0 Now, I remember when Mary Ann and I were dating, seeing magazines that would talk about, \"You can have a 50-50 marriage,\" and it was like everybody was saying, \"This is really what you want, is a good 50-50 marriage.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, the only problem is \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, the problem is I'm not that good at math, you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And her part is never \u2013 it's never as much as my part.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I mean, that's always the way the math works.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0That's what I mean when I say I'm not good at math.\u00a0 Mine gets plus 2 and hers gets minus 1.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, there you go, and as a result those relationships \u2013 well, they don't work long after the honeymoon, and people don't know what to replace it with, Bob, when they see the 50-50 performance relationship fail.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You know, in reality, I think we all tend to be more performance-based in relationships than \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0We do that naturally.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0We're trained in it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0We don't easily give grace.\u00a0 We instead say, \"I withhold affection if I don't like the performance; I am free with affection if you performed well today.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Also, Bob, just in how we receive gifts.\u00a0 Somebody gives us a gift, what do we automatically feel like we need to do in return?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Give them something, even the score a little bit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That's right.\u00a0 It's back to 50-50.\u00a0 We're always trying to give as we've been given to, and that's why sometimes when we haven't been given to the way we think we ought to be, we withhold that affection, and that can destroy a marriage relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You know, this issue of how we relate to one another and being grace-based in our relationships, I think it became clear to me when you and I were listening to a message together that was given by a friend of ours, Roger Thompson, at an event where we had all of the couples who speak at the Weekend to Remember conferences, we had them together, and we asked Roger to speak to the group.\u00a0 As I remember, he was preparing us for communion, for the Lord's Table, as we were all going to take the Lord's Supper together, and he told a story that took me by surprise.\u00a0 Do you know the one I'm talking about?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I know exactly what you're talking about.\u00a0 I was in the audience and, frankly, I figured it out before he got to the punch line.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Did you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0But rather than give our listeners the punch line, we'll let him do that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Roger is the senior pastor at Berean Baptist Church in suburban Minneapolis.\u00a0 He and his wife Joann speak together with us at our Weekend to Remember conferences.\u00a0 In addition to being a pastor, Roger is kind of a part-time woodworker.\u00a0 He loves to go out in his shop.\u00a0 He kind of likes to get alone and just be there and work with his hands and make things out in his woodworking shop, and the story he told us actually relates to that hobby of his, and it caught me off guard.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRoger:\u00a0[From audiotape].\u00a0 Well, I'm an introvert, and I like being alone.\u00a0 So I'm also a woodworker.\u00a0 I love creating things out of word and making furniture and working in detail and being challenged by that, and so one of the ways \u2013 one of my love languages is to make things, make furniture, tables and chairs and bookcases and beds and things for the women that I love.\u00a0 I have two daughters and Joann, and they are the recipients of that, and I love my time alone.\u00a0 I'm by myself, and I'm doing something that I love.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, my son-in-law, Eric, just graduated from dental college this past June or May, and in July he started his practice.\u00a0 And so I made for my daughter, Shelly and Eric, who have been married for two years and in school, their whole marriage up until now \u2013 I made for them a corner cabinet.\u00a0 It's made out of beautiful Midwestern cherry, a dark red cherry, it's about 84 inches high, and it fits in the corner and has a big door on the top and a smaller door on the bottom.\u00a0 If you know Thomas Moser furniture, I kind of copy his stuff.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And then at the appropriate moment this fall, we went and surprised them and took it up to their home and gave it to them.\u00a0 And then I received this letter back from Shelly a little while later, and here is what she wrote \u2013 \"Dear Dad, Eric and I want to thank you for all your work to make the cherry wood corner cabinet for our dining room.\u00a0 We realize it represents many hours of planning and many Mondays in the garage, cutting, fitting, and sanding.\u00a0 Dad, I don't have a lot of time, and I hope you won't take this the wrong way, but there are several reasons why we just can't receive this gift at this time.\u00a0 Please hear me out, and then we'll see if we can reach an understanding.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0The first reason we have had a hard time receiving this handmade furniture is that, well, and I know you like big words, Dad \u2013 it's superfluous.\u00a0 Yes, I mean it's over the top, it's not necessary.\u00a0 I mean, I wish you would have asked us what we really needed the most before going to all that trouble.\u00a0 You know that we've been in school forever.\u00a0 Eric has just finished dental college, and we have some pretty hefty loans to pay off.\u00a0 What we really need is cash not furniture.\u00a0 I'm sure that's no surprise to you so one option would be for you to sell the cabinet and send us the cash.\u00a0 I'm just being honest about how we feel and what we really need right now.\u00a0 I know you'll understand.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0The second reason we hesitate to receive this gift is a little tougher to communicate.\u00a0 It's about appearances.\u00a0 You know, how it makes other people feel.\u00a0 You see, something hand-built like this, and we know what it would sell for in the catalog, it's real expensive.\u00a0 Well, it just doesn't seem fair to flaunt something like that in front of our friends.\u00a0 We would feel self-conscious.\u00a0 It feels like we'd be showing off with something we can't explain, and we don't deserve.\u00a0 Maybe we could store it somewhere an install it when everybody else seems to be established and secure in their lifestyles and when it won't be quite so noticeable and dominant.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And that brings me to our third reason to forgo your loving but misguided intentions.\u00a0 We are a tad bit offended.\u00a0 Don't worry, we love you and all, but we would like to reframe our working relationship with you now that we are two working professionals.\u00a0 We feel strongly that we can stand on our own two feet.\u00a0 In the future, we would like to pick what we need from a catalog and allow you to submit what you would charge as compared to others.\u00a0 We would gladly pay you the going rate for anything you build for us in the future.\u00a0 Can we establish this new footing of mutuality as adults with you?\u00a0 It sure would make us feel like equals, and it just seems like it would help everyone concerned to know exactly what to expect from everyone else.\u00a0 It puts us all on a level playing field.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, we know you mean well, we just thought some honest feedback might help you redirect your hard work in the right direction.\u00a0 We'd be glad to help you find your focus.\u00a0 Love, Shelly and Eric.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0What would you feel like if the one thing you loved most to do, and the thing that you had meticulously handcrafted was rejected like this rejection?\u00a0 Well, the only thing real about this letter is the cherry corner cabinet.\u00a0 But I put these words in the mouth of a child, and I hope if you ever meet her that you won't remember this.\u00a0 But now I want to ask you something.\u00a0 Is there any way that I am treating my father in this way?\u00a0 How do you see yourself in light of grace?\u00a0 It's the most important statement and the most important relationship in the universe. Do I resist the free grace that my Father has specifically planned for me?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So a couple of ways to think about this tonight \u2013 first of all, I just want to think about sustaining grace.\u00a0 Jesus Christ's handcrafted, perfectly made, delightfully offered, sustaining grace.\u00a0 Joann and I have spent some time this year examining our lives and recognizing that we carry a lot of what we have coined as evangelical guilt.\u00a0 It's not really morally wrong, it's just our humanity.\u00a0 We're just human.\u00a0 Could we just sustain for a moment that there are some weaknesses we have, some humanity that we have, that is not sin?\u00a0 It's a need.\u00a0 You need to breathe.\u00a0 You need to eat.\u00a0 You need to drink.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Sustaining grace, the way I'm thinking about it is Jesus Christ's grace to me because I live in a broken planet.\u00a0 Are there people in your life that don't relate very well?\u00a0 You've done all you can, you've crossed the bridge, you've built the bridge, you've tried everything, and they don't relate, and it hurts.\u00a0 There's an ache there.\u00a0 That's where sustaining grace comes in.\u00a0 It says, you know, \"Yeah, there are aspects of sin in this, but you're not the problem for a bent world.\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0My daughter, Jill, who is now 29 and a mom in Houston, 15 years ago we made the hard decision to move from Colorado to Minnesota, and at that point Jill was 14.\u00a0 She was at the very epicenter of her Jill-centric world.\u00a0 Everything wrapped around our house, our church, her friends, and it was never going to change until we came to her with the news, \"Jill, God has called us,\" and Jill went into her room.\u00a0 She's an introvert, too, and that's the way she is.\u00a0 She just went in her room, and she cried.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0She cried for about a half an hour, and I didn't know what to say and, finally, I started to scoot off the bed and get up to go.\u00a0 And she said, \"No!\" and I thought she was resisting the decision, and I started to explain to her, \"Honey, this is God's will for us.\u00a0 We're going to go.\u00a0 I'm sorry you don't get to vote, but you're going to\" \u2013 she said \"No!\u00a0 Don't leave.\"\u00a0 She wasn't arguing the issue, she just wanted to be with me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0The Lord's sustaining grace, you could all speak volumes about that.\u00a0 That every weakness is not necessarily a sin, and every failure is not necessarily your fault, and everything \u2013 all the problems in the world are not necessarily ours.\u00a0 Jesus is our victor, our pioneer won a victory and He now is saying, \"This is what you will one day be \u2013 co-heirs with me, and I want to give you My grace today.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0This past two and a half years has been a very difficult time for us in our ministry.\u00a0 I won't go the whole long story, but I had asked my executive pastor to make a transition, and he's an honorable man.\u00a0 He's a brother in Christ, but it just didn't go well, and we didn't have a conflicted relationship, but we were sending different messages, but we hurt one another in the process of separating, and it went through our whole church, and so we called in the peacemakers ministry.\u00a0 We sat down with two brothers who sat down with Paul and myself and our deacons, and they began their process of surgery on our hearts.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0They said, \"Roger, what are the logs in your eye?\u00a0 What have you done to sin against your brother?\"\u00a0 And I began to work on that.\u00a0 They sent me home that night to work on it some more, and I realized what I allowed my motives to think about my brother and some of my words to say, and I needed to go to him and confess it to him.\u00a0 And we met the next day, and they asked me and coached us into this session, and they said, \"Roger, what do you need to say to Paul?\"\u00a0 And I confessed to him my sin, and I said, \"Paul it was against you that I did this and, Brother, I want to ask you for your forgiveness.\"\u00a0 And he instantly said, \"Of course, I forgive you.\u00a0 Of course, I forgive you.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0What a weight rolls off our shoulders when we know the one we have offended has forgiven us.\u00a0 How do we know we're forgiven because the cross is all there ever is and ever will be for our sin, and it's finished, it's His cross.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Now, that's Roger Thompson, the pastor of Berean Baptist Church in suburban Minneapolis and also one of the speakers who speaks at the Weekend to Remember conferences talking about how grace is not just some abstract theological concept.\u00a0 It's a very real part of what relationships need to look like in the body of Christ, certainly, but also in our homes, in our families, in our marriages.\u00a0 We've got to be people of grace if we want to honor God in how we relate to one another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And, Bob, those of us who profess to be followers of Jesus Christ need to realize that this grace he's just spoken about is not an option, but it is the essence of who Christ is.\u00a0 If you think about John 1:14, it says, \"And we beheld His glory,\" full of what?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Grace and truth.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Two things \u2013 two things represented the glory of God, Jesus Christ in His grace and in His truth.\u00a0 And if we're going to represent Him, if we're going to be Christlike, that means in our relationships we need to represent Him being full of grace.\u00a0 That means we can offer forgiveness, and we can forgive as well as being truthful in those relationships as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You know, it's interesting.\u00a0 I was \u2013 and I don't know why I was doing this the other day, but I did a word search on the word \"grace\" on my computer software, my Bible software.\u00a0 And I think it was just two references in the Old Testament to the word \"grace.\"\u00a0 And I looked them up, and both of them, as I remember, were not about God's grace toward us, but they were pleas for God to be gracious.\u00a0 And then you get to the New Testament, and it starts slow, but after the cross, there is a lot about grace in the Bible.\u00a0 That's the turning point in all of human history, and that's the point where grace became real for each one of us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And, you know, it's at home, Bob, that I think grace is most needed.\u00a0 I'm thinking of the song, \"Amazing Grace,\" and just one stanza where it says, \"Through many dangers, toils, and snares, I have already come; 'Tis grace hath brought me safe thus far, and grace will lead me\" \u2013 where?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Home.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Home.\u00a0 And if we don't know how to express grace to the people we love the most, how are going to ever express grace to a generation of people who are dying without Christ?\u00a0 And here is where I just want to \u2013 I'd like to roll up my sleeves and put my arm around a listener at this point and say, \"If you and your spouse have not been to the Weekend to Remember to come and find out about this grace and this truth and the Savior that represented both perfectly, why don't you come and spend a weekend with us and let us equip you to be a person who knows how to exhibit grace to your husband, to your wife, to your kids, instead of snapping at them or barking at them or being embittered towards them?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Or measuring them to see if they measure up to whatever performance you're looking for.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Exactly, but, you know, we need a new game plan here, and I think the Christian community, for the most part, really needs a refresher when it comes to this grace, and I really never thought about it this way, Bob, but our entire conference is all about the grace of God.\u00a0 It talks about God giving you a gift through His Son Jesus Christ and also the gift of your spouse.\u00a0 And He has made known His love for you because He gave you a helpmate, a husband or a wife to meet your needs, and the issue you need to come to grips with is how do you relate to this imperfect person that you're married to and how do you express grace, give grace, and receive grace in return from that person?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Coming up in another couple of weeks, we're going to be kicking off the fall season of our Weekend to Remember conferences.\u00a0 We're going to be hosting these conferences in about four-dozen cities all around the country this fall, and we want to encourage all of you to consider setting aside a weekend this fall, finding out when the conference is coming to a city near where you live and planning now to take that weekend to get away and invest in your marriage and spend a little time learning more about how God's grace applies in marriage and how you can be a channel of God's grace to one another in your marriage relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Go to our website at FamilyLife.com and click on the \"Go\" button that you find in the middle of the screen.\u00a0 That will take you to a page where you can get more information about the upcoming Weekend to Remember conferences.\u00a0 You can find out when the conference is coming to a city near where you live, and you can go ahead now and mark that weekend off on your calendar.\u00a0 You can contact us to register for one of these upcoming conferences.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Again, the website is FamilyLife.com, and if you click that \"Go\" button in the center of the screen, it will take you right to the page where you can get the information you need about the upcoming conferences.\u00a0 You will also see on that same page information about a book by our friend, Dr. David Jeremiah.\u00a0 It's a book that tells the story of a man whose life was so transformed by the grace of God that he wrote the words to probably the best-known hymn in all of hymnity \u2013 John Newton, the former slave trader who was amazed by God's grace and wrote the hymn, \"Amazing Grace.\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Dr. Jeremiah, in a book called \"Captured by Grace,\" looks at how grace is transforming in our lives and in one another's lives.\u00a0 God's grace to us and God's grace through us to others is what God uses to change hearts and to change lives.\u00a0 If you'd like a copy of Dr. Jeremiah's book, it's available from our FamilyLife Resource Center as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Again, go to our website, FamilyLife.com, click the \"Go\" button in the center of the screen, and that will take you right to the page where you can get more information about the book and about the upcoming Weekend to Remember conference season that begins here in another couple of weeks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And when you do get in touch with us, can we ask you to consider making a donation to the ministry of FamilyLife Today?\u00a0 We are nearing the end of summer, it's the end of our fiscal year, and as we approach it, we find ourselves about $650,000 away from our donation goal for this year, our budget for the year, and knowing that, we've had some listeners who have already gotten in touch with us not only to make a donation to help us out, but many of those listeners have made a challenge to other listeners encouraging you to donate as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We heard from a mom who lives in Ohio who called to make a donation, and we want to challenge others who are mothers of six or more children, or whatever your family size is.\u00a0 She says, \"If you think you've got a full quiver, call in and make a donation.\"\u00a0 We heard from another mom who is a stay-at-home mom.\u00a0 She wanted to encourage other stay-at-home moms to donate to the ministry of FamilyLife Today, and we heard from a homeschooling mom who called and said, \"I want to make a donation, and I want to encourage other homeschooling parents to make a donation as well.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So can I encourage you?\u00a0 Go to our website, FamilyLife.com, click the button that says \"Make a Donation.\"\u00a0 You'll see it on the left side of the screen, and that will take you right to a page where you can make a donation online, and not only make a donation, if you are able to, but issue a challenge.\u00a0 Ask other folks who are in your situation, maybe you're a grandparent or maybe you're a newlywed couple just starting out, maybe you're single.\u00a0 Issue a challenge to others to help support the ministry of FamilyLife Today as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Again, our website is FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 You can make a donation online, as I said, or you can call 1-800-FLTODAY, make a donation over the phone.\u00a0 That's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 When you make your donation just say \"I want to make a challenge as well,\" and we'll pass the word along and see if we can't get a little closer to our budget goal before we come to the end of our fiscal year here in a couple of weeks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, I hope you have a great weekend.\u00a0 I hope you and your family are able to worship together this weekend, and I hope you can be back with us on Monday when Rebecca St. James is going to join us.\u00a0 We're going to talk about some of her personal convictions as a young woman; choices that she has made in the area of modesty and purity to try to represent a godly standard to other young women, and we'll talk about resource that we've created here at FamilyLife to try to help moms and daughters embrace some of those same standards.\u00a0 I hope you can be with us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We'll see you back Monday for another edition of FamilyLife Today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0FamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas, a ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you.\u00a0 However, there is a cost to transcribe, create, and produce them for our website.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would\u00a0\u00a0 you consider 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