{"id":301135,"date":"2006-06-16T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2006-06-16T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/understanding-and-honoring-your-wife-part-2\/"},"modified":"2024-10-07T22:42:21","modified_gmt":"2024-10-08T02:42:21","slug":"understanding-and-honoring-your-wife-part-2","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/understanding-and-honoring-your-wife-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding and Honoring Your Wife, Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>On today&#8217;s broadcast, renowned speaker and author Dennis Rainey gives practical suggestions for loving your wife and honoring her in a way she&#8217;ll truly understand.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dennis Rainey gives practical suggestions for loving your wife and honoring her in a way she&#8217;ll truly understand.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-06-16.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:","filesize":"11.35M","filesize_raw":"11902480","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2901],"tags":[4187,4022],"podcast_series":[7457],"cwp_profile":[3048],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-301135","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-husbands","tag-husbands","tag-wives","podcast_series-understanding-and-honoring-your-wife","cwp_profile-dennis-rainey","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/301135\/understanding-and-honoring-your-wife-part-2","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/301135\/understanding-and-honoring-your-wife-part-2","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"4tFVfDV63U\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/understanding-and-honoring-your-wife-part-2\/\">Understanding and Honoring Your Wife, Part 2<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/understanding-and-honoring-your-wife-part-2\/embed\/#?secret=4tFVfDV63U\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;Understanding and Honoring Your Wife, Part 2&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"4tFVfDV63U\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! 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understand.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-06-16.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Honestly, some guys just don't get it, they don't have a clue.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0Hey, sugar, just what, I just bought a bike.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWoman:\u00a0You did what?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0A motorcycle.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWoman:\u00a0Why didn't you call?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0Oh, I've heard marriages, you know, they're hard and everything, but it can't be that hard.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWoman:\u00a0You bought a Harley?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0Yeah, cool, huh?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0I think that's like in high school when they tell you \"This is going to be the hardest final you've ever taken.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWoman:\u00a0I'm pregnant.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0I guess I didn't think of that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWoman:\u00a0You bought a Harley, I'm pregnant.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0You know, I bring her flowers, and you gotta, like, you know, do all the little lovebirds and \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWoman:\u00a0I'm pregnant, and you bought a Harley!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMan:\u00a0I think marriage is kind of like that.\u00a0 It's, you know, stuff like that, but it can't be that hard.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWoman:\u00a0I'm pregnant, and you bought a Harley!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us.\u00a0 Do you think most \u2013 I was going to ask you a question.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Go ahead, ask me the question.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I was going to ask, do you think that most guys who become husbands realize what they're getting themselves into?\u00a0 Do you think they know how hard the job is going to be?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Oh, no, I think a great illustration of that is my grafted-in son, Michael, my first new son who married my first-born daughter, Ashley.\u00a0 After they were married, you know, they signed a marriage covenant as part of their marriage ceremony, and Ashley found him in the front hallway of their house, right where you open the front door and go into their home, re-reading what he promised \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0\u2026 in that marriage covenant?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0In that marriage covenant, and I think the point he was wanting to know what he promised when he said \"I do.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0It sounded simple back when he was saying it.\u00a0 Now he's reading it again and going, \"I had no idea.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah, and that's why we need the Scripture.\u00a0 You know, the Bible is a blueprint for life, and it's definitely a blueprint for building a Christian marriage.\u00a0 And so whether you've been married for a few weeks, a few months, a few years or many years, we all need to be sharpened and shaped by the words of the Bible.\u00a0 And earlier we talked about how husbands are to live with their wives in an understanding way, and that comes from 1 Peter, chapter 3, verse 7.\u00a0 There's a second half to this verse I want us to catch today, though \u2013 \"You husbands, likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman.\u00a0 And grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life so that your prayers may not be hindered.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Earlier this week we talked about the whole aspect of dwelling with our wives according to knowledge and understanding \u2013 understanding her.\u00a0 And I just wrote down some statements about this, Bob, just in summary to what we talked about \u2013 not living with her lustfully but serving her; not selfishly but denying yourself; not being rough with her physically or emotionally, but being gentle and kind, remembering she is not just a buddy, she is a friend who has been given to you by God but a weaker vessel; not neglecting her but paying attention to her; not emotionally abusing her with your words or your attitudes but using words to build her up and to strengthen her and encourage her; not making fun of her or poking fun at her but instead looking for opportunities to use phrases or terms of endearment to express your appreciation to let her know you'd marry her all over again \u2013 that all has to do with living with your wife in an understanding way.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Today I want to talk, though, about honoring your wife, and I want to just give you three quick reasons from the Scripture as to why you need to honor your wife.\u00a0 They are all found right here in 1 Peter 3:7.\u00a0 First of all, you should honor her as your wife because she is a vessel of God.\u00a0 It's interesting, the word actually is a picture for the vessels that were used in the temple for worship \u2013 selected by God for His purposes, our wives have been hand-selected by God as a vessel for purposes in your life, in your marriage, in your family, and for your impact together as a couple.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0A second reason why we need to honor our wives is she is a weaker vessel, she is a woman, and being a woman is not a reason for contempt or to make fun of her because she is weaker or because she thinks differently.\u00a0 She is simply that \u2013 a weaker physical vessel.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Do you think it's talking about her being physically weaker than her husband?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Yeah, I've seen reports that, in general, a man has 50% more upper body strength than an average woman does, those are the statistics.\u00a0 Now, if that's the case, it ought to mean that the stuff that involves more physical exertion, a little more heavy lifting \u2013 that ought to fall to us, that's a part of how we honor our wives.\u00a0 Now, as soon as I say that, somebody is going to remember that they saw Mary Ann out mowing the yard, and she was still pregnant with Amy.\u00a0 In fact, it was right before she delivered Amy.\u00a0 But she had that burst of energy that women have right at the end.\u00a0 That's why she was out doing it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0There you go.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0But, in general \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0In general, you'd lost energy because she was pregnant, isn't that right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0That's right.\u00a0 In general, we ought to be the ones who are bearing the physical load.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That's exactly right, and there's a third reason why we need to grant our wives honor, and the Scripture says she's a \"joint heir of the grace of life,\" and that simply means she's a follower of Christ.\u00a0 She's been redeemed; she's been forgiven and, as such \u2013 well, I think it's kind of going back to the concept is she's a sacred vessel \u2013 grant her honor as a sacred vessel.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And what I want to do for the remaining part of our time together is I just want to give men a number of ways to practically honor our wives, and I'm going to set it up by reading an e-mail [rattles paper] that I promised I'd read here, and this is pretty cool.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0\"Dear Dennis, I'm a long-time listener to FamilyLife Today on WAVA in Washington, D.C., and I'm a Legacy Partner\" \u2013 they give monthly to our ministry \u2013 \"I wanted to again commend you and all who are involved with FamilyLife Today for the broadcast recently that you've been airing earlier this week.\"\u00a0 That particular week he was listening was a series we did about protecting your marriage from affairs.\u00a0 He goes on to say, \"I've been a listener for at least a decade, and I don't think that I've ever heard anything better than what I've been hearing this week.\u00a0 I expect that I will give out many recordings of this week's broadcast in the years ahead.\"\u00a0 But now listen to what he says here.\u00a0 He has a confession here \u2013 he said, \"It also impacted me personally in that I realized while listening to the guest speak that I usually put more effort into planning my golf outing with my buddies than I put into planning dates with my wife.\u00a0 I want to change that.\u00a0 I thank God for the ministry of FamilyLife.\"\u00a0 I'll not mention his name on air just in case he's continuing his ways with his golf.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But what he's saying here is we all need help in knowing how to focus on our wives, and I just want to click off a number of ways we can honor our wives.\u00a0 First way is by serving them, and one of the most basic ways you can serve your wife, in my opinion, is expressing common courtesies.\u00a0 I still stand by Barbara's chair when we have dinner home alone together as empty-nesters, and I'll pull the chair out and push it under her as she is seated.\u00a0 I open the door of her car \u2013 not always but many times.\u00a0 I open the door to our house and allow her to enter first.\u00a0 I think those are all pictures of honoring our wives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0The concept of honor here in 1 Peter 3:7 means to affix a price, to place value upon another.\u00a0 And I think we need a revival of common courtesies, personally.\u00a0 A second way we can honor our spouse is by valuing her opinion, and, you know, this takes time.\u00a0 The problem for a man is this takes time.\u00a0 Our wives ask about our day, and they ask about some decision we're facing that may be a financial decision, and we know in order to truly explain the decision to her, we have to get into the details.\u00a0 And, honestly, truthfully, sometimes I am too tired or too selfish to want to explain it.\u00a0 But I've learned and have come to realize that Barbara really appreciates it when her opinion is valued.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0In fact, the more important the decision, the more important it is that I engage her in the process of making that decision.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You're not talking exclusively about decisions that affect both of you.\u00a0 You're talking about decisions you are facing where you are seeking her counsel even though she may not be affected by the ultimate decision, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Right, and I'm also thinking, though, of financial decisions that a man can make in a marriage and, truthfully, here is where my dad \u2013 and I don't want to dishonor him in any way, but dad just made most of the decisions.\u00a0 He didn't bring my mom into them.\u00a0 Certainly, that generation had a style where men kind of did their thing and women did their thing, and I don't know that it necessarily contributed to the strengthening of the marriage relationship, and it certainly doesn't communicate honor.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0When our kids were still little, I learned early on that when one of the kids would come and say, \"Hey, Dad, can I\" \u2013 and then they were going to ask to do whatever \u2013 that the wise response in most of those situations was, \"Let me talk to your mom,\" and Mary Ann learned the same thing.\u00a0 She would say, \"Let me talk to your dad,\" and the reason for that is because my default answer in a lot of those situations with the kids was \"Yeah.\"\u00a0 I always want to say yes rather than no.\u00a0 Mary Ann's default was typically \"No.\"\u00a0 And it's not that she's a meanie, it's just that she's thinking, \"I've got\u00a0 a plan, I've got an agenda, and we're not going to interrupt that.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So by getting together and saying, \"What do you think about this decision that one of the kids just asked about, I was able to get the benefit of insight that I often didn't have when a child would make a request, and I've just got to say here, I think there are some dads who think, \"I'm the dad, I should make those decisions.\"\u00a0 Well, there'll be situations where you may need to make a judgment call.\u00a0 But a wise, honoring husband isn't going to make those in isolation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And if you are one with her, and you take the time to become one with her around these decisions, that honors her.\u00a0 You also honor her, though, when you back up her authority. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0There is another way we honor our wives, and that's by boldly loving her, boldly pursuing her.\u00a0 I'll not get into the details of what Barbara did, it's not important, but she disappointed me.\u00a0 She did something that disappointed me, she made a choice, and I remember just feeling intensely a desire to either totally retreat and run away from the relationship and punish her with silence or to point out \u2013 you know, what I mean?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I know what you mean.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Point out and \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You were looking at rejection or correction, which were you going to do, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yes, exactly, and what I ended up doing was saying nothing and instead deciding to continue to love her and pursue her.\u00a0 That communicates honor \u2013 bold love communicates honor to our wives, especially when they disappoint us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Now, there may be a husband who is going, are you saying you just ignored this disappointment?\u00a0 You didn't bring it up and address it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0No, we talked about it, but it was later.\u00a0 It wasn't right then, it wasn't appropriate right then, because I was steamed.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0So you waited until some of the emotion had drained out of \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0\u2026 for both of us \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0\u2026 the situation before you sat down to address it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Exactly, and that really leads to another way we can bring honor to our wives, and that's through our words.\u00a0 When we do decide to speak, use words that build up not words that tear down and turn your conversations into a demolition derby.\u00a0 And a lot of times in a marriage relationship, you get two people who get locked up emotionally, and they get fixated on a problem, which can happen in marriage, and you just start back and forth, back and forth, back and forth, and you get two people who are angry, and they both say things that are negative to each other, hurt each other worse, and it just escalates from there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But there is another way to use words positively, Bob, and that's at the dinner table.\u00a0 One of the ways we used to do this with Barbara is when she'd had a horrible, terrible, no-good, very bad day, I'd call the kids together at dinnertime after we'd finished the meal, and I'd say, \"Okay, kids, let's have a cheer for Mom,\" and they'd cheer, and I'd say, \"Now we're going to go around the table a couple of times \u2013 what do you like best about Mom?\"\u00a0 And, you know, you had the older kids who were able to articulate certain things, and you could just see Barbara's shoulders beginning to raise a bit, and her head to kind of come up, especially when the little ones would say \u2013 \"and she lets me play with her toys,\" you know, when they express those fun little expressions.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And I have to think that Barbara \u2013 she knew what was going on, you were trying to cheer her up \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Oh, sure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And you had the kids kind of rallying.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And sometimes it didn't work.\u00a0 I mean, if it had been a real bad day, there's no amount of cheering that's going to lift somebody's spirits, but it never hurts.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And it can't hurt for a wife to hear words of esteem.\u00a0 I mean, even if it doesn't snap the spell of the bad day, it's not doing any damage, is it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0No, it isn't, and you're not using words, again, as I said, to have an effect that's like a demolition derby.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0To tear down, that's right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That's exactly right.\u00a0 You know, there is another way we communicate honor to our wives, and it's found over in Ephesians, chapter 5, verse 29 where the Apostle Paul is instructing husbands in how they should love their wives, and I\u2019m going to tell you, both of these words are powerful words in delivering honor to our wives.\u00a0 The words are \"nourish\" and \"cherish.\"\u00a0 It talks about a husband nourishing and cherishing his wife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0The word \"nourish\" is really interesting.\u00a0 It means \"to nurture to maturity.\"\u00a0 So a husband's assignment, spiritually speaking, is to help his wife in such a way that helps her continue to grow and become the woman God made her to be.\u00a0 That may occur through the reading of the Bible, that may mean praying with her or for her or over her, but the point is that you, as a husband, are taking responsibility to nourish your wife.\u00a0 But you also cherish her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And I like this word \"cherish.\"\u00a0 It's such a happy term, especially if you say it to your wife \u2013 \"I cherish you.\"\u00a0 The word literally means \"to warm another.\"\u00a0 When you cherish someone, if you think about it, honor brings a warm feeling to the heart.\u00a0 One of the things that I believe cherishes our wives is conversation; is having the confidence in your wife to share some of your innermost thoughts; some of your fears; some of your disappointments; when things go wrong at work, and then to listen to them while they share about their day \u2013 and to delight in them and in conversation.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Frankly, this has been one of the surprises of the empty nest.\u00a0 Barbara and I have had some dinners alone where we've sat and talked from 6:30 until 8 \u2013 hour and a half, and some nights it will be almost all her, and I'll be listening, and she'll be talking, and I'll be taking it all in, and I'm not giving her a sermon, I'm just listening, and we're talking about her dreams and what she wants to do and where she wants to go and things she wants to accomplish, and the rug upstairs that needs to be replaced, and I'm listening to her, and you know what?\u00a0 That lets her know that I honor her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0In all these things, I think there is one missing ingredient in honoring our wives that most men miss, and anyone who has listened to FamilyLife Today for any number of years knows that we talk about this, we pound the table about it, I'm passionate about it, because I do this with Barbara every day, and I think, frankly, this may be the ultimate way you can honor your wife, and that's by praying with her.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0It's interesting that in 1 Peter, chapter 3, verse 7, that it says \"we should honor our wives as a fellow heir of the grace of life so that our prayers may not be hindered.\"\u00a0 And it's interesting, there is a little bit of a play on words.\u00a0 The word \"hindered\" actually means that your prayers may not be interrupted.\u00a0 Now, think about it for a moment.\u00a0 If you're not honoring Mary Ann, and you seek to bow your head with her and pray with her, are there going to be some hindrances to those prayers being heard by God and being ultimately received with favor by him?\u00a0 I think so.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So I think the Scriptures are saying, \"Honor your wife so that when you bow your heads together, whether it's at the beginning of the day, in the middle of the day, or at the end of the day, and you pray together, your prayers are not interrupted.\u00a0 There is nothing between you, there is no hindrance.\u00a0 You can bow together in unity because she is feeling honored, and you can take her hand, and you can pray with her, you can pray for her, or you can pray over her.\u00a0 And we hear back from couples who do this.\u00a0 I promise you, if you will begin the habit of praying every day with your wives, men, every day \u2013 just make a commitment, and if you miss a night, pick it up again tomorrow night.\u00a0 If you'll do that, at the end of two years, your marriage will not be the same.\u00a0 Your relationship will experience profound growth.\u00a0 You will see your wife flourish, you will see her nourished and cherished.\u00a0 She will become a wife who is honored.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You and your wife, Barbara, wrote a book a few years ago on this subject because I know this is something you have a passion for.\u00a0 The book was called \"Two Hearts Praying as One,\" and it was designed to give husbands and wives some very practical blueprints for how they can begin this discipline of praying together regularly, and I want to encourage the men who are listening \u2013 this is a book you can read quickly and easily, and it will help get you started in this practice of praying together with your wife.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You can request a copy of the book, \"Two Hearts Praying as One,\" when you go to our website, FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 Click on the \"Go\" button that you see in the middle of the screen.\u00a0 It's a red button, and that will take you right to a page where there is more information about the book by Dennis and Barbara Rainey called \"Two Hearts Praying as One.\"\u00a0 You'll also find information on other resources for husbands who are wanting to do the job right, including a brand-new book by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn called \"For Men Only.\" This is a book that helps us, as guys, understand what our wives are thinking.\u00a0 You talk about trying to live with your wife in an understanding way, this is a book that helps bring clarity and understanding to what is a sometimes confusing and challenging assignement for us.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd if you are interested in getting both Jeff and Shaunti's book and the book by Dennis and Barbara Rainey on praying together as a couple, we'll send along at no additional cost the CD audio of what Dennis has been teaching us this week as husbands on loving and nourishing and cherishing our wives.\u00a0 You can listen back to it again or pass it on to someone who might benefit from hearing it as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Again, all the information is available on our website at FamilyLife.com or call 1-800-FLTODAY, and we'll let you know how you can get these resources sent to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You know, we hear fairly regularly from FamilyLife Today listeners who contact us to either suggest potential guests for our program or subjects they would like to see us address, and we had a number of listeners who wrote to us not long ago wanting us to address the subject of healthy eating, what our relationship with food ought to be; everything from diet to eating disorders, and we wanted to make sure we were approaching that kind of a subject not with kind of the latest fad, but we wanted to approach it biblically.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And so we contacted our friend, Elyse Fitzpatrick, who has written a book called \"Love to Eat, Hate to Eat,\" and she joined us as a guest on FamilyLife Today, and many of our listeners contacted us and appreciated the conversation that we had with Elyse, and we thought during the month of June we wanted to make a copy of that conversation available on CD to any of our listeners who could help with a donation of any amount to the ministry of FamilyLife Today this month.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We are listener-supported.\u00a0 Those donations are essential, and so if you can help with a donation to support the ministry during the month of June, we want to encourage you to request a copy of the CD audio of our conversation with Elyse Fitzpatrick on the subject of food and what the Bible has to say about eating and learning how to be content; how not to make food into an idol.\u00a0 We covered all of those themes as Elyse was here.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You can request a copy of that CD when you make a donation of any amount this month to FamilyLife Today.\u00a0 Go online at FamilyLife.com, fill out the donation form online, and when you do you'll find a keycode box.\u00a0 Just type the word \"Eat\" into that box, and that will let us know that you want the CD sent to you, or call 1-800-358-6329, that's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 You can make a donation over the phone, and when you do make sure to mention that you would like a copy of the CD sent to you, and we'll be happy to do that.\u00a0 It's our way of saying thank you for standing with us and partnering financially to help us with the ongoing costs of FamilyLife Today.\u00a0 We really appreciate your joining with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, we hope you have a great weekend.\u00a0 I hope you and your family are able to worship together this weekend, and we hope you can be back with us on Monday when we're going to take a look at some new high-tech ways to get your family involved in studying God's Word.\u00a0 Scott Lindsey is going to join us, I hope you can join us as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We'll see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0FamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife 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