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word.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2006-01-19.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0One of the difficulties was his wife wasn't feeling loved by him because he didn't know how to communicate love in a way that would feel like love to her.\u00a0 Kevin didn't speak Allison's love language.\u00a0 She really needed to hear the words over and over again, and he wasn't good with words.\u00a0 At work she met someone who was, and she was finding that this was filling a void in her life that was missing in her relationship with her husband, and she was drawn to that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Thursday, January 19th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 Before George Kenworthy could help Kevin and Allison with their marriage problems, he needed to know what they believed about God.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us.\u00a0 Have you seen those late-night shows on TV that are selling products, and you watch, and you go, \"This looks really good,\" and then you think to yourself, \"In fact, for 19.95, if you're getting all that, it can't really be that good,\" you know what I'm talking about?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Well, I'm usually in bed by then, but I did hear a product offered the other night.\u00a0 Barbara and I were sitting there, and it was 50 great hymns of the faith, and they show all these great pictures of mountains and oceans and the majesty of who God is, while there's this great rendition of some of the great hymns of the faith.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0So did you order it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Why not?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Well, it's 24 bucks, I mean, hey.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, I'm thinking about the mops that pick up everything, or the choppers \u2013 have you seen the ones for the choppers where you can do four times the work and \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0How many of those do you have, Bob?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0I have a few, and they don't \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0You know, I think we ought to call Mary Ann and find out how many of these super-doozer blade choppers they have.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0They work better on the TV show than they have ever worked in my kitchen.\u00a0 The reason I bring that up is because I'm thinking to myself, do we have some listeners who have heard us talking this week about making over your marriage.\u00a0 Marriages being in desperate shape, and the marriage being restored, and they think to themselves, \"I don't know, I'm skeptical.\u00a0 It sounds good, but it sounds too good to be true,\" you know?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I do know, but as our guest on today's program and we have talked, I do believe he is up to something here.\u00a0 Dr. George Kenworthy joins us again on FamilyLife Today.\u00a0 George, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0It's good to be back, Dennis.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0George has written a book called \"The Marriage Makeover \u2013 Minor Touchups to Major Renovations.\"\u00a0 It doesn't have those chopping things in there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0But wait \u2013 if you buy before midnight tonight \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0You can get one, you can get one with George's book.\u00a0 George has been a pastor for a number of years, an Old Testament professor at Bethel up in Minneapolis.\u00a0 He and his wife, Joan, have been married since 1969 and have three children, and, George, you make an interesting statement in your book that if couples are willing to honestly and seriously address three questions, three critical questions, you've seen 90-percent success.\u00a0 Now, there's a lot of marriage counselors and pastors right now who are going, \"90-percent success?\u00a0 How do you get that?\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Well, I think the honest truth is, I don't get it.\u00a0 It's what we see God do.\u00a0 But we are seeing incredible success with these kinds of couples, and I should say the success is dependent upon people coming in and doing what we're asking them to do.\u00a0 But the secret of the success is believing that God is a great big God who desires to work in our lives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Part of the secret, too, is we tell the story of what we see God do.\u00a0 When I first came to our church in Minneapolis I, in fact, said from the pulpit and said this to all of our church leaders, something is wrong here, we're not seeing marriages saved in this church, as was the case in previous churches where I've been.\u00a0 And I had members of my staff and some of the key leaders of the church come to me and say, \"Well, George, it's probably because we're more of an intellectual congregation than your last church.\"\u00a0 And I said, \"Well, we had 100 doctors in the last church, about 70 lawyers, I don't think that's it.\"\u00a0 \"Well, then,\" they said, \"well, maybe it's because we've got more money than your last church,\" and I said, \"No, I don't think so.\u00a0 We had quite a few millionaires in the last church.\u00a0 I think it's because the spirit of God is not working, that's what I think.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And we prayed over that, struggled with that, and said, \"God, please work,\" and now He has.\u00a0 So it's about what God is doing, that's the difference.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And part of what you're saying is that there are times when the spirit of God will withdraw, will pull back, and will not work until the levers open the door, invite him in, explain that to me.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Well, I wish I had an explanation for it, because I tell stories in the book about some folks where I tell them it's important to trust the spirit of God is going to work, and it happens in a week.\u00a0 I mean, that was the case with one couple that I saw.\u00a0 They came in, the husband, in this particular case, Mac, was in love with someone at work; didn't think he loved his wife, Hannah, anymore; they obviously were struggling.\u00a0 She cried through the entire first session, and I raised the three questions \u2013 you know, \"if you tell me you believe there's a God; are willing to apply the principles of God's Word to your life and marriage; and if you will pray, the spirit of God will touch you on the holy name of Jesus, I will guarantee God will save this marriage.\" \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, they heard me say that.\u00a0 And then I said, \"Now, we're going to cover all the topics that are in the book, and I will give you these assignments that are the one thing that you need to do.\"\u00a0 And I was thinking, you know, it will be about a six-month thing, and we'll get through, and God will do what He does.\u00a0 The next week when they came back, they walked in my office aglow, and said, \"The spirit of God touched us.\"\u00a0 And I looked at them and said, \"Wait a minute, I haven't given you my best stuff yet.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Sometimes it happens in a week, sometimes it takes several months and, honestly, I came away scratching my head because some of the folks for whom it's taken several months have been my best friends, and I've pleaded with God, \"God, why is this taking so long?\"\u00a0 So I don't have a great answer for the timing, but I do know the secret is expecting that God can work.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Mm-hm.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And usually God works when we admit we're weak.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I mean, doesn't it say in the Scripture, \"For when we are weak, He is strong.\"\u00a0 And so it's almost a paradox that for a marriage to become strong, it needs to admit it needs help.\u00a0 And yet a lot of people don't want to \u2013 they don't want to come to a Marriage Conference.\u00a0 Bob, we see this on Friday night at our Weekends to Remember, our events all across the United States \u2013 on Friday night we ask people to hold up their hands who have never been to a Marriage Conference, and it's always 85 to 90 percent hold their hands up, and they're all kind of sheepishly hold their hand up \u2013 \"Am I going to be the only one who has ever admitted to going to this kind of event?\"\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I think at the root of that is a pride issue of us having to admit we don't have it together, but yet that's what God is trying to convince us of in the first place, isn't it, George?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Absolutely.\u00a0 And I've seen a little wrinkle on that, too.\u00a0 Sometimes there's a husband who might be ready to go to a Weekend to Remember, and his wife's not ready or, conversely, a wife might be ready, and the husband isn't ready, and then they kind of flip back and forth, where one might be ready to seek the help, and the other one isn't.\u00a0 Oftentimes, what happens in that situation is that if a husband feels like, \"You know, I think our marriage is kind of okay,\" and the wife is saying, \"No, it's in the toilet.\u00a0 We're in serious trouble here.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0The husband will say, \"Well, I don't know that I've got the problem that you have.\u00a0 You go fix yourself,\" and he's not willing to go do anything.\u00a0 You know, \"You need counseling, you go get counseling, because I don't really need it all that much.\"\u00a0 So I see that kind of dynamic a lot, too.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And you have seen some couples who have come, and you share with them the three questions, and they say, \"Yeah, we're ready to do this,\" and there's a 10-percent factor here where it doesn't work.\u00a0 What's your explanation for the 10 percent?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Well, Alex is one example within the 10 percent.\u00a0 I spent a lot of time with Alex over a period of several months, where we were hoping that God would do a marriage makeover for Alex.\u00a0 And he did get all my best stuff.\u00a0 In the course of the time that we spent together \u2013 early on, I didn't discover this.\u00a0 This was after weeks of counseling I found out that there was a man in his life that he loved.\u00a0 In fact, several men in his life, and I said to Alex over the course of the time, \"What do you think Jesus thinks about your love of this man?\"\u00a0 And he said, \"Well, I know Jesus would think it's wrong.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0\"Well, Alex, in the light of that, what do you think Jesus would want you to do?\"\u00a0 \"Well, I think He probably would want me to break off this relationship.\"\u00a0 As time went on, he told me privately he really enjoyed talking to me because he loved hearing about the grace of God; he loved my understanding him.\u00a0 You know, it was kind of like the experience that Paul had with Agrippa, he loved to hear him preach, just didn't want to do anything about the preaching.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So Alex kept coming back and wasn't breaking off the relationship.\u00a0 He got into a sex anonymous group and told me that as he was going to his meetings, or even coming back from his meetings, he would cruise the old neighborhood where he used to pick up men.\u00a0 So he was still struggling with this, and I understand this vice is a very strong vice, it's awfully hard to break.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But we continued to talk, you know, \"What would Jesus have you do?\"\u00a0 And then one of the last sessions we had with one another, he came in \u2013 at this point, now, his marriage was still in very, very serious trouble because he now was spending a significant amount of time with a young lover that he was keeping.\u00a0 And, all the while, his wife is wanting to believe God for the miracle and trust God for the miracle, and after months of this sort of thing \u2013 and then I said, for the last time, \"So, Alex, what do you think Jesus want you to do?\"\u00a0 And he said, \"Well, I know what Jesus wants me to do.\"\u00a0 What do you think are the implications?\u00a0 Look with me about two years down the road.\u00a0 Where do you think your activity is going to take you?\"\u00a0 He said, \"Well, George, what I can predict is it's going to ultimately ruin my marriage, and my marriage is going to fall apart.\u00a0 I'm probably going to wreck my relationship with the people in this church that I love and appreciate, I'm probably also going to hinder my relationship with Jesus significantly.\u00a0 I'm probably going to catch AIDS and die.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And then, to my dismay, he walked out of my office and chose death.\u00a0 And you look at that, and you say, \"How could someone who had such a clear idea of where his life was taking him make that choice?\"\u00a0 But that's the choice that he made.\u00a0 But there are some folks who, it's their happiness, no matter what.\u00a0 That's all that matters to them, and they don't really believe that God can do the miracle for them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And we've talked already this week about these three questions, and that second question is will you obey what the Word says, and here is somebody who said, \"Yeah, I'll do that,\" but when it came face-to-face with \"Will you obey?\"\u00a0 The power of sin had a strong hold in his life that either he couldn't walk away from, or he chose not to, right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Yes, that's exactly right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0And in all of our lives, ultimately, it does come down to a fork in the road \u2013 are we going to choose the way of wisdom, the way of the Scripture, or are we going to choose the way of evil?\u00a0 And, you know, all three of your questions \u2013 the first one asks the question, do you believe there is a God, and is He powerful enough to be at work in your life and your marriage?\u00a0 The second one is are you willing to do what's right \u2013 obey God; the third one, are you willing to pray and ask that the spirit of God would touch you and give you the power to do what's right in your marriage and to love by faith.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0All three of those questions, just listening to those, are spiritually rooted.\u00a0 Will it make sense?\u00a0 Where did marriage come from?\u00a0 Did it evolve?\u00a0 Did it come about through amoebas crawling up out of the ocean onto the land and suddenly there was a male and a female, and they reproduced, and they began to evolve into human beings, and that became marriage, and the offspring became a family?\u00a0 Or was there a supreme being, an intelligent designer who created marriage and therefore knows how to make it work?\u00a0 And so when we ignore Him, we are choosing death just like your friend.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That when we turn to God, and we yield to God, and we obey God, and we say, \"I am willing to obey you, I am willing to allow your Holy Spirit to guide my thoughts and my actions.\"\u00a0 Then at that point we can get on with life and marriage and family the way God designed it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Well, that's an exciting thing that we see regularly, and even in a more positive illustration of this, you know, there was a couple that I saw many years ago now \u2013 Kevin and Allison.\u00a0 As they came to see me, they both were heavily involved in our church, and what happened is that Kevin didn't speak Allison's love language.\u00a0 For those of your listeners who are familiar with Chapman's wonderful book on love languages \u2013 but he didn't speak his wife's love languages.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0She really needed to hear the words over and over again, and he wasn't good with words.\u00a0 At work she met someone who was, and this man at work started telling her how pretty she was, wanting her to know how much he loved her personality.\u00a0 He even wrote her a three-page, single-spaced love letter, letting her know how great she was, and she was finding that this was filling a void in her life that was missing in her relationship with her husband, and she was drawn to that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And so when we met, naturally, her husband, Kevin, thought the only thing he could do to resolve their marital problem was to go find this guy who was threatening his marriage and beat him up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Physically?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Physically.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Go work him over.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0That's what he was going to do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That's an interesting solution.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0He even drove his vehicle to the place where this man worked and parked out there waiting for him and steamed and then drove back.\u00a0 I mean, he never got out of the car.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Good for Kevin.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Yes, absolutely.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Okay, back to what happened.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0What happened is that when it became apparent one of the difficulties was his wife wasn't feeling loved by him because he didn't know how to communicate love in a way that would feel like love to her.\u00a0 So we talked about that.\u00a0 We talked about her distinctive love languages, his distinctive love languages, and as we talked, I said, \"Kevin, I'm not sure it's a great idea, necessarily, for you to write a love note.\"\u00a0 I wasn't confident that he could compete with the lover, because I saw that love note, and it was pretty good.\u00a0 But I said, \"I believe God is still the God of Creation.\u00a0 I believe God will show you something that will enable you to love your wife in a way that will feel like love to her.\u00a0 So I want you to pray.\"\u00a0 And she was there, too.\u00a0 \"Allison, I want you to pray that God will show your husband a way to love you in a way that will feel like love to you.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And so we then waited to see what God was going to do.\u00a0 A week or two later, they came back to the office.\u00a0 I said, \"So did God answer our prayer?\"\u00a0 And Kevin was smiling, he said, \"I think so.\"\u00a0 And I then looked at Allison, \"Did God answer our prayer?\"\u00a0 And now tears were forming in her eyes and streaming down her face as she said yes.\u00a0 I said, \"Tell me what happened.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, what happened is that Kevin decided that he would write little 3x5 cards with notes on them, and he put one on the mirror in the master bedroom in the morning, and then put another one on the mirror in the master bedroom in the evening, and they were cryptic little notes.\u00a0 Now, Kevin wasn't a man of great words, so it was just a phrase or two, you know, \"Allison, that day two years ago when we were up at Lake Malleck [ph], and you were walking around the lake, and the sun hit your hair, it just was radiant.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0That's pretty good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0That was pretty good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yeah.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0Or another one that he might put in the evening is, \"Allison, I love the way you love our girls.\"\u00a0 So every morning, every evening, he had a note that was that specific.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Bob's writing these down.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Do you have these in the book?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0There are some of them in the book.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0All right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Not bad for a guy who couldn't write.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGeorge:\u00a0And then what ultimately happened is I looked at Allison and said, \"Have you kept any of these?\"\u00a0 Now tears were flowing as she reached into her purse and held up the stack of notes that she carried with her wherever she went.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0So even in that case, you know, trusting that God had answers that I didn't, that He still is a God of Creation who could provide solutions, was critical to what we saw God do.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And, you know, we talked earlier about the Weekend to Remember conference and God showing up at those conferences, and we often stop and think what is it that got said or what is it that the Lord used?\u00a0 And the truth is, the Lord uses His Word, and He applies different passages, different situations, different people's lives.\u00a0 If we're faithful to show up to present God's Word to ask the Holy Spirit to do His work, then what the Holy Spirit does is a whole bunch of individual surgeries at different points on different issues throughout the course of the weekend.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0I remember one woman who came to one of our events, Bob, where God showed up during the conference experience.\u00a0 She and her husband came to the Weekend to Remember in a totally hopeless state, but God showed up.\u00a0 In fact, so profoundly did God show up in her life and her marriage and family and was her marriage healed as a result of that over the next 12 months, she invited, like, 40 couples to come back with her, because she thought that was the only place God showed up.\u00a0 She'd never been to church.\u00a0 She didn't realize that God shows up in a lot of places in life, and it's not that God just shows up in one of our Weekend to Remember conferences.\u00a0 He does show up through the Scriptures, through the results of prayer that had been prayed where we're asking God to minister to people.\u00a0 He does show up in church but you know what?\u00a0 He can show up in that apartment right now, that car, that office building, that kitchen, you just may need right now to yield to Him as, Bob, you were talking about, and there may be an individual person who just needs to slip to their knees and say, \"God, I'm desperate.\u00a0 Unless you show up in my life, my marriage and family, we're going to fail.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And I can promise you, based upon the authority of Scripture, not anything we've done, that the Lord God of Heaven, He is sitting on the edge of His throne in heaven waiting for those prayers.\u00a0 He delights to answer those prayers.\u00a0 So will you take Him at His Word?\u00a0 I'd just do it right now.\u00a0 Just slip to your knees, and if you can't do that where you are, then just express that to God and ask Him to show up in your life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0And make plans, too, to attend one of these Weekend to Remember conferences that we've been talking about.\u00a0 We're going to be in dozens of cities this fall all across the country.\u00a0 In a city near where you live, we're going to have a weekend conference where you and your spouse can get away and relax, enjoy the time together, learn, grow, be stretched, and where there can be some \u2013 well, everything from fine-tuning to major overhauls take place \u2013 everything from touchup to complete remodeling jobs take place at these Weekend to Remember conferences.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0If you want more information about how you can attend a conference when it comes to a city near where you live, go to our website, FamilyLife.com, click on where it says \"Today's Broadcast,\" and that will take you to a page.\u00a0 You'll find a link there to the information about the Weekend to Remember conference or call 1-800-FLTODAY and just mention to someone that you're interested in getting more information about the conference, and we can get a brochure sent out to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Again, the website is FamilyLife.com, the toll-free number is 1-800-FLTODAY, and you use that same contact information to get in touch with us to get a copy of Dr. George Kenworthy's book, marriage makeover.\u00a0 It outlines some of the ideas that we've talked about here today but gives some very practical suggestions, the kind of suggestions that you give couples as you spend time with them helping them remodel their marriages.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Again, the title of the book is \"Marriage Makeover.\"\u00a0 You can order a copy from our website at FamilyLife.com and, as you might imagine, we've got a number of resources we can recommend to couples who are in a tough spot in their marriage.\u00a0 Go to the website, FamilyLife.com, and you'll see some of those resources listed.\u00a0 Or call 1-800-FLTODAY and just mention your unique situation, and someone can help you with suggestions on resources that are available.\u00a0 Again, the toll-free number is 1-800-FLTODAY or go online at FamilyLife.com.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You know, it occurs to me that last year we heard from a number of listeners who found our conversation with Dr. Emerson Eggerich on the subject of marriage to be very helpful.\u00a0 We talked about a husband's need for his wife to show him respect.\u00a0 The Scriptures call on a wife to respect her husband, and we talked about how a wife needs for her husband to express love to him and, again, the Scriptures charge a husband to love his wife well.\u00a0 His book, \"Love and Respect,\" was one of the resources that many of our listeners contacted us about last year, and the CD audio of our five-day visit with him last year was another resource that people requested from us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0During the month of January, we want to make that two-CD audio series available to any of our listeners who can help us with a donation of any amount to support the ministry of FamilyLife Today.\u00a0 We're listener-supported, and when folks like you make a donation, it means that we can continue this work on the station you're listening to and on our network of stations all across the country. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0If you'd like to help with a donation to the ministry of FamilyLife Today, it's easy to do.\u00a0 You can go online to make a donation or you can call 1-800-FLTODAY to make a donation.\u00a0 And, in either case, we'd be happy to send you, for a donation of any amount, the two-CD series with Dr. Emerson Eggerich.\u00a0 If you're making your donation online, when you get to the keycode box, let us know that you'd like the CDs by typing either the word \"love\" or the word \"respect.\"\u00a0 You can pick.\u00a0 Type either word into the keycode box, and we'll know to send the CDs to you.\u00a0 Or when you call to make a donation just mention that you'd like the CD set, and we'll make sure that gets out to you.\u00a0 Again, the contact information \u2013 call 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