{"id":300721,"date":"2004-08-30T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2004-08-30T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/cleaving-part-2\/"},"modified":"2024-10-07T22:41:53","modified_gmt":"2024-10-08T02:41:53","slug":"cleaving-part-2","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/cleaving-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Cleaving, Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The Scriptures mandate that a man leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife. Is that advice still applicable today?  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wife.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2004-08-30.pdf","transcript_content":"<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\u00ad\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Does your family embrace a cultural view of marriage or a biblical view?\u00a0 Here is Dennis Rainey.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0We have got to understand that we must train our sons and our daughters to keep this covenant.\u00a0 We can't fall prey to thinking with our hearts.\u00a0 We must think biblically.\u00a0 Marriage is a spiritual commitment.\u00a0 It's not just two people making a promise to each other.\u00a0 It really is a profoundly spiritual experience.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Monday, August 30th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We're going to look today at the Designer's intentions for the institution He ordained in the first place.\u00a0 Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us on the Monday edition.\u00a0 We're going to see if we can do some adjusting, a little tweaking in people's thinking this week about marriage and \u2026\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0\u2026 yeah, but, just a minute, hold it.\u00a0 I just ran across a bit of news that I thought is real \u2013 well, it's a mirror of what our culture is becoming.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Yes?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Did you hear about the rental store in Boston that is now renting wedding rings?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Renting wedding rings?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Actually, it's an engagement ring that you can rent, and the reason, according to the store manager, is that the men who are coming into the store, he says, \"We do get some people with cold feet.\"\u00a0 And what I guess he's saying there is that a lot of men are not quite sure whether they are willing to make this commitment called marriage, and so they want to rent an engagement ring just to hedge their bets a bit.\u00a0 And, you know, that really is a picture of our culture and what it's come down to.\u00a0 We really have lost the meaning of commitment in a marriage relationship and, as a result, we're afraid to step out and buy the engagement ring because we're afraid we're going to make the wrong choice.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0We talked all last week about God's plan for marriage.\u00a0 In Genesis, God tells us that His design for marriage is for a man to leave his father and mother, to cleave to his wife and for the two to become one flesh.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yes, what we've been doing \u2013 well, all last week \u2013 is going back to the biblical blueprints and back to the origins of marriage and looking at what God has given us as a mandate for how to establish a marriage relationship.\u00a0 Psalm 127:1 is a verse that I frequently quote, but it says, \"Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it.\"\u00a0 And it's clear, from looking at the divorce statistics, both outside the church and inside the church, inside the Christian community, that there is a lot of vain building going on, and God has given us the plans, the blueprints, for establishing this thing called marriage.\u00a0 He has laid it out.\u00a0 And what we've been doing is going back to the Book of Genesis \u2013 Genesis, chapter 2, verses 24 and 25, and looking at a progression that those verses spell out. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0First of all, it says for this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall cleave to his wife.\u00a0 And we've been building upon that cause called marriage.\u00a0 We've talked about what it means to leave father and mother and doing that honorably towards them, and now we've been talking about the whole idea of cleaving.\u00a0 And cleaving means commitment, it means covenant, it means vow, and it's a pledge to God and to another person to love and care for your spouse, and marriage is a spiritual commitment.\u00a0 It's not just two people making a promise to each other.\u00a0 It really is a profoundly spiritual experience.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd I'm concerned today.\u00a0 I was with a few men the other day in a meeting, and we went around and had prayer requests from each of those men, and I was astounded as men started weeping and crying about their sons and daughters who had gotten married, and they were in their second year of marriage, their fifth year of marriage, their first year of marriage, and all around the circle, these men were sharing about marriages that were near collapse and near breakup at the very start.\u00a0 And they're talking about Christian marriages, they weren't talking about pagan marriages.\u00a0 They were talking about people who bear the name of Jesus Christ.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd as I sat there listening to that, I just couldn't help but think, you know, we've got to keep going back to the biblical basics and training our young people, our children in our own homes, to understand that marriage is a sacred trust.\u00a0 It's a holy vow and a covenant made, first of all, to our God who watches and sees all and who wants us to fulfill that covenant.\u00a0 And then, secondly, it's a covenant to another person. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0So you're saying that the foundation for cleaving is a covenant, is that right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0It is, and we have got to understand that we must train our sons and our daughters to keep this covenant.\u00a0 We can't fall prey to thinking with our hearts.\u00a0 We must think biblically; we must think scripturally; we must think from God's perspective; we cannot think as the world thinks.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Let me illustrate with something that Catherine Paxton wrote in \"Leadership\" magazine.\u00a0 She wrote, \"A braid appears to contain only two strands of hair but it is impossible to create a braid with only two strands.\u00a0 If the two could be put together at all, they would quickly unravel.\u00a0 Herein lies the mystery \u2013 what looks like two strands really requires a third.\u00a0 The third strand, though not immediately evident, keeps the strands tightly woven.\"\u00a0 Paxton goes on to conclude, \"In a Christian marriage, it is God's presence, like the third strand in a braid, that holds husband and wife together.\"\u00a0 And that's what we've got to return to \u2013 back to the presence of God in every marriage relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You know, as we talk about this idea of leaving and cleaving at the FamilyLife Marriage Conference, we talk about the foundation of a commitment, but built on that foundation of a commitment is a concept that really sets the tone for the entire marriage conference weekend.\u00a0 It's a question that Adam faced in the Garden.\u00a0 In fact, as you spoke on this at a recent FamilyLife Marriage Conference, you laid out that key question with which Adam had to grapple.\u00a0 Let's listen together as we play a clip from that message at a FamilyLife Marriage Conference.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t(tape)\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Let Adam receive Eve.\u00a0 At this point, when God came walking up with Eve to Adam, the angels in the heaven kind of moved forward on the edges of their seats and peered down into the Garden to see what would Adam's response be?\u00a0 Is he going to name her another name and then move on to the next thing?\u00a0 Really.\u00a0 And so you could almost picture \u2013 they move on the edge of their seats \u2013 what's his response going to be?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Now, a lot of us when we come to this passage right here \u2013 here is the way we read this.\u00a0 The man said, \"This is now bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh, she should be called 'woman' because she was taken out of man.\"\u00a0 Next.\u00a0 I want to tell you, the Hebrew language in this passage is not like that at all.\u00a0 It is dripping with excitement.\u00a0 It's Technicolor, three-dimensional, I mean, if you'd named a few hundred thousand animals \u2013 insects, birds, et cetera \u2013 and God came walking up with Eve, you wouldn't say, \"Hello.\"\u00a0 No, indeed, what you would say, \"Whoa, man, whoa, man.\"\u00a0 I mean, you would say, \"Eve, you are the only girl in the world for me.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You might say that Adam was so excited he was literally beside himself.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0That's all of those I'll do for the rest of the time.\u00a0 Adam was excited.\u00a0 Number one, in this passage, God illustrates the cornerstone principle for marriage.\u00a0 The basis of one's reception of his mate is faith in God's integrity, the trustworthiness of God's character.\u00a0 Even did nothing to earn Adam's response.\u00a0 Eve came with the credibility and the character of God.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Number two, Adam's focus was on God's flawless character, not on Eve's performance or on how well he knew her.\u00a0 Who did Adam know?\u00a0 God.\u00a0 Could God be trusted?\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 That was the basis on which Adam received Eve.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t[end tape]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0Well, from a recent FamilyLife Marriage Conference, that's our host, Dennis Rainey, talking about the whole idea of receiving our mate, which is really key to how we cleave together as a couple, isn't it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0When you made a covenant to your spouse, it wasn't just to stay married.\u00a0 It was a covenant to care for and to nourish them and meet their needs and to receive them, accept them, embrace them as God's personal provision for your needs.\u00a0 We were created by God to be alone.\u00a0 But out of that aloneness, God said it wasn't good, and he gave Adam an assignment of naming the animals and of convincing Adam that he was alone, and that he needed a counterpart.\u00a0 And what we just heard here is the story of how Adam ultimately ended up receiving Eve as God's provision for his needs.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And what we've got to do today is not reject our spouse.\u00a0 We have to receive them.\u00a0 We've got to receive them in their personality, their habits, the mistakes they make, even their selfishness and how they hurt us.\u00a0 We somehow, in the middle of a real relationship with a real person, must embrace that person, because that is God's assignment for us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0That's a tough assignment for a lot of folks who have a lot of baggage that they've brought with them into the marriage relationship or a lot of issues that have developed since they got married, where they've been wounded.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yes, and what makes it even more difficult is some Christians end up feeling like they married the wrong person, and this will really undermine your commitment.\u00a0 And I believe the devil really uses seeds of doubt in Christians' lives early in their marriage to perhaps convince them that they made a mistake.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0I ran across a little piece written by Zig Ziglar, and you don't think of him as being a marriage counselor, but this is worth repeating here on the broadcast.\u00a0 He said this \u2013 \"I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person, but I do know that many people have a lot of wrong ideas about marriage and what it takes to make that marriage happy and successful.\u00a0 If you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after all.\"\u00a0 You know, I like that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0But he goes on to say this \u2013 \"On the other hand, if you've married the right person and treat that person wrong, you certainly will have ended up marrying the wrong person.\u00a0 I also know that it is far more important to be the right kind of person than it is to marry the right person.\"\u00a0 The bottom line is, we need to accept and receive our spouse.\u00a0 If we're married today to them, we need to accept them as God's personal provision for us because, you know what?\u00a0 You don't have an option at this point.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Now, I know at this point, Bob, there are a lot of our listeners, far too many of our listeners, who are thinking about no longer cleaving.\u00a0 They're talking about uprooting their commitment and leaving this person that they have made a covenant with.\u00a0 And I just, for a moment, want to ask you some questions.\u00a0 First of all, have you ever really been committed to this person?\u00a0 You may say, \"Well, you don't know how hard I've tried.\"\u00a0 And I say to you \u2013 I'm not saying if you've tried hard \u2013 have you really sought to build your home upon the rock \u2013 the rock of Jesus Christ and the hope of the Scriptures?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Secondly, have you really sought to apply God's blueprints?\u00a0 Have you prayed together?\u00a0 Have you read the Bible together?\u00a0 And throughout this entire series, I have been imploring couples to open their Bibles together, at the minimum, and perhaps pick up the phone and call our 800 number and get the book, \"Moments Together,\" and just start reading something that's spiritually oriented to point you back towards God.\u00a0 But you can make that marriage work if you apply God's blueprints even in the most dire circumstances.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Third, have you prayed about leaving?\u00a0 I mean, really prayed about it?\u00a0 Have you asked God what His opinion of that would be?\u00a0 Fourth, what does God's Word say about you leaving?\u00a0 Do you have freedom to leave?\u00a0 Is it right?\u00a0 Does it matter what God thinks about it?\u00a0 It should matter, and it better matter, because to leave in a situation where you're ignoring what God says and what He thinks about it \u2013 well, I want to tell you, I would not be a good friend here on this radio broadcast if I didn't warn you, you're headed for the spiritual woodshed.\u00a0 And at that point you may say, \"I'd rather have the spiritual woodshed than be married to this imperfect person.\u00a0 And I say to you, \"Be careful, be very careful.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And, finally, one last question \u2013 have you sought forgiveness for where you have failed?\u00a0 In other words, have you really sought to take what is your responsibility and assume, before God, that responsibility and obey Him in that relationship?\u00a0 You know, Bob, in these situations, you better make sure you're on God's side and the middle of God's favor, because he is the one who was present when we made that covenant to one another and got married.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0There are a lot of people who look at the events or the circumstances in their marriage, they look at their mate, and the pain is too great.\u00a0 The price seems too high, and they think to themselves, \"I don't know if I can make it.\u00a0 I don't know if I can stick it out in this marriage.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yes, and it's in those circumstances that God delights in meeting us.\u00a0 At that point of suffering, He calls us to be God's arms of love to our spouse.\u00a0 I ran across an article written by Robertson McQuilkin, and Dr. McQuilkin used to be the president of Columbia Bible College in Columbia, South Carolina, and actually resigned and stepped down from his post to take for his wife, who became stricken with Alzheimer's disease.\u00a0 And, Bob, I've got to tell you, as I was reading this article, nearing the conclusion I began to weep as he shared about \u2013 well, the bittersweet memories that he was still holding onto as his wife had lost her ability to talk.\u00a0 And he just said simply that it was those memories that kept their relationship alive and kept him serving her at a very needy point in her life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Let me just read from this article \u2013 \"It's just as well that I have these memories of past conversations, for Muriel hasn't spoken a coherent word in months, years, if you mean a sentence, a conversation though, on occasion, she tries mumbling non-words.\u00a0 Would I ever hear that voice again?\u00a0 Then came February 14, 1995, Valentine's Day was always a special day at our house because that was the day, in 1948, when Muriel accepted my marriage proposal.\u00a0 On the eve of Valentine's Day in 1995, I read a statement by some specialist that Alzheimer's is the most cruel disease of all, but that the real victim is actually the caregiver.\u00a0 I wondered why I never felt like a victim?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0That night I wrote in my journal, \"The reason I don't feel like a victim is I'm not.\u00a0 When others urged me to call it quits, I responded, 'Do you realize how lonely I would be without her?'\u00a0 After I bathed Muriel on her bed that Valentine's Eve and kissed her goodnight \u2013 you see, she still enjoys two things, good food and kissing \u2013 I whispered a prayer over her, 'Dear Jesus, you love sweet Muriel more than I, so please keep my beloved through the night that she may hear the angel choirs.'\u00a0 The next morning, I was pedaling on my exercycle at the foot of her bed and reminiscing about some of our happy lovers' days long gone, while Muriel was slowly emerging from her sleep.\u00a0 Finally, she popped awake and, as she often does, smiled at me.\u00a0 Then, for the first time in months, she spoke, calling out to me in a voice clear as a crystal chime \u2013 'Love, love, love,' she said.\u00a0 I jumped from my cycle and ran to embrace her.\u00a0 'Honey, do you love me?\u00a0 You love me, don't you?'\u00a0 Holding me with her eyes and patting my back, she responded with the only words she could find to say yes with \u2013 I'm nice, she said.\u00a0 Those may prove to be the last words she ever spoke.\"\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0You know, Bob, as I read that entire article, I couldn't help but marvel at a Christian man's commitment to his wife as he is walking into the valley of the shadow of death with his beloved, and what a remarkable illustration is it of the love of Christ.\u00a0 May his tribe increase because today we need men like him who will love their spouses in spite of.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You know, you have to think that Dr. McQuilkin had a treasure chest of memories, because for years that had been a foundation of receiving.\u00a0 For years there had been times together in prayers, times together in the word \u2013 a heritage built up that sustains him in the midst of these present circumstances.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDennis:\u00a0Yes, I think it would be important to say that I'll bet this commitment did not come about at the end of his relationship with her, but that this commitment had been built over a lifetime.\u00a0 And I think that's what our listeners need to hear us talking about today.\u00a0 Today is the time when you need to make your commitment work with your spouse.\u00a0 Now is the time to receive them as God's provision for you and love them and care for them and meet their needs and seek to be God's arms of love to your spouse.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob:\u00a0You know, just recently, after Muriel went on to be with the Lord, we featured, in our online magazine, \"The Family Room,\" an article that Dr. McQuilkin wrote about the loss of his wife, and some people would look at the loss, after years of caring for a wife who was unresponsive, and they would think that must be the great release of a burden.\u00a0 But for Robertson McQuilkin, it was a time of mourning and melancholy because of the depth of the relationship that had been established throughout the years of their marriage.\u00a0 He talked about that in his book, \"A Lasting Promise,\" which is a book that we have in our FamilyLife Resource Center.\u00a0 And we did an interview with him prior to Muriel's death, and we have that interview available in our FamilyLife Resource Center as well, if any of our listeners would like to hear Dr. McQuilkin reflect on his relationship with Muriel they can contact us at 1-800-FLTODAY or go online at FamilyLife.com, and we can pass those resources on to you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0And we can also recommend other resources about how we cleave to one another biblically.\u00a0 You can ask about those when you contact us or, again, go to our website at FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 And then let me encourage you, when you get in touch with us, get information about our upcoming Weekend to Remember conferences that we're going to be hosting in cities all across the country this fall.\u00a0 This two-and-a-half-day conference has been designed to equip couples to grow together in a marriage relationship, and a lot of the couples who come, Dennis, are in a good marriage, and they want their marriage to deepen.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0We also have some couples who come who are in a difficult spot.\u00a0 We had a couple who came recently \u2013 the husband wrote to us and said, \"My wife and I were having difficulties.\u00a0 We had started counseling, and we decided to attend the Weekend to Remember conference, and we believe now that working together on oneness in our marriage, with the help and the guidance of the Holy Spirit and continued prayer, we can accomplish the goal of being one.\"\u00a0 And that's what our conferences are all about \u2013 helping husbands and wives move closer together \u2013 to leave, to cleave, and to become one flesh, to understand what that means and to have a more fulfilling marriage relationship that honors God.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0If you'd like more information about how you can be a part of one of these conferences, again, the information is on our website at FamilyLife.com or you can call 1-800-FLTODAY and someone on our team can pass the information along to you.\u00a0 FamilyLife Weekend to Remember conferences going on this fall.\u00a0 Call us at 1-800-FLTODAY or go online at FamilyLife.com.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, let me give you a quick update, if I can.\u00a0 We've been encouraged recently by the number of individuals who have been coming to our website for more information about the upcoming National Preaching Initiative in September and October.\u00a0 Together with Chuck Colson and the Wilburforce Forum, we are encouraging pastors to speak out on God's plan for marriage, especially now in a culture where that plan is under attack.\u00a0 We're hoping that the church can speak authoritatively and biblically on God's design for the marriage relationship.\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0If you'd like more information on how your church can be a part of that, come to our website at FamilyLife.com, and when you do stop by, if you can help us with a donation for the ministry of FamilyLife Today, you will help us be able to move this initiative and other initiatives forward in the days ahead during this critical time in our history.\u00a0 So you can donate online if you'd like, or you can call 1-800-FLTODAY, but I want you to know those donations are needed, and they are appreciated.\u00a0 They really do make a difference.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0Well, tomorrow we're going to continue looking at what the Bible has to say about our need to leave, to cleave, and to become one flesh.\u00a0 That is God's plan for our marriage, and we'll talk more about it tomorrow.\u00a0 I hope you can be with us for that.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We'll see you back tomorrow for another edition of FamilyLife Today.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u00a0FamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas, a ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t________________________________________________________________\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you.\u00a0 However, there is 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