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it's important for a woman who may be a little frustrated to look back, remember when you were dating this man \u2013 what were the qualities that you so admired then?\u00a0 He still has those qualities, and I believe that a wife that expresses encouragement and that she stands behind her husband, will have a husband that, little by little, can make steps to improve their relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0This is FamilyLife Today for Tuesday, July 20th.\u00a0 Our host is the president of FamilyLife, Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0\u00a0 As a wife, are you ever frustrated when your high-energy husband is headed off in some new direction?<\/p>\n<p>And welcome to FamilyLife Today, thanks for joining us on the Tuesday edition.\u00a0 You know, there are husbands who move at a slow pace.\u00a0 Some husbands move at a fast pace.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0Others move at a supersonic pace.\u00a0 And we have a wife in the studio today \u2013<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0There are some Concorde husbands, is that what you're saying?<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0No, no, no, Bob, I'm sorry, he would be offended if you compared him to the Concorde.\u00a0 This is the space shuttle model.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0Okay, all right.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0Josh McDowell is the space shuttle.\u00a0 He's been in outer space many times.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0And for listeners who don't know, Josh McDowell is on the staff of Campus Crusade for Christ.\u00a0 He is an author, he is a speaker, he's traveled around the world sharing the Gospel and done so for the last 30 years.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0And we don't have him in the studio.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0That's right.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0We've got the truth in the studio \u2013 it's his wife Dottie.\u00a0 Dottie, welcome back to FamilyLife Today.<\/p>\n<p>Dottie:\u00a0Thanks, Dennis.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0In addition to havinf Dottie McDowell with us, we also have the wife of \u2013 well \u2013 maybe you're the Concorde husband if he's the space shuttle?<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0Compared to Josh, I may be in the Wilbur Wright category compared to Josh McDowell.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0Barbara, welcome back to the broadcast.<\/p>\n<p>Barbara:\u00a0Thanks, Bob.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0We talked yesterday on the program about what it must be like to be married to guys like you and Josh \u2013 guys who keep going at a fast pace, guys who have lots of ideas, guys who are changing planes to get from one city to another and only have a few hours to drop in before they get there.\u00a0 It can be a hectic pace for a wife to keep.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0It can, and I've got to go back to a conversation that Dottie and I had on the phone when I was inviting her to come up here and join us on the broadcast.\u00a0 You know, Bob, she said no originally, and I kind of had to call her and say, \"Dottie, come on.\u00a0 Barbara will get in there with you, and you guys can mix it up together.\"\u00a0 And while we were talking, I asked Dottie, I said, \"Is there a passage or a Scripture or something that you pound the table about.\u00a0 You just are passionate about when it comes to this issue of being a wife and really fulfilling God's calling for your life.\"\u00a0 And immediately she locked on a passage of Scripture and said, \"Oh, yeah.\u00a0 I could come up there and talk about that.\"<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0I can preach on that.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0Yeah, and she's over there with her Bible open right now with a big grin on her face, and I think she's got something to share with us here, Bob.\u00a0 What's the passage of Scripture, Dottie?<\/p>\n<p>Dottie:\u00a0I do, Dennis.\u00a0 If I could share with you the most important verse, in my opinion, dealing with the marriage relationship, it would be Ephesians 5:33.\u00a0 Ephesians 5:33 says, \"Nevertheless, let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.\"\u00a0 The reason that this verse is so critical is because it puts forth two extremely important principles.\u00a0 First it says, \"Men love,\" then it says, \"Women respect.\"\u00a0 And, to me, when you look at a relationship that is well oiled, a good, excellent relationship, you see a relationship that is built around this verse.<\/p>\n<p>What you have to ask is, \"Okay, what does it means when it says, \"Men love,\" and what does it mean when it says, \"Women respect.\"\u00a0 When it tells men to love, they need to be a detective.\u00a0 They need to go out and find out what says \"I love you\" to my wife.\u00a0 They need to find out what that is and realize that the sky is the limit in the way that they can communicate love to that wife.\u00a0 And when it says \"Women respect\" she needs to find out what it means to respect her husband from his perspective.\u00a0 And when you see a relationship that is working well, it's a relationship built on this principle.<\/p>\n<p>When I've asked women, and I've asked women all around our nation and really in other countries \u2013 what is the one thing that you need most from your husband or, if you're a single woman, what is the one thing you look forward to most received from your husband?\u00a0 Across the board, with no exceptions, it has always been love.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because God has created women as creatures of love, and I believe that is their greatest need from a husband, is to be loved.<\/p>\n<p>And when a woman is loved, she feels the freedom to express to her husband the respect that he needs, and when he is receiving the respect that he needs, he has really no alternative then to express to her the love that she needs.\u00a0 I have asked different men \u2013 what is your greatest need from your wife?\u00a0 And it's always respect.\u00a0 I was able to speak to a group of men \u2013 this was a number of years ago \u2013 a wonderful group of men, all in full-time Christian work, and I started out my meeting with them \u2013 what is your wife's greatest need?\u00a0 And after they looked at me blank for a few seconds, I got answers like, \"financial security,\" \"trust,\" \"kindness,\" \"generosity.\"\u00a0 The last man raised his hand; the last person that hadn't spoken yet raised his hand and said, \"What about love?\"<\/p>\n<p>Respect was one of the first answers given.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Because men think from a perspective of needing respect.\u00a0 If you ask your husband, or if you ask a man, how do you feel about Bob down the street?\u00a0 Usually, he will answer based on respect \u2013 \"Oh, I really respect Bob.\u00a0 You know, he's a good worker, he's a good provider,\" but if you ask a woman, \"How do you feel about so-and-so?\"\u00a0 She'll probably base her answer on how she feels about love \u2013 \"Oh, I love Emily.\"\u00a0 \"I love Nancy.\"\u00a0 Because we are women, we are creatures of love.\u00a0 And so God knew this.\u00a0 And I think that if He didn't reveal this to us in Scripture, we would not naturally understand this.\u00a0 I know that when I first married Josh, because I loved him so much, and I needed love, I figured his number-one need would be to be loved, because that was my greatest need.\u00a0 I was wrong.\u00a0 His number-one need from me, although he needs to be loved, and he wants to be loved, and that's very important to him, but his number-one need from me is to be respected.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0Let me stop you there for a second, because \u2013 what's the difference, as you love your husband, between loving him and respecting him?<\/p>\n<p>Dottie:\u00a0I believe that respect means that you can communicate to your husband that you stand behind him, you are his greatest fan, you admire him, that you believe in him.\u00a0 It's my privilege, as a wife, to communicate to him that I am there for him.\u00a0 And each wife has a unique opportunity to do that.\u00a0 In my situation, for example, as a speaker's wife, one way that I can communicate to Josh that I respect him is to sit right in the front row when he's speaking.\u00a0 I can't always do that, but as often as I can, I want to be right there in the front row when he's speaking so that he knows that I'm behind him, and I'm beside him in what he has to say.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0You know, I've never forgotten, Dennis, being on a retreat one time \u2013 this was before Mary Ann and I were married, and we were together on a retreat, and there was a husband and wife who were leading the retreat, and, candidly, she was a much better speaker than he was.\u00a0 She was dynamic, she had great illustrations, she was just easy to follow.\u00a0 He was kind of stiff and a little boring, and just \u2013 he wasn't the same kind of speaker she was.<\/p>\n<p>I don't know what they talked about that weekend, and that wasn't the message that got left with me.\u00a0 I'll never forget watching her watch him while he spoke.\u00a0 Now, I'm watching him going, \"Lady, you're better than he is.\"\u00a0 She's watching him like she's never heard anybody with such eloquence and such wisdom in the world.\u00a0 And I sat there, and I thought, \"I want a wife who watches me like that; who takes notes and who nods and who is hanging on the words.\"\u00a0 And you and I have talked about this before \u2013 when we get done speaking, we get off the platform, and people come up and go, \"Oh, that was wonderful,\" and that's all fine.\u00a0 But what we really care about is when we get back to the room, and we say to our wives, \"How'd I do?\"<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0Yeah, and, you know, be careful here, because some of our wives are not married to speakers, and they're going, \"What's the front row for me?\"\u00a0 Well, it may be the front row for you is when he comes home from work at the end of the day, having worked hard to provide for your family or having had him try to leave the family in a family night or get all the kids together to go to church on Sunday morning and direct your family spiritually \u2013 any act where a husband is being a man, leading, attempting to set a direction for your family, come alongside him at that point and, as Dottie does for Josh, and as you described that one wife there that within her face and within her eyes, there is approval, there is affirmation, there is a statement that says, \"You're my man, I'm glad you're my man, I'm proud of you.\"<\/p>\n<p>And, too many times, Bob, I think there is this comparison that takes place, and a wife can go, \"But I'm not married to Josh McDowell, he's not up in front of thousands of people preaching the Gospel.\u00a0 It's a little harder where I live.\"<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0But I'll give you another example and, Barbara, maybe you can relate to this one.\u00a0 I remember one Saturday when I had been doing something out in the garage, and I don't remember what it was.\u00a0 It may have been fixing a bicycle tire on one of the kids' bikes \u2013 something was broken, and I went out to try to fix it.\u00a0 And it took a while.\u00a0 It probably took much longer than it needed to, and I klutzed around at it, but I finally got it fixed.\u00a0 And Mary Ann came out and looked at the work that I had done when I was finished, and she said, \"How did you know how to do that?\u00a0 That is so good.\"\u00a0 And, I mean, my chest kind of puffed out a little bit, and I kind of took that socket wrench in my hand and said, \"Well, it's nothing.\"\u00a0 But, all of a sudden, I felt like a man.<\/p>\n<p>Barbara:\u00a0Well, I think there are a lot of things like that that a wife can do, because our men really do need to be appreciated and praised for any kind of leadership that they take in the family.\u00a0 And I really agree with what Dennis was saying about the spiritual leadership, because that is especially difficult for many men.\u00a0 And a wife can be so undermining to her husband when he does try to lead the family spiritually.\u00a0 And any kind of direction he tries to give to the kids or to the family unit as a whole, if she can come alongside him and be supportive and help the kids pay attention when Dad's trying to teach something or lead in some way \u2013 any way that she can provide that support and encouragement is going to give him courage and confidence that he can try again, and he can do it again.<\/p>\n<p>So there are many, many areas where a wife can come alongside a husband and provide that kind of support and respect.\u00a0 It doesn't have to be in a public setting.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0Dottie, let me ask you \u2013 if you had a young wife \u2013 maybe she'd been married half a dozen years.\u00a0 She came, and she said, \"I'm frustrated in our marriage.\u00a0 I'm frustrated because the dream I had for my knight in shining armor is now reality, and it's not all that I thought it would be, and I feel us drifting apart, and I don't know what to do.\"\u00a0 And she came to you for counsel and advice.\u00a0 What would you say to her?<\/p>\n<p>Dottie:\u00a0I think the first thing I would say is, \"Have you talked this over with him?\u00a0 Have you told him your feelings?\"\u00a0 I think it's important to be able to sit down and share your feelings.\u00a0 Not in a way that is going to cause him to feel threatened but in a very respectful way.\u00a0 That's where, again, it comes back to this Ephesians 5:33 \u2013 that we are to act respectfully.<\/p>\n<p>So first I think I would ask her, \"Have you shared these feelings with him?\"\u00a0 And I would take her to Ephesians 5:33 and say, \"Have you done everything that you can do on your side to express to him the respect that you can?\"\u00a0 In other words, have you communicated to him that you stand behind him, you believe in him, you admire him, that you are his greatest fan?<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0Barbara, she might respond, at that point, and say, \"I'm not sure I do.\u00a0 I'm not sure I do respect him.\"<\/p>\n<p>Barbara:\u00a0And that's where I think, as a believer, we have access to the God of love, who can change our hearts.\u00a0 And there are times in relationships with people, and it may not be a marriage relationship, it may be with a child or \u2013 I know I've prayed this prayer with some neighbor kids from time to time \u2013 but we can go to the God in heaven, who is the God of love who can change our hearts and change our attitudes and changes our perspectives and say, \"Lord, I love this man.\u00a0 You called me to marry this man.\u00a0 I'm not feeling that way right now, and I need you to change my heart.\"<\/p>\n<p>And I really believe that God can change our hearts if we really are willing for Him to do so, and God can bring back not just the feelings but the attitude and the perspective and the understanding that, yes, this man is a gift to me, and you can begin \u2013 God can change your focus from the things that are disappointing and the things that are negative to the things that are positive, to the things that are good.\u00a0 Because it's an issue of what are we focusing on in the relationship?\u00a0 Are we focusing on what is good about this man?\u00a0 What is right?\u00a0 What God has put in his life, what the potential is?\u00a0 Or are we focusing on just all the things that are wrong with him?<\/p>\n<p>So I really believe that if I were talking to that woman, one of the things that I would say is, \"You need to go to the Lord and ask Him to change your perspective and renew it and bring it back in line with what God wants it to be.\"<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0The Proverbs say \"death and life are in the power of the tongue,\" and what both Dottie and Barbara are talking about here is a woman whose heart is hoped in God.\u00a0 It refuses to bring death into the relationship.\u00a0 I think what you two are talking about here is so critical for a lot of marriages, because a lot of couples today are giving up and giving in to despair, and they're entertaining thoughts of divorce at this point.\u00a0 And rather than regaining a perspective of their commitment to Christ and their commitment to that spouse, instead they make their focus negative, as Barbara was talking about, and the focus on where that guy is failing, and they get their laser beam heart focused on his failures, and, at that point, there are some men who can never win, who could never do it right and, you know, they may be winning in a lot of areas of their lives, but this one area, she's not being pleased.\u00a0 And I think, at that point, it's the wise woman who comes back and asks the question, \"How can I respect my husband?\"<\/p>\n<p>Barbara:\u00a0Well, I think wives also need to be careful that they don't get caught in the trap of comparison, because I think it's real easy for some women to look at their husband and say, \"Yeah, but he's not.\u00a0 If only I was married to\" so-and-so or so-and-so, and to compare him on a level that's just not a fair comparison at all.\u00a0 And what she's doing when she gets caught in that comparison trap is she's forgetting that God has a plan for her man, and the plan that God has for her man is different than the plan He has for somebody else's husband.\u00a0 And it's her job to respect her man and to be used by God to help reveal that plan for that man, whatever that is.<\/p>\n<p>I mean, when I married Dennis, I had no idea that we were going to be doing what we're doing today.\u00a0 It was a mystery to me.\u00a0 I had no idea where God was going to be taking us.\u00a0 But it would have been real easy to settle back and say, \"Well, he's not like so-and-so,\" rather than be content with who God has given you, thank God for who He has given you, and focus on becoming the wife that God wants you to be and being the respecter of your man that He wants you to be, and then God is free to reveal that plan and free to develop him into the man that God wants him to be.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0It is easy, though, Barbara, in moments of discontent to look around and go, \"I wish Dennis was more like\"\u2013<\/p>\n<p>Barbara:\u00a0Oh, sure.\u00a0 But there is no perfect man.\u00a0 I mean, there are a lot of things that Dennis does well, and there are a lot of things he doesn't do well, but when I'm focusing on the things that he doesn't do well, I'm expecting him to be something that he's not, and there is no perfect husband.<\/p>\n<p>Dottie:\u00a0I think it's important, too, for a woman who may be a little frustrated to look back \u2013 remember, when you were dating this man, what were the qualities that you so admired then?\u00a0 He still has those qualities.\u00a0 Try to emphasize the positive and try to encourage him.\u00a0 And I believe that a wife that expresses encouragement and that she stands behind her husband will have a husband that, little by little, can make steps to improve their relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0But, Dennis, a wife may feel the negative shouts and the positive whispers, and all I hear are shouts all day long.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0Right, and, again, that comparison trap is deadly, because you're always comparing from a distance.\u00a0 You don't know the reality of somebody else's spouse.\u00a0 You don't\u00a0 know who they really are and what they're really like.\u00a0 You don't know their real weaknesses.\u00a0 And if you do trade in your spouse for another one, all you're going to get is another imperfect model.\u00a0 You're not going to get any perfect one.\u00a0 There was only one perfect man, and He's been working on redeeming all the imperfect models since Easter, okay?<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0What you're saying is that the lot is full of lemons, and if you trade in one, you're just going to get another one.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0I'm telling you, and the statistics bear me out, because people who divorce, who remarry, they have a higher likelihood of divorcing again.\u00a0 The answer here is not to get out of the relationship.\u00a0 The answer here is how do we allow the biblical blueprints to work their way out between two imperfect people.\u00a0 None of us have it together.\u00a0 That's what Christian marriage is all about.\u00a0 It's about two imperfect people who are allowing the love of Christ to dwell richly in their relationship.\u00a0 And that's not easy.\u00a0 It's hard work.\u00a0 It's daily, and sometimes there are failures, and you pick yourself back up, and you have to go back and dust yourself off and ask for forgiveness.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0You know, when couples can begin to work off the same set of blueprints in their marriage, it can make a huge difference.\u00a0 Instead of being pulled in two different directions, now they're pulling together in the same direction, and if you're married to a guy who is on the go, who is high energy, one of the best things you can do is to find time when the two of you can get away and check the blueprints and make sure you're both working off the same set of blueprints.<\/p>\n<p>That's what we invite couples to do at our Weekend to Remember conferences that we've been hosting for almost three decades now.\u00a0 More than a million people have attended one of these weekend conferences, where we pull out the blueprints, the ones that were issued by the original designer, and we hold them up and say, \"Do your blueprints match these blueprints?\u00a0 Can we all get on the same page here?\"\u00a0 And, in the process, can we move toward oneness and intimacy in our marriage relationship?<\/p>\n<p>And I would encourage all of our listeners \u2013 go ahead and look at your fall schedule, get out your calendar, go to our website at FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 On our site you will find a listing of all of the cities where we're hosting conferences this fall and set aside a weekend where the two of you can get away, can have an island of clarity where you can focus on each other, on your marriage, and on how to make it all that God wants it to be.\u00a0 These are fun, relaxing, romantic weekends for couples, and I want to encourage you to make it a priority for your marriage this fall.<\/p>\n<p>If you need more information, if you'd like a free brochure, we can send you one.\u00a0 Or all the information you need is on our website at FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 The toll-free number to call for a brochure is 1-800-FLTODAY.\u00a0 That's 1-800-F-as-in-family, L-as-in-life, and then the word TODAY.\u00a0 Or, again, just to go the Web at FamilyLife.com, and the information you need is available there.<\/p>\n<p>If you live in or around Southern California, Indianapolis, Minneapolis, Washington, D.C., Montgomery, or Tampa, Florida, plan to join us for one of our one-day conferences for couples this fall called \"Rekindling the Romance,\" where we're going to focus in on that singular subject \u2013 how can we bring romance back to life in a marriage relationship?\u00a0 How can we stir the embers and get the fire going?<\/p>\n<p>If you'd like more information about that event, again, in Anaheim, California; Indianapolis; Minneapolis; Washington, D.C.; Montgomery, Alabama; or Tampa, Florida, there is information on our website at FamilyLife.com or give us a call at 1-800-FLTODAY.\u00a0 I think the point is make plans this fall to get away together as a couple and refresh and renew your marriage relationship and make sure you're both on the same page when it comes to marriage and when it comes to romance.\u00a0 Once again, the number to call is 1-800-FLTODAY or our website is FamilyLife.com.<\/p>\n<p>When you do get in touch with us, somebody may ask you if you'd like to make a donation to FamilyLife Today, and we hope, if you're able, that you will.\u00a0 FamilyLife Today is a listener-supported ministry, and we depend on those donations to keep it going \u2013 keep the radio program on the air in your community and in communities all across the country as well as the other outreaches and ministries of FamilyLife Today.<\/p>\n<p>You can donate online at FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 You can give us a call at 1-800-FLTODAY, or you can write out a check and mail it to us, and if you need our mailing address, just get in touch with us, and we'll be happy to pass it along to you.\u00a0 Once again, our toll-free number is 1-800-FLTODAY and our website is FamilyLife.com.\u00a0 Dennis?<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0Well, it has been our privilege to provide a soapbox today on the subject of husbands loving their wives and wives \u2026<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0\u2026 you were so generous in letting go of the soapbox \u2026<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0\u2026 wives respecting their husbands, and it's a great privilege to give that soapbox to Dottie McDowell and my wife Barbara.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0And he does not give this soapbox up lightly, ladies, so you've had a great privilege.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0Barbara knows that.\u00a0 She's been living with me for 25 years, Bob.\u00a0 She knows well that I don't give up the soapbox easily.\u00a0 Dottie, thanks for being on the broadcast.<\/p>\n<p>Dottie:\u00a0Thank you.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0We love you and Josh.\u00a0 Thank God for your ministry.\u00a0 You have touched the world together as a couple, and I think you're going to touch the world together in the next generation through your children.\u00a0 You've done a magnificent job, and Barbara and I admire both of you and just thank God for your ministry, your friendship, and count it a privilege to be on the Kingdom team with you.<\/p>\n<p>Dottie:\u00a0Thank you, Dennis.\u00a0 It's been a privilege to be here.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0And, Barbara, it's always great to have you joining us in the studio.<\/p>\n<p>Dennis:\u00a0It is, I agree with that.<\/p>\n<p>Barbara:\u00a0Thanks, I enjoyed it.<\/p>\n<p>Bob:\u00a0Let me let our listeners know tomorrow we're going to be dealing with an important subject.\u00a0 We're going to hear from a pastor whose life went in a very spiritual direction, while his brother's life went in a very different direction.\u00a0 His brother became a part of the gay community in his city and ultimately died from AIDS.\u00a0 Dr. Robert Lewis will be here tomorrow to tell us how we can deal with the issue of homosexuality with grace and with truth, and I hope you can be back with us for that.<\/p>\n<p>I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.\u00a0 On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine.\u00a0 We'll see you back tomorrow for another edition of FamilyLife Today.<\/p>\n<p>FamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas, a ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ.<\/p>\n<p>________________________________________________________________<\/p>\n<p>We are so happy to provide these transcripts to you.\u00a0 However, there is a cost to transcribe, create, and produce them for our website.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would\u00a0\u00a0 you consider <a 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