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You hear kids that have been dating for <em>two weeks<\/em> saying, \u201cI love you.\u201d Kids that aren\u2019t even dating say, \u201cI love you,\u201d\u2014it just gets thrown around. This idea of this biblical, deep, committed love is just not really present in the culture anymore.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Wednesday, April 25<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is Dennis Rainey; I\u2019m Bob Lepine. There are a lot of regular conversations moms and dads ought to be having with their teenagers about love, and dating, and sex. We\u2019ll talk about some of those today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Bob, I want to have kind of a broadcast that has \u201cDueling Daughter and Daddy\u201d around the myths around dating.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cDueling Daughter and Daddy.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; we\u2019re just going to commit the entire broadcast\u2014give each of them six minutes per myth. [Laughter] Can we do that?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So this is like a boxing match, and you each have your rounds; you got it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Got it; got it; got it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, they both need to comment on these myths; because they co-authored the book, <em>The 10 Myths of Teen Dating.<\/em> Daniel Anderson and his daughter, Jacque Meza, join us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Welcome back, guys; it\u2019s been great to have you here this week.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Thank you. We\u2019re humbled and honored. We\u2019re really, really having a great time. We appreciate the support, and we\u2019re just thrilled to be here.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Both are schoolteachers in the public school system in Portland, and they\u2019ve had a good opportunity to look at teenagers and how they handle dating. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; you have your own back story on this as well. You\u2019ve brought some of that into the book; because, as you look back on <em>your<\/em> teenage years, Jacque, you would say, \u201cThis book is really mistakes we made more than victories we had\u201d; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>I think you learn a lot from failure, and failure\u2019s a great opportunity for growth. We\u2019ve chalked up some losses in our time as father\/daughter.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Okay; we\u2019re going to you first. I just hit the button\u2014you\u2019re up, Jacque. Which one of these ten myths would you like to pick as one you want to encourage parents to understand?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>\u201cTeenagers see sex\u201d\u2014especially if they\u2019re in a relationship\u2014\u201cas kind of a logical progression of intimacy,\u201d\u2014obviously. They think: \u201cYou know what? Sex\u2014if we have sex, it\u2019s going to make our relationship so much better. There\u2019s going to be sparkles in the sky and fireworks. We\u2019re just going to be so close, and intimate, and amazing, and engaged.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>But<\/em> what we know is\u2014that\u2019s not really the case. This is hard to talk about for parents, I think, because it\u2019s hard to see your kid or your daughter as a sexual being; but at the end of the day, they are. That\u2019s what God created them to be. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere are a lot of reasons why girls want to have sex, especially as teenagers\u2014it does provide closeness. For teenage girls, they <em>think<\/em> that the feelings that they\u2019re feeling about sex are being <em>reciprocated<\/em> in their teenage boy partner; but that\u2019s not true.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And by the way, we should mention here your book, <em>The 10 Myths of Teen Dating<\/em>\u2014this is written for parents of daughters. You\u2019re dealing with how young women process the whole dating scene, not so much how young men do it. It overlaps, but you\u2019re looking at this from the perspective of what\u2019s going on with teen daughters. Teen daughters are thinking, \u201cIf I say, \u2018Yes,\u2019 to my boyfriend, who is pressuring me, it will make things better in our relationship.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>\u2014\u201ca hundred percent.\u201d What they\u2019re thinking is: \u201cIt\u2019s going to take our relationship to the next level,\u201d and \u201cIt\u2019s going to bring us to a depth of emotional closeness that we\u2019ve never been before.\u201d That may be true for the girl, but it\u2019s most certainly <em>not true<\/em> for the boy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Are they thinking, \u201cIf I have sex with him, I\u2019ll probably marry him\u201d?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Yes; I think so. I think there\u2019s some\u2014or \u201cHe\u2019ll, at least, stay with me,\u201d or \u201cThis will make him committed to me,\u201d or \u201cThis will make him fall <em>so<\/em> deeply in love with me that he\u2019s never going to leave me.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What about this, Dad? I mean, you\u2019re a schoolteacher, you\u2019re watching this play its way out, day after day.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It doesn\u2019t work; does it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>No; absolutely not. The average teenage boy, emotionally, is so far behind the average teenage girl. There\u2019s no reciprocation of those emotions.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019m going to eat into some of your clock time here. Can we pause the timer so that I can eat into this for a minute?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>No. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, when I was a Cub Scout, I was nine or ten years old on the way to a Cub Scout fishing trip. My dad went through the birds and the bees with me; in part, using language that I didn\u2019t understand what he was talking about\u2014talking about body parts \/ I\u2019d never heard these words before. I couldn\u2019t even imagine or visualize what he\u2019s talking about\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014it was pretty abstract; I was kind of bored. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat I <em>didn\u2019t<\/em> hear from him\u2014and what I got no input on\u2014was: \u201cHere\u2019s how a young man should treat a young woman...\u201d \u201cHere\u2019s what a healthy relationship should look like...\u201d \u201cHere\u2019s what <em>respecting<\/em> a girl\/a teenage girl should look like\u2026\u201d All I learned about that I learned from my peers. What I learned was, \u201cWhen you start, you go to first base; and then you go to second base.\u201d I\u2019m not trying to get crude here; but if a relationship\u2014you\u2019re trying to get a run on the board, you know? You\u2019re trying to <em>score<\/em> here. I\u2019m\u2014again, not trying to be crass\u2014but that was the sense of what I had. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019re talking to dads and daughters, but dads of sons\u2014[Ringing] Oh, there\u2019s the alarm! See, I did\u2014I took up all the rest of your time. [Laughter] Dads of sons need to be coaching their sons about what it looks like to respect a young\u2014[Ringing continues]\u2014I guess I have to quit; okay? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Alright; I\u2019m done. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>I do want to touch on something. Since he ate up my time, I\u2019m going to circle back around. This idea of your kids hearing the information from <em>you<\/em> versus hearing it from their peers. You\u2019ve heard the phrase, \u201cThe blind leading the blind\u201d?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>If you don\u2019t give your kids this information\u2014often, and in detail, and in a way that kids can understand it\u2014they\u2019re going to get it from somewhere else.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; their 13-year-old friend, who doesn\u2019t know <em>anything<\/em>, is going to be coaching them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Correct.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>They will find out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>They are going to find out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Oh, yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So you make the choice, as a parent, \u201cWhere do I want my children to find out about sex?\u201d And the question, Bob\u2014I\u2019ve heard you ask a group of parents before: \u201cDo you want your children to have the same experience you had, growing up?\u201d That might include where you found out about sex, and nobody holds their hands up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; very few parents say, \u201cYes, I\u2019d like my kids to have the same experience I had when I was growing up,\u201d\u2014right? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Okay; Daniel, you\u2019re up.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And by the way, you\u2019re down to about four-and-a-half minutes now; so go for it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>As a schoolteacher, I can get that lecture out in three-and-a-half minutes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Way to go.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Chapter 7: \u201cIt\u2019s okay to break up and get back together.\u201d I think, as parents, when we see children break up and get back together, we think it\u2019s kind of cute; but I think it\u2019s dangerous. I think, when you break up\u2014biologically, there are some things going on\u2014stress levels are going up with cortisol; you\u2019ve lost your dopamine-\/ oxytocin-hit from the intimacy with this other person. So, in the midst of that pain, it\u2019s easy to go back to that other person and get back together. I think that fosters dependency. Some of the ugliest relationships that I witnessed, and I think Jacque witnesses\u2014they do break up and get back together <em>a lot<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>We\u2019ve coached engaged couples, for years\u2014that if you break off an engagement, there needs to be a six-month period of no contact, while you sort this out; because\u2014exactly what you\u2019re saying. The <em>easiest<\/em> thing in the world to do is go: \u201cI feel lonely. I miss her. I miss the feeling,\u201d and compromise on what broke you up\u2014compromise on those things and get back together just so you can have that hit of dopamine again from the relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>And you see that playing out in adult relationships <em>all the time<\/em>. A great, fabulous guy, who loves you, and you\u2019re in a great relationship, you don\u2019t break up\u2014that\u2019s just the truth of the matter.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; and I think what <em>draws<\/em> a couple back together may be that they were having sex in their dating relationship. They get lonely; and so, \u201cWhy don\u2019t I just get back now that I\u2019m feeling lonely again?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Yes; I think you get these young people, and that sex glues them together in ways that are enormously unhealthy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014and they don\u2019t understand it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>No; and it sustains the relationship\u2014it keeps them together. That dependency that it fosters\u2014when you break up and get back together, you begin to define yourself by the relationship: \u201cI\u2019m good if my relationship is good,\u201d \/ \u201cI\u2019m bad if my relationship is bad,\u201d and you\u2019ll take any behavior. This doesn\u2019t mean just girls\u2014I know boys in these dependent relationships, where they put up with <em>terrible<\/em> treatment from their girlfriends; because they define themselves by the relationship, and the relationship is artificially propped up by sex.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And some girls put up with an abusive guy because of the closeness they feel when they do become intimate.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Yes; and that abuse that begins\u2014that level of emotional abuse\u2014that escalates.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>When I talked to Christine Harada [spelling uncertain], who runs a ministry for women, who are escaping abusive relationships\u2014she said the one thing she saw, every single time \/ every pattern of abuse, was a break-up-and-get-back-together relationship, without exception.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; so did you have break-up-and-get-back-together relationships when you were a teenage daughter?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>A few, but I don\u2019t really put up with that. [Laughter] But part of that issue comes from your identity and your self-worth. If you aren\u2019t really fully grounding your kids in the idea that: \u201cYou have value, because you\u2019re created in God\u2019s image,\u201d \/ \u201cYou have value, because we love you and you\u2019re a part of this family,\u201d then that makes them really susceptible to this defining themselves, kind of, in terms of another person. And when you\u2019re defining yourself, based on the opinions of a 16-year-old boy or girl, that\u2019s going to be really shaky.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Now, you\u2019re hitting on themes that we talk about in the <em>Passport2Identity<\/em><sup>\u2122<\/sup> resource between parents and teens. You have to get in and help a 15-year-old\/a 16-year-old, who is full of self-doubt \/ who is feeling awkward, wondering: \u201cWhat am I good at?\u201d \u201cHow do I get people to like me?\u201d [Ringing] Okay; you want me to quit talking about <em>Passport2Identity<\/em>?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, I want to say this\u2014parents need to be the parents. If you\u2019ve got a child, who\u2019s been in a very\u2014well, how else can we say it?\u2014intimate relationship, the parent needs to have full authority, within the relationship he or she has with his children, to be able to step in and establish boundaries and protect your child from what he or she may not be fully aware of. They may not know how vulnerable they are.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Okay; so the <em>myth<\/em> is that \u201cWe should break up and get back together and everything\u2019s going to be fine.\u201d Jacquelyn, what\u2019s your next myth you want to tackle?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>I want to tackle number five\u2014it\u2019s: \u201cLove and sex are the same.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis kind of springboards on this idea of this breaking up and getting back together. What happens, in the course of a teenage relationship that does have sex involved, the sex is too powerful, and too deep, and spiritual for this relationship to contain it in a healthy way. We know, as part of a marriage, that sex is within this balance of all these other things. In a teenage relationship, the relationship gets smaller and the sex gets <em>bigger<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat goes on in a girl\u2019s mind is\u2014she has to kind of figure out \/ do some kind of mental gymnastics to make herself feel okay to be in this relationship. This is kind of a psychological theory called \u201cDissonance Reduction\u201d\u2014you take two things, that seem not the same, and you make them fit based on kind of the trauma or the issue that you\u2019re experiencing at the time. So, the biggest issue that girls do not understand is boys give love to get sex and girls give sex to get love. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThese two concepts do not work together; so they do this kind of crazy mind trick, where they convince themselves that \u201cBecause we\u2019re having sex, we are in love and he loves me,\u201d and \u201cThe more sex we have, it\u2019s okay; because he loves me.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Yes; I think she\u2019s right on there. You know, there\u2019s some biology there\u2014the male limbic system is smaller than the female limbic system. Girls, on average, have greater emotional dexterity. I think one of the passports to sex\u2014and young men learn this quickly\u2014is if you say, \u201cI love you.\u201d When a young man says, \u201cI love you,\u201d to a young woman, he\u2019s saying something <em>entirely<\/em> different than she\u2019s saying to him.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I coached my kids on this; in fact, I told my boys: \u201cIf you say to a young woman, \u2018I love you,\u2019 the next word should be, \u2018Will you marry me?\u2019 Those two should follow together; because what you\u2019re saying to a young woman is: \u2018I\u2019m committed to you. I\u2019m pledging myself to you.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was free with this term\u2014what I was saying, when I said to a young woman, \u201cI really love you,\u201d\u2014I was saying: \u201cI\u2019m fond of you. I like you a lot. I like spending time with you. You\u2019re a special person to me, right now.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCommitment was something completely different; but women hear \u201cCommitment\u201d when they hear it [\u201cI love you\u201d]. Men just mean \u201cfondness\u201d: \u201cI like what I\u2019m <em>feeling<\/em> right now.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>And the rapid timeline for saying, \u201cI love you,\u201d is really alarming. You hear kids that have been dating for <em>two weeks<\/em> say, \u201cI love you.\u201d Kids that are not even dating say, \u201cI love you,\u201d\u2014it just gets thrown around. This idea of this biblical, deep, committed love is just not really present in the culture anymore.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And the way this works its way out\u2014among single people today in their teens, 20s, and 30s\u2014is guys are waiting until they\u2019re 29 to get married \/ girls 27 \u00bd. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Correct; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So when they say, \u201cI love you,\u201d it\u2019s not followed up with a ring, and with a promise, and with a vow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u00a0think maybe we\u2019ve dealt with that before the timer went out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, I just kind of wonder, \u201cAre there any that don\u2019t have to do with sex?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>A lot of them do; but that\u2019s\u2014I mean, God designed us; and it becomes part and parcel to a relationship at some point. Whether it\u2019s done in a healthy fashion or an unhealthy fashion, we\u2019re getting there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>A lot of teen dating has to do with sex in our day. In fact\u2014I don\u2019t know what the statistics are\u2014but the vast majority of both young men and young women\u2014by the time they\u2019re 18, they\u2019ve been sexually active.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>It\u2019s about 70 percent\u2014is the numbers that I see.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, the intertwining in the mind of the teen\u2014there\u2019s a connection between dating somebody and having sex with that person. It may be a means to an end for a guy; it may be a way to try to keep the relationship \u201chealthy\u201d for a girl; but there\u2019s some connection there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Alright, Daniel\u2014what\u2019s your fourth myth of teen dating?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>\u201cSerial dating and living together will help me stay married.\u201d The American path to marriage looks like this: \u201cI\u2019ll start dating as a teenager. As I get older, I\u2019ll have a few serious relationships. I might have multiple sex partners. I\u2019ll co-habit \/ I\u2019ll live with somebody\u2014maybe more than one person\u2014and have several co-habiting relationships. All of that will be great practice for marriage.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think our children, Christian or not, that gets infused into their thinking. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong> \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSomething along the order of 80 percent of the people in America don\u2019t see any moral implications with co-habitation. All that\u2019s wrong! All the significant studies say that: \u201cThe more people you live with, the higher the divorce rate.\u201d Even living with a person you\u2019re going to marry increases the divorce rates. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I had a young man come up to me at a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaway. He was engaged to his fianc\u00e9, and they had not be sexually active. He said: \u201cEverybody at work is telling me I am crazy. They\u2019re saying,\u201d\u2014here\u2019s the language\u2014\u2018Would you buy a car that you haven\u2019t taken on a test drive?\u2019\u201d [He said,] \u201cHow do I know if we\u2019re going to be sexually compatible in marriage for the rest of my life if I don\u2019t test this out?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat do you say to a high school student who says that to you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>To a high school student, who\u2019s not a Christian\u2014I\u2019m just trying to do the math\u2014I\u2019m just saying, \u201cI wish I could tell you the world was wired for you to have sex with as many people as possible, and it\u2019s going to turn out great; but that\u2019s not the way it works.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think, to a Christian person, I would say: \u201cDo you trust God or not? God\u2019s either big enough to make you sexually compatible or He\u2019s not really God.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I said to the young man\u2014I said, \u201cShe\u2019s a woman; right?\u201d He said, \u201cYes.\u201d I said: \u201cYou\u2019re a man,\u201d\u2014I said: \u201cYou are sexually compatible. [Laughter] It\u2019s built in to how God designed you to be sexually compatible.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut there is this mythology that says, \u201cThis is something you have to test out and get experienced at before you lock in on one partner for a lifetime.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>In my mind: \u201cYou\u2019re in\u2014you\u2019re all in. Putting your toes in the water is not helpful\u201d; but \u201cHow to get our children to understand that?\u201d is the issue.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, and in fact, the idea that you\u2019re going to be married and having a fulfilling sex life after you\u2019ve had multiple partners?\u2014the odds are not with you on that one. The research shows: if you\u2019ve had multiple sex partners, it\u2019s going to have implications on your marriage sexuality, whereas, if you have followed God\u2019s design, the odds are with you. It doesn\u2019t mean\u2014and we need to say this, right up here\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>\u00a0<\/em>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Yes; absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong>\u2014it doesn\u2019t mean that, if you save yourself for marriage, you\u2019re going to have an incredible sex life just by virtue of the fact that you stayed within God\u2019s boundaries. There are still things that you may have to work out and get some help with; but the odds are better if you follow God\u2019s plan than if you say, \u201cWell, let\u2019s test this out three or four ways.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And the illustration of what Daniel\u2019s talking about there\u2014working its way all the way through adolescence into the 20s and 30s\u2014I have a friend, who is a pastor at one of the leading churches in America. This is a Bible-teaching church that presents Jesus Christ and the authority of Scripture <em>clearly<\/em>\u2014week after week \/ day after day\u2014in everything the church offers. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe leads a marriage preparation class, which is comprised of a bunch of 20- and 30-somethings, who are in the process of being engaged and going through preparation to get married. He inquired of them: \u201cHow many of you are living together?\u2014how many of you are co-habiting?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd he said, \u201c100 percent.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, just because we teach it \/ just because the Bible said it, doesn\u2019t mean that people are going to <em>embrace<\/em> it. This goes back, I think, to where you guys are starting. You\u2019re starting when they\u2019re still a teenager\u2014at home, where the parents can build into the lives of those teenagers\u2019 convictions\/principles of what God has taught\u2014and help them understand that there is a worldview that is clashing with the culture. And if you, as a teenager, are not clashing with the culture, you\u2019re more than likely blending in and you\u2019re being conformed to the world rather than being <em>transformed<\/em> by Jesus Christ.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>The round is about to end here, so do you have any final punch you want to make before they ring the bell here?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>I would say something we talk to our kids about: \u201cIf you live with your partner before you\u2019re married, you won\u2019t get any support from us on that one.\u201d To us, it\u2019s enabling\u2014it\u2019s like the alcoholic.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00 <\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Wow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>\u201cWe\u2019re not going to give you any money; we\u2019re not going to support you like we would in a marriage relationship.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, \u201cWe\u2019re not going to enable this practice on your part.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>No.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>And I waited. I didn\u2019t live with my husband; and then, now, I have this fabulous support of my family\u2014that they come in; they\u2019re helping me work on our house. We\u2019ve gone into our relationship with the love and support of that family. Taking a really hard line on that, I think, is really effective.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I have a friend in south Dallas, his name is Bryan Carter, who pastors a church of\u2014I don\u2019t know\u2014somewhere around 8,000\/9,000 people. He did a series on being single\u2014the last one was, \u201cSo let\u2019s just live together,\u201d and he talked about God\u2019s plan for covenant-keeping marriage, where two people establish a vow and make a commitment for a lifetime. He offered to his church\u2014anyone, who would step forward \/ move out, if they were co-habiting\u2014that the church would provide for marriage preparation, the wedding dress, and the first night of the honeymoon. Seventeen couples showed up at 2:00 that afternoon at the church.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe\u2019s, now, done this multiple times. We need to realize that the culture is not becoming more Christian; the church is becoming more like the culture. The question is: \u201cHow can we be shrewd?\u201d I think\u2014when he offered to pay for the wedding, and for couples to be able to be prepared for marriage, and then to call them to make a covenant for a lifetime\u2014I think that\u2019s the way to go about it.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You paused the timer, so you could get in your last point there.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I, actually, paused it during your rant so that you could finish without being interrupted; because I know\u2014I know I\u2019d pay the price for it. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just want to thank, Daniel\u2014you and Jacquelyn\u2014for being on the broadcast. Thank you for your work on this book, and thank you for your work in public schools with teenagers. That is a true mission field. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And if our listeners want to get in touch with you, they can call you; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Literally, call us on the phone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Okay; so, on our website, at FamilyLifeToday.com, we have information for how you can get in touch with Daniel and Jacquelyn. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThank you, guys, for being with us. Let me encourage\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You might get a few calls, by the way. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>You know, we would love that; we think that\u2019s great.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I hope before anyone calls, though, they will go to our website\u2014 FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014and get a copy of your book, <em>The 10 Myths of Teen Dating<\/em>. It\u2019s available for sale, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or you can call to order: 1-800-FL-TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI also want to remind our listeners about next week\u2014big week for us. We\u2019ve got FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2019s very first theatrical motion picture \/ full-length movie called <em>Like Arrows<\/em>. It\u2019s going to be in theaters for two nights only\u2014next Tuesday, May 1<sup>st<\/sup>, or next Thursday, May 3<sup>rd<\/sup>. You have two opportunities to go to the movies with your friends and see a great film that is all about the journey of parenting. You can see the trailer for <em>Like Arrows,<\/em> online, at FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe think of this movie as the beginning of a journey that we hope parents will go on with us through <em>FamilyLife\u2019s Art of Parenting<\/em><sup>TM<\/sup> video series\u2014a brand-new video series that\u2019s going to be available, as an online course, for free; or you can go through it with other parents in a small group \/ in a church class. The kits are available now. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com to find out more about the eight-session video series called <em>FamilyLife\u2019s Art of Parenting<\/em> with Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Alistair Begg, Kevin DeYoung, Bryan and Korie Loritts, Elise Fitzpatrick, Dr. Meg Meeker, Tim and Darcy Kimmel\u2014great lineup of folks talking about the entire journey of parenting, from birth through the teenage years. Find out more at FamilyLifeToday.com.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me just mention\u2014we\u2019ve got a little bit of time left if you\u2019d like to order the <em>Art of Parenting<\/em> kit\u2014it\u2019s available for a few more days at a deeply-discounted price. Get the information when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis weekend, we\u2019ve got hundreds of couples, who are going to be joining us in Atlanta; in suburban Dallas; in Frisco, Texas; in Orange County\u2014in Anaheim\u2014and then, north of Orange County in Ventura, California. We\u2019ve got four <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaways happening this weekend. Pray for these couples as they head out for a weekend getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPray for the pastors and spouses who will be attending as well. We have, over the years, been able to scholarship pastors and their spouses to get away for a weekend and focus on their marriage thanks to folks, like you, who have made the Pastor Scholarship Fund possible. We are asking listeners today to consider helping to pay the cost for a pastor and spouse to be at one of these getaways. You can make a donation to the Pastor Scholarship Fund when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com, or you can call to make a donation to the fund. Call 1-800-FL-TODAY and just mention that you\u2019d just like to donate to the Pastor Scholarship Fund for the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, pray for these folks who are going to have\u2014what we trust will be a <em>great<\/em> weekend getaway this coming weekend.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe hope you\u2019ll join us back tomorrow when our guest is going to be Dr. Ted Baehr. We\u2019re going to talk about movies\u2014about Christian movies \/ about Christians <em>in<\/em> movies\u2014about how families can <em>watch<\/em> a movie and then how to have a good spiritual conversation about that film. That all happens tomorrow. I hope you can be with us for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. We will see you back tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> Ministry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\tHelp for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. 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