{"id":300211,"date":"2018-04-24T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-04-24T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/protecting-your-teen\/"},"modified":"2024-10-07T22:41:23","modified_gmt":"2024-10-08T02:41:23","slug":"protecting-your-teen","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/protecting-your-teen\/","title":{"rendered":"Protecting Your Teen"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Daniel Anderson and his daughter, Jacquelyn, both high school teachers, get a first hand look at the dating practices of teens each day. 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Together they give an honest take on the status of teen dating.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2018-04-24.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Jacquelyn Meza believes more moms and dads need to be having more candid, transparent conversations with their sons and daughters about dating, about sex, about what\u2019s going on in those kids\u2019 lives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn:<\/strong> My Dad and I literally wrote a book, where we had to talk about sex, and all the mistakes I made when I was a teenager, and relationships. He had to have these conversations, where he said, \u201cHere\u2019s how I failed, as a parent.\u201d If we can write a whole book about it, you can sit down and talk to your kid for ten minutes. And that\u2019s really kind of about creating those right sets of circumstances to have those conversations with your kids.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, April 24<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. What are the kinds of conversations parents and kids need to be having as teenagers go through the dating years? We\u2019ll talk with Jacquelyn Meza and her father Daniel Anderson about that today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. You know, not all of our teenagers were compliant. In fact, most of our teenagers weren\u2019t compliant; but I learned something. We had one of our five who was a fairly compliant teen. In fact, he was compliant enough that Mary Ann and I looked at each other and thought, \u201cHe has to be hiding something. [Laughter] He can\u2019t be\u2026\u201d I went to him several times and said, \u201cYou know, are you okay?\u201d In fact, one time, I just said, \u201cYou obey Mom and Dad more than your brothers and sisters did.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014\u201ccombined.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cWhy is that?\u201d And he said, \u201cBecause I just saw it didn\u2019t work out so well for them; I figured I might as well just obey.\u201d And I thought, \u201cOkay!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Wise young man.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cAll children should be younger children,\u201d\u2014that\u2019s what I decided. There should be no such thing as firstborns. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Well, I don\u2019t think they all turn out like that, Bob. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have a couple of teachers, who know how they turn out, however\u2014high school teachers in public schools in Portlandia\u2014that\u2019s a country somewhere out in the Pacific Ocean. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Daniel Anderson and his daughter, Jacquelyn Meza, join us on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Guys, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Thank you.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You both teach in the public school system. You teach social studies; right?\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014and you teach English.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>I do; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Bob, watch out.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019ll watch my grammar. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>You better!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Together, they have written a book called <em>The 10 Myths of Teen Dating;<\/em> and it\u2019s talking about how to protect your daughter, both now and for her future. Let\u2019s talk about what you two are observing in today\u2019s youth in your teaching profession.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; what\u2019s the status of dating among American teens today? How\u2019s it going?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Is there a good metaphor for \u201cdead\u201d? [Laughter] I\u2019m trying to come up with something\u2014if it was TV, it would be like an animal flipped upside down on the ground\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Dead!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>\u2014with little x\u2019s for eyes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Why do you say, \u201cDead\u201d?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Nobody\u2019s dating?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>So, here\u2019s the progression of a relation today: \u201cI\u2019m 16 years old. I\u2019m on Instagram<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>\u2014I scroll through\u2014I see a cute boy. I send him what\u2019s called a \u2018direct message\u2019\u201d\u2014 called sliding into the DMs\u2014you know what that is?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Yes?\u2014okay. \u201cSo then I direct message you \/ Instagram<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> message, back and forth, a couple times; and then you text, <em>incessantly<\/em>, for the next four to eight months.\u201d You may or may not ever hang out in person, and you\u2019re never \u201cboyfriend\u201d and \u201cgirlfriend.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You\u2019re not going to talk on the phone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Oh, no! Talking on the phone is a dead art.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Oh, yes. I have students all the time\u2014you know, I\u2019ll say: \u201cGive me a call. We\u2019ll talk about this,\u201d and they\u2019ll say: \u201cThat\u2019s so <em>awkward<\/em>. Why would I want to talk to <em>you<\/em>?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, IRL dating doesn\u2019t happen.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>No; and even if it is IRL, and they\u2019re at the same high school\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>IRL means \u201cin real life,\u201d\u2014just so you know. I\u2019m just thinking about\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Hey, you\u2019re pretty with it over there. I like that!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Thank you!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Even if they are dating IRL, it\u2019s some kind of amalgamation of like weird, super-intense, almost acting like you\u2019re married at 16; <em>or<\/em> it\u2019s the most noncommittal, nothing-thing ever. There\u2019s not a lot of in between.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, are there not <em>couples<\/em>?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>There are couples, but the couples that there are tend to be pretty unhealthy. That\u2019s what I see, at least, in my setting.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, where does the hooking up relationship occur?\u2014because there\u2019s been another culture\u2014that seemed to occur ten to fifteen years ago\u2014where college students kind of pushed down, into high school, this idea of \u201cLet\u2019s just get together and let\u2019s just have sex.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Recreational sex; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>That goes into that noncommittal category\u2014so you\u2019ll talk; you\u2019ll hang out; you\u2019ll hook up \/ you\u2019ll have sex; you\u2019ll do whatever you\u2019re going to do; but you never, ever call yourself \u201cboyfriend\u201d and \u201cgirlfriend.\u201d That\u2019s usually prompted by the male partner towards the female partner.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, what should a parent think about this, Daniel? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI mean, I can just imagine a parent listening to our broadcast, right now\u2014maybe his or her teen may be in the back seat with a couple of friends. They\u2019re talking; they\u2019re rolling their eyes back in their head, and they\u2019re wanting to turn that thing off: \u201cI\u2019m getting busted!<strong>\u201d <\/strong>[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>You\u2019re getting \u201couted.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>\u201cSorry, teens; sorry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I\u2019m not sorry.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>\u201cI\u2019m on the adults\u2019 side now. I\u2019m not on your side <em>anymore<\/em>.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>How should parents think about this?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>They should quake with fear, a little bit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Increase their prayer life.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Absolutely; and I think parents probably need to be more shrewd. Students\u2014when they grab their phones and they\u2019re communicating with their friends, there\u2019s a whole layer of communication that\u2019s going on that parents have no clue about. Old geezers like us, when we wanted to\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Whom are you pointing at? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Well, you know, when it\u2019s one finger pointed out, there are three pointed back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I understand!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>So, kids will learn so much about one another through all this direct communication on their cell phones that they almost can get to these points, where they\u2019re in love; and they\u2019ve never, hardly, spent any time together. That\u2019s one thing that I think concerns me a lot.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhen we were young, you would pass a note; maybe get it back next period \/ pass a note; get it back next period. You might talk on the phone for a few minutes. The direct communication with texting and Instagram and Snapshot<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> allows students to have <em>thousands<\/em> of individual interactions in ways that deepen relationships like hyper-speed. Kids can fall in love enormously quickly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd then there\u2019s the other side, which is there are students that are sexually active with absolutely no relational commitment whatsoever. And those hookups happen anywhere. At my school, we had to deal with the photo lab\/the darkroom, because kids were having sex in the darkroom at my school. I don\u2019t think parents understand\u2014if their children are sexually active, they cannot know it; and it could be happening anywhere, with almost anybody. Is that fair, Jacque?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>I\u2019d say that\u2019s fair. I think\u2014at least, Christian parents\u2014are saying: \u201cOkay; my daughter\u201d or \u201c\u2026son has a \u201c\u2026boyfriend,\u201d or \u201c\u2026girlfriend. I\u2019m concerned about sexual activity within the context of this relationship.\u201d Obviously, that is a concern. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere\u2019s a <em>whole<\/em> layer of concern you may not even have on your radar at all, whatsoever. The <em>pace<\/em> of communication\u2014I <em>cannot<\/em> express how serious that is. You are on hyper-speed all the time with all the information coming into your brain and with how quickly you get to know that person, not to mention you say different things when you can\u2019t see the person\u2019s face, if that makes sense. Not only is the communication more and faster, it\u2019s deeper.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I want to turn this broadcast, for the next few moments, into equipping parents to being shrewd. You used the word, \u201cshrewd.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>There\u2019s a passage in the Scripture about this.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel and Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We should be as harmless as a dove and as <em>shrewd<\/em> as a serpent. Shrewdness is not bad, especially for a parent of a teen; so where should they begin?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>First and foremost, you have to establish some limits, right away, on cell phone usage. At our house, with our youngest foster daughter, \u201cNo Snapchat,\u201d for sure.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>\u2014\u201c\u2026ever, \u201c\u2026ever,\u201d \u201c\u2026ever,\u201d \u201c\u2026ever,\u201d \u201c\u2026ever,\u201d \u201c\u2026ever; \u2018No.\u2019\u201d I <em>cannot<\/em> say that enough. Actually\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Now, wait a second\u2014this, coming from the daughter who was told she couldn\u2019t date\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Yes; correct.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014and screamed, \u201cVictim!\u201d because that boundary was placed over you. You realize what you\u2019re saying; don\u2019t you?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>I do, but the seriousness and the danger of Snapchat cannot be overstated. It\u2019s communication that, theoretically, disappears; so the things that\u2014even if your child\u2019s not using it inappropriately\u2014the things that they can <em>receive<\/em> on Snapchat are <em>so<\/em> dangerous and harmful.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I want to read to you an email that I sent to a friend of mine last week. He wrote me and he said, \u201cWhat rules would you have about cell phone usage?\u201d I said:\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWell, we didn\u2019t have to deal with it when my kids were coming up,\u201d\u2014so I said\u2014\u201cThis is off the top of my head, but here\u2019s what I\u2019ll tell you\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014if I was in the middle of it now, I think I would\u2014first of all, before a child gets a cell phone\u2014I would have a six-month engagement period of conversations, playing lots of \u2018What if\u2026?\u2019 games with my kids, talking about, \u2018If you get somebody who sends you a picture on text, and it\u2019s an inappropriate picture, what do you do with that?\u2019\u2014\u2018What do you do in this situation?\u2019 I\u2019d have a lot of those conversations, talking about how smartphones can be good and helpful and how they can be problematic. And then, I would also talk about the traps you can fall into. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut I said to them\u2014this is why I brought this up\u2014I said: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSnapchat would be off limits; because\u201d\u2014I agree with you\u2014\u201cthat\u2019s one of the most dangerous forms, and it\u2019s one of the most popular forms, for kids today\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Do you have any age limit on that, by the way?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>I would say, \u201cHold off on Snapchat\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>\u2014\u201cuntil they\u2019re out of the house.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>\u2014\u201c\u2026out of the house.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201c\u2026married,\u201d\u2014I\u2019d say.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Yes; even after!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Jacque aged out of Snapchat at some point.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>I mean, you get to a point, where you\u2019re like: \u201cI\u2019m 23\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>\u201cThis is silly. What do I have to say that there can\u2019t be a record of?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>At the end of the day, that\u2019s the issue with Snapchat.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I said: \u201cThere would have to be a contract between a parent and a teen about usage\u2014what boundaries and rules. The parent should make it clear: \u2018I own the phone. It\u2019s not your phone, it\u2019s my phone.\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>That means: \u201cNo password on your phone. It\u2019s always accessible.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s right: \u201cNo expectation of privacy on your part. Anything on your phone is for my eyes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Ding, ding, ding!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cI can view any texts, any emails, [and] any Facebook<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> account\u2014anything. Some apps are off limits. All phones are turned in for charging at a particular time at night.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>We\u2014that\u2019s what we\u2019ve done\u2014our foster daughter\u2014phone charges at night, 9:00 every night.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014in a certain spot in the house.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>\u2014in the kitchen; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; like: \u201cYou\u2019re done. You\u2019re not texting. You\u2019re off the phone.\u201d And then: \u201cYou can pick it up in the morning, after a particular time, and after you\u2019ve spent 15 minutes in the Bible in the morning. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cThat\u2019s when you can get your phone. I want to know what passage you read and what you got out of it before I hand your cell phone back to you the next morning.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut I said the bottom line: \u201cYour phone is a privilege; it\u2019s not an entitlement. It\u2019s my phone \/ not your phone. We\u2019ll let you have this tool, because it can be helpful; but there are going to be <em>high<\/em> fences around the use of it.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Absolutely; and there are ways, too, to take your child\u2019s phone and make it kind of change the levels of control\u2014so there are opportunities you can turn off; the child cannot download any apps. That\u2019s a really smart way of doing it\u2014any app that the child downloads would have to go through you, and I think that\u2019s a great place to <em>start<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Yes; because some of those apps allow you to <em>hide<\/em> things on your cell phone.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I want to get back to that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>The real reason, you said, Snapchat shouldn\u2019t be allowed with a teenager is it <em>hides<\/em> conversations. I want parents to hear that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Snapchat\u2014anything that you send\u2014whether it\u2019s a conversation, a type, or a picture\u2014it disappears. You cannot recall that photo ever again. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat is\u2014you can imagine\u2014really super dangerous; because if there\u2019s ever a bad interaction\u2014I just think about instances of bullying or something inappropriate\u2014if it\u2019s texted to you, there\u2019s a record of it; if it\u2019s sent to you via Instagram, there\u2019s a record of it; sent to you via Twitter<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, there\u2019s a record of it. Something that is <em>intended<\/em>\u2014essentially, Snapchat was created for people to send naked pictures to one another and have them go away.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And here\u2019s one other rule you should instigate; and that is, \u201cEverything is transparent.\u201d Mom and dad need to be able to see what\u2019s on your smartphone and have complete transparency back to your parents\u2014that protects the child as well.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Yes; and I would add a couple of things. If I had a teenage boy in a smartphone world, his phone would be as dumb as possible. That is a portal to pornography\u201424\/7; 365. I don\u2019t care <em>what<\/em> any young person says \/ what any adult says\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014everything that your phone is good for\u2014the most important thing, as a parent, is, \u201cCan I communicate with my child?\u201d Text and phone call will do that\u2014I couldn\u2019t state it enough.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Your book is <em>The 10 Myths of Teen Dating<\/em>; and here we are, talking about technology and smartphones. These two are\u2014in today\u2019s world, these overlap totally; don\u2019t they? I mean, you can\u2019t talk about dating and relationships with teenagers without talking about smartphones; because, as you said, a lot of relationships aren\u2019t happening anyplace else other than in the thing in your pocket; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Yes; absolutely. I think that\u2019s one thing that\u2014even since we\u2019ve written the book, technology moves at such a rapid pace that I don\u2019t think parents are able or\u2014unless they\u2019re really actively trying to keep up with what\u2019s going on\u2014and that\u2019s really alarming. I think some parents might be hearing this information for the very first time. I challenge parents to have a conversation with their kids <em>about<\/em> what\u2019s on their cell phones.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; I want to give a shout-out here to our friends at a ministry called Axis Ministries. They have a weekly email that goes out to parents, called \u201cThe Culture Translator.\u201d It helps you know what\u2019s going on in your teens\u2019 world, and it just keeps you up to date. I\u2019m a grandparent, and don\u2019t have any grand-teenagers yet; but I\u2019m still getting the emails so that I can\u2014I know what IRL means; right?\u2014it\u2019s for things like that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Well done. That was actually\u2014I\u2019m proud of that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>I wanted to say one thing, real quick, and that\u2019s\u2014we talk in the book about \u201ctoo much \/ too soon relationships.\u201d Cell phones allow kids to over-invest, emotionally, in very, very quick order. Their relationships take on adult dimensions way before they\u2019re ready. It was so much of a slower process, 20 years ago, that you could integrate all those changes and there were kind of boundaries that you self-imposed by just the nature of communication. But now, with the cell phone\u2014so fast, so quick, and the emotional depth that you can go to messaging and Snapchatting \/ the sexual depth you can go to without ever being with the other person\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014it\u2019s like married couples, very quickly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You\u2019re talking about over-sharing\u2014you\u2019re talking about teenagers who are becoming emotionally-intimate with one another. Some have referred to it as emotional fornication; because at some level, it\u2019s that kind of connection. That can be just as dangerous as sexual activity can be.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>When Barbara and I were raising our teens\u2014and I realize that was back before the earth\u2019s crust hardened \/ fossils back then [Laughter]\u2014our principle was to realize that teenagers may begin to look like an adult \/ they may have certain adult behaviors; but emotionally and spiritually, they are <em>not<\/em> an adult <em>yet<\/em>. We can\u2019t treat them and give them adult responsibilities and privileges as they go through their teen years.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We obviously have to trust them. We have to dish that out and watch how they do with it, but it would pay you well to be shrewd in just making sure you\u2019re believing the right thing about your teenager.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou had a young lady, who came to you, Daniel\u2014you teach in the public school system\u2014one of the first ones who ever came for help, and she asked you to help her. What was her problem?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>She came in after school one day, and she said she was pregnant. She said, \u201cWhat do you think I should do?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>She was five months along\u2014nobody knew.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>She was five months, and nobody knew. She wore kind of a baggy sweater and a leather jacket every day. Not a person on earth, other than her boyfriend and her best friend, knew she was pregnant. Somewhere, that started with some parenting and some interactions with her own parents that she couldn\u2019t go to them with that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>They weren\u2019t safe.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Maybe fear\u2014it\u2019s hard to say, you know.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just know that she was five months pregnant and had never been to the doctor. That\u2019s an emergency. She went right that afternoon to the counselor\u2014I said: \u201cYou have to go talk to this person. You have to figure out what\u2019s going on.\u201d I gave her\u2014I said, \u201cYou have eight hours to have your parents on the phone, calling me, to tell me that they know.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFirst thing that next morning, mom and dad were on the phone with me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s like the worst nightmare story; but the problem is\u2014there are a thousand stories, not quite as bad, that parents don\u2019t know about.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And that\u2019s a worst nightmare story in terms of the implications; but the emotional scarring that\u2019s happening with teenagers today in the dating world\u2014there may not be pregnancies involved, but there\u2019s residual scarring left on the soul of a teenager when there are dating problems; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>And I think that that\u2019s the issue and the <em>biggest<\/em> danger of teenagers\u2014is that they do have free will. They <em>feel<\/em> like they\u2019re more grown up than they are; but they are, at the end of the day, not ready for adult responsibilities and privileges. But the decisions that they make at 14, 15, [or] 16\u2014those have consequences that echo out forever; and the <em>biggest<\/em> one, especially when it comes to dating, is marital instability. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat is, when you ask the average woman\u2014I think it\u2019s something like 75 percent of women say they do want a traditional, romantic relationship; therefore, you have to act like that in your teen years\u2014something that\u2019s going to help you preserve, grow, and develop in a way that makes you a happy married person later.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tUnfortunately, the world that we\u2019re set up in now\u2014and the things that are okay and the way that the teenage dating scene looks like\u2014is <em>not<\/em> conducive to a future stable marital relationship.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Daniel: <\/strong>Yes; there\u2019s just a lot of really interesting research emerging around teen sex and marital outcomes. One of the most compelling is that\u2014when a young woman has sex before the age of 16\u2014that triggers in a much higher divorce rate. Unwanted sex, for a young woman, is even double that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And let\u2019s just say here, \u201cIt\u2019s not determinative.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>No; absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Because we have to be able to say that a 15-year-old girl, who becomes sexually active, for whatever reason, she\u2019s not consigned to divorce in her future as a result of that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019m thinking, Jacquelyn, about the night that everything got disclosed with your parents. Your mom took you away for three days to the beach. A lot of conversations that should have been happening over three or four years happened in three days. Those conversations were healing for you and kind of helped you get a right perspective on the mistakes of your past and how to shape your future; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Absolutely; and I think God has created us to be under the authority of our parents. That\u2019s something I relish now, as an adult. I love my parents; I can\u2019t wait to hang out with them; I think they\u2019re awesome; but when you\u2019re a teenager, that authority feels like a shackle instead of feeling like something that\u2019s support. Because, as an adult, you look back and you realize: \u201cWait. My parents are the brick wall that\u2019s right behind me that I can lean up against and they push me forward. That\u2019s great, and that\u2019s exactly what I need.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut I think that that comes from a tough place. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHaving grown and learned\u2014I\u2019m very happily married, now\u2014and I don\u2019t think it\u2019s determinant, at all, about your future; but there has to be some growth and some tough conversations. You have to get right in your relationship with God \/ you have to get right in your relationship with your parents, <em>or<\/em> you are doomed in a lot of ways.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And God does restore.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Jacquelyn: <\/strong>Yes; absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>He does restore our soul when we make mistakes. And parents\u2014don\u2019t wait until they\u2019re 15, 16, 17 to insert yourself and have a relationship with them; because they do need to be guided. I\u2019m just thinking, Jacquelyn, what you talked about\u2014some of your students, who have no adult\u2014zero\/no parent. It\u2019s just time for parents to be on guard, in the game, and not just playing defense. Go on the <em>offense<\/em> and have a plan for your child!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, and we\u2019re committed, here, at FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> to providing resources, doing all that we can to partner with you as you raise your kids. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe talked earlier about the cultural translator from Axis Ministries. We\u2019ve got a link on our website at FamilyLifeToday.com. This is something you can sign up for\u2014for free\u2014get an email every week that keeps you in touch with what\u2019s going on in your child\u2019s world. There\u2019s the <em>Passport2Purity<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> and <em>Passport to Identity<\/em><sup>\u2122<\/sup> weekend getaway resources we\u2019ve created so that a parent and a preteen can get away for a weekend and talk about adolescence as it comes; or if you\u2019ve got somebody who\u2019s 14, 15, 16 years old, get away for another weekend and talk about identity and how God wants to shape that child\u2019s life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOf course, we\u2019ve got copies of the book we\u2019ve been talking about today, <em>The 10 Myths of Teen Dating<\/em>. You can order that from us, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com. And then next week\u2019s the big launch week for our <em>Art of Parenting<\/em>\u2122 video series. We\u2019re kicking it off with the movie, in theaters, called <em>Like Arrows<\/em>. It\u2019s all about the journey that one mom and dad go on as they raise their children all the way into adulthood. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is going to be in theaters for two nights only\u2014next Tuesday \/ next Thursday\u2014that\u2019s May 1<sup>st<\/sup> and May 3<sup>rd<\/sup>. Tickets are on sale now. Get a group together; head out to the movies. Alex Kendrick is in the movie, along with Alan Powell, Micah Hanson, and others. The trailer is, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com if you want to see what the movie is all about. Then come join us next week for the <em>Like Arrows<\/em> movie and find out more about the <em>Art of Parenting<\/em> video series. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo my point is \u2014we\u2019re committed to helping you be intentional as you raise your kids, and we\u2019ve got resources here to help make that happen. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com for more information; or call if you have any questions: 1-800-FL-TODAY.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know some of our listeners, who are all in with what we\u2019re doing, here, at FamilyLife\u2014listeners who are what we call Legacy Partners\u2014who give each month to help cover the cost of producing and syndicating this daily radio program; so it can be on stations all across the country and on a variety of audio platforms on the internet available through the FamilyLife app\u2014\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014all different ways we\u2019re trying to get this content into the hands, and hearts, and ears of listeners <em>everywhere<\/em>. \u201cThank you for helping make that happen, as a Legacy Partner.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you\u2019re a long-time listener to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, and you\u2019ve never joined the team\/never made a donation, let me encourage you to go to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, and make a donation. In fact, right now, you have your choice. You can either donate to the ongoing cost of operating this ministry or we\u2019ve got a scholarship fund we\u2019ve established so that we can continue sending pastors and their spouses to our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaways at no cost [for registration] to those pastors and spouses. We\u2019re able to do that because of this scholarship fund. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWould you consider making a donation to the scholarship fund so that pastors and spouses can get away for a great weekend and focus on their marriage together? All the information is available, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014just click where it says, \u201cDonate.\u201d Again, thanks for helping to support the work that we\u2019re doing in helping us reach more people more often with practical biblical help and hope for their marriages and for their families. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd be sure to join us back tomorrow when we\u2019re going to continue talking about the myths of teen dating and what parents can do to help their teen navigate these sometimes treacherous waters. Hope you can be there for that.<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. 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