{"id":300201,"date":"2018-04-10T11:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-04-10T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/calling-your-son-up-to-respectful-behavior\/"},"modified":"2024-10-07T22:41:23","modified_gmt":"2024-10-08T02:41:23","slug":"calling-your-son-up-to-respectful-behavior","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/calling-your-son-up-to-respectful-behavior\/","title":{"rendered":"Calling Your Son Up to Respectful Behavior"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>guest: Emerson Eggerichs, Ron Deal | Series: Mother and Son | Finding it difficult to connect to your son or stepson? Communication expert Emerson Eggerichs, along with author Ron Deal, share practical ways for moms to relate to and honor their sons. 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He would prefer that you show up and that the two of you are active together. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> We encourage mothers: \u201cJust do an activity with your son. Watch him. Don\u2019t even about\u2014just be there and don\u2019t say anything. Don\u2019t have a phone there. Just watch him for 15 minutes, just be shoulder to shoulder.\u201d You\u2019re going to find an energy going into him that you think would only come about through a wonderful, quality conversation about our feelings. Shoulder-to-shoulder activities with him, without saying anything, can be as effective in his spirit as a two-hour discussion might be with you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, April 10<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is Dennis Rainey; I\u2019m Bob Lepine. There\u2019s a lot about being the mom of a teenage son that is counterintuitive. We\u2019ll get some insights on the subject today from Emerson Eggerichs. Stay with us. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. You think it\u2019s different for a mom trying to be a mom to a six-year-old versus a sixteen-year-old? Do you think there are some differences there? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Are you kidding me? [Laughter] I will never forget when we had two teenage sons. I forget who it was\u2014said it to me\u2014but someone said: \u201cA teenage son is tough on a mom, because she used to have these boys \/ these cute little boys that were just kind of the apple of her eye. Then they grew up and went, eye to eye, with her. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cThen they passed her; then they started looking down on her.\u201d That was a tough time. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, share with our listeners\u2014you haven\u2019t shared this story in a long time\u2014but talk about the breakfast that you had with one of your sons, where you had to do a little correcting between him and his relationship with his mom. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We have two sons. You can guess which one it is; he knows who it is. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> He was not dealing kindly\u2014should I introduce our guest, by the way? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; do that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Ron Deal joins us, again\u2014who heads up FamilyLife Blended<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. Welcome back, Ron\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Thank you. Good to be here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014a regular guest, here, on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>\u2014and Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of a brand-new book called <em>Mother and Son: The Respect Effect<\/em>. That ties into his other best-seller, <em>Love and Respect<\/em>, which has sold bazillions of books. Emerson, welcome back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Thank you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So, here is the story, Emerson. My son was prosecuting\/persecuting\u2014I don\u2019t know if there are enough adjectives\u2014[Laughter]\u2014with his mom, but it was a hostile takeover. I was coming home from work. I was not liking the condition \/ the emotional condition of the love of my life \/ my wife at the end of the day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Now, how old was your son at this point? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I think 15\/16, maybe. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay; right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> He might have been 17, but I would hope not. Anyway, I said, \u201cSon, come with me.\u201d We went out and had breakfast. It was what I would call, Emerson, a come-to-Jesus breakfast. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> With this particular son, I said, \u201cYou\u2019re prosecuting\/persecuting your mother. You just need to know that behind your mother stands your dad. You just need to know\u2014you can see my jaw\u2014how tight my jaw is right now\u2014see this right here? You\u2019re not going to win; you will not. That\u2019s a promise, Son.\u201d I have to admit\u2014it didn\u2019t work after the first come-to-Jesus meeting. I think I might have tightened my jaw a bit more, and increased the intensity, and called my son up and away from treating his mom, without respect, as a woman. It was a corner-turning day in our family\u2014a lot nicer to come home to at the end of the day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Is it common for a 16-year-old son to become disrespectful to his mother and to just start to assert himself? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> We call a 16-year-old boy a sophomore, which is a compound word for <em>sophos<\/em>, wisdom; and <em>m\u014dros<\/em>, moron. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThey come in and out of wisdom. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Say that\u2014say that again! I just kind of\u2014that was sweet! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Wisdom moron\u2014I love that! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Wisdom moron. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Yes; so the emphasis is more on moron. This is one\u2014the larger point here is why I encourage women to read <em>Love and Respect<\/em> because, if you chop the knees out from underneath your husband by contempt, for years when your boy is little, there is going to come this moment when he is 16 years old. You\u2019re going to need that father, who he does respond to as that male authority. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere was a little boy, lipping off to his mother, calling her a dummy. He was ten years old: \u201cYou, dummy.\u201d He didn\u2019t know his dad was home; and this big hand comes around and grabs him by the shirt. His dad says, \u201cWho\u2019s a dummy?\u201d The little boy goes, \u201cI\u2019m a dummy,\u201d [Laughter] \u201cI\u2019m a dummy.\u201d Well, the truth is\u2014little boys love that\u2014it gives them security. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut there is this point you are making of tremendous disrespect. That\u2019s exactly why I preach this, because there is coming a moment when that 16-year-old boy will take on his mother. The question is whether the father is going to step to the plate, at that point, and say: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cYou know what? We\u2019re not going to do this. This is not honorable. It\u2019s not right.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYoung boys <em>need<\/em> that, because they don\u2019t have the self-discipline. Your son did not want to be the way he did. I remember when I used to throw temper tantrums. I was sent to military school for five years\u2014from eighth grade to twelfth grade. I would react in ways I didn\u2019t want to. I needed someone who cared enough for me to get in my face and help me develop the inner-discipline that I didn\u2019t have. Mothers are not designed to do that with a 16-year-old boy, but <em>you<\/em> were. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThose moments are <em>critical<\/em> in the life of a family. It\u2019s important, then, that we understand that there are seasons in our parenting. We must always recognize there will come a moment when that father will, in fact, move forward in a critical moment that will set the course for that boy\u2019s life forever. You may be changing your son\u2019s diapers all along; but there\u2019s going to come a season when that man steps to the plate and does what will cause that boy to become something that you dreamed he would become because of the father\u2019s intervention. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> One of the reasons we wanted Ron to be in and be a part of this interview is because the dynamic in a blended family is often challenging, because those lines of attachment and connection aren\u2019t what they are in a bio-family. Ron, as you\u2019re hearing Emerson talk about the important role a dad plays and the disrespect to a mom\u2014and you\u2019re putting that in the grid of a blended family\u2014all of a sudden, there are challenges to trying to work this out that moms and dads just throw up their hands and go, \u201cI don\u2019t know what to do here.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Yes; exactly. You know, one of the things Emerson does in this book is talk about the G.U.I.D.E.S. that you want to give mother\u2014that\u2019s an acrostic. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> G.U.I.D.E.S.\u2014yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> That acrostic\u2014you flesh out some of the things that you want moms to be able to do. One of the things I want people listening to hear is that this book has as much application for stepmoms as it does biological moms and single mothers, who are trying to manage it, all by themselves, with their sons. One of the things you talk about in the G.U.I.D.E.S. is understanding\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014understanding so a child is not provoked or exasperated. I\u2019d love for you to unpack that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn particular, one of the things I\u2019m interested in is stepmoms understanding that. I have this theory, Emerson\u2014I don\u2019t know if I\u2019m right about this\u2014but I think that stepsons have an even heightened sense of a need of respect from their stepmothers simply because: they are feeling imposed on; they are feeling challenged in their relationship, perhaps, with their biological mother and their loyalty to their mom; they are feeling life has thrown them a number of curves and: \u201cI\u2019m not feeling stable or certain about the future. You, stepmom, are kind of the embodiment of all the things that I\u2019ve had to go through and deal with,\u201d and \u201cIf you are here, and I feel safe and comfortable with you, then all of a sudden, I feel a little more peace in my life; but if I feel challenged by you \/ if I feel like you don\u2019t understand me at all, then I\u2019ve got another reason to feel upset and angry at the world.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWho is that going to come out on?\u2014that\u2019s going to come out toward the stepmom, in particular. Unpack a little bit for us the importance of understanding your son and his need for respect. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Well, that understanding is the \u201cU\u201d of G.U.I.D.E.S. There\u2019s \u201cGiving,\u201d which is the \u201cG.\u201d \u201cU\u201d is the \u201cUnderstanding\u201d; \u201cInstructing\u201d; \u201cDisciplining\u201d: \u201cEncouraging\u201d; and \u201cSupplicating,\u201d\u2014concepts that are salient Scriptures that deal with parenting. I looked at everything the Bible says about parenting\u2014not just principles. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe one you referenced, both in Colossians and Ephesians: \u201cDo not provoke your children to anger and do not exasperate them so they lose heart,\u201d\u2014the Ephesian\/Colossian passage. That\u2019s true for father\u2019s provoking their children. My dad provoked me \/ my dad exasperated me\u2014I lost heart; I just closed off to my dad. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe same thing can happen for a mom toward her son or her daughter; but particularly, in this case, where you see this dynamic. One of the things I <em>know<\/em> about a stepmother\u2014she wants to <em>love<\/em> that boy. It\u2019s within her nature to love. She wants to love, and she\u2019s going to be very intentional about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe\u2019s going to try every way that she knows to send the message that she loves him; but when she gets upset with him\u2014and he\u2019s going to do things that are going to hurt her\u2014it\u2019s very easy for her to come across in a way that feels disrespectful to him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFirst of all, he may not be assured of her love; but I will tell you this\u2014if she thinks more about how to honor his spirit \/ respect his spirit\u2014not just love on him\u2014but respect his spirit, he will begin to feel affection \/ positive affection for her. It doesn\u2019t seem natural to a woman, because that\u2019s not the way you operate; but trust me\u2014when you honor his spirit \/ when you respect his spirit, even though he has failed you, he will begin to have fond feelings. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWill he cry? Will he write poetry to you? Will he come to you and put arms\u2026? No! [Laughter] He will be very withdrawn, but there is a thought process that\u2019s going on that\u2019s magnificent. I want you to just trust me\u2014take it by faith. If you read this book and you start doing these things, as a stepmother, toward that boy\u2014who is elbowing you, verbally\u2014just stay the course; don\u2019t get defeated; just keep on this. Trust me\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014you\u2019re being principle-driven here, and the principle will work. Is it a guarantee that he is going to be a perfect boy? No!\u2014but you\u2019re not a perfect person. I will tell you\u2014he\u2019ll be far less imperfect. You don\u2019t want this to move into chaos; and when you keep this honor language going, it\u2019ll contain that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> There\u2019s another acronym in the book that helps us understand what\u2019s going on in the heart of a teenage boy\u2014or a younger boy, for that matter. It\u2019s the acronym, C.H.A.I.R.S. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Correct. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You use that to get to: \u201cWhat are the inner-desires of a boy?\u201d If we understand those, it\u2019ll help us with how we relate to our sons. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Correct. In our Love and Respect Conference, I talk about what God has said to wives to understand about men and masculinity. These, again, are salient Scriptures. C.H.A.I.R.S. deals with that. Men have a need for conquest; they have a need to offer their insight; they have a need to relate with you, shoulder to shoulder, without talking. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor instance, on that point, we encourage mothers: \u201cJust do an activity with your son. Watch him. Don\u2019t even about\u2014just be there and don\u2019t say anything. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cDon\u2019t have a phone there. Just watch him for 15 minutes, just be shoulder to shoulder.\u201d You\u2019re going to find an energy going into him that you think would only come about through a wonderful quality conversation about our feelings. Trust me\u2014take it by faith. Shoulder-to-shoulder activities with him, without saying anything, can be as effective in his spirit as a two-hour discussion might be with you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> There\u2019s a reason why guys get together and play pickup basketball and why women get together and have coffee and talk; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> It\u2019s the way people bond. Women develop rapport by giving a report. Men build rapport with each other by being active together\u2014feeling like: \u201cWe\u2019re in this together,\u201d\u2014a sense of comradery \/ it\u2019s usually activity-oriented. Ninety-nine thousand men go hunting in Michigan on opening day. Why?\u2014you have to be out in the field, and you can\u2019t talk. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I want to read just the beginning of Chapter 4, which is \u201cSeeing the Man in the Boy\u201d\u2014it\u2019s subtitled \u201cHis Six Desires.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s back to what Bob was talking about\u2014C.H.A.I.R.S. Here\u2019s what you say\u2014I think this is just a great way for a mom to think about her son: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWho is the man in the boy? The best way to see a man in the making is to recognize the six desires God seeded\u2014that He placed in your son. God designed him with the desires to:\u201d\u2014and then you list six categories\u2014\u201cNumber one: to work and achieve. Number two: to provide for, protect, and even die. Three: be strong, lead, and make decisions. Four: analyze, solve, and counsel. Number five: do friendship, shoulder to shoulder. Number six: to sexually understand and know. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, we could comment on a number of these. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want you to comment on the last one because I think this is a big mystery for men and women today in relating to their sons. What\u2019s going on in a boy, who is seeded with these desires, and he\u2019s emerging through puberty? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> You\u2019re talking about the sexual component there\u2014that last one? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Well, that\u2019s a huge one; and it\u2019s very difficult. It also explains why boys are quiet, because boys are visually-oriented. They are very aware of nudity \/ they are very aware of the anatomy of the female, but they know that they shouldn\u2019t give voice to that. Sometimes, you\u2019ll see boys being quiet. You ask him what he\u2019s thinking\u2014he\u2019s not going to tell you what he\u2019s thinking. You just need to understand, though, he\u2019s becoming aware of his world. It\u2019s important that a mother not shame him for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think that\u2019s, again, where the role of the father can come in; but definitely, he is going to have an interest in human sexuality. It doesn\u2019t mean that he\u2019s going to cross over on the line; but it definitely means he\u2019s going to be very aware \/ he\u2019s going to be very cognizant of this, and he\u2019s going to be wondering about this. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is where the father can come in. This is where\u2014if you\u2019ve got a family unit, where the older men\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014the uncle or whatever kin\u2014can begin give voice to this. What\u2019s happening today, quite often, is boys are not having anyone to talk to them about this. They\u2019re getting this exposure from a peer\u2014they\u2019re getting pictures and so on and so forth. Our boys are not the enemy in the pornography area\u2014they are the victim of the enemy. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s the women involved in this industry and there are men involved in this industry that ought to be confronted, because they know <em>exactly<\/em> what they are doing. Don\u2019t see your son as the enemy here if he\u2019s crossed that line. I think, in the broad brush stroke, we\u2019ve got to just take a breath here. I talk about Shaunti Feldhahn\u2019s work there\u2014about her boy and some of the four-year-old comments. It begins, early on, and \u201cHow are we going to begin to address that?\u201d In the book, we try to unpack that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe just need to realize God made this \/ He designed this. It\u2019s going to be part and parcel of this kind of thing\u2014you\u2019ve got to just accept that and not <em>shame<\/em>. The important thing is not to shame the boy, particularly if you see him looking at something. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember our boys\u2014there was pornography on the pathway; you know? We just said, \u201cIf you see something that\u2019s not right, let us know.\u201d Jonathan came to us, and I <em>honored<\/em> him for that. I honored him rather than: \u201cWhat did you do? Did you look?\u201d\u2014no: \u201cThank you for telling me.\u201d I honored the integrity\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> \u2014of him following through instead of shaming. I know that he\u2019s going to want to look at that\u2014I would\u2019ve wanted to look at that. It\u2019s a matter of coming to this realization, but also having the father speak into this; because it\u2019s very difficult for a mother to fully grasp this. It\u2019d be so easy to begin to conclude that there is something seriously wrong with him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It\u2019s not a matter of <em>if<\/em> your son is going to see this stuff\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014starting at younger and younger ages\u2014down to eight\/nine\/ten. You can do a good job in your home controlling things; because this is a screen generation, you can\u2019t control what is put in front of your son\u2019s face. I think the coaching you just gave moms\u2014to be a shock-absorber, at the point, maybe, their son\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> That\u2019s a good way of saying it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014gets exposed; but to step in and keep loving and say, \u201cI\u2019m so glad you trusted me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019ve been a bit surprised by the response mothers have given you to this book; haven\u2019t you? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Oh, yes. You know, you\u2019ve got story after story\u2014you know, like\u2014it happens, not just to four-year-olds\u2014it is 22-year-olds: \u201cMy relationship with my 22-year-old son improved <em>overnight<\/em>. Who knew that simple changes in words could make such a difference? Now, I tell him how much I appreciate him,\u201d\u2014that would be one of those synonyms\u2014\u201cand he tears up. Before, I told him I loved him and got back: \u2018I know. I know. I love you too, Mom.\u2019 Learning the right words to get my feelings across in a way they can be assimilated was so easy.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>That\u2019s one of the points I want to make: \u201cDon\u2019t make this more complex.\u201d Women start beating up on themselves at a certain point. They move into shame, because they look back. Boys do let certain things roll off their back like water off a duck\u2019s back. They don\u2019t personalize it in the same way, maybe, a daughter would toward a father. Boys know Mom loves them. So, you have a lot of grace here \/ a lot of room. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo not move into shame, and do not beat yourself up; because here is what happens. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tA mother wrote: \u201cIf my son does something that is not worthy of respect, I can quickly fall into this trap of disappointment and even disdain. It, then, gives me a feeling of\u2014\u2018Oh, he might never change.\u2019 Then, I feel like a bad mom; because I feel, indirectly, that his behavior is somehow my fault or reflects on me. After this, I probably give off this attitude of disappointment, and I know only too well that my son can tell. The very hardest thing, then, is to see your son defeated and down. As mothers,\u201d she said, \u201cwe practice and look for ways to love; but maybe, more importantly, we should look for opportunities and ways to respect our sons.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnother woman\u2014this is like an 11-year-old boy\u2014\u201cWhen my son gives me his insight\u201d\u2014here would be the G.U.I.D.E.S.\u2019 \u2018Insight\u2019\u2014she said, \u201cWhen my son gives me his insight, I say, \u2018I really respect what you have to say,\u2019 or \u2018I respect the way you handled that situation,\u2019 or \u2018I really respect how you are taking initiative to get things done and follow through with.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe said: \u201cThese things have made my son smile like I have <em>never<\/em> seen. I talk more about respect with regard to sporting events and showing respect for other opponents. My son knows, without a doubt, that I love him. Now, I feel that he knows that I <em>value<\/em> him and value his ideas, which I may not have done so well in the past. Thank you for sharing God\u2019s message.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> The key words that I\u2019m picking up\u2014whether you\u2019re a mom or a stepmom\u2014\u201cappreciation\u201d \/ say the word, \u201ccompliment,\u201d\u2014give compliments to your son; praise him for something; show honor to him and use that word, \u201cYou\u2019re honorable,\u201d \/ \u201cYou\u2019re worthy of respect.\u201d Those <em>words<\/em> are speaking directly to his soul. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou keep using the word, \u201cspirit,\u201d\u2014it\u2019s to the inner-core of who he is. I had a guy say to me once, \u201cRon, I\u2019d much rather admit that I\u2019m a sinner than admit that I\u2019m a failure.\u201d We carry so much weight on us, as men, and boys are feeling it already. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s the language of our heart: \u201cAre we enough?\u201d When Mom says: \u201cYou are enough. I love you. I care for you. I really approve of who you are. Now, I didn\u2019t like what you just did. Knock it off.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Right; correct. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> There\u2019s a balance there that just opens him up to Mom\u2019s guidance and leadership and where she takes him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> It\u2019s important to honor those character qualities, not just, \u201cI just really respect the fact that you\u2019re so handsome,\u201d\u2014he didn\u2019t have anything to do with that. Unchangeable features are not what we\u2019re talking about, but character qualities\u2014thinking about that\u2014but also, trying to see the good in the bad. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI had a mother, this week, with an adult son, who doesn\u2019t\u2014he\u2019s rejecting the faith, at this point, and doesn\u2019t want to participate in some of the Christian things that they\u2019re doing\u2014and was very open about that and just said to his mom, \u201cNo.\u201d She\u2019s very sensitive, so\u2014but he\u2019s an adult, and he just kind of said it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI said: \u201cYou can honor him for his integrity. I want you to write him a note and say, \u2018You know what? I really appreciate it\u2014I know that was not easy for you to do; but you\u2019re seeking to be a man of integrity, who is true to your own convictions right now. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cI know that wasn\u2019t easy for you to say, \u2018No,\u2019 to that; but I just want to express my honor to you \/ my respect for your integrity in the family unit.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> I just want to jump in here and say I think that is <em>very<\/em> significant\u2014what you just said\u2014because our tendency, I think, in the body of Christ, when we have a concern for somebody\u2019s life\u2014in this case a mother and her son and his lack of faith\u2014we feel like: \u201cIf I say anything <em>nice<\/em>, then I\u2019m somehow blessing their lack of faith \/ I\u2019m somehow giving permission to it; and I don\u2019t want to do that.\u201d So, what we end up doing is saying, \u201cWell, the better thing for me to do is to emotionally detach, and unhook, and show them my disapproval for who they are.\u201d Well, wait a minute \/ wait a minute\u2014no, no, no. If you want to gain influence \/ increase your influence, move <em>toward<\/em> him with words that affirm his spirit. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019m thinking about the first book you wrote\u2014and it was about marriage, not about parenting\u2014but one of the chapters in that book was the power of positive words. At the core, that\u2019s what we\u2019re talking about here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOur words have great power in each other\u2019s lives. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; we talked about how our words are like seeds: \u201cWhat you plant is what you grow, so be careful what you sow.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMoms, you\u2019re powerful\u2014don\u2019t forget it\u2014<em>very<\/em> powerful in a boy\u2019s life; a young man\u2019s life; and an older, young man\u2019s life, by the way\u2014all the way into adulthood. Don\u2019t miss what Emerson said, there, at the end: \u201cAdult children are still impacted by your words.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGet this book\u2014dig into it; it\u2019s valuable. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It\u2019ll give you the words to use so that you can connect, heart to heart, with your son. Again, the title of the book is <em>Mother and Son: The Respect Effect<\/em>. The subtitle says: \u201cLove is important, but it is respect that is the key to your son\u2019s heart.\u201d The book is by Emerson Eggerichs, who has been our guest today. You can order your copy when you go, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call to order: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t1-800-FL-TODAY is the number. Again, the website: FamilyLifeToday.com; and the toll-free number is 1-800-358-6329\u20141-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know a lot of our listeners have been to one of our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup><\/em> marriage getaways. I know even more of you have never been. In fact, we run into listeners all the time, Dennis; and we say, \u201cSo, have you been to one of our getaways?\u201d They say, \u201cOh, we\u2019ve always wanted to go, but we haven\u2019t done it.\u201d If you\u2019ve never been to a getaway, you need to invest in your marriage. Get some time \/ get away; and enjoy a weekend together, where you learn what the Bible has to say about building a strong marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf your pastor has never been to a getaway, why don\u2019t you let him know that, at FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, we cover the registration cost for pastors and spouses to attend. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe want them to be\u2014I was going to say, \u201c\u2026our guests\u201d; but really, they are your guests\u2014because we cover this cost because we have a scholarship fund, where listeners have contributed so that we can make sure pastors and spouses are able to attend. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRight now, that scholarship fund is\u2014the funds are getting a little depleted. This month, we\u2019re asking listeners, \u201cWould you help us be able to continue scholarshipping pastors and spouses to a getaway?\u201d You can do that by contributing to the scholarship fund, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call to contribute: 1-800-FL-TODAY is the number. When you designate your gift for the scholarship fund, all of those funds will go to covering the registration cost for a getaway for pastors and spouses. Again, you can donate at FamilyLifeToday.com; or you can call to donate: 1-800-FL-TODAY. Your donations are tax deductible, and make sure your pastor knows about the scholarship fund and encourage him to get a weekend away with his wife and enjoy a getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, be sure to be back with us tomorrow when we\u2019re going to talk about some of the hardball questions that teenagers sometimes toss our way, as parents\u2014things about what\u2019s going on in the culture, ideas they\u2019ve heard at school, things they are wondering about. Have you ever wondered, \u201cWhat\u2019s the best way to answer some of these questions?\u201d Well, Elyse Fitzpatrick and her daughter Jessica Thompson are going to be here tomorrow to talk about answering the tough questions your kids ask. I hope you can tune in for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. We will see you back tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\tHelp for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the costs?\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tCopyright <sup>\u00a9<\/sup> 2018 FamilyLife. 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[Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That\u2019s right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> He was not dealing kindly\u2014should I introduce our guest, by the way? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; do that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Ron Deal joins us, again\u2014who heads up FamilyLife Blended<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. Welcome back, Ron\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Thank you. Good to be here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014a regular guest, here, on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>\u2014and Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of a brand-new book called <em>Mother and Son: The Respect Effect<\/em>. That ties into his other best-seller, <em>Love and Respect<\/em>, which has sold bazillions of books. Emerson, welcome back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Thank you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So, here is the story, Emerson. My son was prosecuting\/persecuting\u2014I don\u2019t know if there are enough adjectives\u2014[Laughter]\u2014with his mom, but it was a hostile takeover. I was coming home from work. I was not liking the condition \/ the emotional condition of the love of my life \/ my wife at the end of the day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Now, how old was your son at this point? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I think 15\/16, maybe. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay; right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> He might have been 17, but I would hope not. Anyway, I said, \u201cSon, come with me.\u201d We went out and had breakfast. It was what I would call, Emerson, a come-to-Jesus breakfast. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> With this particular son, I said, \u201cYou\u2019re prosecuting\/persecuting your mother. You just need to know that behind your mother stands your dad. You just need to know\u2014you can see my jaw\u2014how tight my jaw is right now\u2014see this right here? You\u2019re not going to win; you will not. That\u2019s a promise, Son.\u201d I have to admit\u2014it didn\u2019t work after the first come-to-Jesus meeting. I think I might have tightened my jaw a bit more, and increased the intensity, and called my son up and away from treating his mom, without respect, as a woman. It was a corner-turning day in our family\u2014a lot nicer to come home to at the end of the day. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Is it common for a 16-year-old son to become disrespectful to his mother and to just start to assert himself? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> We call a 16-year-old boy a sophomore, which is a compound word for <em>sophos<\/em>, wisdom; and <em>m\u014dros<\/em>, moron. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThey come in and out of wisdom. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Say that\u2014say that again! I just kind of\u2014that was sweet! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Wisdom moron\u2014I love that! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Wisdom moron. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Yes; so the emphasis is more on moron. This is one\u2014the larger point here is why I encourage women to read <em>Love and Respect<\/em> because, if you chop the knees out from underneath your husband by contempt, for years when your boy is little, there is going to come this moment when he is 16 years old. You\u2019re going to need that father, who he does respond to as that male authority. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThere was a little boy, lipping off to his mother, calling her a dummy. He was ten years old: \u201cYou, dummy.\u201d He didn\u2019t know his dad was home; and this big hand comes around and grabs him by the shirt. His dad says, \u201cWho\u2019s a dummy?\u201d The little boy goes, \u201cI\u2019m a dummy,\u201d [Laughter] \u201cI\u2019m a dummy.\u201d Well, the truth is\u2014little boys love that\u2014it gives them security. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut there is this point you are making of tremendous disrespect. That\u2019s exactly why I preach this, because there is coming a moment when that 16-year-old boy will take on his mother. The question is whether the father is going to step to the plate, at that point, and say: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cYou know what? We\u2019re not going to do this. This is not honorable. It\u2019s not right.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYoung boys <em>need<\/em> that, because they don\u2019t have the self-discipline. Your son did not want to be the way he did. I remember when I used to throw temper tantrums. I was sent to military school for five years\u2014from eighth grade to twelfth grade. I would react in ways I didn\u2019t want to. I needed someone who cared enough for me to get in my face and help me develop the inner-discipline that I didn\u2019t have. Mothers are not designed to do that with a 16-year-old boy, but <em>you<\/em> were. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThose moments are <em>critical<\/em> in the life of a family. It\u2019s important, then, that we understand that there are seasons in our parenting. We must always recognize there will come a moment when that father will, in fact, move forward in a critical moment that will set the course for that boy\u2019s life forever. You may be changing your son\u2019s diapers all along; but there\u2019s going to come a season when that man steps to the plate and does what will cause that boy to become something that you dreamed he would become because of the father\u2019s intervention. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> One of the reasons we wanted Ron to be in and be a part of this interview is because the dynamic in a blended family is often challenging, because those lines of attachment and connection aren\u2019t what they are in a bio-family. Ron, as you\u2019re hearing Emerson talk about the important role a dad plays and the disrespect to a mom\u2014and you\u2019re putting that in the grid of a blended family\u2014all of a sudden, there are challenges to trying to work this out that moms and dads just throw up their hands and go, \u201cI don\u2019t know what to do here.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Yes; exactly. You know, one of the things Emerson does in this book is talk about the G.U.I.D.E.S. that you want to give mother\u2014that\u2019s an acrostic. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> G.U.I.D.E.S.\u2014yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> That acrostic\u2014you flesh out some of the things that you want moms to be able to do. One of the things I want people listening to hear is that this book has as much application for stepmoms as it does biological moms and single mothers, who are trying to manage it, all by themselves, with their sons. One of the things you talk about in the G.U.I.D.E.S. is understanding\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014understanding so a child is not provoked or exasperated. I\u2019d love for you to unpack that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn particular, one of the things I\u2019m interested in is stepmoms understanding that. I have this theory, Emerson\u2014I don\u2019t know if I\u2019m right about this\u2014but I think that stepsons have an even heightened sense of a need of respect from their stepmothers simply because: they are feeling imposed on; they are feeling challenged in their relationship, perhaps, with their biological mother and their loyalty to their mom; they are feeling life has thrown them a number of curves and: \u201cI\u2019m not feeling stable or certain about the future. You, stepmom, are kind of the embodiment of all the things that I\u2019ve had to go through and deal with,\u201d and \u201cIf you are here, and I feel safe and comfortable with you, then all of a sudden, I feel a little more peace in my life; but if I feel challenged by you \/ if I feel like you don\u2019t understand me at all, then I\u2019ve got another reason to feel upset and angry at the world.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWho is that going to come out on?\u2014that\u2019s going to come out toward the stepmom, in particular. Unpack a little bit for us the importance of understanding your son and his need for respect. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Well, that understanding is the \u201cU\u201d of G.U.I.D.E.S. There\u2019s \u201cGiving,\u201d which is the \u201cG.\u201d \u201cU\u201d is the \u201cUnderstanding\u201d; \u201cInstructing\u201d; \u201cDisciplining\u201d: \u201cEncouraging\u201d; and \u201cSupplicating,\u201d\u2014concepts that are salient Scriptures that deal with parenting. I looked at everything the Bible says about parenting\u2014not just principles. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe one you referenced, both in Colossians and Ephesians: \u201cDo not provoke your children to anger and do not exasperate them so they lose heart,\u201d\u2014the Ephesian\/Colossian passage. That\u2019s true for father\u2019s provoking their children. My dad provoked me \/ my dad exasperated me\u2014I lost heart; I just closed off to my dad. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe same thing can happen for a mom toward her son or her daughter; but particularly, in this case, where you see this dynamic. One of the things I <em>know<\/em> about a stepmother\u2014she wants to <em>love<\/em> that boy. It\u2019s within her nature to love. She wants to love, and she\u2019s going to be very intentional about that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe\u2019s going to try every way that she knows to send the message that she loves him; but when she gets upset with him\u2014and he\u2019s going to do things that are going to hurt her\u2014it\u2019s very easy for her to come across in a way that feels disrespectful to him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFirst of all, he may not be assured of her love; but I will tell you this\u2014if she thinks more about how to honor his spirit \/ respect his spirit\u2014not just love on him\u2014but respect his spirit, he will begin to feel affection \/ positive affection for her. It doesn\u2019t seem natural to a woman, because that\u2019s not the way you operate; but trust me\u2014when you honor his spirit \/ when you respect his spirit, even though he has failed you, he will begin to have fond feelings. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWill he cry? Will he write poetry to you? Will he come to you and put arms\u2026? No! [Laughter] He will be very withdrawn, but there is a thought process that\u2019s going on that\u2019s magnificent. I want you to just trust me\u2014take it by faith. If you read this book and you start doing these things, as a stepmother, toward that boy\u2014who is elbowing you, verbally\u2014just stay the course; don\u2019t get defeated; just keep on this. Trust me\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014you\u2019re being principle-driven here, and the principle will work. Is it a guarantee that he is going to be a perfect boy? No!\u2014but you\u2019re not a perfect person. I will tell you\u2014he\u2019ll be far less imperfect. You don\u2019t want this to move into chaos; and when you keep this honor language going, it\u2019ll contain that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> There\u2019s another acronym in the book that helps us understand what\u2019s going on in the heart of a teenage boy\u2014or a younger boy, for that matter. It\u2019s the acronym, C.H.A.I.R.S. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Correct. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You use that to get to: \u201cWhat are the inner-desires of a boy?\u201d If we understand those, it\u2019ll help us with how we relate to our sons. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Correct. In our Love and Respect Conference, I talk about what God has said to wives to understand about men and masculinity. These, again, are salient Scriptures. C.H.A.I.R.S. deals with that. Men have a need for conquest; they have a need to offer their insight; they have a need to relate with you, shoulder to shoulder, without talking. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor instance, on that point, we encourage mothers: \u201cJust do an activity with your son. Watch him. Don\u2019t even about\u2014just be there and don\u2019t say anything. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cDon\u2019t have a phone there. Just watch him for 15 minutes, just be shoulder to shoulder.\u201d You\u2019re going to find an energy going into him that you think would only come about through a wonderful quality conversation about our feelings. Trust me\u2014take it by faith. Shoulder-to-shoulder activities with him, without saying anything, can be as effective in his spirit as a two-hour discussion might be with you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> There\u2019s a reason why guys get together and play pickup basketball and why women get together and have coffee and talk; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> It\u2019s the way people bond. Women develop rapport by giving a report. Men build rapport with each other by being active together\u2014feeling like: \u201cWe\u2019re in this together,\u201d\u2014a sense of comradery \/ it\u2019s usually activity-oriented. Ninety-nine thousand men go hunting in Michigan on opening day. Why?\u2014you have to be out in the field, and you can\u2019t talk. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I want to read just the beginning of Chapter 4, which is \u201cSeeing the Man in the Boy\u201d\u2014it\u2019s subtitled \u201cHis Six Desires.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s back to what Bob was talking about\u2014C.H.A.I.R.S. Here\u2019s what you say\u2014I think this is just a great way for a mom to think about her son: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWho is the man in the boy? The best way to see a man in the making is to recognize the six desires God seeded\u2014that He placed in your son. God designed him with the desires to:\u201d\u2014and then you list six categories\u2014\u201cNumber one: to work and achieve. Number two: to provide for, protect, and even die. Three: be strong, lead, and make decisions. Four: analyze, solve, and counsel. Number five: do friendship, shoulder to shoulder. Number six: to sexually understand and know. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, we could comment on a number of these. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want you to comment on the last one because I think this is a big mystery for men and women today in relating to their sons. What\u2019s going on in a boy, who is seeded with these desires, and he\u2019s emerging through puberty? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> You\u2019re talking about the sexual component there\u2014that last one? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Well, that\u2019s a huge one; and it\u2019s very difficult. It also explains why boys are quiet, because boys are visually-oriented. They are very aware of nudity \/ they are very aware of the anatomy of the female, but they know that they shouldn\u2019t give voice to that. Sometimes, you\u2019ll see boys being quiet. You ask him what he\u2019s thinking\u2014he\u2019s not going to tell you what he\u2019s thinking. You just need to understand, though, he\u2019s becoming aware of his world. It\u2019s important that a mother not shame him for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think that\u2019s, again, where the role of the father can come in; but definitely, he is going to have an interest in human sexuality. It doesn\u2019t mean that he\u2019s going to cross over on the line; but it definitely means he\u2019s going to be very aware \/ he\u2019s going to be very cognizant of this, and he\u2019s going to be wondering about this. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is where the father can come in. This is where\u2014if you\u2019ve got a family unit, where the older men\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014the uncle or whatever kin\u2014can begin give voice to this. What\u2019s happening today, quite often, is boys are not having anyone to talk to them about this. They\u2019re getting this exposure from a peer\u2014they\u2019re getting pictures and so on and so forth. Our boys are not the enemy in the pornography area\u2014they are the victim of the enemy. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s the women involved in this industry and there are men involved in this industry that ought to be confronted, because they know <em>exactly<\/em> what they are doing. Don\u2019t see your son as the enemy here if he\u2019s crossed that line. I think, in the broad brush stroke, we\u2019ve got to just take a breath here. I talk about Shaunti Feldhahn\u2019s work there\u2014about her boy and some of the four-year-old comments. It begins, early on, and \u201cHow are we going to begin to address that?\u201d In the book, we try to unpack that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe just need to realize God made this \/ He designed this. It\u2019s going to be part and parcel of this kind of thing\u2014you\u2019ve got to just accept that and not <em>shame<\/em>. The important thing is not to shame the boy, particularly if you see him looking at something. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI remember our boys\u2014there was pornography on the pathway; you know? We just said, \u201cIf you see something that\u2019s not right, let us know.\u201d Jonathan came to us, and I <em>honored<\/em> him for that. I honored him rather than: \u201cWhat did you do? Did you look?\u201d\u2014no: \u201cThank you for telling me.\u201d I honored the integrity\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> \u2014of him following through instead of shaming. I know that he\u2019s going to want to look at that\u2014I would\u2019ve wanted to look at that. It\u2019s a matter of coming to this realization, but also having the father speak into this; because it\u2019s very difficult for a mother to fully grasp this. It\u2019d be so easy to begin to conclude that there is something seriously wrong with him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It\u2019s not a matter of <em>if<\/em> your son is going to see this stuff\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014starting at younger and younger ages\u2014down to eight\/nine\/ten. You can do a good job in your home controlling things; because this is a screen generation, you can\u2019t control what is put in front of your son\u2019s face. I think the coaching you just gave moms\u2014to be a shock-absorber, at the point, maybe, their son\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> That\u2019s a good way of saying it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014gets exposed; but to step in and keep loving and say, \u201cI\u2019m so glad you trusted me.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You\u2019ve been a bit surprised by the response mothers have given you to this book; haven\u2019t you? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Oh, yes. You know, you\u2019ve got story after story\u2014you know, like\u2014it happens, not just to four-year-olds\u2014it is 22-year-olds: \u201cMy relationship with my 22-year-old son improved <em>overnight<\/em>. Who knew that simple changes in words could make such a difference? Now, I tell him how much I appreciate him,\u201d\u2014that would be one of those synonyms\u2014\u201cand he tears up. Before, I told him I loved him and got back: \u2018I know. I know. I love you too, Mom.\u2019 Learning the right words to get my feelings across in a way they can be assimilated was so easy.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>That\u2019s one of the points I want to make: \u201cDon\u2019t make this more complex.\u201d Women start beating up on themselves at a certain point. They move into shame, because they look back. Boys do let certain things roll off their back like water off a duck\u2019s back. They don\u2019t personalize it in the same way, maybe, a daughter would toward a father. Boys know Mom loves them. So, you have a lot of grace here \/ a lot of room. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tDo not move into shame, and do not beat yourself up; because here is what happens. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tA mother wrote: \u201cIf my son does something that is not worthy of respect, I can quickly fall into this trap of disappointment and even disdain. It, then, gives me a feeling of\u2014\u2018Oh, he might never change.\u2019 Then, I feel like a bad mom; because I feel, indirectly, that his behavior is somehow my fault or reflects on me. After this, I probably give off this attitude of disappointment, and I know only too well that my son can tell. The very hardest thing, then, is to see your son defeated and down. As mothers,\u201d she said, \u201cwe practice and look for ways to love; but maybe, more importantly, we should look for opportunities and ways to respect our sons.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnother woman\u2014this is like an 11-year-old boy\u2014\u201cWhen my son gives me his insight\u201d\u2014here would be the G.U.I.D.E.S.\u2019 \u2018Insight\u2019\u2014she said, \u201cWhen my son gives me his insight, I say, \u2018I really respect what you have to say,\u2019 or \u2018I respect the way you handled that situation,\u2019 or \u2018I really respect how you are taking initiative to get things done and follow through with.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe said: \u201cThese things have made my son smile like I have <em>never<\/em> seen. I talk more about respect with regard to sporting events and showing respect for other opponents. My son knows, without a doubt, that I love him. Now, I feel that he knows that I <em>value<\/em> him and value his ideas, which I may not have done so well in the past. Thank you for sharing God\u2019s message.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> The key words that I\u2019m picking up\u2014whether you\u2019re a mom or a stepmom\u2014\u201cappreciation\u201d \/ say the word, \u201ccompliment,\u201d\u2014give compliments to your son; praise him for something; show honor to him and use that word, \u201cYou\u2019re honorable,\u201d \/ \u201cYou\u2019re worthy of respect.\u201d Those <em>words<\/em> are speaking directly to his soul. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou keep using the word, \u201cspirit,\u201d\u2014it\u2019s to the inner-core of who he is. I had a guy say to me once, \u201cRon, I\u2019d much rather admit that I\u2019m a sinner than admit that I\u2019m a failure.\u201d We carry so much weight on us, as men, and boys are feeling it already. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s the language of our heart: \u201cAre we enough?\u201d When Mom says: \u201cYou are enough. I love you. I care for you. I really approve of who you are. Now, I didn\u2019t like what you just did. Knock it off.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> Right; correct. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> There\u2019s a balance there that just opens him up to Mom\u2019s guidance and leadership and where she takes him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Emerson:<\/strong> It\u2019s important to honor those character qualities, not just, \u201cI just really respect the fact that you\u2019re so handsome,\u201d\u2014he didn\u2019t have anything to do with that. Unchangeable features are not what we\u2019re talking about, but character qualities\u2014thinking about that\u2014but also, trying to see the good in the bad. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI had a mother, this week, with an adult son, who doesn\u2019t\u2014he\u2019s rejecting the faith, at this point, and doesn\u2019t want to participate in some of the Christian things that they\u2019re doing\u2014and was very open about that and just said to his mom, \u201cNo.\u201d She\u2019s very sensitive, so\u2014but he\u2019s an adult, and he just kind of said it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI said: \u201cYou can honor him for his integrity. I want you to write him a note and say, \u2018You know what? I really appreciate it\u2014I know that was not easy for you to do; but you\u2019re seeking to be a man of integrity, who is true to your own convictions right now. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cI know that wasn\u2019t easy for you to say, \u2018No,\u2019 to that; but I just want to express my honor to you \/ my respect for your integrity in the family unit.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> I just want to jump in here and say I think that is <em>very<\/em> significant\u2014what you just said\u2014because our tendency, I think, in the body of Christ, when we have a concern for somebody\u2019s life\u2014in this case a mother and her son and his lack of faith\u2014we feel like: \u201cIf I say anything <em>nice<\/em>, then I\u2019m somehow blessing their lack of faith \/ I\u2019m somehow giving permission to it; and I don\u2019t want to do that.\u201d So, what we end up doing is saying, \u201cWell, the better thing for me to do is to emotionally detach, and unhook, and show them my disapproval for who they are.\u201d Well, wait a minute \/ wait a minute\u2014no, no, no. If you want to gain influence \/ increase your influence, move <em>toward<\/em> him with words that affirm his spirit. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I\u2019m thinking about the first book you wrote\u2014and it was about marriage, not about parenting\u2014but one of the chapters in that book was the power of positive words. At the core, that\u2019s what we\u2019re talking about here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOur words have great power in each other\u2019s lives. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; we talked about how our words are like seeds: \u201cWhat you plant is what you grow, so be careful what you sow.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMoms, you\u2019re powerful\u2014don\u2019t forget it\u2014<em>very<\/em> powerful in a boy\u2019s life; a young man\u2019s life; and an older, young man\u2019s life, by the way\u2014all the way into adulthood. Don\u2019t miss what Emerson said, there, at the end: \u201cAdult children are still impacted by your words.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tGet this book\u2014dig into it; it\u2019s valuable. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> It\u2019ll give you the words to use so that you can connect, heart to heart, with your son. Again, the title of the book is <em>Mother and Son: The Respect Effect<\/em>. The subtitle says: \u201cLove is important, but it is respect that is the key to your son\u2019s heart.\u201d The book is by Emerson Eggerichs, who has been our guest today. You can order your copy when you go, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call to order: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t1-800-FL-TODAY is the number. Again, the website: FamilyLifeToday.com; and the toll-free number is 1-800-358-6329\u20141-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\u00a0 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI know a lot of our listeners have been to one of our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup><\/em> marriage getaways. I know even more of you have never been. In fact, we run into listeners all the time, Dennis; and we say, \u201cSo, have you been to one of our getaways?\u201d They say, \u201cOh, we\u2019ve always wanted to go, but we haven\u2019t done it.\u201d If you\u2019ve never been to a getaway, you need to invest in your marriage. Get some time \/ get away; and enjoy a weekend together, where you learn what the Bible has to say about building a strong marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf your pastor has never been to a getaway, why don\u2019t you let him know that, at FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>, we cover the registration cost for pastors and spouses to attend. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe want them to be\u2014I was going to say, \u201c\u2026our guests\u201d; but really, they are your guests\u2014because we cover this cost because we have a scholarship fund, where listeners have contributed so that we can make sure pastors and spouses are able to attend. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRight now, that scholarship fund is\u2014the funds are getting a little depleted. This month, we\u2019re asking listeners, \u201cWould you help us be able to continue scholarshipping pastors and spouses to a getaway?\u201d You can do that by contributing to the scholarship fund, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call to contribute: 1-800-FL-TODAY is the number. When you designate your gift for the scholarship fund, all of those funds will go to covering the registration cost for a getaway for pastors and spouses. Again, you can donate at FamilyLifeToday.com; or you can call to donate: 1-800-FL-TODAY. Your donations are tax deductible, and make sure your pastor knows about the scholarship fund and encourage him to get a weekend away with his wife and enjoy a getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, be sure to be back with us tomorrow when we\u2019re going to talk about some of the hardball questions that teenagers sometimes toss our way, as parents\u2014things about what\u2019s going on in the culture, ideas they\u2019ve heard at school, things they are wondering about. Have you ever wondered, \u201cWhat\u2019s the best way to answer some of these questions?\u201d Well, Elyse Fitzpatrick and her daughter Jessica Thompson are going to be here tomorrow to talk about answering the tough questions your kids ask. I hope you can tune in for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. 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