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Here\u2019s Shaunti Feldhahn.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>One of the key things that\u2019s going to happen, as <em>you<\/em> start catching the good and you start, really, truly preventing yourself\u2014say, \u201cOkay; for these 30 days, I\u2019m not going to say anything negative about my spouse,\u201d or \u201c\u2026my kids,\u201d or \u201c\u2026my\u2026\u201d\u2014you know, whatever\u2014\u201cI\u2019m <em>not<\/em> going to do this.\u201d You start seeing everything\u2014you\u2019re going to start feeling, honestly, so much more of that joy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, February 1<sup>st<\/sup>. Our host is Dennis Rainey; I\u2019m Bob Lepine. So, which happens more at your house? Are there more critical words or kind words being expressed? We\u2019ll talk about how we can turn one down and turn the other up today. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. We\u2019re talking about kindness this week; because kindness can go a long way in every relationship, whether it\u2019s in the workplace, in the home with your kids, with your spouse. When people are kind to one another, the temperature in the room changes; doesn\u2019t it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It does. I just want to read a very familiar passage of Scripture, just to remind you that kindness is a part of God\u2019s character. He\u2019s wanting to produce this fruit in us. I know that because of what Paul says in Galatians, Chapter 5, where he commands us to \u201cwalk in the Spirit and not in the deeds of the flesh.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn verse 22 he says, \u201cBut the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.\u201d Those are all qualities of who God is and what He\u2019s like.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBob, the kindness of God is what gets us into heaven.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>He sent His Son to die on a cross on our behalf because of the lovingkindness of God\u2014that He didn\u2019t want to be separated from us. So we ought to be demonstrating this fruit \/ this one fruit of kindness\u2014I wouldn\u2019t say more than the others\u2014but it ought to be one of the mainstays of our lives as we relate to other people, both in our homes and as we go about our duties outside the home.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>The Bible says, in Romans, Chapter 2, that it is God\u2019s kindness that leads us to repentance\u2014we are motivated to change. That\u2019s what repentance means\u2014motivated to change when we understand the kindness of God. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor years, Dennis, people have said to me\u2014our mission, at FamilyLife, to effectively develop godly marriages and families\u2014they\u2019ve said, \u201cSo how do you define \/ what are the characteristics of a godly marriage or family?\u201d And I\u2019ve said: \u201cRead Galatians 5:22 and 23. When the fruit of the Spirit is being manifested in a marriage or in a family, that\u2019s what a godly marriage or family looks like. There\u2019s love; there\u2019s joy; there\u2019s peace; patience, kindness, gentleness, self-control\u2014all of those things.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And as fruit, that means it grows and it has to mature.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It\u2019s not some kind of fruit that you dial up and it\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Not the microwave fruit of the Spirit? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; exactly! I mean, this is the point of maturing and getting in the Bible\u2014letting the Bible reside in you and making your choices from the Scripture. It\u2019s why listening to this broadcast is so important. Hopefully, we are one of your trusted sources of speaking with authority from the Scriptures about the issues you\u2019re facing in your marriage and family. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTo do that today, we\u2019ve asked Shaunti Feldhahn to join us again on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. We\u2019ve offended her in numerous ways over the past decade, having her on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, so we\u2019ve had her back to do it in additional ways. Shaunti, welcome back.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>I love you guys! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>We\u2019ll be talking about kindness\u2014we\u2019ll see if we can offend you on the program.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; there you go! [Laughter] I\u2019m going to be kind to her today! She has written a book called <em>The Kindness Challenge.<\/em> \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI was preparing for this broadcast, and Bob came into my office\u2014and I said, \u201cBob, who\u2019s the kindest person you know?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; and I paused.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>He paused, and he didn\u2019t say anything. So I raised my fingers and pointed them back at myself! [Laughter] At which point he burst into laughter\u2014at that point. [Laughter] I go: \u201cWhat? I\u2019m not? What are you doing?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnyway, that\u2019s not the point of this broadcast. The point of this broadcast is to equip <em>you<\/em> to be kind in your marriage, in your family, in your extended relationships out in the community, and be <em>known<\/em> as someone who leaves the aroma of Christ wherever you go. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s really what you were after as you wrote this book; isn\u2019t it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>It totally is, especially because the main issue for us is that we already think we\u2019re kind; you know? Everybody listening to this is like, \u201cBut I <em>am<\/em>,\u201d\u2014like\u2014\u201cI really <em>value<\/em> being a kind person.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s interesting\u2014I was doing an event for a big ministry, speaking on this topic. You know, they have all their major donors in the room; and they were all really engaged. This one guy, who was one of their major donors, comes up to me afterwards. He shows me a page out of C.S. Lewis\u2019s book, <em>The Problem of Pain<\/em>\u2014you know, because we\u2019re trying to figure out, \u201cWhy is it that we think we\u2019re kind, when anybody around us can tell us, \u2018You\u2019re really <em>not<\/em> as much as you think you are\u2019?\u201d Why are we so deluded? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe showed me this passage from C.S. Lewis\u2014he said: \u201cThe reason we think we\u2019re kind people is that we\u2019re feeling benevolent towards this person at that moment,\u201d\u2014like they\u2019re not annoying us at that moment in time\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014\u201cSo, really, we think we\u2019re kind when we\u2019re only happy.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOh my! That is <em>so<\/em> true; because <em>you<\/em> push whatever button it is in <em>me<\/em>, and I sometimes can really be exasperated\u2014that\u2019s my thing\u2014that\u2019s my irritation \/ that\u2019s my pattern of negativity in unkindness.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, Shaunti, there\u2019s a wife listening to us, right now, who said: \u201cYou know, it\u2019s easy, Shaunti\u2014you\u2019re married to the kindest person\u2014you know, your husband Jeff\u2014since 1994. So it\u2019s easy for you to be kind back to him; but <em>you<\/em> have no idea what God has called me to do to love this man\/this husband that I\u2019m in a permanent relationship with.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, you\u2019ve had some women come up to you\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>Oh, yes!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014who\u2019ve asked that question.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>Oh, totally!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>How do you coach them?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>Well, here\u2019s\u2014honestly, how this \/ I\u2019ll tell you honestly\u2014here\u2019s how this whole thing started. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSitting in <em>this<\/em> building, probably ten years ago, I was doing an interview with Nancy Leigh DeMoss, now Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, when she had her studios here. She was asked that exact question by a woman\u2014we talked about it on air. She issued what I thought was this <em>brilliant<\/em> challenge\u2014to not say anything negative about a difficult husband and to look for things to praise.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI started studying this and going: \u201cWow! That is really important!\u201d It eventually became the <em>core<\/em> of what we call the 30-Day Kindness Challenge. What we have found is that <em>when<\/em> you are\u2014really, you\u2019ve identified some <em>real<\/em> problems with this gentleman that you\u2019re married to\u2014but you know what? There is <em>always<\/em> something good as well. There is <em>always<\/em> something that is worthy of praise\u2014as Philippians 4 said\u2014you know, it\u2019s not just the stuff that\u2019s worthy of driving you crazy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWhat we found with other women when they have tried this\u2014they\u2019ve tried the 30-Day Kindness Challenge \/ to do these three things every day\u2014it is <em>amazing<\/em>. Suddenly, all those things that loomed so large in their eyes\u2014they\u2019re just not as big a deal anymore, because here\u2019s the thing\u2014think about this: \u201cIf you\u2019re irritated with your husband, and you tell him you\u2019re irritated, and you tell your girlfriends that you\u2019re irritated, are you going to be more or less irritated?\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u201cYou\u2019re going to be irritated!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>Everybody knows the answer! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut if you\u2019re irritated with him, for these very real reasons that you\u2019re talking about, but you <em>refuse<\/em> to talk about those things for 30 days \/ just 30 days\u2014you don\u2019t tell him \/ you don\u2019t tell your girlfriends\u2014<em>nothing<\/em>. You just don\u2019t talk about them for 30 days; and <em>instead<\/em>, you find the good things and you find the things that you can <em>praise<\/em>\u2014you know: \u201cThanks so much for taking out the trash, honey. I really appreciate it,\u201d or \u201cThanks for doing this thing with the kids. You\u2019re a really good dad.\u201d You say those things, <em>regularly<\/em>, for 30 days, and you tell somebody else those things, are you going to be more or less irritated?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt turns out we have bought into an idea, as a people \/ as a culture, that it is <em>healthy<\/em> to share those frustrations, regularly, because it lets a little steam out of the kettle; right?\u2014so the kettle doesn\u2019t explode.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>As I was doing this research\u2014oh my goodness!\u2014I started seeing there\u2019s all this, actually, brain science about this \/ there\u2019s this neuroscience about this. They have actually found that, as you share those real frustrations; right?\u2014they are real things\u2014as you share those with other people, it doesn\u2019t let the steam out of the kettle. <em>Instead<\/em>, it further <em>activates<\/em> this interconnected anger system in your brain. It\u2019s actually more like turning the heat up under the pot.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have to get over this idea that, you know, venting is a good idea; because what happens is\u2014<em>instead<\/em>, when we just start focusing on the other stuff and we don\u2019t vent, it\u2019s like taking the pot off that burner. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s like you put the lid on and it smothers that steam\u2014that annoyance \/ that <em>frustration<\/em>\u2014that you have with this guy you\u2019re married to. Suddenly, because you\u2019re focusing on the good, you\u2019re just not as frustrated anymore.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>There are some wives who hear all of this and go: \u201cI understand that; but if I were trying to find the thing I was going to affirm my husband for yesterday: \u2018Honey, you\u2019re really good at watching ESPN,\u2019 \u2018Honey, you\u2019re really good at being on your laptop,\u2019 \u2018Honey, you\u2019re really good at falling asleep early,\u2019\u201d\u2014I mean, they would just say, \u201cI don\u2019t know where to find it, because he\u2019s just living his life and nothing\u2014he\u2019s not engaged.\u201d They don\u2019t know where to find the good.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>And let me give you some ideas: \u201cHoney, I <em>love<\/em> the fact that you love university football. I want to sit and watch with you,\u201d \/ \u201cHow can I join you in this?\u201d Like\u2014you would love it if he\u2019d do stuff with you; but since this is his thing, \u201cI\u2019m going to sit and watch it with you.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u201cCall 9-1-1.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>Yes; he\u2019s going to keel over! [Laughter] Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOr \u201cYes; you know what? I wish he would come home and talk to me,\u201d and he\u2019s tired: \u201cHoney, thanks so much for working so hard to provide for our family. I <em>really<\/em>, really appreciate it.\u201d You may <em>not<\/em> be able to think of a lot at the <em>beginning<\/em>.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ll tell you what happened with one woman\u2014I <em>love<\/em> this. She was doing the 30-Day Kindness Challenge; right?\u2014these three things for 30 days\u2014and one of them is to find the good every day, and say <em>one<\/em> thing to him, and then praise him to somebody else. She\u2019s like: \u201cI can\u2019t do it! I don\u2019t know what I\u2019m going to do.\u201d I\u2019m like: \u201cOkay; carry around a notebook. Whenever anything happens that he does <em>good<\/em>, just right it down so you don\u2019t forget it; and then that can be your thing to praise.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe is like: \u201cI\u2019m going to need to put together a word bank. Like, I\u2019m going to need to actually\u2014I\u2019m going to have to write down everything, and then I\u2019ll store up\u2026\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe is like, \u201cSo what I ended up doing,\u201d\u2014this is what she told me \/ she said\u2014\u201con Day 2, I saw <em>three<\/em> things. I\u2019m like: \u2018Okay; I\u2019ll store those up; and I\u2019ll mention that on Day 3 and Day 4 so that, if I don\u2019t see anything on Day 3 and 4, I have something from Day 2 to mention.\u2019\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe wrote down <em>three<\/em> things to store up on Day 2. She said, on Day 3, she noticed <em>six<\/em> things, and then by Day 4, she noticed <em>twelve<\/em> things.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Wow!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>And suddenly, she is like: \u201cOh wow! It was <em>me<\/em>. I <em>just<\/em> was noticing <em>all<\/em> the bad.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>That<\/em> is what happens once you start doing this\u2014in sincerity. If you\u2019re the lady, who\u2019s like, \u201cYes; I notice he\u2019s good at watching ESPN,\u201d well, you know what? Then, maybe, <em>you<\/em> might need an attitude adjustment too. It may not just be him.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You know, marriage is so up-close and personal. I mean, Barbara and I have lived with each other now in marriage for 45 years\u2014we know each other pretty well. It\u2019s why a passage, like Philippians, Chapter 4, is so important; because it\u2019s so easy to pull out the magnifying glass and to focus on the defects\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014the bad habits \/ the blemishes\u2014but let\u2019s just listen to what the Apostle Paul says about directing our thoughts.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPhilippians, Chapter 4, verse 8: \u201cFinally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.\u201d In other words, Paul is calling us, Shaunti, as you are, to discipline our minds to think about the positive rather than the negative and not focus solely on the negative. It doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re not going to see the negative; it just means you begin to populate your mind with catching your spouse doing something right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>And <em>one<\/em> of the key things that\u2019s going to happen\u2014as <em>you<\/em> start catching the good and <em>you<\/em> start really, truly preventing yourself\u2014say: \u201cOkay; for these 30 days, I\u2019m <em>not<\/em> going to say anything negative about my spouse,\u201d or \u201c\u2026my kids,\u201d or \u201c\u2026my\u2026\u2014you know, whatever. \u201cI\u2019m not going to do this,\u201d\u2014and you start seeing everything \/ you\u2019re going to start <em>feeling<\/em>, honestly, so much more of that joy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat verse you read was <em>the<\/em> prescription when Paul says: \u201cRejoice! I\u2019m going to say it again, \u2018Rejoice!\u2019\u201d And you\u2019re like: \u201cOkay; dude [Paul]\u2014you\u2019re in prison, chained to a wall. [Laughter] How do you rejoice in a prison?\u201d \u201cHow do you rejoice in a difficult marriage?\u201d \u201cHow do you rejoice with a difficult teenager?\u201d or \u201c\u2026that mother-in-law that\u2019s driving you crazy?\u201d Those verses are the answer\u2014that <em>is<\/em> the prescription\u2014you think on whatever\u2019s lovely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s interesting, because science has found the exact same thing. I was actually\u2014there was this hilarious\u2014at least, to me \/ I thought it was hilarious\u2014this study that was done with a group of plastic surgeons, who were <em>convinced<\/em> that\u2014this was a number of years ago\u2014they were <em>convinced<\/em> that Botox had an off-label use as an anti-depressant; because <em>so<\/em> many of the people, who were getting Botox injections\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014their emotional states improved, so little incidents of anxiety and depression were going away. You know, that happens sometimes\u2014the medicine has a different use and \u201cWow! Okay; good to know!\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo they did a study, and it had <em>nothing<\/em> to do with the chemical of Botox. And it <em>wasn\u2019t<\/em>: \u201cIt turns out that these people just looked and felt prettier, so they had a better emotional outlook,\u201d\u2014like none of that mattered. It turns out Botox is a shot, you know, to smooth out wrinkles \/ it paralyzes the frown muscles. [Laughter] These people couldn\u2019t frown! They <em>literally<\/em> could not make a negative facial expression.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014a furrowed brow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>They couldn\u2019t [making angry sound] \u201cRrrr!\u201d You know, think about it! Everybody, listening to this, is going nice and screwy in their foreheads; but you know, as you scrunch up your forehead, you\u2019re making a negative facial expression. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThey <em>literally<\/em> couldn\u2019t do that anymore. As they were unable to make these grouchy, negative expressions with their faces, they <em>just<\/em> didn\u2019t feel as grouchy or as negative. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt\u2019s like God has been trying to tell us this\u2014to think on whatever is lovely, and excellent, and worthy of praise. You can skip the shot of Botox to the forehead and just take the biblical prescription instead, and you\u2019ll have this better emotional equilibrium. You\u2019ll feel more of that <em>joy<\/em> that Paul is saying, \u201cRejoice!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You know, the reality is that we don\u2019t do this naturally. We need prompts and coaching. That\u2019s the reason you developed a 30-day challenge that we\u2019re now incorporating. We\u2019re asking our listeners: \u201cDuring the month of February, take a 30-day challenge. You can do it with your spouse; you can do it with your kids; you can do it with a coworker. Pick a person that you want to improve a relationship with and take the initiative to take the kindness challenge. We\u2019ll send you the prompt every day via email. It\u2019ll give you an action point for the day.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019ve seen people do this, Shaunti, and it makes a difference in their relationships.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>Oh, <em>huge<\/em> difference. We, actually\u2014I was just at the American Association of Christian Counselors\u2014one of their big meetings\u2014not that long ago. A Christian counselor woman came up to me who had this wife \/ this woman\u2014walked into her office and sat down and said: \u201cI hate my husband. I hate him.\u201d She [the counselor] happened to know that this husband was also in this counseling practice. So the wife hadn\u2019t told her husband she was going in. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo this is a good step, at least\u2014like she\u2019s in the room. This counselor had heard about the 30-Day Kindness Challenge and had decided to do it for herself and found that it was a really powerful thing\u2014which by the way, we encourage leaders to do this for themselves; because it might be something that you end up deciding: \u201cYou know, I\u2019ll do this with my church,\u201d \u201cI\u2019ll do this with my organization.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe said to this lady: \u201cOkay; why don\u2019t you do this? Why don\u2019t you try this?\u201d She explained: \u201cIt\u2019s these three things for 30 days. Try this, and start with this assessment,\u201d because, on the website\u2014which you guys are linking to\u2014there\u2019s a free assessment. It just tells you kind of where you\u2019re starting. It gives you a character\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>\u2014like: \u201cAre you Captain America?\u201d \u201cAre you\u2026\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s like the most-kind there is; right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>Yes; exactly! Like: \u201cWho are you?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe said the lady came in the next week\u2014sat down and said, \u201cI\u2019m Voldemort.\u201d [Laughter] And she\u2019s [wife] like, \u201cAs I was doing the assessment, literally, I\u2019m thinking to myself: \u2018Not a single person in the world is going to end up as Voldemort. Like it\u2019s just there to be the worst of the worst.\u2019\u201d Well, okay; so this lady was. She said: \u201cIt\u2019s because I\u2019ve gotten so annoyed, I realized I\u2019m being unkind on <em>purpose<\/em> to him.\u201d She said, \u201cAlright; I need to work on this.\u201d And she did it! To her credit, she actually did it <em>sincerely<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis counselor told us\u2014she said, as she was driving to this counselors\u2019 convention \/ this was three or four months later\u2014she was driving. She said\u2014she told her husband, \u201cI <em>literally<\/em> have never seen that big of a change in an individual in my <em>entire<\/em> life, because this lady <em>realized<\/em> \/ she <em>saw<\/em> how unkind she was being. She didn\u2019t <em>see<\/em> it before.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, <em>that<\/em> awareness\u2014to think of yourself soberly, as the Bible says \/ to <em>realize<\/em> what\u2019s going on in your own heart\u2014once you do that\u2014<em>that<\/em> is the beginning of the change that God wants in our lives.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>And if you do something like this for 30 days\u2014we can\u2019t sit here and promise that it\u2019s going to be ingrained within you, because there\u2019s still going to be a battle within your soul to apply the Scripture and to choose to allow the fruit of the Spirit to be produced in your life\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014<em>but<\/em> after 30 days, you will find that kindness is much more a part of your life and of your marriage and your family. It will be a whole lot more pleasant place to live.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>Actually, what\u2019s really fun about this is that, actually\u2014because, you know, the three things that you do for the 30 days\u2014you don\u2019t say anything negative; you find something positive to say; and you do an action of kindness or generosity every day for whoever this person is that you\u2019re doing it for\u2014and what we\u2019ve found is that the people, by the time\u2014you know, Day 3 and 4, they\u2019re kind of spending the whole time, going: \u201cOh wow! Oh wow! I had no idea. Oh my; I messed up again!\u201d\u2014right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe first two weeks\u2014after they\u2019ve kind of gotten over that\u2014now, you\u2019re building a new skill set: \u201cOkay; I didn\u2019t know I needed it; but here it is. I\u2019m building it.\u201d By the time that second two weeks happens, what we\u2019ve found is\u2014by the time they got to Day 30, they kind of had lost track where they were in the 30-Day Kindness Challenge\u2014like, \u201cWait; are we on Day 25?\u201d because it is so much a natural part! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt had become a <em>habit<\/em> in their life\u2014that then you have to choose to keep applying it\u2014but it really <em>is<\/em>, at that point, a habit.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So think about enrolling in Shaunti\u2019s School of Kindness\u2014[Laughter]\u2014Kindness 101.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Shaunti: <\/strong>That sounds really bad! [Laughter] No, no; it\u2019s the <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> 30-Day Kindness Challenge; right?\u2014yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>It\u2019s in the book, <em>The Kindness Challenge<\/em>\u2014all of the prompts\u2014but to have them sent to you by email is kind of the drip method of getting a daily reminder \/ a daily prompt: \u201cHere\u2019s something you can do to be kind today. Here\u2019s a way that you can demonstrate kindness for others.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just think that\u2019s helpful for all of us. It\u2019s free; you can sign up, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com. Join us in the 30-Day Kindness Challenge. I\u2019ve already signed up; so I\u2019m in the queue. I\u2019m getting these prompts sent to me, and I\u2019m looking forward to what happens over the next 30 days in my own life and in my relationships with others.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe also have copies of Shaunti\u2019s book available if you\u2019d like to buy the book, <em>The Kindness Challenge: 30 Days to Improve Any Relationship<\/em>. Go to FamilyLifeToday.com to order, or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order. The website, again, FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou know, I would have to say\u2014when it comes to kindness, <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners have demonstrated, over the years, that they are kind people, especially those of you who are Legacy Partners \/ those of you who support this ministry regularly. Your generosity is a demonstration of kindness, and it\u2019s really not as much kindness toward us at FamilyLife\u2014it\u2019s kindness toward those who benefit from this ministry \/ the husbands and wives, the moms and dads, the couples who tune in and listen, who attend our events. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThese are the folks that you\u2019re demonstrating kindness to when you donate to support <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe have an event coming up later this spring\u2014it\u2019s our Blended and Blessed<sup>\u2122<\/sup> event. It\u2019s going to be live in Charlotte, North Carolina, April 21<sup>st<\/sup>. It\u2019s going to be available on livestream all across the country in churches and in living rooms. We have been asking <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners\u2014those of you who are friends of this ministry\u2014we\u2019re asking you to help defray the cost of producing this event, which is a significant cost. When you donate today, you\u2019ll be helping us cover the cost of providing practical biblical help and hope for blended families and stepfamilies all around the world.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can do that by donating, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call to donate\u20141-800-FL-TODAY\u2014or you can mail your donation to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> at PO Box 7111, Little Rock, AR; our zip code is 72223. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe just want to say, \u201cThank you for your kindness toward these couples and these families.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd we hope you\u2019ll be back with us again tomorrow. Shaunti Feldhahn will be here and we\u2019ll continue talking about kindness. We\u2019re going to talk about some of those ways in which we are unkind without even realizing it. I hope you can tune in for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. 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