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Steve Arterburn and his wife, Misty, remind couples that marriage takes work, but it's never too late to get back in the boat and repair the relationship.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2018-01-19.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014it\u2019s a book authored by Steve and Misty Arterburn. Misty\/Steve, welcome back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Thank you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> Thank you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Great to be here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You know, there may be some listeners, who are tuned in right now, who recognize Steve from <em>New Life Live!<\/em>\u2014the radio program that he cohosts\u2014that\u2019s heard on many of these same stations. Steve is on the pastoral staff at Northview Church in Carmel, Indiana. He is a well-known author. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd I\u2019m just sitting here, thinking, \u201cMisty, you don\u2019t often show up on <em>New Life Live!<\/em> Why is that?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> She\u2019s a mother. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> Oh, it\u2019s not my thing. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Well, all the listeners, who go to his church, know that the real secret behind Northview is not Steve. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> No; it\u2019s the stunts. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> No. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Oh! I thought you were going to\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It\u2019s Mark Crull\u2014 <br>\u00a0\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Oh, that\u2019s a good point. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014that\u2019s the key to that church. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> He\u2019s the lynchpin; isn\u2019t he? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And the reason he is the lynchpin is because he was my personal assistant\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I remember when he was your assistant. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014for a few years. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Then, he said, \u201cI can\u2019t handle this anymore.\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That\u2019s exactly right. [Laughter] He fled to sanity and went for the church. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Well, I tell you\u2014I\u2019m very fortunate to be at that church, because Steve Poe is the lead pastor. He and Mark are <em>quite<\/em> a team, and they are doing an <em>amazing<\/em> work in our community and all over. As I was telling you guys, we have three campuses in three different prisons. It\u2019s just phenomenal to see what they do. So, you must have trained Mark <em>very well<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Oh, I did. It was all about me, no doubt about it\u2014no. Mark was a great guy, and I heard you bragging on him. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I had to do that here as well. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, and I have to say\u2014Mark\u2019s always been an advocate for the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaways from his time here, but also his time at the church. I bring that up just because I wanted to remind our listeners, here, at the beginning of today\u2019s program about the special offer that\u2019s going on this week and next week. Sign up for an upcoming getaway, and you save 50 percent off the regular registration fee. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd I know you guys would agree. There\u2019s no better investment for a couple to make in the health of their marriage than to get some time away together to get some training \/ some coaching and to spend a weekend working on their marriage. We\u2019ve got more than 50 of these events coming up this spring in cities all across the country; and again, if you sign up this week, you save 50 percent off the regular registration fee. Go online at FamilyLifeToday.com to get more information or to register online; or call if you have any questions; or if you\u2019d like to register by phone, 1-800-FL-TODAY is our number. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe want to encourage you to do something that will pay dividends in your marriage, and join us for a <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You\u2019ve written a book, and you talk about the secrets of romance. You know, I think a lot of marriages begin to die because they get into a place in their relationship that\u2019s also a place in the ocean\u2014it\u2019s called the doldrums. It\u2019s where there is no wind to fill the sails\u2014for sail boats\u2014and you can die in the doldrums. When the weather has no wind, you can suffocate because of the heat and the oppressive nature of the weather. A relationship without romance can do the same thing. Comment on it, because I know you\u2019ve counseled hundreds of couples over the years. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Yes; well, you know, I know this\u2014that if you\u2019re in a relationship\u2014and you think it\u2019s all up to you and you\u2019re in the relationship under your own power versus daily asking the Holy Spirit to enter into this relationship and be with you and guide you\u2014then, you\u2019re going to run out of wind and romance. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI am so saddened by the stories of so many people\u2014they\u2019ll never divorce, but they\u2019re absolutely miserable in their marriage. What we\u2019ve tried to do is try to provide a path and a process to get that back. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMarriage is a phenomenal institution, but it requires <em>work<\/em> to get to the phenomenal; otherwise, it is all doldrums. If you\u2019re not going to do the work, you\u2019re never going to experience some of the things that we talk about in this book, which is truly a relationship, where you\u2019re on each other\u2019s side\u2014you\u2019re willing to humble yourself \/ admit you\u2019re wrong, repair, get back in the boat\u2014and then, you get to experience this gift that God has given us that so many people have given up on of sexual intimacy and romance, way into the later years of life. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I\u2019m convinced a lot of couples come to the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> because they\u2019re looking for some fresh wind\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Yes; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014in their relationship. And on Friday night\u2014Bob, you know; you speak\u2014you ask people to hold up their hands, who have never been at a marriage conference. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Over 90 percent hold their hands up. I think, if they were honest about it, they had to fight through something to go: \u201cDoes it mean we\u2019re not well off, as a couple, if we go to a marriage conference? Does it mean our marriage is in trouble?\u201d No; it doesn\u2019t mean that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> No. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It means you\u2019re investing in your marriage. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> That\u2019s right. It is hard to break down that wall and walk through for help, for the first time, with a counselor or going to a <em>Weekend<\/em>; but what I find is\u2014we\u2019re not going to have healthy marriages on accident. We do have to invest; and we do have to make it a priority, and make time for it, and do those things. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Here\u2019s the thing I see with a lot of couples\u2014because I know how you get to that doldrums place. You\u2019re busy with other things\u2014kids, work, neighborhood, church\u2014all of that stuff gets you busy. The amount of time you are spending with one another \/ investing in one another starts to shrink. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou get in a rhythm of that. Pretty soon, there is just this drift toward isolation that has occurred. You start to look at each other and go, \u201cI used to like you, but I\u2019m just not even <em>feeling<\/em> that anymore right now.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And when you\u2019re in that place\u2014and somebody comes along and says, \u201cHere, you need to read this book; and you need to have fun and do it,\u201d\u2014you know\u2014\u201cI don\u2019t even think I have the motivation.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014\u201chave a heartbeat.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, it\u2019s kind of like: \u201cI\u2019d like to be there, but here\u2019s the risk involved\u2014if I try these things and we don\u2019t get there, I\u2019m going to feel worse than if I just stay where I am.\u201d So, a lot of couples will say, \u201cI\u2019m just going to maintain the status quo rather than risk it\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014\u201creach out\/initiate\u2014and find out that it\u2019s not reciprocated.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Well, what we hear is \/ what we\u2019ve provided here are things that everybody can do. You don\u2019t have to get a ticket to the Mediterranean to experience these things. They\u2019re simple, but they\u2019re\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> Yes, they\u2019re not really secrets; are they? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> \u2014they\u2019re earth-shattering. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> I mean, they\u2019re kind of obvious\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> \u2014you know: \u201cPlay; spend time together; you know, have a relationship.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, here is what I\u2019m imagining. A wife hears this and goes: \u201cOkay; that\u2019s where we are. So, I\u2019m just going to suggest to my husband, \u2018Why don\u2019t we make dinner together tonight?\u2019 And he is going to go, \u2018Why?!\u2019 Make dinner? I don\u2019t\u2014no.\u2019\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Okay; so, here, I\u2019ll tell you why: \u201cSo, Honey, when I\u2019m making dinner, what does that do for you?\u201d\u2014because I make dinner for\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> It\u2019s by far my favorite thing. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Really? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> It\u2019s wonderful\u2014I do obligatory cooking. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> I do\u2014it\u2019s got to be productive\/efficient\u2014we\u2019ve got to get everybody fed. I feed a lot of people\u2014I do a lot of cooking. Steve likes to tinker \/ he likes to be creative, and he likes to take his time. Now, he makes a gargantuan mess; and sometimes, I do need an oxygen mask over that. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Bring that up; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> But it is so wonderful. It\u2019s <em>lush<\/em>, and it just communicates care to me. It is\u2014I can get off the clock, and he just takes care of me. I love it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Now, that\u2019s a pretty good result, I\u2019d say. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Bob:<\/strong> I was seeing a little sparkle in her eye as she was talking about it right there\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Yes; me too. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014just the imagination of it was doing something. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Yes; all of you have to do is follow directions. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014there on the back of the box. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> Then, he ordered a little thing to come every week. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> All the ingredients are there. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> All the ingredients\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Just follow directions. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> \u2014and the instructions. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> But you\u2019re saying he\u2019s doing that <em>for<\/em> you, not <em>with<\/em> you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> Yes; <em>but<\/em> I quite enjoy watching the whole process. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Oh, so, you stay in the kitchen while all this is going on? [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Oh, yes; she\u2019s there. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> The kitchen is in the family room, and we\u2019re all there. The kids are there, and I\u2019m doing this; and we\u2019re interacting and stuff, but I see delight in her eyes. And a guy like me, it\u2019s not easy to produce delight in anybody\u2019s eyes; so\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> And he <em>loves<\/em> the response when I devour and enjoy what he creates. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> It\u2019s a small thing\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> It\u2019s a partnership\u2014I eat. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> \u2014but it\u2019s a big thing. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It is a big thing\u2014I\u2019ll tell you. I will never forget being invited into this handmade log cabin\u2014not like any you\u2019ve ever seen. It had <em>thousands<\/em> of square feet that the owner had built over a seven-year period. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThey invited me to come and have dinner with them. It was a dinner that started at about three o\u2019clock in the afternoon with the preparation of the food. He, actually, kind of sat me down, out of my fast-food mentality, and invited me into their home\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014into the relationship that he and his wife had. They brought me in there\u2014and he was explaining all this\u2014that eating is the culmination\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> Yes! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014of the preparation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And it was a <em>delightful<\/em> meal. I have never forgotten this! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> I\u2019m sitting here, thinking, \u201cAnd here\u2019s a meal\u2014you\u2019re still talking about that meal.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It was not about the food, <em>though<\/em>\u2014although the food was spectacular. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> The process, and the interaction, and the connection\u2014it\u2019s something that <em>builds<\/em> a relationship. If that grand\u2014in that grand log cabin\u2014event is still on your mind, imagine what repeatedly\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014once or twice a week, a guy stepping in and doing this with his wife\u2014what that does to build some bonding, security, trust. It goes <em>so<\/em> far. It is saying: \u201cI\u2019m not wanting to <em>take<\/em> from you; I want to give to you. I want to put something back.\u201d I don\u2019t know\u2014there are very few things that I\u2019ve done that have put that kind of delight into her heart; because she is off the clock, but we\u2019re still connected in the process. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> At the speed of life today, a lot of listeners are hearing us talk about this\u2014taking time to prepare a meal\u2014and they\u2019re going: \u201cYou\u2019ve got to be kidding me. We\u2019re driving through somewhere, five out of seven times a week, to get something; because we\u2019ve got so much going on. This sounds all nice, but who has the time for the grocery shopping, and the menu planning, and then the preparation, and all of that?\u201d Well\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> If it\u2019s not important, you will not have the time. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> That is exactly the point. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> If it\u2019s not a priority, you won\u2019t do it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> And we can\u2019t do every single one of these things all the time. So, maybe, that\u2019s not the top one on the list right now; but hopefully, we are making time to eat together as a family and as a couple. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You know what the top one on the list is; don\u2019t you? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> Tell me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You know what\u2014I mean, it\u2019s where I went first in the book; right? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> You know; you know. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, the guys, who are listening, are saying to themselves, \u201cAll of this stuff just sounds like foreplay.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> In many ways, it is. You\u2019re talking about the final chapter in the book, where we document and also give you some pretty great stories about Jewish women being the most sexually-fulfilled group of women; but I want to tell you something. The thing that we uncovered as we were writing this\u2014and the researcher found this\u2014there are some Jewish rules about sexual intimacy that a rabbi will give to a man. It almost sounds like a role reversal from our Western culture\u2014things like sex is a woman\u2019s right and not a man\u2019s right. A man has a duty to give sex to his wife, regularly, and ensure that the sex is pleasurable, which is one of my key things that: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cMore bad sex is never going to be a good outcome for anybody.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou have to do\u2014well, what we did\u2014you have to go get some help if that doesn\u2019t work; but there are so many things in here that <em>honor<\/em> a woman versus objectify her or depersonalize her, like we see in Western culture. When you <em>look<\/em> at this, you can see why they would be so sexually fulfilled; because it starts with honor of her\u2014honor to the kids from the man and then honor to her. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> And also, contained in all of that, it\u2019s really a trust relationship. She\u2019s trusting that he\u2019s going to tune into her, sexually\u2014that he wants to be fulfilling for her. So, the pace is going to be <em>together<\/em> and synchronized. What we say is that: \u201cSex must submit to trust. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cTrust is the highest aim. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> \u201cSex isn\u2019t the ultimate fulfillment of the relationship\u2014it\u2019s a byproduct of love, connection, commitment, trust, and all the integration of the <em>full<\/em> relationship.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br><strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And Misty, let me just add something to that. In our culture, now, because of sexual harassment\u2014I\u2019ll bet you there are a lot of wives wondering: \u201cHas my husband done that? Has my husband ever sexually flirted with someone at work \/ someone in the market place?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI\u2019ll tell you\u2014it brings a smile to my wife\u2019s face because, more than once, I\u2019ve looked at her, after another announcement has come out\u2014and there has been a number over the past few months\u2014which I think may be a part of God beginning to bring our country to healing\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> I do too. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014bring back the dignity of how we relate, as man and woman, to each other and as, husbands and wives, sexually. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut when I look Barbara in the eye and say, \u201cI just want you to know I\u2019m glad I don\u2019t have to worry about some shoe dropping\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> We had the same conversation. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> \u2014just this week; yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cof somebody\u2014somewhere\/somehow\u2014making an announcement that I\u2019ve been unfaithful to my wife.\u201d That builds the kind of trust, Misty, that you were talking about. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> That\u2019s right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And you\u2019re right. It does allow another person to give themselves to one another. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> And we\u2019re watching for that, as wives. We\u2019re looking for those signals; and when a spouse is doing all these other things, those are signals to us that we\u2019re connected. He values this relationship, and the <em>fullness<\/em> of my person, and all that we share together\u2014so those are all affirmations of our connection. That helps me trust. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, a couple, who is listening to this conversation, and they say: \u201cOkay; we\u2019ve been in the doldrums. We\u2019d like our way out. Okay; we\u2019ll sign up for one of those <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways and go to one of those\u201d\u2014that\u2019s a good way to start to do that\u2014\u201cbut that\u2019s four months from now,\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014\u201cand I don\u2019t want to stay in the doldrums for four months. So, what would be a good step one?\u2014because I don\u2019t know which one of these chapters to go to first. How do I figure out how to initiate and begin this process to get from lethargic to loving one another again?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Well, I think, as we\u2019ve heard from folks, everybody picks a different one\u2014just like we\u2019ve talked about here\u2014everybody\u2019s got a favorite one. I think\u2014you know, whereas I love the playful part of it, there are some people\u2014especially younger folks\u2014where they start is in the physical part\u2014they get in shape together; they exercise together; they\u2019re outdoors. They\u2019re really building their longevity by good eating habits, and fitness, and all of that; but I would have to say\u2014and Misty, what do you think?\u2014that most women resonate with the attunement of a man sitting down and wanting to look into her eyes and find out what\u2019s really behind all of that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> That\u2019s really powerful. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Can you unpack that, Misty, and explain what you <em>mean<\/em> by that word, \u201cattunement\u201d? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Misty:<\/strong> I love that word. It\u2019s one of my favorite words, and it\u2019s one of the most important words. So, first, I want to be in tune with God\u2014it\u2019s synchronizing with the Holy Spirit and being able to receive from God\u2014being connected in a secure attachment with God. Then, that allows me to be open to an attachment that is secure with my husband\u2014and hearing one another; getting in the same space and breathing mode together, where I can be aware of his emotional state or the challenges that he\u2019s facing. He can be present and aware and able to contain what\u2019s going on in my heart; so that we are present together, and synchronized, and we can empathize and support each other. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf we\u2019re not synchronized\u2014and we\u2019re at different paces, or we\u2019re going in different directions\u2014it\u2019s very hard to have a meaningful connection. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, yes; I always go to that one first; but I would, also, just say: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201c\u2019A\u2019: Start. Just pick one; keep it simple. There are 13 suggestions in the back of each chapter. You know, just pick something that\u2019s digestible for you.\u201d And effort <em>matters<\/em>\u2014when I see my spouse <em>trying<\/em> and that he\u2019s made it a priority to reach out\u2014and it\u2019s very scary sometimes\u2014I can see that he\u2019s making an effort. Even if it doesn\u2019t play out like you hope it will, just the fact that he\u2019s making a priority really matters and can begin a shift. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> If we have hurt one another in our marriage \/ if we\u2019re in isolation because we wounded one another with our words or our actions, and we look at this and go, \u201cOkay; I\u2019m going to try this as a way to work my way back,\u201d we\u2019ve got to address the hurt before we can try to pursue the warmth; don\u2019t we? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> That\u2019s right. And to Dennis\u2019s point of all the sexual harassment cases\u2014and maybe, it will be different by the time this airs\u2014but Dennis, I have not heard <em>one<\/em> person say: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cYes; I was that horrible man, but I got some help. Now, I\u2019m not that man anymore.\u201d No; they\u2019re saying they\u2019re sorry\u2014they are sorry they got caught, really\u2014but I want to hear the people say, \u201cYes, that was me, and I\u2019m a different man now.\u201d We\u2019ve got people that are able to say that in the Christian community. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> They saw the error of their ways. So, yes; <em>do<\/em> whatever it takes to <em>repair<\/em> your character so that you\u2019re bringing that into the marriage. Otherwise, this is all a waste of time\u2014it\u2019s all fake. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> The gospel is all about taking lost people, who are in need of being repaired\u2014redeeming them and then beginning the long process, over a lifetime, of making them whole. The big word in the Bible is called sanctified\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014being made like Jesus Christ. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> There is no shame in being a broken person, coming to church. In fact, one of the big problems today is we\u2019ve got churches filled with broken people, who aren\u2019t relating to one another. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tEveryone is sitting there, thinking, \u201cI\u2019m the only one who is dealing with this issue,\u201d\u2014wondering if the shoe is going to drop. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Right. And why not do something about it before the shoe drops?\u2014so that, if it does, you can say: \u201cYes; and I\u2019m in the process of getting better. I\u2019m fixing this. I\u2019m addressing this,\u201d versus waiting to see if you get caught. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You know, we\u2019ve talked about this already\u2014but the foundation for all of this has got to be a passionate pursuit of Jesus\u2014your relationship with Him as foundational to all of this. To try to build a romantic, passionate marriage on top of some other foundation\u2014well, Jesus talked about that in Matthew, Chapter 7; didn\u2019t He? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That\u2019s just what I was thinking, as well, Bob. Jesus closes His most famous sermon, The Sermon on the Mount, with two different homebuilders. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne was a homebuilder who built his house on sand and the other on a rock. The same storms\u2014the same winds \/ the same rain\u2014beat on those houses. One fell; the other stood. The one that stood\u2014Jesus said, \u201c\u2026is the one who hears these words of Mine and does them,\u201d\u2014who connects with Me, and who digs down deep. One of the other gospels tell the story of those two builders; and it says, \u201cAnd the one man dug down deep to the rock.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That\u2019s the process. Christianity is not a one-time experience with Jesus Christ. It is a lifetime pursuit of Him, where you don\u2019t give up when you fall. You realize Christ is there to be able to lift you out of the doldrums \/ out of your own errors and to put you back on the right road. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI just appreciate you two and all that you are doing to build marriages and families around the country. I hope folks will get a copy of your book, <em>The Mediterranean Love Plan<\/em>, and begin rebuilding love, romance, and redemption in their marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Steve:<\/strong> It all honors God when you do it, and it\u2019s a <em>lot<\/em> of fun to be a part of that kind of marriage versus the doldrums. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, I can pretty much guarantee\u2014if you got a copy of this book, as a wife, and you just put it on your side of the bed, your husband is going to notice. He\u2019s going to come, pick it up, and go: \u201cWhat is this love plan thing she\u2019s reading? What\u2019s this all about? What does this mean for me?\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019ve got copies of Steve and Misty\u2019s book, <em>The Mediterranean Love Plan<\/em>, in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can order the book from us, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call if you\u2019d like to order. The number is 1-800-FL-TODAY. Again, the website: FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<br>And here\u2019s a <em>great<\/em> love plan for any couple\u2014plan to spend a weekend with us at one of our upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways. We\u2019re going to be hosting these in more than 50 cities all across the country this spring. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is a great island of sanity for your marriage, where you can just unplug from everything else that is going on for 48 hours\u2014actually, about 42 hours, I think, is what it winds up being\u2014but two nights \/ a couple of days\u2014and you get a chance, as a couple, to focus on one another \/ focus on your marriage and have a <em>great<\/em> getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd if you sign up this week or next week, you\u2019ll save 50 percent off the regular registration fee. So, right now is the best time for you to plan to join us at one of our getaways. Find out more, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call if you\u2019d like to register over the phone or if you have any questions\u20141-800-FL-TODAY. Again, you can register online or get more information\u2014FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014or call 1-800-358-6329\u2014that\u2019s 1-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWith that, we\u2019ve got to wrap things up for this week. I hope you and your family are able to worship together in your local church this weekend, and I hope you can join us back on Monday when Francis and Lisa Chan will be with us to talk about marriage in light of eternity. How should we be thinking about our love for one another and our love for God? How do those two intersect? We\u2019ll talk with the Chans about that Monday. I hope you can be with us for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. Have a great weekend. 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