{"id":300119,"date":"2018-01-16T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-01-16T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/leading-so-shell-follow\/"},"modified":"2024-10-07T22:41:18","modified_gmt":"2024-10-08T02:41:18","slug":"leading-so-shell-follow","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/leading-so-shell-follow\/","title":{"rendered":"Leading So She&#8217;ll Follow"},"content":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Within the heart of a woman is a desire to be protected. 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Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth says, for her, it\u2019s not difficult as long as she knows whose leadership her husband is following.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy<\/strong>: When I know that this man is seeking the Lord, then, when he says: \u201cI have this concern about us,\u201d or \u201c\u2026this thing I\u2019ve observed that I want us to talk about,\u201d or \u201c\u2026this direction I think we need to take,\u201d I go: \u201cThis is a man that seeks the Lord. He\u2019s following our Shepherd. I can trust him, not to be perfect, but to lead; and I can trust the Lord is leading through him.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, January 16<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. How can a husband make it easy for his wife to follow and respond to his leadership? We\u2019ll talk about that today with our guests, Robert and Nancy Wolgemuth. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. You know, the subject we\u2019re talking about this week\u2014about a husband being engaged, and loving, and leading, and shepherding his wife\u2014we\u2019ve got to acknowledge there are some wives who kind of bristle at the whole idea and go: \u201cI don\u2019t need somebody shepherding me. I\u2019m a grown woman. I can take care of myself.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I think, within the heart of a woman, is a desire to be protected, to\u2014can I say it?\u2014to be led in a tender way, in a caring way, in a nourishing and cherishing way. I think we\u2019ve made too much out of the battle of the sexes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe just need to realize, when God made them male and female, they were designed to complement each other. It\u2019s as husbands pursue their wives\u2014love them, and seek to be a shepherd of their souls, and protect them\u2014that I think it makes\u2014makes the possibility of a great marriage very reasonable.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; you know that, at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaway, we have, on Sunday morning, a time when the men get together and the women get together in separate rooms. We talk about what it is that God is calling men to be, as husbands and dads \/ what it is God is calling women to be, as wives and as moms. People have told us, over the years, that is one of their favorite times of the whole weekend; because I think a lot of husbands and wives don\u2019t really have an understanding of their core responsibilities in a marriage relationship, and that\u2019s what we focus on during that time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs you know, Dennis, this week and next week, we\u2019re offering FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> listeners an opportunity to join us at an upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019ve got about 55 of these happening this spring. If you sign up this week or next week, you can save 50 percent off the regular registration fee and attend a getaway. This is the best offer we make all year long\u2014it\u2019s a great opportunity for you to decide, now, that you want to join us at an upcoming weekend getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLook online to find out where a getaway is going to be in a city near where you live or, maybe, a city that you\u2019d like to visit for the weekend. Then register online, or call if you have any questions or if you\u2019d like to register over the phone. Our website is FamilyLifeToday.com, or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY to register. We\u2019d love to have you join us at a getaway this spring. Again, sign up this week or next week and save \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t50 percent off the regular registration fee.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, we\u2019ve got a friend who has been shepherding\u2014well, he shepherded his first marriage for 44 years\u2014and then, after his wife died, God led him to a new pasture, and he saw a new sheep, and he said: \u201cW-o-o-o! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> \u201cW-o-o-o!\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u201cCome join me in my pasture!\u201d [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Robert Wolgemuth joins us again on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>, along with his wife, Nancy. Welcome back, guys.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Thanks, Dennis.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Robert is the founder and president of Wolgemuth and Associates, who\u2014yesterday, I shrunk it down to only 100 authors that he had\u2014that he corrected me quickly; he said he has over [200] authors.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Only two\u2014you and Barbara. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Also, we\u2019re joined by Ron Deal, who heads up FamilyLife\u2019s blended initiative. We\u2019re really honored to have you with us, Ron. These subjects that we talk about\u2014about shepherding a woman\u2019s soul\u2014are really great lessons to learn, especially if you have a blended family. There are some unique challenges there. Comment on some of the challenges that a husband might have as the shepherd of a wife in a blended marriage.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Let\u2019s say you are also, not just a husband, but you\u2019re a stepdad. You may have your own children; but let\u2019s say <em>she<\/em> has children, and you\u2019re the stepfather to her children. You know, your first task is trying to form a relationship with them\u2014so: \u201cHow do you lead?\u201d \u201cWhat does that look like with sheep who don\u2019t want to follow you?\u201d\u2014who are not sure who you are \/ if they can trust you. They are not sure where you\u2019re leading or if they want to go. \u201cHow do you go about doing that?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat, obviously, is a pretty significant challenge for stepdads. We could talk around that a little bit today. I think winning the heart of your wife probably would be the first step; and then, you can lead the children through her\u2014if not directly, you can lead indirectly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s been a lot of what we\u2019ve been talking about\u2014is the need for a shepherd to win the heart of his wife\u2014to romance, to lure, to draw. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut, Robert, as we\u2019ve said, there are some wives who are resistant to a husband\u2019s shepherding. Even the best-intended husband, who wants to do this right, faces a wife who bristles, and her back bows up, and she says, \u201cYou\u2019re demeaning in how you\u2019re doing this.\u201d What does a husband do in that moment?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> What I would say is\u2014and for good reason\u2014I mean, there are some husbands that don\u2019t lead well. I read a book, while I was writing this book, written by a woman who was beaten\u2014physically beaten and abused\u2014by her pastor husband\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Oh my word!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> \u2014who quoted Ephesians 5 to a woman in the fetal position on the kitchen floor\u2014true. I needed to read that book, because I am not a cynical person \/ I don\u2019t have any friends who are cynical people; but I\u2019m my own cynical reviewer when I write. I want to look at the furrowed brow of the person I\u2019m writing to. When you\u2019re speaking, you get that; when you\u2019re writing, you have no idea. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I wanted to write to people who looked at that\u2014the \u201cS\u201d-word \/ the submission word\u2014and bristled at it, as you said. I wanted to unpack that\u2014to say, \u201cYep; I understand where this is coming from because there is abuse \/ there is misuse of that concept, and I\u2019d like to show you a different way.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So Nancy, I just want to ask you: \u201cWhat does Robert do, as he shepherds you, to make you following him easier?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy:<\/strong> I have a picture sitting in front of me\u2014that if I could just describe it for a moment\u2014I think it\u2019s such a beautiful picture of this whole concept and how it works in our marriage. Someone gave this to me a few weeks ago. It was taken at one of our conferences that our ministry does. I was on the platform\u2014I\u2019m getting ready to speak. I don\u2019t actually remember this moment; but I\u2019m kneeling at the podium before speaking, praying. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRobert is kneeling next to me on the platform in such a way\u2014because he\u2019s quite a bit taller\u2014that he is <em>over<\/em> me. Behind us both, as we have our heads bowed in prayer, behind us both is a large wooden cross.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI love this picture; it\u2019s such a picture of how our relationship functions. We\u2019re kneeling before the cross of Christ\u2014He is our Shepherd \/ He is our Lord\u2014we are bowing our hearts and heads in prayer and in submission to the Lord. Robert is praying over me. I\u2019m under him in the sense that\u2014it\u2019s not inferior \/ not less than\u2014he cherishes me \/ he values me\u2014but he prays over me. He covers me with his prayers and his love; and we do it together, as partners, before the cross of Christ. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn a very specific way, we start every day\u2014Robert is the one who has initiated this \/ I love this\u2014he gets up much earlier in the morning than I do, typically. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut if I\u2019m stirring at all, we\u2019ll just come together in the bed there. He will hold my hand\u2014bring his face \/ nuzzle it up close to mine\u2014and just pray a short pray. It\u2019s not a long theological anything\u2014I\u2019m only half awake\u2014but he prays.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLast thing at night\u2014he\u2019s falling asleep, and I\u2019m still quite awake\u2014but we come together and we pray. We hold hands \/ we come close to each other, and he prays. He prays a blessing\u2014he prays a covering \/ he prays a protection\u2014he prays for our family. He leads in this. It\u2019s simple \/ you don\u2019t have to go to seminary to do this; but he is shepherding. He\u2019s showing me that what he cares about is\u2014not his way or his will\u2014but he\u2019s saying, \u201cWhat does God want in our lives and in our marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I think this is so key, Robert\u2014for a husband to recognize: \u201cIn your leadership, we always have to be asking: \u2018Is this what I want, or is this what God wants? Is this <em>my<\/em> impulse, or is this the impulse of the Spirit?\u201d We\u2019re under submission, as leaders, under the submission to the Lord. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf we\u2019re leading on our own strength, our own initiative, in our own desires, then we are mishandling our assignment; aren\u2019t we?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Yes; if you want to be a good leader, learn how to be led. So, there you go\u2014that\u2019s the sequence. I\u2019m learning how to be led and that teaches me how to lead\u2014it\u2019s got to happen like that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Being a follower is a prerequisite\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> No doubt.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014to being able to lead another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> No doubt!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> If you were coaching a young man, starting out his marriage\u2014maybe there\u2019s a couple, right now, listening to our broadcast \/ they are in the first months of their marriage\u2014maybe there are engaged couples listening to us today\u2014how would you coach him to begin this process of leading? We\u2019ve just heard some illustrations already\u2014 praying together\u2014I would advise that as well. How else can a young man lead his wife?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Learn how to be a great talker and listener\u2014both of those things. You know statistics\u2014how much time a couple actually spends talking. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut Nancy\u2019s ability to express herself is the bridge that our love walks across. There is no such thing as \u201cno communication\u201d \/ you\u2019re always communicating. So use words to clarify what you are thinking\u2014to hear yourself saying: \u201cWhat are you thinking?\u201d or \u201cHow does that feel?\u201d or \u201cWhen I did that, how did that make you feel? Tell me how that made you feel,\u201d\u2014being a safe place. You know, don\u2019t cut her off; let her finish, and then tell her how that made you feel. Use \u201cI\u201d statements; right? Don\u2019t point your finger\u2014say, \u201cThis is how I feel about that.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Don\u2019t defend.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Don\u2019t defend; right. Be willing to be wrong; so if you drive a stake in the ground, you might be in trouble.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I think a good question for any man, who is leading his wife well, is to answer this question: \u201cWhat\u2019s the last time you had to ask your wife to forgive you for something you did that was clearly wrong?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Yes; my favorite\u2014you just said it; right\u2014asking her to forgive you\u2014not saying, \u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d; because when you say, \u201cI\u2019m sorry,\u201d that doesn\u2019t evoke a response. Usually, the person says, \u201cOh, that\u2019s alright,\u201d even when it wasn\u2019t alright. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo if I say to you: \u201cI was wrong,\u201d and \u201cI\u2019d love for you to forgive me. Would you forgive me for that?\u201d\u2014that evokes the response and eliminates the problem. Now, your wife may say, \u201cGive me some time on that,\u201d because she knows that <em>when<\/em> she says, \u201cYes; I forgive you,\u201d then that erases the words from the white board; and it\u2019s clean again.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy:<\/strong> One of the things we\u2019ve said <em>often<\/em> is: \u201cOur desire in our marriage\u2014when there has been a misunderstanding\/disagreement\u2014we want to <em>race<\/em> to the cross. We want to see who can get there first\u2014to humble himself \/ to seek forgiveness.\u201d I will say that, in that race, Robert usually wins. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe\u2019s just quick; from the outset, he\u2019s been quick to come back and say: \u201cI\u2019m so sorry. I was wrong when I said it that way. Would you please forgive me?\u201d That makes my heart be more responsive and tender, but I want to race to the cross too. As the Holy Spirit convicts us, we want to see if we can get to that humble place first.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Can I just make an observation? You just came, all the way, full circle. You shared an image, a little while ago, of the two of you bowing in prayer\u2014and him being beside you, over you, near you\u2014but both of you under the cross. Listen to what you just said: \u201cWhen we make a mistake and we hurt one another,\u201d\u2014or whatever it is\u2014\u201che races back to his knees at the foot of the cross.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe conversation around shepherding begs the question: \u201cHow does a woman, then, submit and follow?\u201d But if you listened to the last ten minutes of the conversation, what we described a shepherd as being\u2014Robert\u2019s talking about\u2014talking and listening, and really caring and tuning in, and really meeting her where she is and attuning to your wife. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou talked about bowing in prayer and bringing everything before the Lord\u2014that he himself is a person, who is constantly under God\u2019s direction and care, and is seeking the Lord in all things. When you paint that picture\u2014help me, Nancy\u2014I think submission gets a <em>whole<\/em> lot easier.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy:<\/strong> It does. What woman is going to resist that or resent that? I say: \u201cThank You, Lord!\u201d All these years, I was a single woman\u2014and I thank the Lord for <em>that<\/em> season\u2014God gave grace \/ He was my shepherd in a very direct way. But now, to have this gift \/ this provision of a man who cares, who cherishes, who treasures me\u2014he calls me his precious girl\u2014and to see him on his knees, in the Word, seeking the Lord. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSubmission isn\u2019t a daily or frequent battle. It\u2019s not something that surfaces often in our marriage, because we are both submitting to the Lord. My disposition\u2014I want to be a woman who is lead-able. I\u2019ve been telling this to other women for all these years; and now, I get a chance to do it\u2014but, thankfully, with a man who is following Christ\u2014and it makes it a joy!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> It\u2019s so important that I say, at this point; may I? I\u2019m a sinful man. My wife characterizing me like this is overwhelming, because I am very aware of my own sinfulness. I follow the Good Shepherd. As we said earlier, I\u2019m learning how to be a leader by learning to be a good follower. People follow because they want to be like the person that\u2019s leading. The leader doesn\u2019t say: \u201cCome here. Follow me!\u201d You know, this is a shepherd, not a cowboy. I want my wife to want to be like that; then, it gives me the privilege of leading.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Ron, it occurs to me that, in a blended relationship, sometimes, a husband will begin to shepherd\u2014to lead, to nudge, to say, \u201cI think we need to go this direction,\u201d\u2014and a wife may have flashes from the past where that was done poorly. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe\u2019s resistant, not because he\u2019s doing anything wrong, but just because she built a reflex, over years, to back away when this was being mishandled.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Fundamentally, it\u2019s an issue of trust; right? \u201cHow do I know I can trust you to lead in a self-sacrificial way, in a way that brings glory to God, not your glory \/ not your kingdom, but His kingdom?\u201d That may take some time. The word I would then give to her husband, at that point, is: \u201cBe careful to guard your heart against discouragement. You might go: \u2018Man, I\u2019m doing all the right things. I\u2019m doing everything Robert said\u2014I read his book \/ I memorized it frontwards and backwards\u2014it\u2019s not working!\u2019\u201d\u2014right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe tells a story about a decision that needed to be made in their marriage\u2014I don\u2019t even remember the scenario\u2014but what I remember was that his attitude \/ his response to Nancy was: \u201c\u2026and gave Himself up for her\u201d\u2014he just quoted Ephesians 5. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn a situation, where your wife is struggling to trust you\u2014first marriage, second marriage, whatever it is\u2014\u201c\u2026and gave Himself up for her\u201d\u2014if that is your continual posture\u2014continually loving, serving, cherishing\u2014as Dennis said, \u201cThat softens the heart,\u201d\u2014it takes distrust and moves it towards trust.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>The way I\u2019ve said that, over the years, is: \u201cIf couples would apply Philippians 2:3, \u2018Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility, regard one another as more important than yourself,\u2019 that cures a whole lot of marriage issues.\u201d People look and go: \u201cWe\u2019ve got this problem,\u201d \u201cWe\u2019ve got that problem,\u201d\u2014\u201cOkay; regard the other person as more important than yourself and see how many of those problems go away.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> And it can take a long time. We just have to add that it\u2019s not overnight in some situations. Again, the scenario you painted\u2014a woman, who\u2019s really been hurt, based on a previous relationship, could take a <em>long<\/em> time before her heart softens; but that is the path.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And a shepherd in that situation needs to be patient, and gentle, and full of grace\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Earlier, I said: \u201cIf we want to know how to be a shepherd, we ought to look at the One who did it perfectly and who is still doing it today. And that\u2019s Psalm 23: \u2018The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 But I want to go to a portion of that passage I didn\u2019t read\u2014it begins in verse 4, \u201cEven though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil for You are with me, Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, there\u2019s more there than we can unpack in the time that we have left; but I want you to comment, Robert, on how you do two things. One is: \u201cHow do you protect Nancy?\u201d And the other thing I want you to comment on: \u201cWhen you do go through a valley\u2014it may not be the valley of the shadow of death \/ it may not have taken anyone\u2019s life or had the loss of a family member\u2014but it\u2019s just a\u2014it\u2019s a valley\u2014it\u2019s dark; it\u2019s rugged. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tComment on both of those: \u201cHow you protect,\u201d and \u201cHow you\u2019ve traveled through the valley with her.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Let me take you to a baseball game. A baseball manager comes running out of the dugout when there\u2019s a call that he doesn\u2019t agree with. Does he do that because the umpire will change his mind?\u2014never!\u2014never! So why does he do that?\u2014why does he go out? I\u2019m thinking of Tommy Lasorda\u2014nose to nose with the umpire, <em>screaming<\/em>, and sometimes kicking dirt on the umpire\u2019s shoes\u2014what is that about? [Laughter] Oh, it\u2019s a very simple answer. It\u2019s about protecting your ball players and saying to them, \u201cI\u2019m willing, in front of 40,000 people, to look like an idiot to protect you.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00 <\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo what does that look like? Well, that looks like\u2014if you\u2019re home, and you\u2019ve got teenagers; and it is dinnertime, and some child says something to his or her mother that\u2019s unkind\/snarky\u2014rolls their eyes\u2014whatever: \u201cWhat do you do to protect your wife?\u201d You stop it\u2014you say: \u201cOh, I\u2019m sorry. That is not acceptable,\u201d and you protect your wife. You don\u2019t do it to change your child\u2019s mind, like the umpire; you do it to say to your wife: \u201cI\u2019m going to go to bat for you. I\u2019m going to protect you by keeping others from hurting you \/ from discouraging you\u2014I\u2019m going to step in.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou asked a question about the dark places. What\u2019s interesting is that Nancy knew\u2014as you said, Bobbie\u2014and I actually was right there the moment she stepped into heaven. I\u2019ve told Nancy that story in our very first conversation, as a potential suitor. I had known Nancy as her agent \/ as her literary agent. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis was 13 years later. We were having a conversation that I wanted to lead toward a friendship. I told her that story, and Nancy comes into that valley with me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think part of the answer is\u2014in fact, the first year of our marriage, we went to a lot of funerals. How many, like, was it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy:<\/strong> Quite a few; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Seven or eight funerals. You visit the house of mourning together and that gives you a chance to unpack some of that darkness \/ some of that hard stuff. You listen with your eyes. Deaf people teach us how to listen\u2014you don\u2019t listen with your ears; you listen with your eyes. Your wife knows if you are listening, because you\u2019re looking at her. The same is true when she\u2019s talking\u2014you\u2019re listening with your eyes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014not at your device; right?\u2014not at your device.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> That\u2019s right! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So if the guys didn\u2019t get it today: \u201cIf you want to be a shepherd of your wife\u2019s soul, lead her in a loving, gracious way; protect her; and third, go through the dark valleys together\u2014invite her into yours and ask to be invited into hers.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019d just say\u2014a guy\u2019s got to continue to sharpen the saw \/ he\u2019s got to keep his game fresh. I\u2019m thinking about guys in the NBA, who are at the top of their game\u2014and they still go and practice their free throws; they still get coaching from their coach, or get with the shooting coach, or the conditioning training people; because, in order for them to execute at the level that they are being called to execute, they\u2019ve got to have input \/ they\u2019ve got to have help.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe same is true for us, as husbands. In order for us to be the kinds of husbands God has called us to be and that we want to be, we need help. We need to be reading books like the book that you\u2019ve written here, <em>Like the Shepherd.<\/em> It\u2019s a book that we\u2019ve got in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can order it, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or you can call to order\u20141-800-FL-TODAY is our number. Again, this is the kind of on-going equipping that all of us need, as husbands. The book, again, by Robert Wolgemuth is called, <em>Like the Shepherd. <\/em>It\u2019s available, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order a copy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00 <\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me just add\u2014for you, as a husband, to take the initiative with your wife and say: \u201cYou know what we should do this spring? We ought to go to one of those <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways we\u2019ve heard about on the radio. We\u2019ve talked about this for years; we\u2019ve just never gotten around to doing it. Why don\u2019t we do it this spring?\u201d Carve out a weekend\u2014make the plans \/ make the arrangements. You can go to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, and find out when the getaway is going to be in a city near you. You can make arrangements with the babysitter. I mean, as a guy, you can take the initiative to make all of this happen. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you sign up this week or next week for a getaway, you\u2019ll save 50 percent off the regular registration fee. So, this is a great investment in your marriage; and right now, the investment is half-price. If you want to give your marriage a 100 percent, you can get away for half price and do that; okay? Go to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, to register for a getaway; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY if you have any questions or if you\u2019d like to register over the phone. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, the website\u2014FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014or call 1-800-FL-TODAY. 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Robert and Nancy Wolgemuth, along with Ron Deal, talk about the challenges of shepherding a wife in a blended family.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2018-01-16.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Is it hard for a wife to follow her husband\u2019s leadership? Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth says, for her, it\u2019s not difficult as long as she knows whose leadership her husband is following.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy<\/strong>: When I know that this man is seeking the Lord, then, when he says: \u201cI have this concern about us,\u201d or \u201c\u2026this thing I\u2019ve observed that I want us to talk about,\u201d or \u201c\u2026this direction I think we need to take,\u201d I go: \u201cThis is a man that seeks the Lord. He\u2019s following our Shepherd. I can trust him, not to be perfect, but to lead; and I can trust the Lord is leading through him.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Tuesday, January 16<sup>th<\/sup>. Our host is Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. How can a husband make it easy for his wife to follow and respond to his leadership? We\u2019ll talk about that today with our guests, Robert and Nancy Wolgemuth. Stay with us.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. You know, the subject we\u2019re talking about this week\u2014about a husband being engaged, and loving, and leading, and shepherding his wife\u2014we\u2019ve got to acknowledge there are some wives who kind of bristle at the whole idea and go: \u201cI don\u2019t need somebody shepherding me. I\u2019m a grown woman. I can take care of myself.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>I think, within the heart of a woman, is a desire to be protected, to\u2014can I say it?\u2014to be led in a tender way, in a caring way, in a nourishing and cherishing way. I think we\u2019ve made too much out of the battle of the sexes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe just need to realize, when God made them male and female, they were designed to complement each other. It\u2019s as husbands pursue their wives\u2014love them, and seek to be a shepherd of their souls, and protect them\u2014that I think it makes\u2014makes the possibility of a great marriage very reasonable.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes; you know that, at the <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaway, we have, on Sunday morning, a time when the men get together and the women get together in separate rooms. We talk about what it is that God is calling men to be, as husbands and dads \/ what it is God is calling women to be, as wives and as moms. People have told us, over the years, that is one of their favorite times of the whole weekend; because I think a lot of husbands and wives don\u2019t really have an understanding of their core responsibilities in a marriage relationship, and that\u2019s what we focus on during that time.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs you know, Dennis, this week and next week, we\u2019re offering FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> listeners an opportunity to join us at an upcoming <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe\u2019ve got about 55 of these happening this spring. If you sign up this week or next week, you can save 50 percent off the regular registration fee and attend a getaway. This is the best offer we make all year long\u2014it\u2019s a great opportunity for you to decide, now, that you want to join us at an upcoming weekend getaway. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLook online to find out where a getaway is going to be in a city near where you live or, maybe, a city that you\u2019d like to visit for the weekend. Then register online, or call if you have any questions or if you\u2019d like to register over the phone. Our website is FamilyLifeToday.com, or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY to register. We\u2019d love to have you join us at a getaway this spring. Again, sign up this week or next week and save \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t50 percent off the regular registration fee.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, we\u2019ve got a friend who has been shepherding\u2014well, he shepherded his first marriage for 44 years\u2014and then, after his wife died, God led him to a new pasture, and he saw a new sheep, and he said: \u201cW-o-o-o! 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You know, your first task is trying to form a relationship with them\u2014so: \u201cHow do you lead?\u201d \u201cWhat does that look like with sheep who don\u2019t want to follow you?\u201d\u2014who are not sure who you are \/ if they can trust you. They are not sure where you\u2019re leading or if they want to go. \u201cHow do you go about doing that?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat, obviously, is a pretty significant challenge for stepdads. We could talk around that a little bit today. I think winning the heart of your wife probably would be the first step; and then, you can lead the children through her\u2014if not directly, you can lead indirectly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s been a lot of what we\u2019ve been talking about\u2014is the need for a shepherd to win the heart of his wife\u2014to romance, to lure, to draw. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut, Robert, as we\u2019ve said, there are some wives who are resistant to a husband\u2019s shepherding. Even the best-intended husband, who wants to do this right, faces a wife who bristles, and her back bows up, and she says, \u201cYou\u2019re demeaning in how you\u2019re doing this.\u201d What does a husband do in that moment?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> What I would say is\u2014and for good reason\u2014I mean, there are some husbands that don\u2019t lead well. I read a book, while I was writing this book, written by a woman who was beaten\u2014physically beaten and abused\u2014by her pastor husband\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Oh my word!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> \u2014who quoted Ephesians 5 to a woman in the fetal position on the kitchen floor\u2014true. I needed to read that book, because I am not a cynical person \/ I don\u2019t have any friends who are cynical people; but I\u2019m my own cynical reviewer when I write. I want to look at the furrowed brow of the person I\u2019m writing to. When you\u2019re speaking, you get that; when you\u2019re writing, you have no idea. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, I wanted to write to people who looked at that\u2014the \u201cS\u201d-word \/ the submission word\u2014and bristled at it, as you said. I wanted to unpack that\u2014to say, \u201cYep; I understand where this is coming from because there is abuse \/ there is misuse of that concept, and I\u2019d like to show you a different way.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So Nancy, I just want to ask you: \u201cWhat does Robert do, as he shepherds you, to make you following him easier?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy:<\/strong> I have a picture sitting in front of me\u2014that if I could just describe it for a moment\u2014I think it\u2019s such a beautiful picture of this whole concept and how it works in our marriage. Someone gave this to me a few weeks ago. It was taken at one of our conferences that our ministry does. I was on the platform\u2014I\u2019m getting ready to speak. I don\u2019t actually remember this moment; but I\u2019m kneeling at the podium before speaking, praying. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tRobert is kneeling next to me on the platform in such a way\u2014because he\u2019s quite a bit taller\u2014that he is <em>over<\/em> me. Behind us both, as we have our heads bowed in prayer, behind us both is a large wooden cross.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI love this picture; it\u2019s such a picture of how our relationship functions. We\u2019re kneeling before the cross of Christ\u2014He is our Shepherd \/ He is our Lord\u2014we are bowing our hearts and heads in prayer and in submission to the Lord. Robert is praying over me. I\u2019m under him in the sense that\u2014it\u2019s not inferior \/ not less than\u2014he cherishes me \/ he values me\u2014but he prays over me. He covers me with his prayers and his love; and we do it together, as partners, before the cross of Christ. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn a very specific way, we start every day\u2014Robert is the one who has initiated this \/ I love this\u2014he gets up much earlier in the morning than I do, typically. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut if I\u2019m stirring at all, we\u2019ll just come together in the bed there. He will hold my hand\u2014bring his face \/ nuzzle it up close to mine\u2014and just pray a short pray. It\u2019s not a long theological anything\u2014I\u2019m only half awake\u2014but he prays.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLast thing at night\u2014he\u2019s falling asleep, and I\u2019m still quite awake\u2014but we come together and we pray. We hold hands \/ we come close to each other, and he prays. He prays a blessing\u2014he prays a covering \/ he prays a protection\u2014he prays for our family. He leads in this. It\u2019s simple \/ you don\u2019t have to go to seminary to do this; but he is shepherding. He\u2019s showing me that what he cares about is\u2014not his way or his will\u2014but he\u2019s saying, \u201cWhat does God want in our lives and in our marriage?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I think this is so key, Robert\u2014for a husband to recognize: \u201cIn your leadership, we always have to be asking: \u2018Is this what I want, or is this what God wants? Is this <em>my<\/em> impulse, or is this the impulse of the Spirit?\u201d We\u2019re under submission, as leaders, under the submission to the Lord. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf we\u2019re leading on our own strength, our own initiative, in our own desires, then we are mishandling our assignment; aren\u2019t we?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Yes; if you want to be a good leader, learn how to be led. So, there you go\u2014that\u2019s the sequence. I\u2019m learning how to be led and that teaches me how to lead\u2014it\u2019s got to happen like that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Being a follower is a prerequisite\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> No doubt.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014to being able to lead another.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> No doubt!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> If you were coaching a young man, starting out his marriage\u2014maybe there\u2019s a couple, right now, listening to our broadcast \/ they are in the first months of their marriage\u2014maybe there are engaged couples listening to us today\u2014how would you coach him to begin this process of leading? We\u2019ve just heard some illustrations already\u2014 praying together\u2014I would advise that as well. How else can a young man lead his wife?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Learn how to be a great talker and listener\u2014both of those things. You know statistics\u2014how much time a couple actually spends talking. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tBut Nancy\u2019s ability to express herself is the bridge that our love walks across. There is no such thing as \u201cno communication\u201d \/ you\u2019re always communicating. So use words to clarify what you are thinking\u2014to hear yourself saying: \u201cWhat are you thinking?\u201d or \u201cHow does that feel?\u201d or \u201cWhen I did that, how did that make you feel? Tell me how that made you feel,\u201d\u2014being a safe place. You know, don\u2019t cut her off; let her finish, and then tell her how that made you feel. Use \u201cI\u201d statements; right? Don\u2019t point your finger\u2014say, \u201cThis is how I feel about that.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Don\u2019t defend.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Don\u2019t defend; right. Be willing to be wrong; so if you drive a stake in the ground, you might be in trouble.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I think a good question for any man, who is leading his wife well, is to answer this question: \u201cWhat\u2019s the last time you had to ask your wife to forgive you for something you did that was clearly wrong?\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Yes; my favorite\u2014you just said it; right\u2014asking her to forgive you\u2014not saying, \u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d; because when you say, \u201cI\u2019m sorry,\u201d that doesn\u2019t evoke a response. Usually, the person says, \u201cOh, that\u2019s alright,\u201d even when it wasn\u2019t alright. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo if I say to you: \u201cI was wrong,\u201d and \u201cI\u2019d love for you to forgive me. Would you forgive me for that?\u201d\u2014that evokes the response and eliminates the problem. Now, your wife may say, \u201cGive me some time on that,\u201d because she knows that <em>when<\/em> she says, \u201cYes; I forgive you,\u201d then that erases the words from the white board; and it\u2019s clean again.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy:<\/strong> One of the things we\u2019ve said <em>often<\/em> is: \u201cOur desire in our marriage\u2014when there has been a misunderstanding\/disagreement\u2014we want to <em>race<\/em> to the cross. We want to see who can get there first\u2014to humble himself \/ to seek forgiveness.\u201d I will say that, in that race, Robert usually wins. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe\u2019s just quick; from the outset, he\u2019s been quick to come back and say: \u201cI\u2019m so sorry. I was wrong when I said it that way. Would you please forgive me?\u201d That makes my heart be more responsive and tender, but I want to race to the cross too. As the Holy Spirit convicts us, we want to see if we can get to that humble place first.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Can I just make an observation? You just came, all the way, full circle. You shared an image, a little while ago, of the two of you bowing in prayer\u2014and him being beside you, over you, near you\u2014but both of you under the cross. Listen to what you just said: \u201cWhen we make a mistake and we hurt one another,\u201d\u2014or whatever it is\u2014\u201che races back to his knees at the foot of the cross.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe conversation around shepherding begs the question: \u201cHow does a woman, then, submit and follow?\u201d But if you listened to the last ten minutes of the conversation, what we described a shepherd as being\u2014Robert\u2019s talking about\u2014talking and listening, and really caring and tuning in, and really meeting her where she is and attuning to your wife. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou talked about bowing in prayer and bringing everything before the Lord\u2014that he himself is a person, who is constantly under God\u2019s direction and care, and is seeking the Lord in all things. When you paint that picture\u2014help me, Nancy\u2014I think submission gets a <em>whole<\/em> lot easier.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy:<\/strong> It does. What woman is going to resist that or resent that? I say: \u201cThank You, Lord!\u201d All these years, I was a single woman\u2014and I thank the Lord for <em>that<\/em> season\u2014God gave grace \/ He was my shepherd in a very direct way. But now, to have this gift \/ this provision of a man who cares, who cherishes, who treasures me\u2014he calls me his precious girl\u2014and to see him on his knees, in the Word, seeking the Lord. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSubmission isn\u2019t a daily or frequent battle. It\u2019s not something that surfaces often in our marriage, because we are both submitting to the Lord. My disposition\u2014I want to be a woman who is lead-able. I\u2019ve been telling this to other women for all these years; and now, I get a chance to do it\u2014but, thankfully, with a man who is following Christ\u2014and it makes it a joy!\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> It\u2019s so important that I say, at this point; may I? I\u2019m a sinful man. My wife characterizing me like this is overwhelming, because I am very aware of my own sinfulness. I follow the Good Shepherd. As we said earlier, I\u2019m learning how to be a leader by learning to be a good follower. People follow because they want to be like the person that\u2019s leading. The leader doesn\u2019t say: \u201cCome here. Follow me!\u201d You know, this is a shepherd, not a cowboy. I want my wife to want to be like that; then, it gives me the privilege of leading.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Ron, it occurs to me that, in a blended relationship, sometimes, a husband will begin to shepherd\u2014to lead, to nudge, to say, \u201cI think we need to go this direction,\u201d\u2014and a wife may have flashes from the past where that was done poorly. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tShe\u2019s resistant, not because he\u2019s doing anything wrong, but just because she built a reflex, over years, to back away when this was being mishandled.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> Fundamentally, it\u2019s an issue of trust; right? \u201cHow do I know I can trust you to lead in a self-sacrificial way, in a way that brings glory to God, not your glory \/ not your kingdom, but His kingdom?\u201d That may take some time. The word I would then give to her husband, at that point, is: \u201cBe careful to guard your heart against discouragement. You might go: \u2018Man, I\u2019m doing all the right things. I\u2019m doing everything Robert said\u2014I read his book \/ I memorized it frontwards and backwards\u2014it\u2019s not working!\u2019\u201d\u2014right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe tells a story about a decision that needed to be made in their marriage\u2014I don\u2019t even remember the scenario\u2014but what I remember was that his attitude \/ his response to Nancy was: \u201c\u2026and gave Himself up for her\u201d\u2014he just quoted Ephesians 5. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn a situation, where your wife is struggling to trust you\u2014first marriage, second marriage, whatever it is\u2014\u201c\u2026and gave Himself up for her\u201d\u2014if that is your continual posture\u2014continually loving, serving, cherishing\u2014as Dennis said, \u201cThat softens the heart,\u201d\u2014it takes distrust and moves it towards trust.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>The way I\u2019ve said that, over the years, is: \u201cIf couples would apply Philippians 2:3, \u2018Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility, regard one another as more important than yourself,\u2019 that cures a whole lot of marriage issues.\u201d People look and go: \u201cWe\u2019ve got this problem,\u201d \u201cWe\u2019ve got that problem,\u201d\u2014\u201cOkay; regard the other person as more important than yourself and see how many of those problems go away.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> And it can take a long time. We just have to add that it\u2019s not overnight in some situations. Again, the scenario you painted\u2014a woman, who\u2019s really been hurt, based on a previous relationship, could take a <em>long<\/em> time before her heart softens; but that is the path.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And a shepherd in that situation needs to be patient, and gentle, and full of grace\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Ron:<\/strong> That\u2019s right.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014right?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Absolutely.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Earlier, I said: \u201cIf we want to know how to be a shepherd, we ought to look at the One who did it perfectly and who is still doing it today. And that\u2019s Psalm 23: \u2018The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want.\u2019\u201d\u00a0 But I want to go to a portion of that passage I didn\u2019t read\u2014it begins in verse 4, \u201cEven though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil for You are with me, Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tNow, there\u2019s more there than we can unpack in the time that we have left; but I want you to comment, Robert, on how you do two things. One is: \u201cHow do you protect Nancy?\u201d And the other thing I want you to comment on: \u201cWhen you do go through a valley\u2014it may not be the valley of the shadow of death \/ it may not have taken anyone\u2019s life or had the loss of a family member\u2014but it\u2019s just a\u2014it\u2019s a valley\u2014it\u2019s dark; it\u2019s rugged. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tComment on both of those: \u201cHow you protect,\u201d and \u201cHow you\u2019ve traveled through the valley with her.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Let me take you to a baseball game. A baseball manager comes running out of the dugout when there\u2019s a call that he doesn\u2019t agree with. Does he do that because the umpire will change his mind?\u2014never!\u2014never! So why does he do that?\u2014why does he go out? I\u2019m thinking of Tommy Lasorda\u2014nose to nose with the umpire, <em>screaming<\/em>, and sometimes kicking dirt on the umpire\u2019s shoes\u2014what is that about? [Laughter] Oh, it\u2019s a very simple answer. It\u2019s about protecting your ball players and saying to them, \u201cI\u2019m willing, in front of 40,000 people, to look like an idiot to protect you.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00 <\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo what does that look like? Well, that looks like\u2014if you\u2019re home, and you\u2019ve got teenagers; and it is dinnertime, and some child says something to his or her mother that\u2019s unkind\/snarky\u2014rolls their eyes\u2014whatever: \u201cWhat do you do to protect your wife?\u201d You stop it\u2014you say: \u201cOh, I\u2019m sorry. That is not acceptable,\u201d and you protect your wife. You don\u2019t do it to change your child\u2019s mind, like the umpire; you do it to say to your wife: \u201cI\u2019m going to go to bat for you. I\u2019m going to protect you by keeping others from hurting you \/ from discouraging you\u2014I\u2019m going to step in.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou asked a question about the dark places. What\u2019s interesting is that Nancy knew\u2014as you said, Bobbie\u2014and I actually was right there the moment she stepped into heaven. I\u2019ve told Nancy that story in our very first conversation, as a potential suitor. I had known Nancy as her agent \/ as her literary agent. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis was 13 years later. We were having a conversation that I wanted to lead toward a friendship. I told her that story, and Nancy comes into that valley with me. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI think part of the answer is\u2014in fact, the first year of our marriage, we went to a lot of funerals. How many, like, was it?\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Nancy:<\/strong> Quite a few; yes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> Seven or eight funerals. You visit the house of mourning together and that gives you a chance to unpack some of that darkness \/ some of that hard stuff. You listen with your eyes. Deaf people teach us how to listen\u2014you don\u2019t listen with your ears; you listen with your eyes. Your wife knows if you are listening, because you\u2019re looking at her. The same is true when she\u2019s talking\u2014you\u2019re listening with your eyes.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014not at your device; right?\u2014not at your device.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> That\u2019s right! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> So if the guys didn\u2019t get it today: \u201cIf you want to be a shepherd of your wife\u2019s soul, lead her in a loving, gracious way; protect her; and third, go through the dark valleys together\u2014invite her into yours and ask to be invited into hers.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019d just say\u2014a guy\u2019s got to continue to sharpen the saw \/ he\u2019s got to keep his game fresh. I\u2019m thinking about guys in the NBA, who are at the top of their game\u2014and they still go and practice their free throws; they still get coaching from their coach, or get with the shooting coach, or the conditioning training people; because, in order for them to execute at the level that they are being called to execute, they\u2019ve got to have input \/ they\u2019ve got to have help.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThe same is true for us, as husbands. In order for us to be the kinds of husbands God has called us to be and that we want to be, we need help. We need to be reading books like the book that you\u2019ve written here, <em>Like the Shepherd.<\/em> It\u2019s a book that we\u2019ve got in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can order it, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or you can call to order\u20141-800-FL-TODAY is our number. Again, this is the kind of on-going equipping that all of us need, as husbands. The book, again, by Robert Wolgemuth is called, <em>Like the Shepherd. <\/em>It\u2019s available, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order a copy.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>23:00 <\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tLet me just add\u2014for you, as a husband, to take the initiative with your wife and say: \u201cYou know what we should do this spring? We ought to go to one of those <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em> marriage getaways we\u2019ve heard about on the radio. We\u2019ve talked about this for years; we\u2019ve just never gotten around to doing it. Why don\u2019t we do it this spring?\u201d Carve out a weekend\u2014make the plans \/ make the arrangements. You can go to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, and find out when the getaway is going to be in a city near you. You can make arrangements with the babysitter. I mean, as a guy, you can take the initiative to make all of this happen. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIf you sign up this week or next week for a getaway, you\u2019ll save 50 percent off the regular registration fee. So, this is a great investment in your marriage; and right now, the investment is half-price. If you want to give your marriage a 100 percent, you can get away for half price and do that; okay? Go to our website, FamilyLifeToday.com, to register for a getaway; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY if you have any questions or if you\u2019d like to register over the phone. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAgain, the website\u2014FamilyLifeToday.com\u2014or call 1-800-FL-TODAY. Plan now to be with us and sign up now so you can save 50 percent off your getaway.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tTomorrow, we\u2019ll continue our conversation with our guests, Robert and Nancy Wolgemuth, talking about husbands being the kind of husband God has called us to be. I hope you can join us for that.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. We will see you back tomorrow for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae<\/sup> ministry. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. 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