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Oh, wow! [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; I just decided to look\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> Do you have tenure, Dennis? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> \u2014out the corner of my eye and look at my wife Barbara who joins us; but she\u2019s the guest; right, Barbara? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> That\u2019s right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> She\u2019s our guest here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> She is a special guest. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> You\u2019re the one who brought her in here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> I\u2019m here all the time. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> That\u2019s exactly right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> I would say both ladies are <em>extremely<\/em> special. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Oh, I would, too, Bob\u2014well-said \/ well-said. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHannah Anderson joins us, author of <em>Humble Roots<\/em>. Welcome back, Hannah. We\u2019re thrilled you joined us all the way from Virginia and from the Blue Ridge Mountains. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> It is a <em>joy<\/em> to be here. I don\u2019t always like to leave Virginia, but it\u2019s been good to be here with you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> It has been good. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou\u2019ve got a story you tell that evidently illustrates what we\u2019re talking about here this week about humility, and fruitfulness, and seeing God use us on purpose. It has to do with green beans. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014which\u2014you love green beans\u2014 \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014so this will be a fun story for you. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> I do, but I like green beans with just a little bacon grease in there; okay? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014the way his mama made them.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Yes; it is. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> Yes. So, one of the most surprising things about my journey into the idea of humility and applying it to my life was how it affected my work and my productivity. I shouldn\u2019t have been surprised. I think I should have seen this; because in the passage where Christ calls us to come to Him for rest and to experience His humility, He uses the imagery of yoked oxen. Now, this is not an ox, who is sitting around the pasture or sitting under the tree. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThis is a working ox\u2014this is for the purpose of a fruitful, flourishing field\u2014that the farmer brings the ox under his control so that he can accomplish something. Even though Christ is calling us to rest, He\u2019s not calling us to passivity. He\u2019s calling us to productivity and peace <em>together<\/em>. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I grew into understanding more about Christ\u2019s humility \/ about the work He has called me to, I began to realize that humility has this amazing and dramatic effect on how we enter into the work we\u2019ve been given to do. One of the clearest examples of how I saw this play out was in my family\u2019s life, where my husband is an avid gardener. He <em>loves<\/em>\u2014it is his jam to dream and plan his garden each year. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe especially likes to work with heirloom varieties\u2014maybe apples that have been passed down from generation to generation or heirloom tomatoes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne year, he got his hands on heirloom beans. These beans had\u2014they were pole beans that had been passed down in his community up in the mountains for generations, and his dad had given him some. He brought them down; he was going to plant them in our garden. He was so excited and so certain that this was going to fulfill all his dreams and hopes\u2014that he would plant these beans, and they would bring forth a bumper crop. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHe built bamboo teepees for them to run up. He planted them; he watered them; he tended them. Sure enough, they sprouted; and we had this abundance of vegetation\u2014beautiful, beautiful leaves \/ beautiful vines with no beans\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014<em>no beans<\/em>. [Laughter] Right then and there, we had to face our limitations and be humbled by the fact that you can do <em>all<\/em> of these things to plan your work; but when it comes down to it, God is in control of the results. You can tend, and you can water, and you can grow beautiful bean vines with no fruit. It was kind of a lesson learned, and we laughed about it\u2014we thought: \u201cMaybe, it was the wrong climate. Maybe, something was wrong.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt was funny until, later in the summer, when my, then, eight-year-old son got a hold of the extra beans that we hadn\u2019t planted. We had recently done a renovation in our backyard and added a patio. If you\u2019ve done renovations, you know that there\u2019s always this extra dirt around where the work had been done. One day, we walked out; and there were these little green sprouts coming up in the dirt: \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u201cOh, the grass is growing again.\u201d It wasn\u2019t grass. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMy son had gotten those beans and was playing around with them and had played farmer and had planted them in the dirt. So, we laughed. We figured out these beans had sprouted; but then, they grew, and they grew, and they had blossoms. [Laughter] They had beans on them, and we had no other choice except to just drive a stake into the ground and accept that the beans that my son had just thrown into the dirt ended up producing <em>more<\/em> than our carefully-tended beans that we had spent <em>weeks<\/em> slaving over in the garden. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I thought of that in terms of how we embrace the work that God has called us to, humility says: \u201cThe results are not up to me. I can work hard, and be faithful, and not see a lot of fruit from my labor; or I can have very little work invested and God bless <em>abundantly<\/em>, not based on <em>my<\/em> work \/ not based on <em>my<\/em> productivity, but based on <em>His<\/em> good favor and grace and what <em>He<\/em> chooses to do with our work.\u201d\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIn those moments, I realized that God calls us to follow Him\u2014the same way the ox was called to his master\u2014to work for the flourishing of His church \/ for the world; but the results really aren\u2019t in our hands. We can work hard and feel like we\u2019re failures; or sometimes, we\u2019ll do very little work at all, and God will just bring forth abundantly. What we have to step back\u2014the only way we can keep our equilibrium in that disparity is knowing that it was never about our work in the first place. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Hannah, you said this journey that God has had you on was birthed out of anxiety, and restlessness, and stress in your life, looking for the rest that Jesus promises and finding that the Scripture says it is in humility\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014it\u2019s in taking on His yoke that that rest is found. So, are you sleeping better these days? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> I am. I am sleeping a whole lot better. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> How are you a different mom today than you were three years ago? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> Well, I\u2019m a lot more rested. [Laughter] One of the things that changed for me, personally\u2014and then it exhibited itself and it would flow out into my other responsibilities and callings\u2014was I learned that I had to honor the limits of my body\u2014I had to rest \/ I had to eat well. I had to honor these boundaries so that I was more able to enter into the callings that I have. So, rather than being on edge, and snippy, and ready to explode because I was just exhausted and irritated\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Wait a second. You ready to explode?! \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> She doesn\u2019t sound like someone who is ready to explode; does she? [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> She doesn\u2019t; no. If it is, it\u2019s a very small firecracker. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> No; no; it is <em>large<\/em>, and my children would tell you that as well. [Laughter] \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAs I cared\u2014and respected the limits of my body and my own health and respected the limits of my spirit and said: \u201cI need time in the Word of God. I need time to live close to Christ,\u201d\u2014it allowed me to enter back into my relationships more whole and more able to deal with the things that you can\u2019t control. I couldn\u2019t control what was happening in my home; but I could control my response to it. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> So, are you going to bed at 10? Are you getting up\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> Yes; it\u2019s going to bed at a reasonable time \/ it\u2019s making sure I get sufficient sleep. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tMost of the time, that\u2019s seven to eight hours\u2014not skimping on that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> It\u2019s making sure I <em>eat<\/em> breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I know that sounds\u2014that may sound bizarre, but any mom that\u2019s out there knows exactly what I\u2019m talking about. Barbara? \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Exactly. I know exactly what you\u2019re talking about; because, when you\u2019re raising kids, your goal is feeding them\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014and making sure they get what they need. You\u2019re not so much thinking about yourself because: \u201cI\u2019m an adult. I can figure it out\u201d; but I know that, as a mom, that\u2019s your focus\u2014is keeping your kids healthy and well\u2014and you tend to neglect yourself. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> But moms need fuel. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Yes; but moms don\u2019t just need fuel\u2014they need good fuel. I think it\u2019s really easy to set aside what\u2019s best for us, because we\u2019re living the [nobler] calling of taking care of our kids. You even talk about that in the book\u2014that it\u2019s easy for us to hate our bodies, to hate our limitations, to hate what we <em>need<\/em> in order to flourish. That\u2019s not what God calls us to do. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> Because when you\u2019re so busy \/ when you feel like you have so many responsibilities, it feels like you don\u2019t have time for these things. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> That\u2019s right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> It is an act of humility to acknowledge that, not only do you have time, but you <em>must<\/em> take time. From my experiencing and mothering, and being in this stage of busyness in life, it was very easy to fall back on: \u201cWell, I can get by. Maybe, nobody else can get by; but I can get by.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Right; moms say that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And there is a paradox\u2014you recognize it. To say, \u201cHumility,\u201d means to say, \u201cI need me time,\u201d\u2014sounds like: \u201cWhat?!\u201d\u2014and to say, \u201cWell, I can get by,\u201d is an act of humility\u2014no; there\u2019s really an act of pride in the midst of that, saying, \u201cI\u2019m the superwoman.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> Yes. The superwoman is a <em>huge<\/em> temptation when you\u2019re busy and you\u2019re juggling so many different responsibilities \/ good callings. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tYou can slip into this mentality that says, \u201cI can live above normal human limits.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> And it\u2019s not just the superwoman\u2014it\u2019s the Christian superwoman. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> Yes. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014which is another level. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Would your kids say they have a different mom today? Do they see that you are less explosive than you might have been three years ago when you were on a shorter\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> I think they see a happier mom\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Okay. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> \u2014a mom who is more playful, who can joke around a little bit more with them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the things that came with this period of anxiety and feeling over-worked was: \u201cI don\u2019t have time for playfulness,\u201d because you\u2019re so busy keeping them clothed and fed. Dad becomes the one who is playful; because he comes in, he\u2019s done\u2014you know, in our family, my husband works at his office at the church. He comes home\u2014he\u2019s available to them for joy and playfulness. Mom becomes the serious one, holding down the family structure. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tFor me, relinquishing some of that control meant that I could open myself up to be kind of more <em>fun<\/em> with my children and more playful. One thing that\u2019s changed is I will sit down with them now and watch a TV show, or I\u2019ll watch a movie together. I\u2019ll say: \u201cI\u2019m putting my work aside. I need to honor the limits,\u201d\u2014that I\u2019ve been faithful, like you said, Bob\u2014\u201cI\u2019ve been faithful to the work I\u2019ve had to do today. I didn\u2019t accomplish anything, but it\u2019s time to turn it off.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tSo, at 7 o\u2019clock, I can say, \u201cKids, let\u2019s go sit down; and we\u2019ll watch this nature show together.\u201d Having Mom present on the couch\u2014watching it with them rather than them sitting down to watch it and Mom running around in the background, doing all the work she felt like she still needed to get done\u2014it\u2019s a totally different message to them. I think it\u2019s allowed us to have better relationship; quite honestly.\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> You may not be aware; but two decades from now, your kids will\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014reflect back on the nights that Mom would sit down and watch those TV shows with us. It will have formed them to be more whole and more present people themselves. You may think: \u201cI\u2019m not doing anything. I\u2019m just sitting here.\u201d You\u2019re doing something powerful and profound by being there. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> I don\u2019t think I understood how much my need to accomplish all of these things was stealing me away from them. I felt like doing all of these things to provide them a good home and to be a good parent to them was what they needed; but as I entered into this space of embracing my own limits, I became more available for them. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> What that makes me think of is something that I\u2019ve been learning recently\u2014is about the importance of presence. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tPresence is so important in marriage. Dennis and I have talked about this many, many times\u2014about how we, not only enjoy one another\u2019s presence, but we <em>need<\/em> one another\u2019s presence. It\u2019s true with our children\u2014that our children don\u2019t want us to just provide for them, and serve them, and take them places; they want relationship, which comes by presence. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tThat\u2019s what God came to earth to do for us. He\u2019s Emmanuel\u2014He came to be <em>with us<\/em>. I think, as parents, sometimes, we so focus on the providing, and the caring for, and creating all these experiences\u2014etc., etc.\u2014and we forget that our presence with them is <em>really<\/em> the most important gift we can give them, being a part of their lives and building that relationship. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> We often talk about how fathers may be workaholics or busy and away from the home\u2014and maybe, they are putting all these hours in at the office\u2014but even a stay-at-home mom, or a mom who is with her kids a lot, can be a workaholic. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Absolutely. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> And even though you are in the same space, you\u2019re\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014you\u2019re not present. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> \u2014you\u2019re not present. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> Exactly. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> If we could call your husband right now, how would he say you\u2019ve changed over the last three years? I mean, this is really tough. I mean, you are talking to a national audience here and probably a couple of your friends, there in Virginia. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> And Dennis has been known to call a husband. So, you better give us\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Barbara:<\/strong> \u2014a good answer. [Laughter]\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> \u2014the straight scoop here. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> I think\u2014I think he would say that I\u2019m not waking him up in the middle of the night because I\u2019m awake, bumping around the house. I\u2019m sleeping better. I think he would say that I\u2019m less frantic when a problem comes up. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tOne of the things that I discovered\u2014and he and I\u2019ve talked about this a lot\u2014is, as I was operating in a space of anxiety and being overwrought, it also meant that I was always on edge. So, <em>anything<\/em> that happened\u2014small or big\u2014could <em>feel<\/em> huge and be a tipping point. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tIt would dump me over, because I was already operating at this very heightened space of anxiety. So, even something small in the church\u2014he\u2019d come home and tell me about it\u2014and I\u2019d just\u2014it\u2019d be too much. So, he got to a place where he would feel like he couldn\u2019t always share\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> Right. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Hannah:<\/strong> \u2014the burdens that he had, because I couldn\u2019t handle them without overreacting. Now, as I\u2019m learning to live in this space of peace and rest through Christ, I\u2019m better able to be there for <em>him<\/em> when he needs me to support him emotionally too. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Dennis:<\/strong> We don\u2019t talk about it often, here, on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>; but one of the things I most appreciate about Barbara is that very thing you are talking about. She is a great shock absorber. Sometimes, a husband just needs his wife to be there and shoulder the burdens with him. And being a pastor of a local church has got a ton of burdens of people\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014real people made in the image of God. Every job has got its thorns and thistles that a wife can better share with her husband <em>if<\/em> she is walking with Christ and is, as we\u2019ve been talking about this week, yoked up. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tAnd I\u2019m just going to close our broadcast today, reading Matthew, Chapter 11, one more time\u2014verse 28 to the end of the chapter. Jesus is speaking. Think about who made this command and this promise: \u201cCome to Me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy, and My burden is light.\u201d \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tHannah, I want to thank you for absorbing this passage and doing the hard work in your own relationship with Christ to pen the book you\u2019ve written, <em>Humble Roots<\/em>, to pass on to others the lessons you\u2019ve learned in the journey that will, hopefully, find many, many wives\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014frankly, several guys as well\u2014husbands\/single guys\u2014who experience humility at its deepest point, being yoked up with Jesus Christ. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Yes; and of course, we\u2019ve got copies of your book available in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. The book is called <em>Humble Roots<\/em>. You can order a copy when you go online at FamilyLifeToday.com, or you can call to order at 1-800-358-6329. 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You can make a donation online\u2014it\u2019s easy to do\u2014or call 1-800-FL-TODAY and say: \u201cI\u2019d like to make a donation,\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m interested in becoming a Legacy Partner.\u201d Again, the number is 1-800-FL-TODAY. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tWith that, we\u2019ve got to wrap things up for this week. Thanks for joining us. I hope you have a great weekend. I hope you and your family are able to worship together in your local church this weekend, and I hope you can join us back on Monday. In fact, I want to give you a little sneak peek of what we\u2019re going to hear next week. Robert and Nancy Wolgemuth are going to join us, and we\u2019re going to have a conversation about how a husband is to care for the needs of his wife \/ how he\u2019s to be attentive to those needs as a shepherd. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Robert:<\/strong> The sheep wandered off, and the shepherd lovingly pursued that sheep. So, in my experience with Nancy, I\u2019m discovering\u2014I discovered, early on\u2014\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>\u00a0<\/strong>\n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t\u2014she\u2019s a person with lots of responsibility in ministry. So, we\u2019ll have this dinnertime; and we\u2019ll be sitting there, enjoying dinner. I\u2019m looking at her face, and she has wandered off. What do I do to bring her back? What do I do to capture her?\u2014it\u2019s patience, and it\u2019s warming\u2014it\u2019s wooing her. It\u2019s not forgetting to woo her. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\t<strong>Bob:<\/strong> Well, we\u2019ll hear more from Robert and Nancy Wolgemuth on Monday. I hope you can tune for that. \n\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t<p>\n\t\t\t\tI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I\u2019m Bob Lepine. 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