{"id":300003,"date":"2019-01-03T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2019-01-03T17:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/%series%\/a-cord-of-three-strands-is-strong\/"},"modified":"2024-10-07T22:41:13","modified_gmt":"2024-10-08T02:41:13","slug":"a-cord-of-three-strands-is-strong","status":"publish","type":"podcast","link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/a-cord-of-three-strands-is-strong\/","title":{"rendered":"A Cord of Three Strands is Strong"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>guest: Jen Weaver | Series: A Wife&#8217;s Secret to Happiness | Author Jen Weaver made a vow to her husband on their wedding day that she would &#8220;try&#8221; to love, honor, and obey him. She soon realized how much she needed Jesus to be the third party in their union. Weaver remembers once when she was complaining, she sensed God&#8217;s still, small voice ask her if she was going to talk to Him about this. That&#8217;s when she knew she needed to be intentional about enlisting God&#8217;s help for their marriage.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Author Jen Weaver made a vow to her husband on their wedding day that she would &#8220;try&#8221; to love, honor, and obey him. She soon realized how much she needed Jesus to be the third party in their union.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":91,"featured_media":294104,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"Author Jen Weaver made a vow to her husband on their wedding day. She soon realized how much she needed Jesus to be the third party in their union.","_seopress_robots_index":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","episode_type":"","audio_file":"https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2019-01-03.mp3","podmotor_file_id":"","podmotor_episode_id":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"00:28:42","filesize":"26.28M","filesize_raw":"27559579","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":""},"categories":[2862,2831],"tags":[4019,2976,4020,4021],"podcast_series":[7158],"cwp_profile":[3544],"series":[2101],"class_list":["post-300003","podcast","type-podcast","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-differences","category-wives","tag-biblical-marriage","tag-christian-marriage","tag-god-centered-marriage","tag-vows","podcast_series-a-wifes-secret-to-happiness","cwp_profile-jen-weaver","series-familylife-today"],"acf":[],"episode_featured_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg?w=508","episode_player_image":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2023\/02\/image-scaled.jpg","download_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-download\/300003\/a-cord-of-three-strands-is-strong","player_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast-player\/300003\/a-cord-of-three-strands-is-strong","audio_player":null,"episode_data":{"playerMode":"light","subscribeUrls":{"apple_podcasts":{"key":"apple_podcasts","url":"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/familylife-today\/id212174303?mt=2&app=podcast","label":"Apple Podcasts","class":"apple_podcasts","icon":"apple-podcasts.png"},"google_podcasts":{"key":"google_podcasts","url":"","label":"Google Podcasts","class":"google_podcasts","icon":"google-podcasts.png"},"spotify":{"key":"spotify","url":"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/0j5UaKdQOHQCuo1bt0ebEm","label":"Spotify","class":"spotify","icon":"spotify.png"},"youtube":{"key":"youtube","url":"","label":"YouTube","class":"youtube","icon":"youtube.png"}},"rssFeedUrl":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/feed\/podcast\/familylife-today","embedCode":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"xI5Cy9sayT\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/a-cord-of-three-strands-is-strong\/\">A Cord of Three Strands is Strong<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/podcast\/familylife-today\/a-cord-of-three-strands-is-strong\/embed\/#?secret=xI5Cy9sayT\" width=\"500\" height=\"350\" title=\"&#8220;A Cord of Three Strands is Strong&#8221; &#8212; FamilyLife\u00ae - A Cru Ministry\" data-secret=\"xI5Cy9sayT\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(d,l){\"use strict\";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&\"undefined\"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),c=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display=\"none\";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):\"link\"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute(\"src\")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener(\"message\",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+=\"#?secret=\"+t,e.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:t},\"*\")},!1)))}(window,document);\n\/\/# sourceURL=https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-includes\/js\/wp-embed.min.js\n<\/script>\n"},"spectra_custom_meta":{"_wp_page_template":["default"],"transcript_url":["https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2019-01-03.pdf"],"audio_file":["https:\/\/web.familylifetoday.com\/fl2019-01-03.mp3"],"transcript_content":["<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Every husband\/every wife has a desire for their marriage to flourish and to thrive. Jen Weaver says a big part of your marriage thriving is for you to learn to trust God.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>I think when we step back and we say, \u201cWell, my marriage will be better if we could come at it together,\u201d or \u201cIf only my husband would fix these things, then things would improve.\u201d I think we\u2019re missing a part of the picture, where Jesus wants to do a work in us. He\u2019s capable of doing a work in our marriages, independent of what our husbands do, just by how we live\u2014by how we trust God \/ by how we walk in obedience to what He says.\n\nYes; it is <em>ideal<\/em> for you both to be on the same page\u2014for you and your husband to come and work on things together\u2014but there is favor that rests on a woman, when she trusts God with her marriage \/ when she trusts and receives her husband as a gift from the Lord, even when he\u2019s not at that place of fully acting on it yet.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, January 3<sup>rd<\/sup>.\n\n<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\nOur host is Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. Learning to trust God in your marriage is easier said than done, but it is key to your marriage thriving. We\u2019re going to hear more about that today from Jen Weaver. Stay with us.\n\nAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. So, we\u2019re finally going to get the secret.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We are!\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019ve been looking for the secret for awhile; we <em>finally<\/em> have got the secret ready to unfold today.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Jen Weaver joins us on the broadcast. What is the secret of a wife truly being happy?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Oh man, trusting God and all the things that come with that! [Laughter]\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We\u2019re going to get to that question in a second. Jen is a first-time guest on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. She is from the Dallas\/Fort Worth area, married to Jared since 2008, has two children, and has a great blog and a new book called <em>A Wife\u2019s Secret to Happiness<\/em>.\n\nI love the way you and Jared started your marriage.\n\n<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\nYou guys decided you would be courageous and write your own vows. How did that go for you?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>It was great! It was a little intimidating at first, though; because I wanted the vows to be kind of simple, because I wanted to achieve them. Thankfully, we had premarital counseling. The pastor we met with\u2014he explained\/he said: \u201cYour vows are things that you\u2019re aspiring to. Set high goals. You don\u2019t want to set goals that are easy for you to hit tomorrow and then you\u2019re like, \u2018I got this.\u2019\u201d [Laughter] We want to grow continually closer together and in our relationship with God, so our vows are lofty.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>At that point, you have to decide, specifically: \u201cWhat has God called you to be, as a wife?\u2014as a husband?\u2014and what has He called you to do?\u201d\n\nWhere is a wife supposed to start at this point, Jen?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>I think, for me, a lot of where I needed to start was recognizing that my life, as a wife, was an expression of my faith. It wasn\u2019t something separate from my relationship with God. If I trust God; and if I want to walk in obedience to what He says; and if I trust that He\u2019s going to equip me to be the wife who honors, and loves, and cherishes, and always puts my family first\u2014\n\n<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014and honors my husband in that\u2014then I can trust that He\u2019ll equip me and He\u2019ll walk with me as I\u2019m learning to do that.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is where Ecclesiastes 4:12 kind of came on\u2014the lights came on for you when you read that verse; right?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes; yes, because we <em>need<\/em> Jesus as the third strand.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>The verse says that \u201cA cord of three strands is not easily broken.\u201d\n\nI remember hearing somebody tell me once about a braid\u2014braiding hair. They said, if you try to braid hair with two strands, no braid survives with two strands\u2014it all just falls apart\u2014you have to have the third strand. But when you look at braided hair, typically, all you can see is the two strands. You can\u2019t see that third strand that\u2019s running through the braid\u2014it looks like it\u2019s just two\u2014but there\u2019s really an invisible third strand in there.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Jen, do you know when your braid was first stretched, where you wondered if it was going to break, early, in your marriage?\u2014\n\n<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014your first argument\/your first fight?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You do?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Oh, man, I have so many memories of them. One of the memories, actually, was a time I was complaining, where I thought I was praying; but I was before the Lord, complaining. [Laughter] He\u2019s often really dramatic with me, because I respond to Him that way. I heard God in my head, almost like His voice was echoing down a distant hallway, saying: \u201cAre you going to let Me in? Are you going to let Me into this room and actually be with you and talk with you about this?\u201d In that instance, I was complaining about my husband and some argument, and remember thinking: \u201cWell, God, aren\u2019t You here\u2014aren\u2019t You here, because I\u2019m praying? Isn\u2019t that what I\u2019m doing?\u201d\n\nHe started talking to me about how I needed to be intentional in bringing Him into my marriage\u2014that even though my husband and I were both believers, I was just assuming, \u201cOh, God, then that means You\u2019re here as a natural by-product,\u201d instead of recognizing: \u201cNo; I can be intentional in bringing Him in and asking God, \u2018What are You doing in this time? We\u2019re having an argument; Lord, what is the thing that <em>You<\/em> want to lead us to?\u2019\u201d\n\n<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\nThat awareness changed everything for me.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>What does that look like, practically? I mean, when you talk about being aware or bringing God in, how does that manifest itself as you guys are going through life?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>One of the ways for me is\u2014I often <em>know<\/em> when I\u2019m about to broach a really difficult topic with Jared. I know when I\u2019m mad before he knows that I\u2019m mad. I\u2019ll go and I\u2019ll ask God: \u201cIs this something that I need to address right now? Is this something that really needs to come up to the surface, or do I need to let it go?\u201d\n\nAnd then, as we\u2019re going to go into this time of talking about difficult things\u2014where we have different opinions on what needs to happen with our kids, or our careers, or where we\u2019re going to live\u2014Jared and I will often pause and ask God to be in the conversation, before we get into it; so that the Lord will lead that instead of just our emotions or opinions.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>At that point, you describe your life as being a gateway, where you\u2019re inviting God to come into the relationship and be present there. Describe how you do that.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes; oh, a lot of it is pausing.\n\n<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\nI want to pause and take stock of where I\u2019m at: \u201cOkay; how am I feeling? How am I handling this?\u201d because even when I\u2019m right in my opinion, I can be wrong in my approach. [Laughter] A lot of it is just pausing, not lashing out, not pushing Jared\u2019s buttons\u2014which, he\u2019s a lot better at this than I am. He is very calm; and sometimes, even, I get upset that he\u2019s calm in the midst of an argument. I\u2019m like: \u201cI\u2019m mad! Aren\u2019t you mad? Get mad!\u201d He\u2019s like: \u201cNo, babe, we\u2019re on the same team.\u201d Me winning in this isn\u2019t the goal\u2014that\u2019s not the win. Us being unified; us moving forward in a healthy way\u2014that\u2019s the win.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>My son, Samuel, is a counselor in Nashville. He wrote a piece the other day that was talking about how carpenters measure twice and cut once.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It\u2019s kind of what you\u2019re talking about. You measure your words <em>twice<\/em> before you express them <em>once<\/em>. The best thing you\u2019re describing here is to pause and to bring the presence of God into your marriage at the point you have disagreement\u2014and perhaps a heated one\u2014\n\n<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014where God can calm things down, and you can relax, and then you can have more of an objective discussion.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes; and then I\u2019m trusting Jesus to be in the midst of it\u2014to guide our conversation and for Him to bring about the end that He wants. Sometimes, I can advocate for myself\u2014I\u2019m just advocating, advocating, advocating; and it gets nowhere. Then, there are other times when God tells me, \u201cJust trust Me in this,\u201d and He brings things to Jared\u2019s attention\u2014hat it wouldn\u2019t have mattered if I told him 50 times\u2014when God spoke it to his heart, there\u2019s such drastic change.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s one of the things we talk with couples about at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaways. When there is conflict\u2014and there\u2019s going to be conflict in a marriage, because you have two imperfect people, who are trying to blend and make it work\u2014when that conflict occurs\u2014and when you feel like you need to address, or confront, or bring something up\u2014if you do pause, if you do go to God first, if you do examine your own heart on the matter first, this can lead to a lot of conflict being resolved before the two of you ever sit down and talk.\n\n<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\nThere\u2019s a lot of conflict that you just need to overlook; or it was your own passions or your own heart that was the issue, and not anything that your spouse did. Now, you may still need to go ahead and press through and address some things that are big issues, but there\u2019s a lot of stuff that will fade away if you go to God with it first.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>True. And there are things that we can sometimes let fester that, really, if they\u2019re brought out into the light in casual, nonthreatening ways, can be resolved really quickly. I remember, in our first apartment, I lined up artwork on the hallway. If you walked down the hallway, there are all these pictures, and paintings, and prints, all on the carpet, leaning against the wall. It was like that for months.\n\nIn my home, growing up, my mom picked out the artwork and my dad would hang it. Well, in Jared\u2019s house, growing up, his mom handled the whole thing. [Laughter]\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, how was he at mind-reading?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>He was not good! And I was not happy about it! [Laughter]\n\n<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\nFor <em>weeks<\/em>, he\u2019s thinking, \u201cWhy is she not just getting with the program and hanging the artwork?\u201d and I\u2019m thinking: \u201cI did my part! Why is he not doing his part?\u201d It wasn\u2019t until we actually had a conversation about it\u2014and it didn\u2019t need to be heated. I was upset about it; and I burst out one day, \u201cWhy aren\u2019t you doing this?!\u201d We actually had a conversation about it, and I realized it didn\u2019t really need to be a festering thing if we had just been able to talk about it.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Jen, there are a lot of women listening to you talk about your relationship with your husband; and they\u2019re going, \u201cYou know, things would be okay if I had a godly, spiritually-minded husband, who is listening to the Lord, and who\u2019s patient, and who puts up with my emotional outbursts and says, \u2018It\u2019s going to be okay, babe,\u2019\u201d; you know? [Laughter] I mean, the blessing of a godly husband is a blessing that a wife ought not take for granted.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes!\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And you\u2019ve experienced this; but you\u2019ve also talked to a lot of women, who say, \u201cThat\u2019s not my story.\u201d\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>What do <em>they<\/em> do?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Oh, goodness, so it comes in all sorts of different ways.\n\n<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\nI think one of the things that we need to recognize, as wives as well, is that\u2014while we\u2019re in a constant learning process \/ while we\u2019re constantly in this journey of drawing closer to Jesus and being made more into His likeness\u2014our husbands are as well. It can be easy to sit back and say, \u201cWell, if my husband got his act together, things in our marriage would be way better.\u201d\n\nBut that\u2019s part of why I wrote this book\u2014I wrote <em>A Wife\u2019s Secret to Happiness<\/em> specifically to the wives, because there are things that we can do in and of ourselves. I think when we step back and we say, \u201cWell, my marriage would be better if we could come at it together,\u201d or \u201cIf only my husband would fix these things, then things would improve,\u201d I think we\u2019re missing a part of the picture, where Jesus wants to do a work in <em>us<\/em>. He\u2019s capable of doing a work in our marriages, independent of what our husbands do, just by how we live\u2014by how we trust God \/ by how we walk in obedience to what He says.\n\nYes; it is <em>ideal<\/em> for you both to be on the same page\u2014for you and your husband to come and work on things together\u2014but there is favor that rests on a woman when she trusts God with her marriage\u2014\n\n<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014when she trusts and receives her husband as a gift from the Lord, even when he\u2019s not at that place of fully acting in it yet.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What I would say to wives, as they go through process with their husbands: \u201cLet your kids, as they grow older, let your kids into the interior of that relationship; so they learn how you\u2019re processing and how you\u2019re applying your walk with Jesus Christ into the relationship. You\u2019re training them to know how to do relationships as they grow up and then, ultimately, with a partner in marriage.\u201d\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>At what level do you let your kids in? Because there are a lot of couples, who are listening, going, \u201cDo you mean fight in front of the kids?\u201d\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Stimulating arguments; yes\u2014they\u2019re with you in the kitchen; they\u2019re watching you two kind of go at it with each other and they\u2019re locked onto you. At that point, you have to stop and explain what\u2019s going on, and how you are processing, and how your faith in Christ and your trust in the Scriptures makes a difference in how you\u2019re treating your spouse.\n\n<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\nI think you do that when they\u2019re little, when they\u2019re medium, and when they\u2019re big; because, at some point, they will leave the house and they\u2019re going to have their own relationships. You are their number-one trainer of how to do marriage.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Jen, I remember talking to Elisabeth Elliot years ago. I don\u2019t know if you know that name, but she was a writer and a speaker. She talked about the fact that a lot of wives look at their husbands the way that we look at an ink stain on a white shirt. She said if you look at a white shirt, and somebody has a leaky pen in their pocket, your eyes are immediately drawn to the spot that is right there, front and center, in what is an otherwise completely white shirt\u201499 percent white\u2014but it has that one ink spot right there.\n\nShe said a lot of wives are drawn to the failings of their husband, while ignoring the value\/the things that the husband brings that are worthy of honor and respect.\n\n<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\nDo you find that hard for you?\u2014to focus on your husband\u2019s attributes rather than his flaws?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Oh, it\u2019s all about where I train my eyes; so yes. If I let myself focus on all of Jared\u2019s flaws\u2014I can pick them out; I can nitpick them with the best of them\u2014and that\u2019s true, too, with our boys. I want the way that I speak to Jared in front of our boys\u2014and not just in front of them, but including in front of them\u2014to speak to his character, to speak to his role in our family, to speak to what it means to be a husband\/what it means to be a father.\n\nIt\u2019s easy to look at the things that they don\u2019t do or to downplay the good that he does\u2014to think, \u201cOh, it\u2019s not that big a deal that he takes out the trash.\u201d But if I\u2019m only training my eyes to see the bad things and I\u2019m working to train my eyes to see the good things, then it\u2019s a <em>huge<\/em> deal that he takes out the trash; and it\u2019s a <em>huge<\/em> deal in how I see him, and how I speak to him, and how I view our relationship\u2014\n\n<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014and how our boys see that: \u201cWow! Even this little thing\u2014Mom really loves that about Dad. Dad really cares for us in that way.\u201d\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You used the \u201cR\u201d-word, \u201crole.\u201d\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Your husband\u2019s role\u2014\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014you believe the Bibles teaches that a husband is to truly lead, love, and serve his wife and his family.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>I do!\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>A lot of young women today really recoil at the thought of having to follow their husband. Now, in following, it doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t be a partner in life; but at some point, somebody has to make a decision. You believe, at the point, after your husband has heard your opinion, he is the go-to person to make the final decision; right?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>I do, and there\u2019s freedom in that.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You know that your response to what the Bible teaches about husbands leading and wives respecting and responding\u2014you know that\u2019s pretty countercultural\u2014\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014even in the church.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>\u2014even in the church!\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, when you talk with your peers, and they go, \u201cOh, come on\u2026\u201d\u2014\n\n<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014tell me about those conversations.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Well, they were intimidating at first. Even in starting to write the book, I would go back <em>constantly<\/em> and ask the Lord: \u201cGod, are You sure? Am I really understanding You right in this?\u201d [Laughter] because I would\u2014I would read other books or hear other speakers. A big thing that\u2019s talked about a lot, culturally, in the Christian world, right now, is mutual submission; and that you each submit to each other and you kind of take turns in what\u2019s most important and who makes the decisions.\n\nI just couldn\u2019t find that modeled in Scripture. I couldn\u2019t find that modeled even in the Trinity, when I would look at the roles that the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit play, and how each has a designated role. When Jesus asked God to send the Holy Spirit, and how Jesus says, \u201cIf this cup could be taken from me, but God, I\u2019m going to do what You say\u2026\u2014there is that transfer\/there\u2019s a hierarchy of authority, even in how the Godhead operates. I kept seeing, over and over again, how authority is transferred through submission\u2014\n\n<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014and how I\u2019ve seen it play out in my own life.\n\nA lot of conversations with peers have really been encouraging them that, one, submission is not a dirty word\u2014it\u2019s not a product of the Fall, but it\u2019s a gift from our Father\u2014that it\u2019s intended to do good; it\u2019s intended to <em>empower<\/em> a woman when she submits to her husband. It doesn\u2019t mean to be a doormat; it doesn\u2019t mean to be silenced and not to have an opinion, but it means to yield your heart to your husband\u2014to trust him as the leader; to walk with him under covering; to share things in respectful ways, not dishonoring.\n\nThere\u2019s a big thing right now, just in culture overall\u2014that\u2019s very pro-women and, therefore, anti-men\u2014and that\u2019s not of God either. You can be for women and for men. I can be for the voice of a woman\u2014the role of a wife and the blessing, and authority, and gifts that God has given to a woman\u2014and also for the covering that God gives her through her husband.\n\n<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You know, the Bible begins with God stating three times, in I think three verses, Genesis 1:26-28\u2014He made them male and female to reflect His image. God created them male and female. It is God who determines sex; and it is also God who determines what the responsibilities are in this institution He also created, called marriage.\n\nHe\u2019s not trying to make people miserable in that. He\u2019s really trying to release two people to be responsible for their role. In the case of a man, he has to die to himself\u2014he has to empty himself out, just as Christ did when He went to the cross. And a woman has to die, also, to herself to fulfill her role. It\u2019s not that one gets to have their way and the other doesn\u2019t; it\u2019s that both people, who are followers of Christ, get to do so in an adventure, where you\u2019re fulfilling God\u2019s design and assignment for you, as a husband and a wife.\n\n<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>In a lot of ways, I think the husband has a harder role; because he gets to give of himself like Christ gave Himself for the church, and he gets to love his wife like he loves himself. It is empowering for me, as a wife, because I get to trust Jared.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>But what if you\u2019re married to a guy, who\u2019s not a spiritually-minded, rock-solid guy like your husband is? What if you\u2019re married to somebody, who is self-oriented and self-interested? Is a wife supposed to submit to that guy?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Abuse is never okay, and it doesn\u2019t just need to be physical forms of abuse\u2014it could be any form of abuse. When a husband becomes abusive, he\u2019s abdicating his role\u2014he\u2019s abdicating his role to do good to his wife\u2014and they need to have healing together. Both of them need to work on things to bring about the restoration of their marriage. I believe that God can restore every marriage, no matter where it is.\n\nFor the wife, though, that is struggling seeing her husband not being at the level that she wants\u2014he\u2019s a good guy; he\u2019s trying to do good\u2014\n\n<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014but maybe he\u2019s being selfish, or maybe he\u2019s not seeking the Lord the way that she wants, or maybe he doesn\u2019t exhibit the elements of spiritual leadership that she wants in her home\u2014my encouragement to her is to bring all of that before the Lord: to draw near to God and ask Him, \u201cOkay; God, in this season, what does this need to look like for us?\u201d\n\nSome of it may just be submission in the way that she responds to him \/ in the way that she approaches difficult things. I can come to Jared and I can <em>demand<\/em> things of him, or I can <em>ask<\/em> things of him. I can come and say, \u201cHey, you\u2019re really messing up here,\u201d or I can come, saying, \u201cThis thing is hard for me; can we talk about ways that we could make this work better, together?\u201d So, in the yielding of her heart, a lot of that is just in how she positions her heart toward her husband.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; one of the things you say in your book: \u201cSubmission means a yielded heart, not a silenced one.\u201d\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What women need to do is express their opinion\/their perspective in a way where the husband can hear.\n\n<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\nThere\u2019s a way a wife knows she can do that, where he will hear, and there\u2019s another where she knows she\u2019s going to get a reaction in the way she shares her opinion.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, and let\u2019s make sure the husband hears that he needs to be leading with love and care for his wife as a primary responsibility.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014with sacrifice.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>That\u2019s the key; because a man, who gives up his life for his wife will earn her respect.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I think both husbands and wives\u2014and this kind of takes us back to where we started\u2014both husbands and wives need to recognize that, at the end of the day, the person we want to please <em>most<\/em> in our relationship is not ourselves; it\u2019s not even our spouse\u2014we want God\u2019s joy and pleasure to be at the center of a relationship, not our own desires or passions.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; and I love what Jen has as a subtitle for her book:\n\n<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\n<em>Receiving, Honoring, and Celebrating God\u2019s Role for You in Your Marriage<\/em>. If you just take those words\u2014receiving, honoring, and celebrating\u2014those are all acts of faith that every woman, who\u2019s listening to this broadcast, will benefit from if she can step out and truly embrace God\u2019s design for her life.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>The book is called <em>A Wife\u2019s Secret to Happiness: Receiving, Honoring, and Celebrating God\u2019s Role for You in Your Marriage<\/em>. It\u2019s written by our guest today, Jen Weaver; and we have copies of the book in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can order the book from us, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY.\n\nI\u2019m thinking that\u2014for a listener to get a copy of Jen\u2019s book and to get a copy of your wife, Barbara\u2019s, book, <em>Letters to My Daughters<\/em>\u2014read both of them together. That\u2019s a <em>great<\/em> foundation for understanding how you can be the woman that God\u2019s calling you to be in your marriage relationship.\n\n<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\nAgain, find out more about both books when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com; or call if you have any questions or if you\u2019d like to order by phone: 1-800-358-6329\u20141-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\nI want to read a note from a listener that came to us recently that was so encouraging. This was somebody who wrote in and said: \u201cYour broadcasts have made me reexamine myself and seek the Lord for change in my life. The information you provide on marriage has given me better insight on what it means to be a wife,\u201d\u2014the kind of things we\u2019ve been talking about here today.\n\nYou know, we <em>love<\/em> when we get those kinds of notes; and we also love it\u2014when we\u2019re in different parts of the country, and we run into <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners, and we hear about how God has used this ministry and used Dennis and Barbara\u2019s books and other resources we\u2019ve created in your life. We\u2019d love to have you share your story with us. In fact, we\u2019ve set things up so you can call a voicemail line\u2014\n\n<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY\u2014we\u2019ll put you into a voicemail box, and you can share with us your story about how God\u2019s used <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> in your life.\n\nIf you have a story like that, and you\u2019ve wanted to share it with us, would you just jot down a few notes, call 1-800-FL-TODAY, and leave us a recorded message? It would be a <em>great<\/em> encouragement to our whole team, here, at FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. We\u2019d <em>love<\/em> to hear from you. Again, call 1-800-FL-TODAY to share your story with us, here, at <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\nLet me also say, again, a word of thanks to those of you who, at the end of 2018, got in touch with us to share a financial gift in support of this ministry. Our team is still hard at work trying to determine what the final numbers were and whether we were able to take full advantage of our matching-gift opportunity, so we don\u2019t have all that data in yet; but thanks to those of you who did make a yearend contribution and to those of you, who continue to support this ministry, month in and month out, as Legacy Partners.\n\n<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\nWe\u2019re grateful for the partnership we have in providing practical biblical help and hope for marriages and families in your community and all around the world.\n\nAnd we hope you can join us back tomorrow when we\u2019re going to continue talking about how a wife can reduce stress and busyness and embrace God\u2019s design for her in her marriage relationship. Jen Weaver will be back with us tomorrow. I hope you can be back with us as well.\n\nI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\n<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\nWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the costs?\n\nCopyright <sup>\u00a9<\/sup> 2019 FamilyLife. All rights reserved.\n\n<a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">www.FamilyLife.com<\/a>"],"_seopress_titles_title":[""],"_seopress_titles_desc":["Author Jen Weaver made a vow to her husband on their wedding day. She soon realized how much she needed Jesus to be the third party in their union."],"_seopress_robots_index":[""],"duration":["00:28:42"],"show_notes":[""],"_thumbnail_id":["294104"],"filesize":["26.28M"],"filesize_raw":["27559579"],"_uag_css_file_name":["uag-css-300003.css"],"_uag_js_file_name":["uag-js-300003.js"],"_uag_page_assets":["a:9:{s:3:\"css\";s:82560:\".wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-e11dbe9f .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-e11dbe9f .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-e11dbe9f .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-e11dbe9f .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-e11dbe9f .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-e11dbe9f{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-e11dbe9f > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-e11dbe9f{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;padding-top: 3em;padding-bottom: 3em;padding-left: 1.5em;padding-right: 1.5em;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;background-color: #f8f8f8;;}@media only screen and (max-width: 976px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-e11dbe9f{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-e11dbe9f > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-e11dbe9f{padding-top: 3px;padding-bottom: 3px;padding-left: 1.5px;padding-right: 1.5px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #f8f8f8;;}}@media only screen and (max-width: 767px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-e11dbe9f{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-e11dbe9f > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-e11dbe9f{padding-top: 3px;padding-bottom: 3px;padding-left: 1.5px;padding-right: 1.5px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #f8f8f8;;}}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-85559158 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-85559158 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-85559158 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-85559158 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-85559158 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-85559158{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-85559158 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 960px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-85559158{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;padding-top: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 10px;padding-right: 10px;margin-top: 60px !important;margin-bottom: 60px !important;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-ea16301a{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-ea16301a > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a.uagb-layout-grid > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{row-gap: 40px;column-gap: 40px;grid-template-columns: minmax( 1px, 1fr)  minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;grid-template-rows: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;align-items: start;justify-items: stretch;align-content: stretch;justify-content: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;padding-top: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;padding-right: 0px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a.wp-block-uagb-container > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not( .spectra-container-link-overlay ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox):not(.wp-block-uagb-lottie):not(.uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap){width: auto !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a.wp-block-uagb-container > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox){width: auto !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-26ccc5c9 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-26ccc5c9 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-26ccc5c9 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-26ccc5c9 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-26ccc5c9 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-26ccc5c9{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-26ccc5c9 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: flex-start;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-26ccc5c9{min-height: 710px;box-shadow: 3px 7px 7px -1px rgba(0,0,0,0.15) ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;background-color: #ffffff;;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: flex-start;flex-wrap: nowrap;align-self: start;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-84f50fa3 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-84f50fa3 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-84f50fa3 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-84f50fa3 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-84f50fa3 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;background: url(https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/07\/Grow-with-your-family_545x307.jpg) 50% 50%;;background-size: cover;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-84f50fa3{max-width: 100vw;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-84f50fa3 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-84f50fa3{min-height: 250px;box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;background-repeat: no-repeat;background-position: 50% 50%;background-size: cover;background-attachment: scroll;background-image: url(https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2025\/03\/Grow-with-your-family_545x307.webp);background-clip: padding-box;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-271bf38d .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-271bf38d .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-271bf38d .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-271bf38d .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-271bf38d .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-271bf38d{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-271bf38d > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;row-gap: 40px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-271bf38d{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;padding-top: 20px;padding-bottom: 40px;padding-left: 40px;padding-right: 40px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;row-gap: 40px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-ab8d0982{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-ab8d0982 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982.uagb-layout-grid{row-gap: 8px;column-gap: 8px;grid-template-columns: auto  minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;grid-template-rows: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;align-items: stretch;justify-items: stretch;align-content: stretch;justify-content: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982.wp-block-uagb-container > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not( .spectra-container-link-overlay ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox):not(.wp-block-uagb-lottie):not(.uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap){width: auto !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982.wp-block-uagb-container > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox){width: auto !important;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d4c1a7e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-heading-text{color: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d4c1a7e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-desc-text{margin-bottom: 15px;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d4c1a7e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight{font-style: normal;font-weight: Default;background: #007cba;color: #fff;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d4c1a7e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight::-moz-selection{color: #fff;background: #007cba;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d4c1a7e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight::selection{color: #fff;background: #007cba;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d4c1a7e3 .uagb-heading-text{font-weight: 300;font-size: 16px;}.uagb-block-f9d54988.wp-block-uagb-separator{text-align: left;}.uagb-block-f9d54988.wp-block-uagb-separator--text .wp-block-uagb-separator-element .uagb-html-tag{font-style: normal;line-height: 1em;}.uagb-block-f9d54988 .uagb-separator-spacing-wrapper{padding-top: 4px;padding-bottom: 4px;}.uagb-block-f9d54988.wp-block-uagb-separator:not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--text):not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--icon) .wp-block-uagb-separator__inner{-webkit-mask-size: 5px 100%;border-top-width: 3px;width: 100%;border-top-color: #eabe5e;border-top-style: solid;margin-top: 5px;margin-bottom: 5px;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-3208cc36.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-heading-text{color: #006a5a;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-3208cc36.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-desc-text{margin-bottom: 15px;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-3208cc36.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight{font-style: normal;font-weight: Default;background: #007cba;color: #fff;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-3208cc36.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight::-moz-selection{color: #fff;background: #007cba;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-3208cc36.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight::selection{color: #fff;background: #007cba;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-3208cc36 .uagb-heading-text{font-weight: 400;font-size: 26px;line-height: 1.2em;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .uagb-icon-list__source-image{width: 18px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap svg{width: 18px;height: 18px;font-size: 18px;color: #1573a2;fill: #1573a2;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{padding: 0px;border-radius: 0px;border-width: 0px;align-self: center;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__label{font-size: 20px;text-decoration: !important;line-height: em;color: #1573a2;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .uagb-icon-list__wrap{display: flex;flex-direction: column;justify-content: center;-webkit-box-pack: center;-ms-flex-pack: center;-webkit-box-align: flex-start;-ms-flex-align: flex-start;align-items: flex-start;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .uagb-icon-list__label{text-align: left;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child{text-decoration: !important;font-size: 20px;line-height: em;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd.wp-block-uagb-icon-list .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child{margin-left: 0;margin-right: 0;margin-bottom: 24px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{margin-left: 15px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child {flex-direction: row-reverse;}.uagb-block-fdd052c2.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-fdd052c2.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child:hover .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-679dc0da.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-679dc0da.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child:hover .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-fbb8dca6.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-fbb8dca6.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child:hover .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-b5e9a44d.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-b5e9a44d.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child:hover .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-10525170.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-10525170.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child:hover .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-48a597f8 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-48a597f8 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-48a597f8 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-48a597f8 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-48a597f8 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-48a597f8{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-48a597f8 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: flex-start;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-48a597f8{min-height: 710px;box-shadow: 3px 7px 7px -1px rgba(0,0,0,0.15) ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;background-color: #ffffff;;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: flex-start;flex-wrap: nowrap;align-self: start;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-22a41c70 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-22a41c70 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-22a41c70 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-22a41c70 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-22a41c70 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;background: url(https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/07\/Grow-with-your-family_545x307.jpg) 50% 50%;;background-size: cover;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-22a41c70{max-width: 100vw;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-22a41c70 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-22a41c70{min-height: 250px;box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;background-repeat: no-repeat;background-position: 50% 50%;background-size: cover;background-attachment: scroll;background-image: url(https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2025\/03\/HelpFamiliesGrow2.webp);background-clip: padding-box;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-562935bf .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-562935bf .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-562935bf .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-562935bf .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-562935bf .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-562935bf{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-562935bf > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;row-gap: 40px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-562935bf{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;padding-top: 20px;padding-bottom: 40px;padding-left: 40px;padding-right: 40px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;row-gap: 40px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-5a1442f2{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-5a1442f2 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2.uagb-layout-grid{row-gap: 8px;column-gap: 8px;grid-template-columns: auto  minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;grid-template-rows: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;align-items: stretch;justify-items: stretch;align-content: stretch;justify-content: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2.wp-block-uagb-container > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not( .spectra-container-link-overlay ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox):not(.wp-block-uagb-lottie):not(.uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap){width: auto !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2.wp-block-uagb-container > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox){width: auto !important;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d9c0200f.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-heading-text{color: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d9c0200f.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-desc-text{margin-bottom: 15px;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d9c0200f.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight{font-style: normal;font-weight: Default;background: #007cba;color: #fff;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d9c0200f.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight::-moz-selection{color: #fff;background: #007cba;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d9c0200f.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight::selection{color: #fff;background: #007cba;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d9c0200f .uagb-heading-text{font-weight: 300;font-size: 16px;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e.wp-block-uagb-separator{text-align: left;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e.wp-block-uagb-separator--text .wp-block-uagb-separator-element .uagb-html-tag{font-style: normal;line-height: 1em;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e .uagb-separator-spacing-wrapper{padding-top: 4px;padding-bottom: 4px;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e.wp-block-uagb-separator:not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--text):not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--icon) .wp-block-uagb-separator__inner{-webkit-mask-size: 5px 100%;border-top-width: 3px;width: 100%;border-top-color: #eabe5e;border-top-style: solid;margin-top: 5px;margin-bottom: 5px;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-31f155e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-heading-text{color: #006a5a;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-31f155e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-desc-text{margin-bottom: 15px;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-31f155e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight{font-style: normal;font-weight: Default;background: #007cba;color: #fff;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-31f155e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight::-moz-selection{color: #fff;background: #007cba;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-31f155e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight::selection{color: #fff;background: #007cba;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-31f155e3 .uagb-heading-text{font-weight: 400;font-size: 26px;line-height: 1.2em;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .uagb-icon-list__source-image{width: 18px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap svg{width: 18px;height: 18px;font-size: 18px;color: #1573a2;fill: #1573a2;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{padding: 0px;border-radius: 0px;border-width: 0px;align-self: center;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__label{font-size: 20px;text-decoration: !important;line-height: em;color: #1573a2;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .uagb-icon-list__wrap{display: flex;flex-direction: column;justify-content: center;-webkit-box-pack: center;-ms-flex-pack: center;-webkit-box-align: flex-start;-ms-flex-align: flex-start;align-items: flex-start;padding-top: 0px;padding-right: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .uagb-icon-list__label{text-align: left;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child{text-decoration: !important;font-size: 20px;line-height: em;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64.wp-block-uagb-icon-list .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child{margin-left: 0;margin-right: 0;margin-bottom: 24px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{margin-left: 15px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child {flex-direction: row-reverse;}.uagb-block-83befcbf.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-83befcbf.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child:hover .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-75d2f158.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-75d2f158.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child:hover .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-0d14af90.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-0d14af90.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child:hover .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-4dd6f9d3.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-4dd6f9d3.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child:hover .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-28c58e21.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}.uagb-block-28c58e21.wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child:hover .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{background:  !important;border-color:  !important;}@media only screen and (max-width: 976px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-85559158{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-85559158 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-85559158{padding-top: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 10px;padding-right: 10px;margin-top: 60px !important;margin-bottom: 60px !important;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-ea16301a{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-ea16301a > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a.uagb-layout-grid > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{grid-template-columns: minmax( 1px, 1fr)  minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;grid-template-rows: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;align-items: stretch;justify-items: stretch;align-content: stretch;justify-content: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a{padding-top: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;padding-right: 0px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-26ccc5c9{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-26ccc5c9 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-26ccc5c9{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #ffffff;;grid-column: span 1;grid-row: span 1;align-self: stretch;justify-self: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-84f50fa3{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-84f50fa3 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-84f50fa3{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-position: 54% 48%;background-size: cover;background-image: url(https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2025\/03\/Grow-with-your-family_545x307.webp);background-clip: padding-box;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-271bf38d{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-271bf38d > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-271bf38d{padding-top: 20px;padding-bottom: 40px;padding-left: 40px;padding-right: 40px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-ab8d0982{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-ab8d0982 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982.uagb-layout-grid{grid-template-columns: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;grid-template-rows: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;align-items: stretch;justify-items: stretch;align-content: stretch;justify-content: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982.wp-block-uagb-container > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not( .spectra-container-link-overlay ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox):not(.wp-block-uagb-lottie):not(.uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap){width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982.wp-block-uagb-container > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox){width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d4c1a7e3 .uagb-heading-text{font-size: 12px;letter-spacing: 1px;}.uagb-block-f9d54988.wp-block-uagb-separator{text-align: center;}.uagb-block-f9d54988.wp-block-uagb-separator--text .wp-block-uagb-separator-element .uagb-html-tag{font-style: normal;margin-bottom: initial;line-height: 1em;}.uagb-block-f9d54988 .uagb-separator-spacing-wrapper{padding-top: 10px;padding-bottom: 10px;}.uagb-block-f9d54988.wp-block-uagb-separator:not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--text):not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--icon) .wp-block-uagb-separator__inner{-webkit-mask-size: 5px 100%;width: 100%;border-top-color: #eabe5e;border-top-style: solid;margin-top: 5px;margin-bottom: 5px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .uagb-icon-list__source-image{width: 18px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap svg{width: 18px;height: 18px;font-size: 18px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap {padding: 0px;border-width: 0px;align-self: center;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .uagb-icon-list__wrap{display: flex;flex-direction: column;justify-content: center;-webkit-box-pack: center;-ms-flex-pack: center;-webkit-box-align: flex-start;-ms-flex-align: flex-start;align-items: flex-start;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd.wp-block-uagb-icon-list .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child{margin-left: 0;margin-right: 0;margin-bottom: 24px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-48a597f8{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-48a597f8 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-48a597f8{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #ffffff;;grid-column: span 1;grid-row: span 1;align-self: stretch;justify-self: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-22a41c70{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-22a41c70 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-22a41c70{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-position: 54% 48%;background-size: cover;background-image: url(https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2025\/03\/HelpFamiliesGrow2.webp);background-clip: padding-box;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-562935bf{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-562935bf > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-562935bf{padding-top: 20px;padding-bottom: 40px;padding-left: 40px;padding-right: 40px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-5a1442f2{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-5a1442f2 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2.uagb-layout-grid{grid-template-columns: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;grid-template-rows: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;align-items: stretch;justify-items: stretch;align-content: stretch;justify-content: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2.wp-block-uagb-container > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not( .spectra-container-link-overlay ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox):not(.wp-block-uagb-lottie):not(.uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap){width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2.wp-block-uagb-container > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox){width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d9c0200f .uagb-heading-text{font-size: 12px;letter-spacing: 1px;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e.wp-block-uagb-separator{text-align: center;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e.wp-block-uagb-separator--text .wp-block-uagb-separator-element .uagb-html-tag{font-style: normal;margin-bottom: initial;line-height: 1em;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e .uagb-separator-spacing-wrapper{padding-top: 10px;padding-bottom: 10px;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e.wp-block-uagb-separator:not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--text):not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--icon) .wp-block-uagb-separator__inner{-webkit-mask-size: 5px 100%;width: 100%;border-top-color: #eabe5e;border-top-style: solid;margin-top: 5px;margin-bottom: 5px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .uagb-icon-list__source-image{width: 18px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap svg{width: 18px;height: 18px;font-size: 18px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap {padding: 0px;border-width: 0px;align-self: center;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .uagb-icon-list__wrap{display: flex;flex-direction: column;justify-content: center;-webkit-box-pack: center;-ms-flex-pack: center;-webkit-box-align: flex-start;-ms-flex-align: flex-start;align-items: flex-start;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64.wp-block-uagb-icon-list .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child{margin-left: 0;margin-right: 0;margin-bottom: 24px;}}@media only screen and (max-width: 767px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-85559158{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-85559158 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-85559158{padding-top: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 10px;padding-right: 10px;margin-top: 60px !important;margin-bottom: 60px !important;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-ea16301a{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-ea16301a > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a.uagb-layout-grid > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{grid-template-columns: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;grid-template-rows: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;align-items: stretch;justify-items: stretch;align-content: stretch;justify-content: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ea16301a{padding-top: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;padding-right: 0px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-26ccc5c9{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-26ccc5c9 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-26ccc5c9{padding-top: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;padding-right: 0px;margin-top: 0px !important;margin-bottom: 0px !important;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;order: initial;background-color: #ffffff;;flex-wrap: wrap;grid-column: span 1;grid-row: span 1;align-self: stretch;justify-self: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-84f50fa3{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-84f50fa3 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-84f50fa3{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-image: url(https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2025\/03\/Grow-with-your-family_545x307.webp);background-clip: padding-box;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-271bf38d{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-271bf38d > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-271bf38d{padding-top: 20px;padding-bottom: 40px;padding-left: 40px;padding-right: 40px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-ab8d0982{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-ab8d0982 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982.uagb-layout-grid{grid-template-columns: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;grid-template-rows: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;align-items: stretch;justify-items: stretch;align-content: stretch;justify-content: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982.wp-block-uagb-container > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not( .spectra-container-link-overlay ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox):not(.wp-block-uagb-lottie):not(.uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap){width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ab8d0982.wp-block-uagb-container > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox){width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d4c1a7e3.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading {padding-left: 40px;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d4c1a7e3 .uagb-heading-text{letter-spacing: 4px;}.uagb-block-f9d54988.wp-block-uagb-separator{text-align: center;}.uagb-block-f9d54988.wp-block-uagb-separator--text .wp-block-uagb-separator-element .uagb-html-tag{font-style: normal;margin-bottom: initial;line-height: 1em;}.uagb-block-f9d54988 .uagb-separator-spacing-wrapper{padding-top: 10px;padding-bottom: 10px;}.uagb-block-f9d54988.wp-block-uagb-separator:not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--text):not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--icon) .wp-block-uagb-separator__inner{-webkit-mask-size: 5px 100%;width: 100%;border-top-color: #eabe5e;border-top-style: solid;margin-top: 5px;margin-bottom: 5px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .uagb-icon-list__source-image{width: 18px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap svg{width: 18px;height: 18px;font-size: 18px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{padding: 0px;border-width: 0px;align-self: center;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd .uagb-icon-list__wrap{display: flex;flex-direction: column;justify-content: center;-webkit-box-pack: center;-ms-flex-pack: center;-webkit-box-align: flex-start;-ms-flex-align: flex-start;align-items: flex-start;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-cbb8c5bd.wp-block-uagb-icon-list .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child{margin-left: 0;margin-right: 0;margin-bottom: 24px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-48a597f8{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-48a597f8 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-48a597f8{padding-top: 0px;padding-bottom: 0px;padding-left: 0px;padding-right: 0px;margin-top: 0px !important;margin-bottom: 0px !important;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;order: initial;background-color: #ffffff;;flex-wrap: wrap;grid-column: span 1;grid-row: span 1;align-self: stretch;justify-self: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-22a41c70{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-22a41c70 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-22a41c70{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-image: url(https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2025\/03\/HelpFamiliesGrow2.webp);background-clip: padding-box;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-562935bf{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-562935bf > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-562935bf{padding-top: 20px;padding-bottom: 40px;padding-left: 40px;padding-right: 40px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-5a1442f2{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-5a1442f2 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2.uagb-layout-grid{grid-template-columns: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;grid-template-rows: minmax( 1px, 1fr) ;align-items: stretch;justify-items: stretch;align-content: stretch;justify-content: stretch;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2.wp-block-uagb-container > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not( .spectra-container-link-overlay ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox):not(.wp-block-uagb-lottie):not(.uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap){width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5a1442f2.wp-block-uagb-container > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox){width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d9c0200f.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading {padding-left: 40px;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-d9c0200f .uagb-heading-text{letter-spacing: 4px;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e.wp-block-uagb-separator{text-align: center;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e.wp-block-uagb-separator--text .wp-block-uagb-separator-element .uagb-html-tag{font-style: normal;margin-bottom: initial;line-height: 1em;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e .uagb-separator-spacing-wrapper{padding-top: 10px;padding-bottom: 10px;}.uagb-block-aa17f10e.wp-block-uagb-separator:not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--text):not(.wp-block-uagb-separator--icon) .wp-block-uagb-separator__inner{-webkit-mask-size: 5px 100%;width: 100%;border-top-color: #eabe5e;border-top-style: solid;margin-top: 5px;margin-bottom: 5px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .uagb-icon-list__source-image{width: 18px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap svg{width: 18px;height: 18px;font-size: 18px;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child .uagb-icon-list__source-wrap{padding: 0px;border-width: 0px;align-self: center;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64 .uagb-icon-list__wrap{display: flex;flex-direction: column;justify-content: center;-webkit-box-pack: center;-ms-flex-pack: center;-webkit-box-align: flex-start;-ms-flex-align: flex-start;align-items: flex-start;}.wp-block-uagb-icon-list.uagb-block-ced20c64.wp-block-uagb-icon-list .wp-block-uagb-icon-list-child{margin-left: 0;margin-right: 0;margin-bottom: 24px;}}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ecebc267 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ecebc267 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ecebc267 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ecebc267 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ecebc267 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-ecebc267{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ecebc267{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;background: linear-gradient(130deg, #ffffff 60%, #f8f8f8 46%);;background-clip: padding-box;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}@media only screen and (max-width: 976px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-ecebc267{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ecebc267{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background: linear-gradient(130deg, #ffffff 60%, #f8f8f8 46%);;background-clip: padding-box;}}@media only screen and (max-width: 767px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-ecebc267{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-ecebc267{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background: linear-gradient(130deg, #ffffff 60%, #f8f8f8 46%);;background-clip: padding-box;flex-wrap: wrap;}}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-8d4ac8a0{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: row;align-items: flex-start;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;row-gap: 32px;column-gap: 32px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;padding-top: 80px;padding-bottom: 80px;padding-left: 12px;padding-right: 12px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;row-gap: 32px;column-gap: 32px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{max-width: 25%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;max-width: 25% !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{max-width: 25%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;max-width: 25% !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{max-width: 25%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;max-width: 25% !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{max-width: 25%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;max-width: 25% !important;}@media only screen and (max-width: 976px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-8d4ac8a0{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0{padding-top: 80px;padding-bottom: 80px;padding-left: 12px;padding-right: 12px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;max-width:  !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;max-width:  !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;max-width:  !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;max-width:  !important;}}@media only screen and (max-width: 767px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-8d4ac8a0{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-8d4ac8a0{padding-top: 80px;padding-bottom: 80px;padding-left: 12px;padding-right: 12px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;flex-wrap: wrap;max-width: 100% !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;flex-wrap: wrap;max-width: 100% !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;flex-wrap: wrap;max-width: 100% !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-047d9c4f{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-047d9c4f{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;flex-wrap: wrap;max-width: 100% !important;}}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-f064f662.wp-block-uagb-container{color: #ffffff;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-f064f662.wp-block-uagb-container *{color: #ffffff;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-f064f662 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-f064f662 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-f064f662 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-f064f662 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-f064f662 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-f064f662{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-f064f662 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;row-gap: 20px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-f064f662{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;padding-top: 20px;padding-bottom: 20px;padding-left: 12px;padding-right: 12px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;background-color: #25282a;;row-gap: 20px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-dbd5f6c0{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: row;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;row-gap: 20px;column-gap: 32px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;flex-direction: row;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;row-gap: 20px;column-gap: 32px;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0.wp-block-uagb-container > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not( .spectra-container-link-overlay ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox):not(.wp-block-uagb-lottie):not(.uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap){width: auto !important;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0.wp-block-uagb-container > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap > *:not( .wp-block-uagb-column ):not( .wp-block-uagb-section ):not( .uagb-container__shape ):not( .uagb-container__video-wrap ):not( .uagb-slider-container ):not(.spectra-image-gallery__control-lightbox){width: auto !important;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image--layout-default figure img{box-shadow: 0px 0px 0 #00000070;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image .wp-block-uagb-image__figure figcaption{font-style: normal;align-self: center;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay figure img{box-shadow: 0px 0px 0 #00000070;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay .wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay__color-wrapper{opacity: 0.2;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay .wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay__inner{left: 15px;right: 15px;top: 15px;bottom: 15px;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay .wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay__inner .uagb-image-heading{font-style: normal;color: #fff;opacity: 1;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay .wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay__inner .uagb-image-heading a{color: #fff;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay .wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay__inner .uagb-image-caption{opacity: 0;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay .wp-block-uagb-image__figure:hover .wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay__color-wrapper{opacity: 1;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image .wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay__inner .uagb-image-separator{width: 30%;border-top-width: 2px;border-top-color: #fff;opacity: 0;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image .wp-block-uagb-image__figure img{width: 292px;height: 48px;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image .wp-block-uagb-image__figure:hover .wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay__inner .uagb-image-caption{opacity: 1;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image .wp-block-uagb-image__figure:hover .wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay__inner .uagb-image-separator{opacity: 1;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image--layout-default figure:hover img{box-shadow: 0px 0px 0 #00000070;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image--layout-overlay figure:hover img{box-shadow: 0px 0px 0 #00000070;}@media only screen and (max-width: 976px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-f064f662{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-f064f662 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-f064f662{padding-top: 20px;padding-bottom: 20px;padding-left: 12px;padding-right: 12px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #25282a;;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-dbd5f6c0{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image .wp-block-uagb-image__figure img{width: 280px;height: 45px;}}@media only screen and (max-width: 767px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-f064f662{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-f064f662 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-f064f662{padding-top: 20px;padding-bottom: 20px;padding-left: 12px;padding-right: 12px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #25282a;;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-dbd5f6c0{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-dbd5f6c0{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;flex-wrap: wrap;}.uagb-block-644e4891.wp-block-uagb-image .wp-block-uagb-image__figure img{width: 280px;height: 45px;}}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-beb12949{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-beb12949 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;background-color: #006c5b;;}@media only screen and (max-width: 976px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-beb12949{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-beb12949 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #006c5b;;}}@media only screen and (max-width: 767px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-beb12949{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-beb12949 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #006c5b;;}}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-beb12949{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-beb12949 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;background-color: #006c5b;;}@media only screen and (max-width: 976px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-beb12949{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-beb12949 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #006c5b;;}}@media only screen and (max-width: 767px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-beb12949{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-beb12949 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-beb12949{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #006c5b;;}}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5096eaa1 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5096eaa1 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5096eaa1 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5096eaa1 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5096eaa1 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-5096eaa1{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-5096eaa1 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5096eaa1{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-color: inherit;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-89b3b7a8 .uagb-container__shape-top svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-89b3b7a8 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-top .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-89b3b7a8 .uagb-container__shape-bottom svg{width: calc( 100% + 1.3px );}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-89b3b7a8 .uagb-container__shape.uagb-container__shape-bottom .uagb-container__shape-fill{fill: rgba(51,51,51,1);}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-89b3b7a8 .uagb-container__video-wrap video{opacity: 1;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-89b3b7a8{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-89b3b7a8 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1320px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-direction: column;align-items: center;justify-content: center;flex-wrap: nowrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-89b3b7a8{box-shadow: 0px 0px   #00000070 ;padding-top: 2em;padding-bottom: 2em;padding-left: 2em;padding-right: 2em;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;overflow: visible;order: initial;border-top-left-radius: 30px;border-top-right-radius: 30px;border-bottom-left-radius: 30px;border-bottom-right-radius: 30px;border-color: inherit;background-color: #ebebeb;;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-97ee3d2f.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-desc-text{margin-bottom: 15px;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-97ee3d2f.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight{font-style: normal;font-weight: Default;background: #007cba;color: #fff;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-97ee3d2f.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight::-moz-selection{color: #fff;background: #007cba;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading.uagb-block-97ee3d2f.wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading .uagb-highlight::selection{color: #fff;background: #007cba;-webkit-text-fill-color: #fff;}.uagb-block-232092dc.wp-block-uagb-buttons.uagb-buttons__outer-wrap .uagb-buttons__wrap {gap: 10px;}.uagb-block-232092dc.uagb-buttons__outer-wrap .uagb-buttons__wrap {justify-content: left;align-items: center;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611.wp-block-uagb-buttons-child .uagb-buttons-repeater{background: #f3bd48;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .wp-block-button__link{background: #f3bd48;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .wp-block-button__link:hover{background: #f4deaa;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .wp-block-button__link:focus{background: #f4deaa;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-button__wrapper .uagb-buttons-repeater{color: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .wp-block-button__link.has-text-color:hover .uagb-button__link{color: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .wp-block-button__link.has-text-color:focus .uagb-button__link{color: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-button__wrapper  .uagb-buttons-repeater.wp-block-button__link{box-shadow: 0px 0px 0 #00000026;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-button__wrapper  .uagb-buttons-repeater.wp-block-button__link:hover{box-shadow: 0px 0px 0 #00000026;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater.wp-block-button__link{border-color: #333;border-style: none;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater.wp-block-button__link:hover{border-color: #333;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater.wp-block-button__link:focus{border-color: #333;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611.wp-block-button.is-style-outline .uagb-button__wrapper .wp-block-button__link.uagb-buttons-repeater{border-color: #333;border-style: none;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611.wp-block-button.is-style-outline .uagb-button__wrapper .wp-block-button__link.uagb-buttons-repeater:hover{border-color: #333;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater .uagb-button__link{color: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater:hover .uagb-button__link{color: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater:focus .uagb-button__link{color: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater .uagb-button__icon > svg{width: 15px;height: 15px;fill: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater:hover .uagb-button__icon > svg{fill: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater:focus .uagb-button__icon > svg{fill: #25282a;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater .uagb-button__icon-position-after{margin-left: 8px;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater .uagb-button__icon-position-before{margin-right: 8px;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-button__link{text-transform: normal;text-decoration: none;}@media only screen and (max-width: 976px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-5096eaa1{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-5096eaa1 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5096eaa1{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-89b3b7a8{width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-89b3b7a8 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 1024px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-89b3b7a8{padding-top: 2px;padding-bottom: 2px;padding-left: 2px;padding-right: 2px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #ebebeb;;}.uagb-block-232092dc.uagb-buttons__outer-wrap .uagb-buttons__wrap {justify-content: center;align-items: center;}.uagb-block-232092dc.uagb-buttons__outer-wrap .uagb-buttons__wrap .wp-block-button{width: auto;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611.wp-block-button.is-style-outline .uagb-button__wrapper .wp-block-button__link.uagb-buttons-repeater{border-style: none;border-color: #333;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater.wp-block-button__link{border-style: none;border-color: #333;}}@media only screen and (max-width: 767px) {.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-5096eaa1{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-5096eaa1 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-5096eaa1{margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container .uagb-block-89b3b7a8{max-width: 100%;width: 100%;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-is-root-container.alignfull.uagb-block-89b3b7a8 > .uagb-container-inner-blocks-wrap{--inner-content-custom-width: min( 100%, 767px);max-width: var(--inner-content-custom-width);width: 100%;flex-wrap: wrap;}.wp-block-uagb-container.uagb-block-89b3b7a8{padding-top: 2px;padding-bottom: 2px;padding-left: 2px;padding-right: 2px;margin-top:  !important;margin-bottom:  !important;order: initial;background-color: #ebebeb;;}.uagb-block-232092dc.uagb-buttons__outer-wrap .uagb-buttons__wrap {justify-content: center;align-items: center;}.uagb-block-232092dc.uagb-buttons__outer-wrap .uagb-buttons__wrap .wp-block-button{width: auto;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611.wp-block-button.is-style-outline .uagb-button__wrapper .wp-block-button__link.uagb-buttons-repeater{border-style: none;border-color: #333;}.wp-block-uagb-buttons .uagb-block-00708611 .uagb-buttons-repeater.wp-block-button__link{border-style: none;border-color: #333;}}\";s:2:\"js\";s:161:\"document.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\", function(){ window.addEventListener( 'load', function() {\n\tUAGBButtonChild.init( '.uagb-block-00708611' );\n});\n });\";s:18:\"current_block_list\";a:17:{i:0;s:14:\"uagb\/container\";i:1;s:12:\"core\/heading\";i:2;s:9:\"core\/html\";i:3;s:10:\"core\/group\";i:6;s:21:\"uagb\/advanced-heading\";i:7;s:14:\"uagb\/separator\";i:8;s:14:\"uagb\/icon-list\";i:9;s:20:\"uagb\/icon-list-child\";i:10;s:11:\"core\/search\";i:13;s:18:\"core\/legacy-widget\";i:16;s:10:\"uagb\/image\";i:17;s:17:\"core\/social-links\";i:18;s:16:\"core\/social-link\";i:19;s:14:\"core\/paragraph\";i:20;s:30:\"meta-box\/fl-conditional-blocks\";i:21;s:12:\"uagb\/buttons\";i:22;s:18:\"uagb\/buttons-child\";}s:8:\"uag_flag\";b:1;s:11:\"uag_version\";i:1778143953;s:6:\"gfonts\";a:1:{s:7:\"Default\";a:2:{s:10:\"fontfamily\";s:7:\"Default\";s:12:\"fontvariants\";a:0:{}}}s:10:\"gfonts_url\";s:71:\"\/\/fonts.googleapis.com\/css?family=Default&subset=latin&display=fallback\";s:12:\"gfonts_files\";a:0:{}s:14:\"uag_faq_layout\";b:0;}"]},"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/1001\/2024\/09\/FLT-Podcast-Cover-2-508x508-3.jpg",508,508,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"kfairris@familylife.com","author_link":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/author\/kfairrisfamilylife-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Author Jen Weaver made a vow to her husband on their wedding day that she would \"try\" to love, honor, and obey him. She soon realized how much she needed Jesus to be the third party in their union.","meta_box":{"show_notes":"","transcript_url":"https:\/\/transcript.familylifetoday.com\/fl2019-01-03.pdf","transcript_content":"<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Every husband\/every wife has a desire for their marriage to flourish and to thrive. Jen Weaver says a big part of your marriage thriving is for you to learn to trust God.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>I think when we step back and we say, \u201cWell, my marriage will be better if we could come at it together,\u201d or \u201cIf only my husband would fix these things, then things would improve.\u201d I think we\u2019re missing a part of the picture, where Jesus wants to do a work in us. He\u2019s capable of doing a work in our marriages, independent of what our husbands do, just by how we live\u2014by how we trust God \/ by how we walk in obedience to what He says.\n\nYes; it is <em>ideal<\/em> for you both to be on the same page\u2014for you and your husband to come and work on things together\u2014but there is favor that rests on a woman, when she trusts God with her marriage \/ when she trusts and receives her husband as a gift from the Lord, even when he\u2019s not at that place of fully acting on it yet.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> for Thursday, January 3<sup>rd<\/sup>.\n\n<strong>1:00<\/strong>\n\nOur host is Dennis Rainey, and I'm Bob Lepine. Learning to trust God in your marriage is easier said than done, but it is key to your marriage thriving. We\u2019re going to hear more about that today from Jen Weaver. Stay with us.\n\nAnd welcome to <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. Thanks for joining us. So, we\u2019re finally going to get the secret.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We are!\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I\u2019ve been looking for the secret for awhile; we <em>finally<\/em> have got the secret ready to unfold today.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Jen Weaver joins us on the broadcast. What is the secret of a wife truly being happy?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Oh man, trusting God and all the things that come with that! [Laughter]\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>We\u2019re going to get to that question in a second. Jen is a first-time guest on <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>. She is from the Dallas\/Fort Worth area, married to Jared since 2008, has two children, and has a great blog and a new book called <em>A Wife\u2019s Secret to Happiness<\/em>.\n\nI love the way you and Jared started your marriage.\n\n<strong>2:00<\/strong>\n\nYou guys decided you would be courageous and write your own vows. How did that go for you?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>It was great! It was a little intimidating at first, though; because I wanted the vows to be kind of simple, because I wanted to achieve them. Thankfully, we had premarital counseling. The pastor we met with\u2014he explained\/he said: \u201cYour vows are things that you\u2019re aspiring to. Set high goals. You don\u2019t want to set goals that are easy for you to hit tomorrow and then you\u2019re like, \u2018I got this.\u2019\u201d [Laughter] We want to grow continually closer together and in our relationship with God, so our vows are lofty.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>At that point, you have to decide, specifically: \u201cWhat has God called you to be, as a wife?\u2014as a husband?\u2014and what has He called you to do?\u201d\n\nWhere is a wife supposed to start at this point, Jen?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>I think, for me, a lot of where I needed to start was recognizing that my life, as a wife, was an expression of my faith. It wasn\u2019t something separate from my relationship with God. If I trust God; and if I want to walk in obedience to what He says; and if I trust that He\u2019s going to equip me to be the wife who honors, and loves, and cherishes, and always puts my family first\u2014\n\n<strong>3:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014and honors my husband in that\u2014then I can trust that He\u2019ll equip me and He\u2019ll walk with me as I\u2019m learning to do that.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>This is where Ecclesiastes 4:12 kind of came on\u2014the lights came on for you when you read that verse; right?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes; yes, because we <em>need<\/em> Jesus as the third strand.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>The verse says that \u201cA cord of three strands is not easily broken.\u201d\n\nI remember hearing somebody tell me once about a braid\u2014braiding hair. They said, if you try to braid hair with two strands, no braid survives with two strands\u2014it all just falls apart\u2014you have to have the third strand. But when you look at braided hair, typically, all you can see is the two strands. You can\u2019t see that third strand that\u2019s running through the braid\u2014it looks like it\u2019s just two\u2014but there\u2019s really an invisible third strand in there.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Jen, do you know when your braid was first stretched, where you wondered if it was going to break, early, in your marriage?\u2014\n\n<strong>4:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014your first argument\/your first fight?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You do?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Oh, man, I have so many memories of them. One of the memories, actually, was a time I was complaining, where I thought I was praying; but I was before the Lord, complaining. [Laughter] He\u2019s often really dramatic with me, because I respond to Him that way. I heard God in my head, almost like His voice was echoing down a distant hallway, saying: \u201cAre you going to let Me in? Are you going to let Me into this room and actually be with you and talk with you about this?\u201d In that instance, I was complaining about my husband and some argument, and remember thinking: \u201cWell, God, aren\u2019t You here\u2014aren\u2019t You here, because I\u2019m praying? Isn\u2019t that what I\u2019m doing?\u201d\n\nHe started talking to me about how I needed to be intentional in bringing Him into my marriage\u2014that even though my husband and I were both believers, I was just assuming, \u201cOh, God, then that means You\u2019re here as a natural by-product,\u201d instead of recognizing: \u201cNo; I can be intentional in bringing Him in and asking God, \u2018What are You doing in this time? We\u2019re having an argument; Lord, what is the thing that <em>You<\/em> want to lead us to?\u2019\u201d\n\n<strong>5:00<\/strong>\n\nThat awareness changed everything for me.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>What does that look like, practically? I mean, when you talk about being aware or bringing God in, how does that manifest itself as you guys are going through life?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>One of the ways for me is\u2014I often <em>know<\/em> when I\u2019m about to broach a really difficult topic with Jared. I know when I\u2019m mad before he knows that I\u2019m mad. I\u2019ll go and I\u2019ll ask God: \u201cIs this something that I need to address right now? Is this something that really needs to come up to the surface, or do I need to let it go?\u201d\n\nAnd then, as we\u2019re going to go into this time of talking about difficult things\u2014where we have different opinions on what needs to happen with our kids, or our careers, or where we\u2019re going to live\u2014Jared and I will often pause and ask God to be in the conversation, before we get into it; so that the Lord will lead that instead of just our emotions or opinions.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>At that point, you describe your life as being a gateway, where you\u2019re inviting God to come into the relationship and be present there. Describe how you do that.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes; oh, a lot of it is pausing.\n\n<strong>6:00<\/strong>\n\nI want to pause and take stock of where I\u2019m at: \u201cOkay; how am I feeling? How am I handling this?\u201d because even when I\u2019m right in my opinion, I can be wrong in my approach. [Laughter] A lot of it is just pausing, not lashing out, not pushing Jared\u2019s buttons\u2014which, he\u2019s a lot better at this than I am. He is very calm; and sometimes, even, I get upset that he\u2019s calm in the midst of an argument. I\u2019m like: \u201cI\u2019m mad! Aren\u2019t you mad? Get mad!\u201d He\u2019s like: \u201cNo, babe, we\u2019re on the same team.\u201d Me winning in this isn\u2019t the goal\u2014that\u2019s not the win. Us being unified; us moving forward in a healthy way\u2014that\u2019s the win.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>My son, Samuel, is a counselor in Nashville. He wrote a piece the other day that was talking about how carpenters measure twice and cut once.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>It\u2019s kind of what you\u2019re talking about. You measure your words <em>twice<\/em> before you express them <em>once<\/em>. The best thing you\u2019re describing here is to pause and to bring the presence of God into your marriage at the point you have disagreement\u2014and perhaps a heated one\u2014\n\n<strong>7:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014where God can calm things down, and you can relax, and then you can have more of an objective discussion.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes; and then I\u2019m trusting Jesus to be in the midst of it\u2014to guide our conversation and for Him to bring about the end that He wants. Sometimes, I can advocate for myself\u2014I\u2019m just advocating, advocating, advocating; and it gets nowhere. Then, there are other times when God tells me, \u201cJust trust Me in this,\u201d and He brings things to Jared\u2019s attention\u2014hat it wouldn\u2019t have mattered if I told him 50 times\u2014when God spoke it to his heart, there\u2019s such drastic change.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>That\u2019s one of the things we talk with couples about at our <em>Weekend to Remember<\/em><sup>\u00ae<\/sup> marriage getaways. When there is conflict\u2014and there\u2019s going to be conflict in a marriage, because you have two imperfect people, who are trying to blend and make it work\u2014when that conflict occurs\u2014and when you feel like you need to address, or confront, or bring something up\u2014if you do pause, if you do go to God first, if you do examine your own heart on the matter first, this can lead to a lot of conflict being resolved before the two of you ever sit down and talk.\n\n<strong>8:00<\/strong>\n\nThere\u2019s a lot of conflict that you just need to overlook; or it was your own passions or your own heart that was the issue, and not anything that your spouse did. Now, you may still need to go ahead and press through and address some things that are big issues, but there\u2019s a lot of stuff that will fade away if you go to God with it first.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>True. And there are things that we can sometimes let fester that, really, if they\u2019re brought out into the light in casual, nonthreatening ways, can be resolved really quickly. I remember, in our first apartment, I lined up artwork on the hallway. If you walked down the hallway, there are all these pictures, and paintings, and prints, all on the carpet, leaning against the wall. It was like that for months.\n\nIn my home, growing up, my mom picked out the artwork and my dad would hang it. Well, in Jared\u2019s house, growing up, his mom handled the whole thing. [Laughter]\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>So, how was he at mind-reading?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>He was not good! And I was not happy about it! [Laughter]\n\n<strong>9:00<\/strong>\n\nFor <em>weeks<\/em>, he\u2019s thinking, \u201cWhy is she not just getting with the program and hanging the artwork?\u201d and I\u2019m thinking: \u201cI did my part! Why is he not doing his part?\u201d It wasn\u2019t until we actually had a conversation about it\u2014and it didn\u2019t need to be heated. I was upset about it; and I burst out one day, \u201cWhy aren\u2019t you doing this?!\u201d We actually had a conversation about it, and I realized it didn\u2019t really need to be a festering thing if we had just been able to talk about it.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Jen, there are a lot of women listening to you talk about your relationship with your husband; and they\u2019re going, \u201cYou know, things would be okay if I had a godly, spiritually-minded husband, who is listening to the Lord, and who\u2019s patient, and who puts up with my emotional outbursts and says, \u2018It\u2019s going to be okay, babe,\u2019\u201d; you know? [Laughter] I mean, the blessing of a godly husband is a blessing that a wife ought not take for granted.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes!\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>And you\u2019ve experienced this; but you\u2019ve also talked to a lot of women, who say, \u201cThat\u2019s not my story.\u201d\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>What do <em>they<\/em> do?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Oh, goodness, so it comes in all sorts of different ways.\n\n<strong>10:00<\/strong>\n\nI think one of the things that we need to recognize, as wives as well, is that\u2014while we\u2019re in a constant learning process \/ while we\u2019re constantly in this journey of drawing closer to Jesus and being made more into His likeness\u2014our husbands are as well. It can be easy to sit back and say, \u201cWell, if my husband got his act together, things in our marriage would be way better.\u201d\n\nBut that\u2019s part of why I wrote this book\u2014I wrote <em>A Wife\u2019s Secret to Happiness<\/em> specifically to the wives, because there are things that we can do in and of ourselves. I think when we step back and we say, \u201cWell, my marriage would be better if we could come at it together,\u201d or \u201cIf only my husband would fix these things, then things would improve,\u201d I think we\u2019re missing a part of the picture, where Jesus wants to do a work in <em>us<\/em>. He\u2019s capable of doing a work in our marriages, independent of what our husbands do, just by how we live\u2014by how we trust God \/ by how we walk in obedience to what He says.\n\nYes; it is <em>ideal<\/em> for you both to be on the same page\u2014for you and your husband to come and work on things together\u2014but there is favor that rests on a woman when she trusts God with her marriage\u2014\n\n<strong>11:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014when she trusts and receives her husband as a gift from the Lord, even when he\u2019s not at that place of fully acting in it yet.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What I would say to wives, as they go through process with their husbands: \u201cLet your kids, as they grow older, let your kids into the interior of that relationship; so they learn how you\u2019re processing and how you\u2019re applying your walk with Jesus Christ into the relationship. You\u2019re training them to know how to do relationships as they grow up and then, ultimately, with a partner in marriage.\u201d\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>At what level do you let your kids in? Because there are a lot of couples, who are listening, going, \u201cDo you mean fight in front of the kids?\u201d\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Stimulating arguments; yes\u2014they\u2019re with you in the kitchen; they\u2019re watching you two kind of go at it with each other and they\u2019re locked onto you. At that point, you have to stop and explain what\u2019s going on, and how you are processing, and how your faith in Christ and your trust in the Scriptures makes a difference in how you\u2019re treating your spouse.\n\n<strong>12:00<\/strong>\n\nI think you do that when they\u2019re little, when they\u2019re medium, and when they\u2019re big; because, at some point, they will leave the house and they\u2019re going to have their own relationships. You are their number-one trainer of how to do marriage.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Jen, I remember talking to Elisabeth Elliot years ago. I don\u2019t know if you know that name, but she was a writer and a speaker. She talked about the fact that a lot of wives look at their husbands the way that we look at an ink stain on a white shirt. She said if you look at a white shirt, and somebody has a leaky pen in their pocket, your eyes are immediately drawn to the spot that is right there, front and center, in what is an otherwise completely white shirt\u201499 percent white\u2014but it has that one ink spot right there.\n\nShe said a lot of wives are drawn to the failings of their husband, while ignoring the value\/the things that the husband brings that are worthy of honor and respect.\n\n<strong>13:00<\/strong>\n\nDo you find that hard for you?\u2014to focus on your husband\u2019s attributes rather than his flaws?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Oh, it\u2019s all about where I train my eyes; so yes. If I let myself focus on all of Jared\u2019s flaws\u2014I can pick them out; I can nitpick them with the best of them\u2014and that\u2019s true, too, with our boys. I want the way that I speak to Jared in front of our boys\u2014and not just in front of them, but including in front of them\u2014to speak to his character, to speak to his role in our family, to speak to what it means to be a husband\/what it means to be a father.\n\nIt\u2019s easy to look at the things that they don\u2019t do or to downplay the good that he does\u2014to think, \u201cOh, it\u2019s not that big a deal that he takes out the trash.\u201d But if I\u2019m only training my eyes to see the bad things and I\u2019m working to train my eyes to see the good things, then it\u2019s a <em>huge<\/em> deal that he takes out the trash; and it\u2019s a <em>huge<\/em> deal in how I see him, and how I speak to him, and how I view our relationship\u2014\n\n<strong>14:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014and how our boys see that: \u201cWow! Even this little thing\u2014Mom really loves that about Dad. Dad really cares for us in that way.\u201d\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You used the \u201cR\u201d-word, \u201crole.\u201d\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Your husband\u2019s role\u2014\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014you believe the Bibles teaches that a husband is to truly lead, love, and serve his wife and his family.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>I do!\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>A lot of young women today really recoil at the thought of having to follow their husband. Now, in following, it doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t be a partner in life; but at some point, somebody has to make a decision. You believe, at the point, after your husband has heard your opinion, he is the go-to person to make the final decision; right?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>I do, and there\u2019s freedom in that.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>You know that your response to what the Bible teaches about husbands leading and wives respecting and responding\u2014you know that\u2019s pretty countercultural\u2014\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>\u2014even in the church.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>\u2014even in the church!\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>So, when you talk with your peers, and they go, \u201cOh, come on\u2026\u201d\u2014\n\n<strong>15:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014tell me about those conversations.\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Well, they were intimidating at first. Even in starting to write the book, I would go back <em>constantly<\/em> and ask the Lord: \u201cGod, are You sure? Am I really understanding You right in this?\u201d [Laughter] because I would\u2014I would read other books or hear other speakers. A big thing that\u2019s talked about a lot, culturally, in the Christian world, right now, is mutual submission; and that you each submit to each other and you kind of take turns in what\u2019s most important and who makes the decisions.\n\nI just couldn\u2019t find that modeled in Scripture. I couldn\u2019t find that modeled even in the Trinity, when I would look at the roles that the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit play, and how each has a designated role. When Jesus asked God to send the Holy Spirit, and how Jesus says, \u201cIf this cup could be taken from me, but God, I\u2019m going to do what You say\u2026\u2014there is that transfer\/there\u2019s a hierarchy of authority, even in how the Godhead operates. I kept seeing, over and over again, how authority is transferred through submission\u2014\n\n<strong>16:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014and how I\u2019ve seen it play out in my own life.\n\nA lot of conversations with peers have really been encouraging them that, one, submission is not a dirty word\u2014it\u2019s not a product of the Fall, but it\u2019s a gift from our Father\u2014that it\u2019s intended to do good; it\u2019s intended to <em>empower<\/em> a woman when she submits to her husband. It doesn\u2019t mean to be a doormat; it doesn\u2019t mean to be silenced and not to have an opinion, but it means to yield your heart to your husband\u2014to trust him as the leader; to walk with him under covering; to share things in respectful ways, not dishonoring.\n\nThere\u2019s a big thing right now, just in culture overall\u2014that\u2019s very pro-women and, therefore, anti-men\u2014and that\u2019s not of God either. You can be for women and for men. I can be for the voice of a woman\u2014the role of a wife and the blessing, and authority, and gifts that God has given to a woman\u2014and also for the covering that God gives her through her husband.\n\n<strong>17:00<\/strong>\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>You know, the Bible begins with God stating three times, in I think three verses, Genesis 1:26-28\u2014He made them male and female to reflect His image. God created them male and female. It is God who determines sex; and it is also God who determines what the responsibilities are in this institution He also created, called marriage.\n\nHe\u2019s not trying to make people miserable in that. He\u2019s really trying to release two people to be responsible for their role. In the case of a man, he has to die to himself\u2014he has to empty himself out, just as Christ did when He went to the cross. And a woman has to die, also, to herself to fulfill her role. It\u2019s not that one gets to have their way and the other doesn\u2019t; it\u2019s that both people, who are followers of Christ, get to do so in an adventure, where you\u2019re fulfilling God\u2019s design and assignment for you, as a husband and a wife.\n\n<strong>18:00<\/strong>\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>In a lot of ways, I think the husband has a harder role; because he gets to give of himself like Christ gave Himself for the church, and he gets to love his wife like he loves himself. It is empowering for me, as a wife, because I get to trust Jared.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>But what if you\u2019re married to a guy, who\u2019s not a spiritually-minded, rock-solid guy like your husband is? What if you\u2019re married to somebody, who is self-oriented and self-interested? Is a wife supposed to submit to that guy?\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Abuse is never okay, and it doesn\u2019t just need to be physical forms of abuse\u2014it could be any form of abuse. When a husband becomes abusive, he\u2019s abdicating his role\u2014he\u2019s abdicating his role to do good to his wife\u2014and they need to have healing together. Both of them need to work on things to bring about the restoration of their marriage. I believe that God can restore every marriage, no matter where it is.\n\nFor the wife, though, that is struggling seeing her husband not being at the level that she wants\u2014he\u2019s a good guy; he\u2019s trying to do good\u2014\n\n<strong>19:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014but maybe he\u2019s being selfish, or maybe he\u2019s not seeking the Lord the way that she wants, or maybe he doesn\u2019t exhibit the elements of spiritual leadership that she wants in her home\u2014my encouragement to her is to bring all of that before the Lord: to draw near to God and ask Him, \u201cOkay; God, in this season, what does this need to look like for us?\u201d\n\nSome of it may just be submission in the way that she responds to him \/ in the way that she approaches difficult things. I can come to Jared and I can <em>demand<\/em> things of him, or I can <em>ask<\/em> things of him. I can come and say, \u201cHey, you\u2019re really messing up here,\u201d or I can come, saying, \u201cThis thing is hard for me; can we talk about ways that we could make this work better, together?\u201d So, in the yielding of her heart, a lot of that is just in how she positions her heart toward her husband.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; one of the things you say in your book: \u201cSubmission means a yielded heart, not a silenced one.\u201d\n\n<strong>Jen: <\/strong>Yes.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>What women need to do is express their opinion\/their perspective in a way where the husband can hear.\n\n<strong>20:00<\/strong>\n\nThere\u2019s a way a wife knows she can do that, where he will hear, and there\u2019s another where she knows she\u2019s going to get a reaction in the way she shares her opinion.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Well, and let\u2019s make sure the husband hears that he needs to be leading with love and care for his wife as a primary responsibility.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>\u2014with sacrifice.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>Right.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>That\u2019s the key; because a man, who gives up his life for his wife will earn her respect.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>I think both husbands and wives\u2014and this kind of takes us back to where we started\u2014both husbands and wives need to recognize that, at the end of the day, the person we want to please <em>most<\/em> in our relationship is not ourselves; it\u2019s not even our spouse\u2014we want God\u2019s joy and pleasure to be at the center of a relationship, not our own desires or passions.\n\n<strong>Dennis: <\/strong>Yes; and I love what Jen has as a subtitle for her book:\n\n<strong>21:00<\/strong>\n\n<em>Receiving, Honoring, and Celebrating God\u2019s Role for You in Your Marriage<\/em>. If you just take those words\u2014receiving, honoring, and celebrating\u2014those are all acts of faith that every woman, who\u2019s listening to this broadcast, will benefit from if she can step out and truly embrace God\u2019s design for her life.\n\n<strong>Bob: <\/strong>The book is called <em>A Wife\u2019s Secret to Happiness: Receiving, Honoring, and Celebrating God\u2019s Role for You in Your Marriage<\/em>. It\u2019s written by our guest today, Jen Weaver; and we have copies of the book in our <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> Resource Center. You can order the book from us, online, at FamilyLifeToday.com; or call 1-800-FL-TODAY.\n\nI\u2019m thinking that\u2014for a listener to get a copy of Jen\u2019s book and to get a copy of your wife, Barbara\u2019s, book, <em>Letters to My Daughters<\/em>\u2014read both of them together. That\u2019s a <em>great<\/em> foundation for understanding how you can be the woman that God\u2019s calling you to be in your marriage relationship.\n\n<strong>22:00<\/strong>\n\nAgain, find out more about both books when you go to FamilyLifeToday.com; or call if you have any questions or if you\u2019d like to order by phone: 1-800-358-6329\u20141-800-\u201cF\u201d as in family, \u201cL\u201d as in life, and then the word, \u201cTODAY.\u201d\n\nI want to read a note from a listener that came to us recently that was so encouraging. This was somebody who wrote in and said: \u201cYour broadcasts have made me reexamine myself and seek the Lord for change in my life. The information you provide on marriage has given me better insight on what it means to be a wife,\u201d\u2014the kind of things we\u2019ve been talking about here today.\n\nYou know, we <em>love<\/em> when we get those kinds of notes; and we also love it\u2014when we\u2019re in different parts of the country, and we run into <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> listeners, and we hear about how God has used this ministry and used Dennis and Barbara\u2019s books and other resources we\u2019ve created in your life. We\u2019d love to have you share your story with us. In fact, we\u2019ve set things up so you can call a voicemail line\u2014\n\n<strong>23:00<\/strong>\n\n\u2014you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY\u2014we\u2019ll put you into a voicemail box, and you can share with us your story about how God\u2019s used <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> in your life.\n\nIf you have a story like that, and you\u2019ve wanted to share it with us, would you just jot down a few notes, call 1-800-FL-TODAY, and leave us a recorded message? It would be a <em>great<\/em> encouragement to our whole team, here, at FamilyLife<sup>\u00ae<\/sup>. We\u2019d <em>love<\/em> to hear from you. Again, call 1-800-FL-TODAY to share your story with us, here, at <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\nLet me also say, again, a word of thanks to those of you who, at the end of 2018, got in touch with us to share a financial gift in support of this ministry. Our team is still hard at work trying to determine what the final numbers were and whether we were able to take full advantage of our matching-gift opportunity, so we don\u2019t have all that data in yet; but thanks to those of you who did make a yearend contribution and to those of you, who continue to support this ministry, month in and month out, as Legacy Partners.\n\n<strong>24:00<\/strong>\n\nWe\u2019re grateful for the partnership we have in providing practical biblical help and hope for marriages and families in your community and all around the world.\n\nAnd we hope you can join us back tomorrow when we\u2019re going to continue talking about how a wife can reduce stress and busyness and embrace God\u2019s design for her in her marriage relationship. Jen Weaver will be back with us tomorrow. I hope you can be back with us as well.\n\nI want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I'm Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of <em>FamilyLife Today<\/em>.\n\n<em>FamilyLife Today<\/em> is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru<sup>\u00ae <\/sup>Ministry. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.\n\nWe are so happy to provide these transcripts to you. However, there is a cost to produce them for our website. If you\u2019ve benefited from the broadcast transcripts, would you consider <a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/donate\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">donating today<\/a> to help defray the costs?\n\nCopyright <sup>\u00a9<\/sup> 2019 FamilyLife. All rights reserved.\n\n<a href=\"http:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">www.FamilyLife.com<\/a>","theme_header_position":"","post_header_is_sticky":"","is_header_overlay":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/podcast\/300003","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/podcast"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/podcast"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/91"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=300003"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/294104"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=300003"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=300003"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=300003"},{"taxonomy":"podcast_series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/podcast_series?post=300003"},{"taxonomy":"cwp_profile","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/cwp_profile?post=300003"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp-stage.familylife.com\/www\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=300003"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}