Amber Lia and Wendy Speake share that triggers–whether messiness or a child’s immaturity–are really opportunities, and moms must remind themselves that they don’t have to get angry.

Moms Amber Lia and Wendy Speake can relate to mothers who get frustrated with their kids. Lia and Speake talk about some of the 31 triggers that can provoke a mom to lose her cool.